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Re: My Fiancee Got A Job With The Help Of Her Ex Without My Consent, Please Advise by oluwakekz(m): 3:22pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
CAPSLOCKED:she's not even remorseful at all.... Not even at all. You seriously need to see her massage on WhatsApp. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Got A Job With The Help Of Her Ex Without My Consent, Please Advise by ibkayee(f): 3:32pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
Like a few people have already said, she may be telling the truth, asides the more intimate connection they would’ve had when they were together, a lot of people and their exes were technically also friends. So if they’re still in each others’ good graces the fact that he helped her get a job isn’t ‘unthinkable’. Passing the night at his does sound dodgy however. Did she explain why she had to pass the night at his? Does he live closer to the location of the place where she was interviewed or something? Even then, you live in Lagos too abi? So she could’ve gone from your place. I don’t know whether she’s lying or not but the way she went about it is very suspect, I won’t even lie 27 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Got A Job With The Help Of Her Ex Without My Consent, Please Advise by oluwakekz(m): 3:57pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
ibkayee:you see am not saying seeing your ex is bad ,that's not my kind of lifestyle, and never will it be. She did not tell me anything at all about contacting her ex, I call her the day she left my place to show appreciation to the person that help her get the job,she said he's sleeping already! I ask her "oh its a guy? Are you safe? And are you sure you will be fine?" She said yes ,that all is well.... My place is very far to that exalt location so she brouth the idear of going there to pass the night before the interview..... Why hide it from me at first, what if I did not ask her after two weeks ..... The said guy stay close to where she's working ,just imagine ... 4 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Got A Job With The Help Of Her Ex Without My Consent, Please Advise by TeamPL(m): 4:01pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
i think it's bad |
Re: My Fiancee Got A Job With The Help Of Her Ex Without My Consent, Please Advise by ibkayee(f): 4:05pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
oluwakekz:Ok she may have passed the night since he’s closer but she should’ve told you. And if she’s genuinely not cheating, she may have concealed this info because she felt you’d be uncomfortable with it (which is perfectly understandable of you). But like you said, trust is an important part of being in a relationship so she definitely went about it the wrong way (if she isn’t cheating o) 6 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Got A Job With The Help Of Her Ex Without My Consent, Please Advise by Lalas247(f): 4:08pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
oluwakekz:I can see why she went to her ex 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Got A Job With The Help Of Her Ex Without My Consent, Please Advise by pocohantas(f): 4:24pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
Passing the night at her ex's place without telling you is bad. You have the right to feel the way you feel now. EOD! Now you know this, what do you want to do with the information? 6 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Got A Job With The Help Of Her Ex Without My Consent, Please Advise by gonkin(m): 4:32pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
Its gonna be hard for me to date someone that keeps too many secrets especially from me. I really really hate it. That's the kind of stuff that breaks relationships. Seriously girls are very vulnerable around ex. Sometimes an ex would pass the night at my place maybe cuz she just wants to be away from home. and we end up doing it. Never trust a girl that still communicates with her ex. My last ex was always communicating with her supposed ex. I complained that i didn't like it and she kept saying they were just friends. Unknown to me that she was cheating with me. He was the boyfriend, i was just the guy with the p3nis. Till one day i got to know the truth. Girls are really dangerous 24 Likes
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Re: My Fiancee Got A Job With The Help Of Her Ex Without My Consent, Please Advise by MeeLan: 4:34pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
relax your mind, most Ex- still bleep emselves 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Got A Job With The Help Of Her Ex Without My Consent, Please Advise by BecaciaBarbie(f): 4:36pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
Sleeping at his place is a No No! I chat with my ex almost everyday but reluctantly.....guy no gree me rest and he initiated the break up ooo .he even sends me money without asking and we are not dating ooo....so it is impossible your girl sees him as a friend too unless the break up wasn't initiated by her ex. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiancee Got A Job With The Help Of Her Ex Without My Consent, Please Advise by Emagha(m): 4:40pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
