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chuksbaby:
Happy fighting and Also cashing out big.

Business models

Stylebender got $600K USD from that fight. He will be more than happy to take a rematch

His message was very CLEAR na, Stylebender was telling those racist UFC knuckleheads that their superhero is his lil beeeeeech

Iceyjayz:
Big breast, flat ass.

Is a big sin..... "Ass over boobs" - Niggalations 2:1

FarahAideed:
He is assuming Buhari really wants the insurgency to end

Kikikiki , there's a reason Jesus said Satan cannot cast out Satan

Hedonisco:
I wonder how the neighbours in the apartment building are coping with this boy and all these lousy, noisy '30 billion' miscreants he surrounds himself with 24/7. In Banana Island of all places. Must be such a nuisance. Can't imagine.

Lamborghini na pure water inside Banana Island. Many people there use super cars. His Lamborghini is just another Lamborghini there, so no big deal. There are so many big boys in Banana. Davido money na coins where some of those boys dey sef. So nothing like nuisance in Banana. Even if you get craze for head, once you become a banana resident, you must humble cuz money pass money

This thread can lower somebody's IQ.....
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Are we just going to pretend that he survived 60 years of living alone but died just after 1 year living with a woman? They should investigate the wife thoroughly. Many landlords in Lagos are women, because their husbands have died and some of those deaths are questionable. May God continue to protect husbands oh. Because of money, because they want to inherit his wealth, they have hanged this one now and made it look like suicide.

ethicallyright:
Then Europe wouldn't need their dollars. If the whole world including China accept Euros as the international means of exchange, America is gone. The dollars is America's power .

Currency IS NOT MORE VALUABLE than the Military protecting it. Your currency is as valuable as the wars you can win. When you fight war and lose, your currency diminishes. Right now, America is the one defending and protecting like 90% of Europe. They are lame ducks without America. People are not accepting dollars as a global exchange in the global economy because of decoration or because they like the faces printed on the notes. Dollar controls the global economy because the world fought 2 World Wars and the USA came out on top of the food war chain as having the most powerful military in the world. Economy and Miliary Power go together. In this world, with a weak military, even if your local economy is excellent, another country with a stronger military will invade and steal and plunder your economy and conquer your resources. And that's why every country in the world has their own military to protect themselves or has a pact with a military that can defend them. A farmer has a farm with crops = good local economy = strong currency, but he doesn't have strong security. One day killer Fulani herdsmen invades his farm, destroy crops, destroy land, kill farmers = economy crashed = value is gone = weak currency. Or a cow herder with 3000 cows in the North, grazing in the field = good local economy = valuable currency, but he doesn't have strong security. One day cattle rustlers or bandits or boko terrorists invade his grazing fields, rustle the cows, burn the field, kill the herders = value is gone = weak currency. So your economic value is only as strong as the military protecting it. Without America (aka American taxpayers money) protecting most of Europe, the EU currency will be weak, despite the EU currency being a transnational currency. America dollar derives from just one country. Euro derives from a grouping of countries to achieve the value it has. America doesn't need Europe. It is Europe that has been a parasite on America.

See who dey talk about oh, France? A joker country that couldn't even defend itself against the Germans in WW2, they surrendered like sissies. Germany conquered them so quick like someone cooking 3 minutes indomie. This mumu President should tell Europe to stop depending on American money like parasites first, they can't even pay their NATO fees, America funds like 90% of NATO. Without the EU sucking trillions of dollars from America, Americans would have been prospering in their country better than they are right now, and America would have been a super wealthy country. While Europe, excluding the British, would either end up getting conquered by the Germans, Russians or Arabs.

Star Boy

Ok

Nengi already said I love you to Laycon, so I guess this means they might be dating now. Good luck to the new couple

Sad! Great talent wasted for nothing

Pearl05:
You would be surprised how many women are going through things worst and are still holding on and trusting.

Your man may be down but he is out.
Some tends to be abusive in situation such as he found himself. Some takes their wives's little money to gamble and even womanize. Some take to alcohol and other vices. Just keep talking to him in a manner that will boost his morale and make him feel like a man and not a failure. Always include him in all you do. Never you belittle him in front of your child.

In all these pray with and for him. Erase the thought of divorce in your mind. It shall be well with you darling.


E hugs to you. You are stonger than you thought. God bless you.

Finally, a woman with sense. Your type is very rare to come by nowadays

djon78:
This was exactly what the Anglican priest that preached during the burial of my uncle said.

