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Building a healthy personality
 
A personality is a combination of all the small factors that add up to make a person's disposition. Every human has his very own unique personality. The way people react, respond, relate, and retaliate to situations is what makes up their personality.  It is our personality that makes us different from others.
Traits of a healthy personality
When we say someone has a "healthy personality", we mean that they are likable, interesting and pleasant to be with.
A person who is healthy on a mental and psychological level is what makes up for a healthy personality. A healthy personality demands openness and eagerness towards everything in life, old or new. It covers not only new experiences, but new ideas, thoughts, letting go of older conventions and accepting the changing times. Openness also talks about creativeness and a strong imagination. Curiousness is also part of their nature and they are always anxious to gain more knowledge. They do not have preconceived notions about people and have an open mind towards contemporary ideas. They always aim for a higher quality in life and improve upon their own productivity. A healthy personality is generally goal oriented and has a perspective of what he wants in his life. Such personalities are competent and competitive. Also, they are able to judge themselves and others with a clear and analytical mind. This personality is warm and welcoming to new people in his life. Such people are at ease with making new acquaintances and are relaxed while having conversations. They are outgoing and friendly by nature and have a large group of friends. They do not trust people too easily, but they also do not doubt people for no apparent reason. They are generally helpful to others and even strangers. A healthy personality is devoid of any unreasonable and unwanted negative emotions towards others and even oneself. Such people have a positive self-regard and a realistic self-judgment.
How to develop a healthy personality
Having a good personality is an important skill in life. While we can only enhance our looks to a certain extent, we have the ability to improve the personality as much as we want. We can develop or integrate any trait we deem fitting and agreeable. With these simple yet crucial steps, a good, healthy personality can be achieved by anyone.
1.   Be a better listener and a good conversationalist. Look into the eyes, hang on to their every word, and make them feel important. There is nothing more appealing than having someone listen to you intently making you feel like you’re the only person in the world. Have much to contribute in a conversation and learn how to talk about it with others.
2.   Read more and expand your interests. The more you read and cultivate new interests, the more interesting you are to others. When you meet new people it gives you the opportunity to share what you know and to exchange your views with them
3.   Have an opinion. There is nothing more tiresome than trying to talk to someone who has no opinion on anything. A conversation has nowhere to go if you have nothing to expound on. if, however you have an uncommon point of view or differing opinion, you are more interesting and  stimulating to be with socially
4.   Meet new people. Make effort to meet new people especially those unlike you. It not only exposes you to different cultures and alternative ways of doing things, it broadens your horizons.
5.   Be yourself. Molding yourself to fit in or be accepted usually backfires. Since each of us is unique, expressing that uniqueness is what makes us interesting.
6.   Have a positive outlook and attitude. Be the kind of upbeat person who lights up a room with your energy when you enter it. Do it by looking for the best in people and things. smile warmly, spread good cheer, and enliven others with your presence
7.   Be fun and see humourous side of life. Comic relief is a much welcome and needed diversion at times. when you can add fun and lightheartedness to an otherwise dull or gloomy setting, others will naturally be attracted to you,  not to mention grateful.
8.   Be supportive of others.  Being supportive is probably the most endearing quality you can integrate into your personality. Just as you yourself welcome it, be the support for others when they need it.
9.   Have integrity and treat people with respect. The thoughts that we think soon turn into words we say and the actions we take. Having good thoughts about yourself gives you self confidence and self respect. Being honest and true to your word will bring you admiration, respect and gratitude of others.

Thursday, 3 September 2015

Dealing with difficult people


Most of us encounter unreasonable people in our lives. We may be stuck with a difficult individual at work or at home. Don't allow a challenging person affect us and ruin our day. Empower yourself in such situations. continue reading>>>
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Overcoming Regrets, Disappointments and Mistakes
Everyone has that one thing about their past they could never bring themselves to tell anyone. It’s that one thing you don’t know if you could ever forgive yourself for, Just thinking about it makes you feel uncomfortable and you seek escape in a different task or a sudden urgent thought.
A place of peace exists for you, but only if you’re brave enough to cross the bridge you can never seem to bring yourself to approach.