If she had told you she was going to see her ex for the job would u have allowed her? i guess no and she told u the truth that it was her Ex and not friend so try and believe her maybe until u suspect any other thing 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Got A Job With The Help Of Her Ex Without My Consent, Please Advise by CAPSLOCKED: 5:05pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
oluwakekz: SOMETIMES IT'S NOT WHAT THEY DID THAT PAINS, BUT THEIR NONCHALANT, EGOISTIC, UNAPOLOGETIC ATTITUDE AFTERWARDS. USE YOUR HEAD. DO WHATEVER YOU CONSIDER BEST. MAYBE YOU'LL LEARN FROM THIS EXPERIENCE LIKE THE REST OF US. I RATHER BE WITH A STICK THAN A SLITHERING, PROUD, UNAPOLOGETIC HUMAN (LIKE YOUR GIRL) . GOODLUCK NURSING THAT HEART BREAK. CHEERS. PS: PLEASE DON'T COMMIT SUICIDE. 20 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Got A Job With The Help Of Her Ex Without My Consent, Please Advise by oluwakekz(m): 5:05pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
Emagha:yes I would have allow her . you don't know me so thank God you guess .... I love freedom in relationship as long as there's true communications to build trust ...... 4 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Got A Job With The Help Of Her Ex Without My Consent, Please Advise by CAPSLOCKED: 5:08pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
gonkin: CHAI! 11 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Fiancee Got A Job With The Help Of Her Ex Without My Consent, Please Advise by oluwakekz(m): 5:09pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
emagha ] I how wish you know me in person.... Heaven know deep down me I love and want the best for her...... We talk about learning a hand work even before she bring the job issue up. I work and just finish my program also and I want to learn hand work I told her to think about little salary for now and hand work for future .......but she was adamant about securing job over here in lag..... |
Re: My Fiancee Got A Job With The Help Of Her Ex Without My Consent, Please Advise by oluwakekz(m): 5:13pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
CAPSLOCKED:not even a call ,text not until I initiat a convo ...... Suicide it not even in my option..... Heaven know how truly I was planning we both enjoy our life together forever....... Am just too loyal to be betrayed with trust issues.... 5 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Got A Job With The Help Of Her Ex Without My Consent, Please Advise by Nobody: 5:28pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
And why should she seek your consent? are you her husband, shift jor make we see road. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Got A Job With The Help Of Her Ex Without My Consent, Please Advise by CAPSLOCKED: 5:50pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
oluwakekz: ALCOHOL AFTER ALCOHOL IS SUPPOSED TO HELP YOU PASS THIS MOOD. YOU'RE BEING OBSESSED AND SHE KNOWS IT, AND ENJOYS HOW IT'S WORKING TO HER ADVANTAGE. MAYBE THE MORE YOU NAG THE MORE SHE GOES TO THE EX FOR MORE CÓCK. IF I WERE YOU I WOULD PRETEND ONLY I EXIST. DRINK AND PARTY AND CHILL WITH MY GUYS (AND HOT CHICKS) ALL DAY UNTIL SHE COMES BACK TO HER SENSES, AND READY TO NEGOTIATE. IF SHE DOESN'T, THEN BELIEVE ME JUST KEEP CRUISING CUS SHE'S OVER YOU. THIS PERSON HAS NO REGARDS FOR YOU (FROM YOUR OWN SIDE OF THE STORY THOUGH). WHY ARE YOU KILLING YOUR JOY OVER ONE SOUL WHEN THE WORLD IS YOURS TO TAKE? 21 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Got A Job With The Help Of Her Ex Without My Consent, Please Advise by Nobody: 6:35pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
This is all about PRIORITIES! The Job or Her Relationship. Yes, Your girlfriend probably thought you would make a scene about getting a job from an EX and passing the night at his place (this though isn't right) . She obviously more concerned about her finance than her relationship.If She's young, i think that should be her priority as well. The problem lies in lack of communication in your relationship. She should have told you her fears, plans and moves. What do you guys talk about in your relationship? Nothing until you came across a thread on here. We can't be certain if she's cheating, we can only tell you where she flawed. You have to talk to her to know her stand in your relationship. Demand for Transparency and Respect (not the yes boss kind of respect though ) Demand to be valued in her life, she shouldn't make decisions that may affect your relationship alone. I wish you luck 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Got A Job With The Help Of Her Ex Without My Consent, Please Advise by Nobody: 6:44pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
oluwakekz:Ex and sex? Old boy its difficult to cut ties o. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Got A Job With The Help Of Her Ex Without My Consent, Please Advise by donbachi(m): 6:51pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
I tink na una say,old fire wood no dey quench. |
Re: My Fiancee Got A Job With The Help Of Her Ex Without My Consent, Please Advise by R3B3L(m): 7:17pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