He warned men as they are striving for there wives and children to also consider there own interests
That most times many men labour themselves to death

I learnt so much lesson that day


A man must have a contingency plan
Have a stored up back up money somewhere
I myself have experienced what this ops husband is going through
After I lost some good millions from business investments with a Chinese company

In fact my family were surprised because I have always been a hustler
But why that loss pained was I felt if I had flexed that money, use am enjoy myself
At least I for know at least I flexed it

I was down for a couple of years
But thanks to Oluwa not only bounced back but my business is growing in leaps and bounds even with the economy, God has still been very good

But now I have better stocked away money
No be me go come kill myself

You've been there done that and know it's not a pleasant experience. It will shake your mind to its roots, and lead to depression, self condemnation and heavy frustration real quick. I read a story on Nairaland some days ago I think, a graduate in the North that tore his certificates and credentials just because he had tried for long but couldn't land a job. Clearly he's frustrated and depressed in his mind, and to the public that's a very stupid thing to do but unfortunately, that's his own way of dealing with his demons and he's not thinking straight, and that's his own reaction to his frustrated and depressed state. Some people will drink and drink when they are depressed, some women will sleep around with different guys, some will get wayward and start doing sh*t they never used to do, some men will become dull and indifferent like someone who took weed and just be staring into empty space, some will try to ignore and live in denial and try to detach from reality by doing other casual things and you will wonder that this guy that lost money shouldn't he be out there hustling and he's sitting down watching movie. Well, that's his own way of dealing with his demons. Some will start gambling, some will lose their cool and get violent, some will be crying and sober, and some will talk themselves out of it and shake it off, some will rely on their support system ( family, friends, colleagues etc) to help them get through the phase. But whichever the case, it is a trying period. They say you don't kick a man who's already down. This is his down moment, if you can't help him get back up, then no wahala, but don't try to bury him to the ground cuz he is down.

Star Boy! May good news be my story too

SegFault:
As always foolishness. Claim to be the head of the house but start complaining when you can't even provide common food. Stupidity and Nigerians are never far off.

When you start paying bills, real bills in your life, on a consistent basis, maybe we can have finally have a real man to man boy discussion. Till then, enjoy wearing your skirt as a Beta and be the equal half washing pants for females, ok?

pocohantas:
How do you type something that long without paragraphing? Mehn! Anyone that can read that is the real MVP. I am not even trying to be sarcastic here.

Na bad social media habit. It usually escapes my mind when typing and I'm too unbothered or nonchalant to go back and modify when I notice. I'm a man of many mistakes and not paragraphing long posts on social media is 1 of it. Probably the 3rd or 4th person on Nairaland that said this. Some habits die hard. I'm a work in progress.

flyingpig:
No mind OP, pocohantas, queenfav and chinnybaby190 I wish they could read that elaborate post you penned down. They, they see a lazy man who doesn't work. But i see a broken, shocked, depressed, shattered, man who is still grieving over how he went from hero to zero, millionaire to zero, something to nothing. That shock can leave a man traumatized for so long but when he picks himself up he goes hard. These whores here are talking of divorce. Bitches only know the good times. Screw them they only deserve to become baby mamas.

Don't mind the girl. Imagine calling your husband lazy, a man that has worked by himself and earned or raised over a million by himself in this Nigeria, how can you call him lazy? Can a lazy man earn millions in this country legitimately? Just because now his business collapsed, and so what? How is he lazy? He is obviously depressed, not lazy. Until he shakes that depression and regret from his mind, he will just be acting indifferent, he will be down and not in fight mode. He is in a state of personal mourning silently in his mind now, full of had I knowns. So because he made a mistake and invested wrongly and things didn't work out, he is now a PNG? That's absurd, totally ridiculous. I can't count the number of times you will read about salary earners that lost job of ordinary 30k or 50k they will be wailing and crying and depressed like the end of the world has come. Yet a businessman lost millions, lost all his business and investments, and you think he will be a Superman and just adjust immediately to the reality of his new condition? Well, some people do, but not everyone can. Some wounds take longer to heal for different people. I am a businessman. Before I entered into the business world, I have done 9 to 5's, (or actually to 11pm sometimes), worked for different people, different companies across lagos, paid my dues. Then I got tired of it. Started doing my own business, and never looked back. I have been in situations where I invested wrongly and lost money and had to start all over again from nothing. I have been in a situation where I had to find a 9 to 5 again to keep body and soul together then dump it and start business again. But then, I have crossed the threshold where at this point in my life, no matter what happens, I can't do 9 to 5's again. It's not in my head again and I don't have the spirit for it anymore. I have fallen many times in my journey of business and gotten back up again and again that now, I'm not even afraid about falling anymore and I'm not interested in 9 to 5's anymore, no matter what, I carry my cross in the business world and make things work. Some investments turn over quick, some take time, but I stay in there and endure the process. Because I have come to realize that to succeed in business CONSISTENCY is required. You have to give it your everything and complete focus. Not having an escape route of 9 to 5 hiding somewhere in your mind. You let go completely and see yourself as an employer of labor, not an employee. Maybe that's the place her husband's mind is right now and he doesn't see himself doing or falling back to 9 to 5's. It is with positivity and encouragement that you will use to talk him to do somethings that he might feel is already beneath him, things that might be conflicting to his ego, every man has ego one way or another. So the guy is going through a lot now, he needs encouragement not insults. Nobody is forcing her to stay, if she wants to go she should go, it's not a big deal. But why try to demonize the guy and make him look like an irresponsible fellow in the eyes of the public before you go? No need for drama. Go if you want to go, it's not the end of the world. One door closes, another one must surely open.

