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Rockstar2014:
This has been bothering me for sometime now, I am 35 and she is 28. We got married November 2019 and have a 17 month old baby boy. Lately on like before, she neither responds to my love making advances nor initiates one, when she relunctantly allows me IN, she just stays like a wood and does not play any part nor add any flavour to it. I am beginning to lose interest on going close to her these days and even considering checking up on my ex (not married) who still shows interest on me just to fill in that gap. Please advice.

.BE GUIDED
It is always better to consult a family law expert before you married. But if you do not before you married, in case the marriage runs into trouble do not make a decision based on sentiments. It is better to consult a divorce lawyer in Nigeria to guide you through. This link will be helpful in that regard https://g.co/kgs/uKc7h5

BE GUIDED
It is always better to consult a family law expert before you married. But if you do not before you married, in case the marriage runs into trouble do not make a decision based on sentiments. It is better to consult a divorce lawyer in Nigeria to guide you through. This link will be helpful in that regard https://g.co/kgs/uKc7h5

MooreJozo:
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BE GUIDED
It is always better to consult a family law expert before you married. But if you do not before you married, in case the marriage runs into trouble do not make a decision based on sentiments. It is better to consult a divorce lawyer in Nigeria to guide you through. This link will be helpful in that regard https://g.co/kgs/uKc7h5

BE GUIDED
It is always better to consult a family law expert before you married. But if you do not before you married, in case the marriage runs into trouble do not make a decision based on sentiments. It is better to consult a divorce lawyer in Nigeria to guide you through. This link will be helpful in that regard https://g.co/kgs/uKc7h5

omablogs:
Listen, as a woman, I can tell you every woman has their own reason for needing space. Yes, I know, we’re complex. But don’t take it so personally. Instead, figure out why she’s asking for some space and then form an opinion.

When a girl says she needs space, it can catch you off guard. What does that mean when you’re dating? And if that moment does come, you assume it’s your fault. You did something to piss her off, you made her run away. And sure, that could be the reason, but it’s not necessarily your fault...Read More...

Click Here to see Reasons Why she needs space and how to Overcome her!

[quote author=Muurian post=91250877][/quote]It is always better to consult a family law expert before you married. But if you do not before you married, in case the marriage runs into trouble do not take a decision based on sentiments. It is better to consult a divorce lawyer in Nigeria to guide you through. This link will be helpful in that regard https://g.co/kgs/uKc7h5

MUST YOU BE KILLED TO EXIT ABUSIVE MARRIAGE?

Abusive marriages are very common currently. It ranges from beating to treatment like a slave. A lot of guys, particularly in Africa, want to stay on in order not to be stigmatized as a "divorcee". But the question to be asked from such people is MUST YOU BE KILLED TO EXIT ABUSIVE MARRIAGE?
Remember some exited into the grave in some abusive marriages. In recent times there are reports in the media of husband that stabbed wife to death, the wife that machetes husband to death. The most disturbing part of it is the fact that such couples are professionals- Lawyers, Bankers, Accountants, Engineers! etc.

Some ignorantly allowed themselves to be killed as they are confused. They do not know what to do or action to take before it was late. There are bits of help if such a person opens up. There are religious organizations that counsel, there are Advocacy organizations that offer help, there are lawyers that help even pro bono and there will be some close and trusted relations that can give useful help.
The starting point of an abusive marriage is raising voice by your spouse when discussions, followed by raising his/her hands and it progresses to slapping and finally beating to death.

Folks, don't wait to be sent to an early grave before you borrow yourself senses. Click on this link for help https://g.co/kgs/uKc7h5

OROSUNBOLB:
Are you making this enquiry on behalf of your sister or something ? You can't keep on looking ? Like you're going to institute the divorce on your sister's behalf ? In as much as I understand your concern for the safety of your sister,I strongly feel that you are part of her marital problems.

Are there no lawyers in your community ? Talk to one na since your sister's husband just woke up one day and became a beast !

Muna4real:
Why did you use ifedioku's pics for this funny story?

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ITS BETTER TO CONSULT FAMILY LAWYER BEFORE MARRIAGE & DIVORCE LAWYER IF YOUR MARRIAGE IS CRISIS.

It is always better to consult a family law expert before you married. But if you do not before you married, in case the marriage runs into trouble do not take a decision based on sentiments. It is better to consult a divorce lawyer in Nigeria to guide you through. This link will be helpful in that regard https://g.co/kgs/uKc7h5

earlalright:
This piece is not expected to serve as legal opinion or counsel. It is just a semi-educational and enlightenment material and should be regarded as such.

