₦airaland Forum

laudate:
Would you still say this, if Fatoyinbo had assaulted your sister or daughter who was still under the age of 18? In many countries, having sex with a minor or an under-aged person, is considered a felony and classified as rape.

And if you talk to rape victims, you would realise that there is no standard response in such a situation. Some victims of sexual assault, gain enough strength to fight back and possibly escape. While others become paralysed by fear and remain frozen, all through the encounter.

As to why she is just speaking up now many years later, kindly talk to a psychologist. Some victims live in denial trying to pretend it never happened, because that is the way they can process the trauma. But then something suddenly happens to awaken the dormant memories, and inner pain.

Others remain silent out of fear, shame and confusion. It is like being in a state of suspended animation. Until one day, when they feel sufficiently healed to confront their pain. There is no timeline, to these things.
#SayNoToRape.

Wallade:
I don't see a crime in having children out of wedlock except for moral and legal implications. The society has a good number of children born out of wedlock and that does not make them inferior, unprivileged nor their parents less humans.

It is expected that children are born into families of married parents but if not, the parents still have all the time in the world to commence and complete wedding.

The argument that Timi Dakolo may not be the biological father of his kids is not necessary because he is not complaining. It is not our or your business besides, every child needs a home so if he decides to live with the kids as their father, even if he is not the biological father, I think you don't qualify to cry or investigate their paternity.

However, you can believe whatever you choose. I think Busola was simply out to tell her story, her version of the episodes, abinitio. Unfortunately, you will have to live with the knowledge of her story even if you are not comfortable with it.

dyydxx:
Lol.....
We are all hypocrite!

what do we say to the Northerners in Nigeria Giving out their daughters of 15years to Men of 40years?
What do we call that one...RAPE!!!
She Never Force Nor Stop the Act, She Consent to It.....What Are We Now Saying Sir

So pastor having sex with a minor at 17 years isn't rape....where do we get all these nonsense??

itsme01:


I won't bother myself on who is telling the truth between Busola and Fatoyinbo but Timi Dakolo's stupidity as a man and head of the family

Timi Dakolo ti je efo riro,

Timi Dakolo braged on several occassions of marrying busola a virgin and how pure she was..... Alas!!! Aparently She had been disvirgined at the age of 16 by the Spiritual head of the Church they both attend with their kids....

This is what happens when a Dunce weakling is the head of a family, the woman starts manipulating him, and using him to fight her past battles, appearing in his music video as video vixen (his career/workplace), and calling all shots

The main reason Rape victims get their face blured in news, and their names protected with the judiciary opting for a secret trial is because, humans are judgemental, and sometimes some stigmatize (even their children would be part of this embarasement and future cyberbully).
Now Timi Dakolo as the head of Busola's family had two options, as a man charged to protect the diginity of his family

1: Confront the alleged rapist of your wife mano o mano (just as Busola's elder brother reportedly did) and get Fatoyinbos facts.

or

2: Instantly call your Family Lawyers and relay all what your wife told you in their confidence and seek legal guadiance to forestall, embaracing lawsuits and get your story properly vetted and interogated before going public.

But Instead they contacted an hungry Journalist with a.badly packaged story of a rape that happened four different time at four different location to a teenager without use of force , threat with weapon or coersion.



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saints2:
Its well sir....