emagha ] I how wish you know me in person.... Heaven know deep down me I love and want the best for her...... We talk about learning a hand work even before she bring the job issue up. I work and just finish my program also and I want to learn hand work I told her to think about little salary for now and hand work for future .......but she was adamant about securing job over here in lag.....

Emagha:
If she had told you she was going to see her ex for the job would u have allowed her? i guess no and she told u the truth that it was her Ex and not friend so try and believe her maybe until u suspect any other thing

yes I would have allow her . you don't know me so thank God you guess .... I love freedom in relationship as long as there's true communications to build trust ......

ibkayee:
Like a few people have already said, she may be telling the truth, asides the more intimate connection they would’ve had when they were together, a lot of people and their exes were technically also friends. So if they’re still in each others’ good graces the fact that he helped her get a job isn’t ‘unthinkable’. Passing the night at his does sound dodgy however. Did she explain why she had to pass the night at his? Does he live closer to the location of the place where she was interviewed or something? Even then, you live in Lagos too abi? So she could’ve gone from your place. I don’t know whether she’s lying or not but the way she went about it is very suspect, I won’t even lie

you see am not saying seeing your ex is bad ,that's not my kind of lifestyle, and never will it be. She did not tell me anything at all about contacting her ex, I call her the day she left my place to show appreciation to the person that help her get the job,she said he's sleeping already! I ask her "oh its a guy? Are you safe? And are you sure you will be fine?" She said yes ,that all is well.... My place is very far to that exalt location so she brouth the idear of going there to pass the night before the interview..... Why hide it from me at first, what if I did not ask her after two weeks ..... The said guy stay close to where she's working ,just imagine ...

CAPSLOCKED:


THERE YOU HAVE IT. YOU'VE BEEN PLAYED.



FOR THE SAKE OF LOVE THIS MAN WILL ONLY CRY FOR A FEW DAYS AND WAVE EVERYTHING ASIDE. HE'S GETTING NOTHING FROM HER.. NO HONESTY, NO APOLOGIES, NO LOYALTY.
LOVE CAUSES THE BRAIN TO MALFUNCTION SOMETIMES.

she's not even remorseful at all.... Not even at all. You seriously need to see her massage on WhatsApp.

Jennifer15:
She might be telling the truth...just be observing her...Let things flow as its has been flowing between you as usual.

flow as in.. Pretend all is well?

SillyeRabbit:
When you are dating a girl, always ask questions to the core and frequently check her Whatsapp chats. You are nothing but coward if you can't tell your babe to see her chats online. The issue is why did she sleep at her ex house without telling the current guy she is dating? Op, she's not innocent at all.

... That's being insecure ....checking her phone and all that seriously. If she can hide this ? Then she can do something even more hurting next.I think!

Bluezy13:


The point here is that the guy is not Comfortable with her hiding it.
She should have told him.

funny how most people get this all wrong..... How do we build trust if there's no true communication..... To me, I don't think its healthy visiting your ex without telling me and passing night there (its two weeks )

NnamdiN:
Lol you asked her and she answered truthfully, why are you vexing? Would you have preferred a lie?

Next time only ask questions you can handle their answers otherwise don't ask at all...
You read something on NL and fiam you clicked the apply button. Lwkmd
Some of the BS you read here na oyibo write am and it applies to them mostly. You will murder your babe if you apply everything you read on NL

I needed this post jare, been having a terrible week, thanks for the humor
BS means bulllshiit

don't crack me up, Lol am vexing

Auladimeji:
Some of you thinks all ex are pervert .I communicate with my ex even though we are not dating again.
Nairaland has corrupted your mind.
She told you that she doesn't cheat on you, believe her

believe her.. This is our first fight .... What happen to communication to build trust?

VampireeM:
So she shouldnt be friends with her ex because you are who? Thats how she would have missed this job connection. you are just an insecure dude. Fiancée kor, if you serious marry her, get her a better job and dish rules as you like. You better grow up and act like a man and stop seeking validation from a faceless forum

thanks maami agba... About being insecure you are entitle to your opinion.

Auladimeji:
Which stupid mode.I don't why so guy feels like god.If she's jobless, won't you call her leech.
Now answer this question; If your ex girlfriend connects you to a job,will you tell her or decline the job.
You don't have any right to control her.
You are not her husband

..... Please read what I write again. Am not playing the defensive side.... Am not saying she should not reach out for help nor saying am demi god .what happen to communication to build trust, ex is ex so?

abokibuhari:
Forget it cause anybody way go chop ex go chop ex

I feel your pain bro, but everybody na somebody ex so how we go do am...

am just too loyal to be this pain,it hurt bro,it does hurt me so dearly .

SenorFax:
I still keep contact with my exes, even helped them whenever they need one, and I've never for once cheated on my babe.

Who knows

helping them is cool.plus I don't understand what you saying .

Bidobado:


She's hiding something.

like what will that be...?..... Hope mode will take this to front page...please

Hello. Please a kind advice is all I need .

Have being dating this lady since last year December 8months now. I met her at her sister's place that happens to be my mum's neighbour when she came for a visit. She just finish school and looking for a job. We were both looking for job for her even if it's far from her place (Ekiti) as I thought she should be productive to herself.

Thought I was lucky when she called weeks ago to inform me that a friend called her about one vacancy here in Lagos. I was so happy because I can't do long distance relationship (experience)

She came to my place this said Friday and stayed till Sunday. She left for that so called friend's place because we think it's not too safe to get to the interview venue late. She got the job and we thank God......

After two weeks of resumption, I saw this advice on nairaland that talk about 10 Questions To Ask Your Partner In Order To Build Trust "What do you find hard to talk about with me?" She said "nothing " I try talk to her to open up because I can't settle down with someone that will hide anything from me, then she said my ex got me this job. She has kept in contact with him. I ask her" we've being together for three days, you left my house for your ex house and passed the night there? You keep contact with him without telling me all this while? You guys have being seeing each other since you resumed (two weeks?) All she kept saying is am not cheating on you.....

I really love her and I'm confused right now. Please I need advice on what to do because am just tired right now.

Euouae:



You are alone

I do respect pmb and like him but I just want him to see youth taking over that's all

Am using this opportunity to apologize for advocating and fighting for pmb , in our last election . have got my PVC ready to fight for a good Young vibrant reliable youth.

gcof:
non, mais j’étais là à janvier

nous croyais dimanche

gcof:
vous êtes vraiment en France?

Et toi alors ? Oui, toi.

Here in France, we know what flavour mean ...

To those who understand the game better........... He's just playing safe.

Protest

Beautiful

Not that bad

omounique:

As a contract staff you know Nestle is not directly responsible for payment of ur salary. You work for a company that works for Nestle. Delay in your salary does not concern Nestle, they pay third party companies as early as 25th of every month. Direct ur grievance to the right source.

thats what we have done ,over and over again.thats why i said hopefully one of our top manager will help adress and correct that part.we love our job and not complainning .Again this just get better for good amen

All is well

nairaland Finally turn to battle grown for hate and tribal fight,............. Lord have mercy.

Gten:
Is it a degree in painting? Cos all I see is some guy painting a tricycle and riding it afterwards.

I know someone will sound pain.

yinmu.

market strategy. anyway is a way #gbam

and the truth shall set you free