When I wrote "https://www.nairaland.com/5799672/what-nollywood-not-tell-divorce (what Nollywood may not tell you about divorce), I tried to help you understand some truths about Divorce in Nigeria that you may never see in the movies. In this piece, I want to help you protect your sanity if you choose to divorce.

I once read in an Awake! as a teenager that “divorce is like a mini-death” and today that I am 9 years as a lawyer and 16 years as sex, relationship and marriage counsellor, I can tell you from my experience on the job that the statement is almost totally true, save for some exceptions. My goal in this piece is to help you take advantage of the exceptions so that divorce doesn’t become a mini-death for you.

Allow me to tell you how to preserve your public and social dignity and your personal mental and emotional balance through and after a divorce.

1. Know what you want

When some clients come to my office and request for divorce, I sometimes wonder if it is divorce they want or revenge on their spouse and his/her family. It is my belief that the marriage has been toxic and life-threatening and you are actually taking your last life-line by opting for divorce, and so, the goal ought to be a divorce at all cost. When you do things to show that you don’t mind staying in for some time longer and don’t mind going through plenty fights in court and on social media to pay back your spouse and the person’s family, I then wonder if you were also a good person in the marriage equation. It is a divorce that you want, get it at all cost for the sake of your life, sanity and that of your kids if you have any. Leave revenge and payback to God, and if you don’t believe in God, leave it to karma.

2. Don’t play dirty.

I have seen people who lie on their spouse and about their marriage in a bid to make their lawyer and the judge believe that they should get the divorce immediately at all cost. Some who have never shed a tear in the last 10 years come to court with some Eucharia’s and Nkiru Sylvanus’ crying skills to emotionally try to compel everyone to show that their spouse is wicked blah, blah, blah. Let me tell you something, you don’t need all the drama; all you need is just the simple resolve that you don’t want to live with this woman or man again as husband and wife. And hey, just as the law cannot force two people to marry each other, so also the law cannot force two people to continue in the marriage. If one says “I no dey do again” and “I no wan do again”, no judge would refuse you a divorce. Remember that divorce is what you want.

Some folks have actually instigated some fights and adultery in their marriage just to have grounds and proofs to get a divorce against their spouse. Nah, don’t belittle yourself that much. You are bigger than that. Get a smart lawyer and your divorce would be smooth without your dirty linen being spread on a high-tension wire for the world to see.

Let it go

Some people come for divorce and still fight for some maintenance, properties, monies etc. even though in reality, they can reasonably live and do without them. I am not saying you shouldn’t fight for some benefits where necessary, but if it would make the divorce go dirty and affect your public and social status, dignity and most especially your sanity, let it go. Remember you are fighting for your life and sanity, so let go of anything that can tamper with that unless it is something that you cannot reasonably do without. Please, don’t let lawyers make you take arms for a war you don’t want to fight. The more the fight, the more your lawyer would make but the less human you would come out from the divorce. Always remember that your dignity and sanity is what’s at stake here.

3. Go discreet

As much as you can, instruct your lawyer to file your divorce in a court outside your neighbourhood (or state sef). Don’t put it on social media (those people do not have joy) and as much as possible, if the person is not a very dear friend that can keep your secrets, do not tell people about your divorce. I don’t know any divorce that got into the cyber space that did not become dirty and mentally exhausting.

4. Sue the bastard

“Sue the bastard” is a law car sticker that actually reads “sue the bastard, defend the idiot”. I brought this in to say if your spouse wishes to make things difficult for you, pursue peace as much as you can, but if his tactics and demands are vexatious, then allow your lawyer to do his job. Don’t try to retaliate outside court in the community, work-space or social media. Let all the fight be and remain in court. If you get attacked, let your lawyer handle the situation through the police and through the court. Never stoop low to battle divorce in the community, office or social media.

If you need further clarity on the issues discussed here, you may contact your lawyer for more enlightenment. Personally, I wouldn’t answer your questions if you contact me via Whatsapp me +2348125086798 or send me an email through earlalright@gmai.com

God bless Nigeria (good people, great nation)

My name is Earl, and I am Alright.

Don’t forget to follow us on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram @AlrightsPassion

You rock!

