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Family / Re: Is My Wife Having An Emotional Affair??? by omoyeme200: 5:39pm On Sep 16, 2014 |
carefreewannabe: omoyeme200 Clingy in what sense? But really she gave me this long list of rules and regulations part of it was that then I spend time too much with my friends when we newly wed and cried all through now I cut them off she now comes after she has gotten a job that tell me her friends are male and she advises and talks about our marriage issues and even advise. I don't think so... |
Family / Re: Is My Wife Having An Emotional Affair??? by omoyeme200: 5:06pm On Sep 16, 2014 |
Melahou: lets assume all what you have said is what is happening... I now work with a blue chip company. Still no improvement. |
Family / Re: Is My Wife Having An Emotional Affair??? by omoyeme200: 4:53pm On Sep 16, 2014 |
dytbabe: Hey I said I was'nt a saint when I was single, I care and respect her and would not want to do anything to hurt her (because I thought she was innocent) |
Family / Re: Is My Wife Having An Emotional Affair??? by omoyeme200: 4:50pm On Sep 16, 2014 |
crackhaus: She disrespects me infront of her niece, children and grand ma(her mother) When I really needed her most she was not there for me even embarrassed me in public when we had a function in church |
Family / Re: Is My Wife Having An Emotional Affair??? by omoyeme200: 4:44pm On Sep 16, 2014 |
NairaMode: I feel like crying really. Thanks a bunch, I have gotten a job already in a blue cheap company. if not i would have ran mad, its not easy where you brag about your wife in the midst of your friends and this is happening to me. how will i say it out but really am dying in silence. i cant just comprehend and she just doesnt care about my feeling. |
Family / Re: Is My Wife Having An Emotional Affair??? by omoyeme200: 4:07pm On Sep 16, 2014 |
fuckshit: such a FÜCKING depressing suituation for one to be in. @ OP am FÜCKING glad you've gotten a job, meaning your back on your feet.Thanks men...not being easy for me. Me I be guy man I just don't want all the extra marital affairs and shit like that but she say am overdoing it, have you ever heard where your spouse is telling you you stay at home too much go and have a girl friend then I knew something is wrong with my wife |
Family / Re: Is My Wife Having An Emotional Affair??? by omoyeme200: 3:37pm On Sep 16, 2014 |
dytbabe: If this is so true without u addin or painting ursef all good, then that woman needs to be taught a lesson by one of those her bfs.Then be my guest... |
Family / Re: Is My Wife Having An Emotional Affair??? by omoyeme200: 3:30pm On Sep 16, 2014 |
[center][/center] carefreewannabe: I wouldn't like my husband to have such conversations with his ex either so I understand how you feel. Very cold and distant, and when I even try to explain or express myself she says am overreacting and she has not slept with anyone. i told her I wont wait until she sleeps with someone before I express my self. She just doesnt take the marriage serious 3 Likes |
Family / Re: Is My Wife Having An Emotional Affair??? by omoyeme200: 3:16pm On Sep 16, 2014 |
RecruitmentMgr: OP, irrespective of the challenges, I believe you have a lot of things going for you. You only need to find a calm and mature way of COMMUNICATING your concerns/hurts to your wife. Have an open heart-to-heart conversation with her and you may be surprised that she's hurting too. I have tried that but its not easy, where your spouse will be telling you that you should go out and go and have friends I have sat her down but she said am choking her. |
Family / Re: Is My Wife Having An Emotional Affair??? by omoyeme200: 3:14pm On Sep 16, 2014 |
RoyalRoy: This is really sad. I have done that but she cries all through out when I raise the issue. Lately she said she will leave with the kids which I said never. She wants to rock and at the same time be with me. |
Family / Re: Is My Wife Having An Emotional Affair??? by omoyeme200: 3:10pm On Sep 16, 2014 |
Odilafta: Women....doing strong things to men since days of Eve... I have gotten a job with a blue chip company last year that really not the issue. |
Family / Is My Wife Having An Emotional Affair??? by omoyeme200: 2:59pm On Sep 16, 2014 |
I have been married for approximately 8 years now and have 2 kids. From the start I never had married on my mind because of what I saw in my own parents they were not very happy until I met my wife who changed my orientation about marriage and we fell in love with her because she gave me a new meaning and reason to go on in life which I really appreciate and love, we courted for 6 years and we married. The problem actually started when I lost my job I noticed a very big change in her character and every time I talk her or discuss about it she tells me am overreacting or nagging its because I lost my job and I just kept to myself bottling every thing up on the inside. We tried going into business but it was not meeting up with our daily up keep so we opted that she gets a job. She then changed rapidly I seem to irritate her on everything I do, when i compliment on what to wear (because we do that for each other in which I don't object I just do as she says) she will say am not the only one looking at her she will wear what she feels like which actually is not the issue here, she comes back late from work, she talks to anyhow without giving me regard then it was like I was living in hell didn't know how to communicate because she will say am just nagging. I am not saying am a saint or anything I have girls before I got married and my wife was a "good girl" so to speak that was why I fell for her and I put all my cards on the table and never hid anything from her and what I did. But what I have seen and all indication she wants to start rocking life while been married and leaving home with telling or giving me any regard. The crux of the matter is that when i noticed all this I became inquisitive about what she did, she stated having late night calls and justifying it too from a colleague at work which she called him a small boy and even text message I saw which I find very offensive and what made matters worse was that I came across her conversation with her ex-boy friend who was in UK talking about how life would have been if they ended up together, insulted me with the boy friend that that am being over possessive, made plans of divorce in-case the marriage did not workout with me (which is still eating me up) because she