missdivineprove:
Why Generalizing? Besides, the @op have tried. How many women will take all those things she's going through. To the extent of taking your husband to live in your auntie's house? This is nija. You people should fear God small abeg

Generalizing as how, I didn't say all women, I said most Women, and is that not true? Man has been providing for years, can't count the number of wives that lost their jobs or lost their businesses and their husbands gladly carry them on their back with pain, with tears, with discomfort etc till they get back on their feet and nobody knows or hears fem from his mouth. Ordinary 1 or 2 months, wey be say no be like the guy dey chop intercontinental dish oh, no b like say na 4 Points or Oriental u dey pay for everyday make he dey go chop, na management levels oh, anything wey he see he take, how much recharge card she don buy, she has brought his matter to CNN and still demonize his personality and character join. No b una fault na. Cat wey him leg break na him dey make Rat turn king for inside house. If the guy's investments had turned out great and the guy had raked in more millions, the same girl will have been eating his money and forming love. Fake love!

queenfav:
Most of you are missing the point here...She has been supporting him financially, but the man in question isn't making any moves to better their situation.I think men get too comfortable when they know their wife is hardworking.They relax and let her become the man.Trust me it can be exhausting.Fact is this,any one can go down in life.The important thing is to try all you can not to stay down.That lack of effort is what makes a woman fed up.

I worked as a Matrimonial causes Mediator and I have seen so many cases like op's.He is depressed,he is sad..Yes!But will his family eat sadness?I believe God gave men one job..Provide for your family!A woman is already saddled with the rigours of childbearing, house chores and taking care of the home front.What the op wants to see is a little effort and reassurance that her man is making moves to get their lives back on track.


What woman will be happy taking her family to live with her aunty? Come on.. You all should stop saying a woman will announce it when she feeds a man for two days..Yes, it's not a woman's duty to provide.We only make money to support our men.

A man who lost his job should know that he needs to find something to do to at least get his family a new apartment.If her aunty kicks them out,what next?They will go get a space under Ikeja bridge then.

Oga you're just talking off point. Talking like you're reading a story book from Disney. You better wake up, this is the real life, with real events and situations not a cartoon. Shit happens, and shit has happened to him. The guy's once thriving businesses collapsed, probably lost millions of naira, have you lost millions of naira before? Have you ever had your busineses that you put all your money into collapse? And your account is in red and you had to start all over again from scratch, from zero? From the way you're talking I don't think so. I have lost millions before, so I am speaking from a personal experience. Do you know what it can do to a man's psyche, do you know how that situation can mess up a man's mind and push him into depression. Do you know the kind of things running through that guy's brain right now, you think it's easy to be someone that was spending millions and then suddenly you can't even feed yourself talkless of another person? The guy is still in his emotional shock state, where everything happening still looks like a dream. This is not the time you expect him to be at his best, the kind of mental battles going on in his head right now is not a joke. He needs support and kindness at the moment. He needs someone to tell him, don't worry we will get through this, don't think too much, don't despair, he needs encouragement, someone to remind him that he is still the champion that made all those millions by himself from nothing and having to start all over again is not the end of the world, he has made it before, he can make it again. The guy needs all the POSITIVITY and POSITIVE energy he can get right now. How much recharge cards has she bought for him that she brought his matter to CNN? Can she tell us how much she has benefited from the same guy so we can know whether the recharge cards she bought outweighs his contribution in her life? This is nothing but betrayal. A man just lost everything due to circumstances, maybe due his personal errors in business decisions or investment, he will be full of self regret, he will be depressed and psychologically drained, he will feel like he has no reason to fight again, all the fight energy and spirit will fade because of self doubt. He needs to be hearing positive voices, not nagging and condemnation. This is a critical point in his life. People are not equal. Some people are not used to being alone and loneliness and being able to talk to themselves and encourage themselves, they need someone to encourage them. Some people shake it off faster than others, but everyone has their own demons, it's not the same formula for everyone. Yet just because she has supported him with little things within a month or so, she wants to abandon him and run. Ok na, go, abandon him and go and find a billionaire like Ned Nwoko to marry. No problem, but no need to demonize the guy and assassinate his character and batter the little confidence and self-love he has left.