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Stress Management( Reduce, Prevent, and Cope with Stress)



  You have more control over stress than you might think. Stress management is all about taking charge of your lifestyle, thoughts, emotions, and the way you deal with problems. Some stress is good for you but too much can result in you being unable to think straight, inaction and poor performance.
No matter how stressful your life seems, there are steps you can take to relieve the pressure and regain control.
Stress management involves changing the stressful situation when you can, changing your reaction when you can’t, taking care of yourself, and making time for rest and relaxation. The first step is to recognize the true sources of stress in your life.
Identify the sources of stress
It’s easy to identify sources of stress following a major life event such as changing jobs, moving home, or losing a loved one, but pinpointing the sources of everyday stress can be more complicated. To identify your true sources of stress, look closely at your habits, attitude, and excuses: Do you explain away stress as temporary even though you can’t remember the last time you took a rest?  Do you define stress as an integral part of your work or home life or as a part of your personality? Do you blame your stress on other people or outside events, or view it as entirely normal and unexceptional?
Until you accept responsibility for the role you play in creating or maintaining it, your stress level will remain outside your control. Always take note of the following: What caused your stress, How you felt, both physically and emotionally, How you acted in response, what you did to make yourself feel better.
How do you currently cope with stress?
Think about the ways you currently manage and cope with stress in your life. Your coping strategies should be healthy and helpful.
Unhealthy ways of coping with stress
Smoking; Drinking too much; eating junk; withdrawing from friends, family, and activities; Using pills or drugs to relax; Sleeping too much; procrastinating; Taking out your stress on others
Healthy ways to manage stress
Experiment with different techniques and strategies and Focus on what makes you feel calm and in control.
1: Get moving
Physical activity plays a key role in reducing and preventing the effects of stress, it helps to relieve stress and burn away anger, tension, and frustration. Exercise releases endorphins that boost your mood and make you feel good, and it can also serve as a valuable distraction to your daily worries which give you more energy and optimism.
2: Engage socially
Social engagement is the quickest, most efficient way to rein in stress and avoid overreacting to internal or external events that you perceive as threatening. There is nothing more calming to your nervous system than communicating with another human being who makes you feel safe and understood. This can quickly calm you down and can also release hormones that reduce stress, even if you’re unable to alter the stressful situation itself. the more lonely and isolated you are, the greater your vulnerability to stress.
3: Avoid unnecessary stress
It’s not healthy to avoid a stressful situation that needs to be addressed, but you may be surprised by the number of stressors in your life that you can eliminate. Learn how to say NO, Know your limits and stick to them. Don’t take more than you can handle in your personal or professional life and Avoid people who stress you out
4: Alter the situation
If you can’t avoid a stressful situation, try to alter it. This involves changing the way you communicate and operate in your daily life.
Express your feelings instead of bottling them up, communicate your concerns in an open and respectful way. If you don’t voice your feelings, resentment will build and the stress will increase; Be willing to compromise; Manage your time better, if you plan ahead and make sure you don’t overextend yourself, you’ll find it easier to stay calm and focused.
Adapt to the stressor
Regain your sense of control by changing your expectations and attitude to stressful situations. Try to view stressful situations from a more positive perspective. Ask yourself how important it will be in the long run. Is it really worth getting upset over? If the answer is no, focus your time and energy elsewhere. Set reasonable standards for yourself and others, and learn to be okay with “good enough.”
6: Accept the things you can’t change
Many sources of stress are unavoidable. The best way to cope with stress is to accept things as they are, don’t try to control the uncontrollable. Rather than stressing out over the uncontrollable, focus on the things you can control such as the way you choose to react to problems. Let go of anger and resentments. Free yourself from negative energy by forgiving and moving on.
7: Make time for fun and relaxation
You can reduce stress in your life by nurturing yourself. If you regularly make time for fun and relaxation, you’ll be in a better place to handle life’s stressors. Come up with a list of healthy ways to relax and recharge. You can do one or more of the following: Go for a walk; Spend time in nature; Call a good friend; Play a competitive game; Write in your journal; Take a long bath; Savor a warm cup of coffee or tea; Play with a pet; Work in your garden; Get a massage; Read a good book; Listen to music; Watch a comedy. Don’t get so caught up in the hustle and bustle of life that you forget to take care of your own needs. Nurturing yourself is a necessity, not a luxury. This is your time to take a break from all responsibilities and recharge your batteries. Keep your sense of humor. This includes the ability to laugh at yourself. The act of laughing helps your body fight stress in a number of ways.
8: Adopt a healthy lifestyle
There are healthy lifestyle choices that can increase your resistance to stress.
Eat a healthy diet. Well-nourished bodies are better prepared to cope with stress, so be mindful of what you eat. Start your day right with breakfast, and keep your energy up and your mind clear with balanced, nutritious meals throughout the day; Reduce caffeine and sugar; Avoid alcohol, cigarettes, and drugs. Self-medicating with alcohol or drugs may provide an easy escape from stress, but the relief is only temporary. Don’t avoid or mask the issue at hand; deal with problems head on and with a clear mind.
Get enough sleep. Adequate sleep fuels your mind, as well as your body. Feeling tired will increase your stress because it may cause you to think irrationally.
We hope that the above ideas and tips will help you to handle stressful situations better in the future.

