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Corn247:
I thought the war was really serious that people won't have time for stuffs like that

The war was indeed serious for some parts of the nation, namely the Eastern region. In the Western region, life continued as usual and to all intents and purposes, in every day life, you really couldn’t tell there was a war going on in the same country. In fact, the war might as well have been in Congo. That’s how unaffected they were.

A couple of notable exceptions were the invasion of Ore, the bombing of Pen Cinema and 1 other bombing that escapes my memory.
Otherwise o, work, travel, owambes, naming ceremonies, weddings, concerts, plays etc continued.

I’m always amazed by just how little it takes to fool people. This is obviously a fluff piece with no substance. This guy just printed a name plate and took pictures- one with the name plate and laptop on a desk and the other in front of a podium with 2 people standing next to him. And voila, he has 100 people congratulating him.

Who appointed Ojadah as an ambassador? No tangible aims or achievements specified for his NGO.

I’m not a hater o, I’m just stating the very obvious.

In all this, I wonder why Nigeria is paying for his lawyers. Ekweremadu committed his alleged crimes in his personal capacity. It is not the Nigerian Senate, Nigerian High Commission in London nor the Nigerian governments business to involve themselves (with our money o) in his legal defense.

He has stolen enough money to be able to afford a high powered legal team by himself. And if at all he has claimed he cannot afford a lawyer, that’s his business not ours.

I’m jobless today � so here goes.

1. Lawrence of Arabia
2. MLK
3. Che Guevara
4. Nelson Mandela
5. Christopher Columbus
6. Genghis Khan
7. Lenin
8. Abraham Lincoln
9. Anne Frank
10. Bob Marley
11. JFK
12. Muhammad Ali
13. Julius Caesar
14. Beethoven
15. Shakespeare
16. Aung San Suu Kyi
17. Elvis Presley
18. Princess Diana
19. The Beetles
20. Benjamin Franklin
21. Michael Jackson
22. Mahatma Gandhi
23. Mao Zedong
24. Marilyn Monroe
25. The Dalai Lama
26. Joseph Stalin
27. Steve Jobs
28. Michael Jordan
29. Adolf Hitler
30. Albert Einstein
31. Jesus
32. Buddha
33. Napoleon
34. Charlie Chaplin
35. Amelia Earhart
36. Bruce Lee
37. Nostradamus
38. ? Florence Nightingale

She needs to see a doctor, preferably an endocrinologist. These kinds of stretch marks are seen in conditions such as Cushings disease. Nothing she applies topically is likely to help long term.

This could (meaning maybe, I did not say definitely o) be the initial sign of something she should take more seriously. Not sure why people come to Nairaland for medical issues tbh.

https://www.bbc.com/news/world-africa-50014745

Here’s a link to an article written by the respected Ghanaian journalist Elizabeth Ohene. In writing this, she has nothing to gain and everything to lose (in the African context at least) so I believe her.

I’m hoping that by posting this here, people on Nairaland will understand a little bit more why rape victims wait years or even decades to speak out.

This is heartbreaking. First of all there is no such thing as a validated virginity test- they are not reliable, not sensitive and not specific.

Secondly I do not hesitate to state that this man is not a father to his daughter in the true sense of the word. Which father subjects his own daughter to the indignity of a so-called virginity test FIVE times all in a bid to prove he is not guilty?

He is more concerned about himself than his daughter. Most normal men (and women) would be beyond irate that their innocent daughter is being examined in this manner.

I just weak! Why is no one seeing this whole story from the little girl’s point of view??

EVILFOREST:
FIRST NIGERIAN FEMALE GOVERNOR.......ANAMBRA
FIRST ANAMBRA FEMALE CHIEF JUDGE..........ANAMBRA
Not surprised either.

Justice Roseline Omotosho is the 1st female Chief Judge, appointed in 1995 as the Chief Justice of Lagos State. That’s over 20yrs ago oh
but na now you people just wake up.

Know your history before you start claiming.