SegFault:
Abeg keep quiet, when most Nigerian men claim head of the house what do you expect, is it not your stupid Bible that relegated the head of the house to the man, why are you now ranting. Mtchhheeew.

My stupid wonderful Bible did not relegate, you don't relegate power, you delegate power. And yes, man is the head, the big kahuna, the alpha of the pack of the human species. It's just the way God made it, the way of Mother Nature; and Nigerian men don't claim to be head of the house, we are the head of the house. It's not a claim, it's not an assumption, it's an existential reality. You can sell your own birthright as head of your house if you don't want it. Just make sure you buy skirt with bra and start wearing

May God continue to have mercy on me

Men really need to wake up, husbands especially. As you are sacrificing your all, crossing the oceans, giving your best years and best strength just to make your wife and family live the best life, remember to take care of yourself and put plenty money away. You can buy recharge cards for your wife for 5 years and nobody will know, but the moment she buys you recharge card for 2 weeks, she will publicize your matter on CNN. You can be providing for all her needs and the families needs for 15 years but the moment you can't and she has to help out for 2 months, she will disgrace you in the community, as if you were never a provider, as if you never foot the bill all those years that she was enjoying your money. Most of them are like this. Only few women understand loyalty, and only few women understand and will abide by the marriage oath of for better or worse that they took. Most of them are only interested in the for better, what they can take from you, the benefits they can reap, but God forbid let the tables turn, and for worse happens, most of them will be quick to demonize their husbands and subject him to public ridicule and shame. So husbands have to learn how to have contingency plans for themselves in case of the hard times, because this life is unpredictable with good and bad, ups and downs. We can only try our best and hope for the best.

Chinnybaby190:
I have to create this accounts to post this.
I want to leave my husband and our child behind. I want a divorce. I'm tired of the whole thing.

When the money was there, he only told me his plan after he, his elder brothers, mother have discussd and taken decision.
After he made wrong decision, investment and lost everything, all his family members have left. Even his mother has given up on us. They see him now as my husband and my responsibility.

He took another little step and set up a betnija business which his brother was managing. Finnally, it's down.

Since his bet9ja business crumbled, he has been totally dependent on me. I basically foot everything in the house down to data and recharge card on his phone. The annoying part is that he no longer make effort to look for any job again.
This man is intelligent, hard working but just of a sudden, I don't understand what is happening to him.
His fighting spirit has died. He takes anything now. No pride, no ego.

I don't ever believe that one day my husband will be comfortably eating, watching movies and feel no shame in other people's house.

For more than 2 weeks now, we packed all our belongings to my Aunt's house because our rent expired.
We practically stays here now, the whole thing is driving me crazy. I'm managing a small job with little salary, but he has nothing to contribute and he seems not borderd.

How can we stay here, eating their food and he's not feeling remores anymore.
I've been giving him attitude since 3days now. I'm so exhausted in this marriage.

Please help. What should I do?

More experienced people in the house, please advise me as your daughter, sister, friend.

Most of you women are the same, you're only there for the benefits, only there when the going is good, but if the man gets broke temporarily and can't provide, you turn against him and show your true colors of wickedness. How many years was his footing all the bills, and providing your needs and giving you benefits and enjoyment? But suddenly because he has a bit of misfortune and can't provide within a few weeks and is down, you bring his matter to a public space so they can further help you ridicule him. Abeg abeg abeg, leave quickly, sharp sharp, leave the man and his child, abandon the marriage and find another husband. No problem. He is better off alone than having a betrayer as a wife. He will survive, he will recover and he will prosper again, no condition is permanent.

Very good

May God continue to have mercy on me