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Dealing with Loneliness

Do you feel isolated or separated from the world, cut off from those you would love to have contact with? You might experience loneliness as a vague feeling that something is not right, a kind of minor emptiness. Or you might feel loneliness as a very intense deprivation and deep pain. Loneliness is not the same as being alone, rather, it is the feeling of being alone and feeling sad about it. Continue reading here>>>
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Overcoming Regrets, Disappointments and Mistakes
Everyone has that one thing about their past they could never bring themselves to tell anyone. It’s that one thing you don’t know if you could ever forgive yourself for, Just thinking about it makes you feel uncomfortable and you seek escape in a different task or a sudden urgent thought.
A place of peace exists for you, but only if you’re brave enough to cross the bridge you can never seem to bring yourself to approach.

Continue reading >>> http://lifestylesheadline..com.ng/2015/09/overcoming-regrets-disappointments-and.html

Overcoming Regrets, Disappointments and Mistakes
Everyone has that one thing about their past they could never bring themselves to tell anyone. It’s that one thing you don’t know if you could ever forgive yourself for, Just thinking about it makes you feel uncomfortable and you seek escape in a different task or a sudden urgent thought.
A place of peace exists for you, but only if you’re brave enough to cross the bridge you can never seem to bring yourself to approach.

Continue reading >>> http://lifestylesheadline..com.ng/2015/09/overcoming-regrets-disappointments-and.html

Overcoming Regrets, Disappointments and Mistakes
Everyone has that one thing about their past they could never bring themselves to tell anyone. It’s that one thing you don’t know if you could ever forgive yourself for, Just thinking about it makes you feel uncomfortable and you seek escape in a different task or a sudden urgent thought.
A place of peace exists for you, but only if you’re brave enough to cross the bridge you can never seem to bring yourself to approach.

Continue reading >>> http://lifestylesheadline..com.ng/2015/09/overcoming-regrets-disappointments-and.html

Overcoming jealousy


Overcoming jealousy begins with awareness. Jealousy and anger are emotional reactions to believing scenarios in your mind which allows you to see that the projected stories in your mind are not true.
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Overcoming jealousy

Overcoming jealousy begins with awareness. Jealousy and anger are emotional reactions to believing scenarios in your mind which allows you to see that the projected stories in your mind are not true.
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Overcoming jealousy
Overcoming jealousy begins with awareness. Jealousy and anger are emotional reactions to believing scenarios in your mind which allows you to see that the projected stories in your mind are not true.
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