already have a plan B for me, telling themselves they are somehow dating. How do I trust someone who is making a plan B for me when am not away or incapacitated or even considering divorce. At that point that was the height of impunity in our marriage which she has exhibited and I would not condone it and it broke my heart, for I thought my wife was "innocent" and if I had not been sensitive it would have degenerated to something else with her face book lover. I cannot come to terms right now because of the high esteem that I placed her and my genuine love for her she made rubbish of. If she was not hurting then I would have ignored them saying she was fooling around. Everywhere I go I see the conversations of the Facebook in my head and killing me. At first she doesn't seem to agree that she has done something wrong since she hasn't slept or gave her body but I told her she was having emotional affair and depleting our love bank and giving it out to someone else and have created a very mighty vacuum for us and the most annoying aspect is that she is making excuses for them. I cannot do anything am so confused she has begged me but the way I used carry her in high esteem around my friends is not there anymore, I feel she has deceived me because this things I never expected or imagined her doing all this am seeing. Am heart broken i feel nothing for her am praying to God to help me love her once again but not I don't even feel anything even when i make love to her. It would have been better I married a bad girl and never expected anything than for me to marry a good girl and get my hopes shattered. Lately we had a heated argument said am caging her and majority of her friends are guys that i should go out and get friends and she feels no remorse all because I have stop her movements and gradually pushing me away, her heart and mind is so distant from me. Please am I over reacting over nothing because I have this gut feeling she is having an affair but she denies it all and she has changed for the worse. Help me am so confused. |
Family / Is My Wife Having An Emotional Affair??? by omoyeme200: 2:46pm On Sep 16, 2014 |
I have been married for approximately 8 years now and have 2 kids. From the start I never had married on my mind because of what I saw in my own parents they were not very happy until I met my wife who changed my orientation about marriage and we fell in love with her because she gave me a new meaning and reason to go on in life which I really appreciate and love, we courted for 6 years and we married. The problem actually started when I lost my job I noticed a very big change in her character and every time I talk her or discuss about it she tells me am overreacting or nagging its because I lost my job and I just kept to myself bottling every thing up on the inside. We tried going into business but it was not meeting up with our daily up keep so we opted that she gets a job. She then changed rapidly I seem to irritate her on everything I do, when i compliment on what to wear (because we do that for each other in which I don't object I just do as she says) she will say am not the only one looking at her she will wear what she feels like which actually is not the issue here, she comes back late from work, she talks to anyhow without giving me regard then it was like I was living in hell didn't know how to communicate because she will say am just nagging. I am not saying am a saint or anything I have girls before I got married and my wife was a "good girl" so to speak that was why I fell for her and I put all my cards on the table and never hid anything from her and what I did. But what I have seen and all indication she wants to start rocking life while been married and leaving home with telling or giving me any regard. The crux of the matter is that when i noticed all this I became inquisitive about what she did, she stated having late night calls and justifying it too from a colleague at work which she called him a small boy and even text message I saw which I find very offensive and what made matters worse was that I came across her conversation with her ex-boy friend who was in UK talking about how life would have been if they ended up together, insulted me with the boy friend that that am being over possessive, made plans of divorce in-case the marriage did not workout with me (which is still eating me up) because she already have a plan B for me, telling themselves they are somehow dating. How do I trust someone who is making a plan B for me when am not away or incapacitated or even considering divorce. At that point that was the height of impunity in our marriage which she has exhibited and I would not condone it and it broke my heart, for I thought my wife was "innocent" and if I had not been sensitive it would have degenerated to something else with her face book lover. I cannot come to terms right now because of the high esteem that I placed her and my genuine love for her she made rubbish of. If she was not hurting then I would have ignored them saying she was fooling around. Everywhere I go I see the conversations of the Facebook in my head and killing me. At first she doesn't seem to agree that she has done something wrong since she hasn't slept or gave her body but I told her she was having emotional affair and depleting our love bank and giving it out to someone else and have created a very mighty vacuum for us and the most annoying aspect is that she is making excuses for them. I cannot do anything am so confused she has begged me but the way I used carry her in high esteem around my friends is not there anymore, I feel she has deceived me because this things I never expected or imagined her doing all this am seeing. Am heart broken i feel nothing for her am praying to God to help me love her once again but not I don't even feel anything even when i make love to her. It would have been better I married a bad girl and never expected anything than for me to marry a good girl and get my hopes shattered. Lately we had a heated argument said am caging her and majority of her friends are guys that i should go out and get friends and she feels no remorse all because I have stop her movements and gradually pushing me away, her heart and mind is so distant from me. Please am I over reacting over nothing because I have this gut feeling she is having an affair but she denies it all and she has changed for the worse. Help me am so confused. 3 Likes |
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