And by the way, yes, I see your play on words “First Anambra Female Chief Judge” so that you can claim that you never claimed she was the 1st female chief judge so I am just confirming what you are saying. �

Joke Silva's mother is NOT the 1st female Nigerian medical doctor. It states clearly in the press release by her family that she was the 3rd Nigerian female doctor (and I even doubt this assertion of her being the 3rd because there have been several female doctors in Yorubaland between Mama Awoliyi and Mama Silva's time). I wonder why the OP mischievously changed that part of the family's statement. The 1st was Abimbola Awoliyi-the female hostel in Medilag is named after her for that reason. #knowyourNigerianhistory#

I am on about the American Board of Aesthetic Surgery cos I personally know what it takes to be qualified to sit for a medical board exam here. It's funny how she did not try the Royal College of Surgery exams where they have a specialty board in aesthetic surgery. She chose to say she is board certified in America where you have to have completed an ACGME (Accreditation Council on Graduate Medical Education) accredited training program before you can qualify as a candidate. Ok, where in her CV is the time she spent doing a residency in America (minimum of 5 full years for surgery, before you go on to specialize in cosmetic/aesthetic/plastic surgery for another 2-3 yrs)?

By the way, it's her website so she should know that if this Board was actually in existence, in America it would be called American Academy of Esthetic Surgery (AAES- not aesthetic with an Ae making it AAAS).

This Dr Ola-of-a-girl is the second coming of Emeagwali. Yes, she has the basic qualification she claims but the rest of her story which she believes makes her extraordinary (finishing med sch at 21, 10yrs NHS work experience, american board certification), was cooked up in the recesses of her mind.


And I don't understand some people sha. Just because Nwando is (obviously) Igbo, shey she is not allowed to call out fraud when it involves Yoruba people ni, or what? Smh.

Nwando jare, I am on your side. This her CV is unnecessarily embellished. She has a good business model. She does not have to be a doc to run her company successfully..... but she is. That should have been enough. The fact that she feels the need to lie blatantly makes me very suspicious of her.

She obviously has a lot of "small small" lies in her CV, then she tops it off by claiming to have board certification in America.......not in a primary specialty but in a secondary one. Shebi she is implying she is board certified in plastic surgery? But as Nwando said, the American Board of Medical Specialties (ABMS) does not recognize this her board. C'mon now! Easy with the lying Dr Ola.

@ poster. What your husband is doing is called EMOTIONAL ABUSE. Pure and simple. Google that phrase and educate yourself. The truth of the matter is that his behavior is very deliberate. You are not crazy. I know right now that you have a gut-wrenching feeling in the pit of your stomach because you feel you may have made a mistake in marrying this person who suddenly seems like a stranger. Let that feeling be your warning system. Do not try to suppresss that feeling and don't let anyone help you suppress it by convincing you that you are in a "normal" marriage and that you just have to work out the hiccups. You need to buck up my sister and face the situation at hand. People whose husbands beat the living day lights out of them.....this is how they started o!

If you don't know, know it now- your husband in his heart of hearts has always been like this. He just hid it from you. If he didn't hide it, OBVIOUSLY, you would not have married him. He is a smart man after all. He is also a cruel, emotionally cold man. Of course in a few days he will apologize to you and come up with all sorts of excuses about why he did what he is doing. He will slyly place the blame on you (honey, you know I love you more than anyone else in this world. You are the only one who can make me so angry that I begin to act like a mad person). Things will only get worse if you do not put your foot down. In his mind he is now showing you his true colors because he believes that since you are now married, you are his and you can not "go anywhere". You are stuck with him. He can do whatever he wants and you will have no choice but to put up with it.

1) let him know that you will not tolerate being disrespected in public or in private. It is a good thing that you told him you will not allow him to slap you. Make sure it is just not mouth o. Action must follow the words. No 2nd chances when it comes to physical abuse.

2) do not let him convince you to keep your concerns to yourself. Bring in a sensible, neutral 3rd party who can be a witness to your concerns early on and give sensible advise to the 2 of you. If not, these people will be the 1st people to ask you why you did not involve them later o. Again, do NOT listen to the people who advise you to keep your marriage matters between the 2 of you. This is not the normal husband/wife adjusting to marriage o.