Normally it isn't advisable to date a frnd because d frndship would b ruined.... I don't c how ds makes it ok to stay frnds wit an ex at all. Anything can happen. But d main issue here was her being secretive... She's ur girl so if she seemed to come correct den let it be else u should b sure nothing is going on and b at peace. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Got A Job With The Help Of Her Ex Without My Consent, Please Advise by R3B3L(m): 7:32pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
Colourich:what kind of stupid Yan is ds.. ? 19 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Fiancee Got A Job With The Help Of Her Ex Without My Consent, Please Advise by oluwakekz(m): 8:17pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
Colourich:just listen to yourself .... I done shift oya see road....... Am suppose to settle down with a Lady that is doing hanjy panky with her ex behind me Abi? Thanks you try well. 7 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Got A Job With The Help Of Her Ex Without My Consent, Please Advise by Nobody: 8:18pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
oluwakekz:Stop using marriage as an excuse. |
Re: My Fiancee Got A Job With The Help Of Her Ex Without My Consent, Please Advise by oluwakekz(m): 8:22pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
CAPSLOCKED:.... Which I do things like this bro...... Like I don't do dirt ,smoke weed noi get drunk...she's coming tomorrow then hopefully we'll work things out ,but trust me I don't think so because she's not being remorseful at all ....... 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Got A Job With The Help Of Her Ex Without My Consent, Please Advise by MissRaine69(f): 8:25pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
I have very good relationships with all my ex’s and theta is no hint of anything sexual. I respect their situation they respect mine. Advice or help is given back or forth with no boundaries being broken as that’s what being mature and having a certain amount of emotional intelligence is all about. Maybe she is not honest with you because of your pertinacity to think the worst if her. This is more about your relationship with her rather than what’s going on. Your relationship is not solid. 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Got A Job With The Help Of Her Ex Without My Consent, Please Advise by sacramento1212: 8:35pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
oluwakekz: Bro i see nothing wrong in your babe's EX getting her the job. But my problem is that she failed to let you know. If you didn't ask those questions, you wouldn't have known. Being secretive about it is my only ish here. 12 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Got A Job With The Help Of Her Ex Without My Consent, Please Advise by oluwakekz(m): 8:38pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
MariaLavina:me? Make a scene? How wish you know me seriously? Just a little bit about me? Am not perfect but I will say am the most understanding guy on earth.... And that's true... We are rear.... 25 young we plan to settle down next year December cos of the love we show to each other ,we started having fight since two weeks when she resume work, things change suddenly!!!!!! About communications, we do that over and over and over, you see she make me become this open person without secret and hiding anything from her. I remember she said we've got to come clean with each other early this year while we went out on a date !!!!! I did not ask her if she's cheating or not, she just come up with that defensive statement.... Though she's coming over tomorrow hopefully we'll work things out of wish I doubt cos she's far from being remorseful and sorry. No call no message no text. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Got A Job With The Help Of Her Ex Without My Consent, Please Advise by CyberWolf: 9:23pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
The truth is that the ex nack am that night. No two ways about that... OP it’s left for you to continue with the relationship or end it. But bear in mind that the ex fvcked her and there is a big chance he will fvck her again. 23 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiancee Got A Job With The Help Of Her Ex Without My Consent, Please Advise by CyberWolf: 9:26pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
I dey vex .. Why will she pass the night at her ex’s house without your knowledge, for what? Even if he got her the job, and so what? .. Why did she even broke up with this ex in the first place? ... Me if I want to date a girl, i ask her about all her past relationship and even if she lies, I will always get the truth out... IGM things. 4 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Got A Job With The Help Of Her Ex Without My Consent, Please Advise by Jeferious: 10:06pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
If I dey see these kind useless threads, I go just dey laugh like person wey drink one jar of laughing gas. On a normal, na woman suppose to dey complain this kind complaints. That it is coming from a man is an indicator that the only thing that makes the op a man is just that organ between his thighs. Other than that he's a woman. Op, you dey fall hands. Period. If I were you, nobody go hear my voice. But I go still change for am on a low-key. 4 Likes 1 Share |
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