3) do not get pregnant yet o. Having children will not change him. On the contrary, it cements his thoughts about you having no choice but to put up with him. Only have children with this kind of person when he has demonstrated over many months that he is willing to change.

4) swallow your pride and tell your family that you fear all is not well. In case of incasities, they will hopefully always have your back.

5) above all, always have your guard up with him. He is a skilled manipulator (after all, he manipulated you over months to get you into the position you are in now). Be ready to defend yourself. NEVER back down. Let him know that he is not the only one who can change after marriage. Become more assertive and stand up for yourself against false or unreasonable accusations or demands. People like him always look for good and kind people to try this kind of nonsense with. So for you own sake better show him that you are no more the nice, good and kind girl that will apologize to him even when he is the person in the wrong.

Normal men have a conscience and would react with profuse apology or change in behavior if they know that they are the one in the wrong and yet their wife is the one apologizing. The fact that your husband was not moved is a BIG clue (amongst several other clues in you story).

Emotional abuse is rife in Nigeria but that does not mean you should put up with it. A lot of people are used to being emotionally abused so they will tell you they don't know what you are complaining about, because it is normal to them. But they are not the one living with your husband- you are. So my advice to you is - DO YOU. We can all give you advice, tell you our experiences but at the end of the day, it's your life. You need to decide what you want out of you life with cards on you have on the table.

A word is enough for the wise. I was in your position 12yrs ago. If I knew what I know now, I would have handled my life differently. I have still come out on top sha because God does not sleep but I could have saved myself from unnecessary heart ache and emotional anguish.

Have you heard of Kegel exercises? I will give you the benefit of the doubt because maybe, just maybe weak perineal musculature (which hold up the v.aginal wall) is really the only problem you have with her. This can be fixed with her doing regular Kegels-  i.e. she contracts the muscles in the pelvic area several times a day (hold for about 5 secs) like she is trying to stop the flow of urine. CHIKENA! And in a few weeks, she will be a new woman. There is nothing new under the sun and this is a common problem faced by many women, part of the numerous uncontrollable changes our bodies undergo with pregnancy, after childbirth, with weight gain and weight loss but has nothing to do with how many people she is sleeping with or how often (a very uneducated fallacy). Mr MBA who lives abroad, pls educate yourself!

Anyway, i suspect that my free advice (which would normally cost you at least a $25 co-pay) will do you no good as you are just looking for an excuse to break up with her. So please free her. Just don't lie to yourself about your reasons.

I just read this today and actually registered to be a user just so i could reply.

My sister, I suggest you google "emotional abuse" and read all about it. This is what is going on in your relationship and it is almost IMPOSSIBLE to change people like this. You just described the "emotional abuse cycle" (things are good for a while, then tension starts building, then it boils over and explodes, then come the profuse apologies, things are better for a while then the whole cycle starts over and over again). I should know cos i am in the process of ending a 10yr marriage (that unfortunately involves children) to someone like your partner. If you find yourself walking on egg shells around him, watching everything you say or do so as not to upset him, bending over backwards and changing fundamental things about yourself to fit in with his unreasonable ideals, then my advice to you is to run, run far, far away and don't look back. You do not need to go through life with someone who doesn't value ANY opinion you have.

If you are anything like me or the countless other people who have had the misfortune of entangling themselves with abusers, you are probably right that you are not an unusually stubborn person. You see, as much as he has tried to convince you otherwise, the problem lies with HIM not with you. And all these people giving you useless advice therefore don't know what they are talking about. As you probably have already found out, whether you are more submissive or return fire for fire, the problem only seems to get worse. People like your partner can be downright vicious when they are arguing, they have to win at all costs and they have to always be right no matter whose ox is gored.

So to your question, there is nothing you can do to make the situation better or to get him to understand your point of view. So just run as i said.; break off the relationship before it's too late. Don't complicate your life with this loser. You can do better.