MUST YOU BE KILLED BEFORE YOU FILE DIVORCE TO EXIT ABUSIVE MARRIAGE?

Abusive marriages are very common currently. It ranges from beating to treatment like a slave. A lot of guys, particularly in Africa, want to stay on in order not to be stigmatized as a "divorcee". But the question to be asked from such people is MUST YOU BE KILLED BEFORE YOU FILE FOR DIVORCE TO EXIT ABUSIVE MARRIAGE?
Remember some exited into the grave in some abusive marriages. In recent times there are reports in the media of husband that stabbed wife to death, the wife that machetes husband to death. The most disturbing part of it is the fact that such couples are professionals- Lawyers, Bankers, Accountants, Engineers! etc.

Some ignorantly allowed themselves to be killed as they are confused. They do not know what to do or action to take before it was late. There are bits of help if such a person opens up. There are religious organizations that counsel, there are Advocacy organizations that offer help, there are lawyers that help even pro bono and there will be some close and trusted relations that can give useful help.
The starting point of an abusive marriage is raising voice by your spouse when discussions, followed by raising his/her hands and it progresses to slapping and finally beating to death.

Folks, don't wait to be sent to an early grave before you borrow yourself senses. Click on this link for help https://g.co/kgs/uKc7h5

MUST YOU BE KILLED BEFORE YOU FILE FOR DIVORCE IN AN ABUSIVE MARRIAGE?

Abusive marriages are very common currently. It ranges from beating to treatment like a slave. A lot of guys, particularly in Africa, want to stay on in order not to be stigmatized as a "divorcee". But the question to be asked from such people is must you be killed before you seek for divorce?
Remember some exited into the grave in some abusive marriages. In recent times there are reports in the media of husband that stabbed wife to death, the wife that machetes husband to death. The most disturbing part of it is the fact that such couples are professionals- Lawyers, Bankers, Accountants, Engineers! etc.

Some ignorantly allowed themselves to be killed as they are confused. They do not know what to do or action to take before it was late. There are bits of help if such a person opens up. There are religious organizations that counsel, there are Advocacy organizations that offer help, there are lawyers that help even pro bono and there will be some close and trusted relations that can give useful help.
The starting point of an abusive marriage is raising voice by your spouse when discussions, followed by raising his/her hands and it progresses to slapping and finally beating to death.

Folks, don't wait to be sent to an early grave before you borrow yourself senses. Click on this link for help https://g.co/kgs/uKc7h5

[quote author=ibizgirl post=91070818]Sorry about this. Thank God your kids are adjusting

MUST YOU BE KILLED BEFORE YOU DIVORCE
& EXIT ABUSIVE MARRIAGE?

Abusive marriages are very common currently. It ranges from beating to treatment like a slave. A lot of guys, particularly in Africa, want to stay on in order not to be stigmatized as a "divorcee". But the question to be asked from such people is MUST YOU BE KILLED TO EXIT ABUSIVE MARRIAGE?
Remember some exited into the grave in some abusive marriages. In recent times there are reports in the media of husband that stabbed wife to death, the wife that machetes husband to death. The most disturbing part of it is the fact that such couples are professionals- Lawyers, Bankers, Accountants, Engineers! etc.

Some ignorantly allowed themselves to be killed as they are confused. They do not know what to do or action to take before it was late. There are bits of help if such a person opens up. There are religious organizations that counsel, there are Advocacy organizations that offer help, there are lawyers that help even pro bono and there will be some close and trusted relations that can give useful help.
The starting point of an abusive marriage is raising voice by your spouse when discussions, followed by raising his/her hands and it progresses to slapping and finally beating to death.

don't wait to be sent to an early grave before you borrow yourself senses. Click on this link for help https://g.co/kgs/uKc7h5

holatin:
married for 11 years...she came from a rich family...trust me she has better options.....she has even more chance to leave him

MUST YOU BE KILLED TO EXIT ABUSIVE MARRIAGE?

Abusive marriages are very common currently. It ranges from beating to treatment like a slave. A lot of guys, particularly in Africa, want to stay on in order not to be stigmatized as a "divorcee". But the question to be asked from such people is MUST YOU BE KILLED TO EXIT ABUSIVE MARRIAGE?
Remember some exited into the grave in some abusive marriages. In recent times there are reports in the media of husband that stabbed wife to death, the wife that machetes husband to death. The most disturbing part of it is the fact that such couples are professionals- Lawyers, Bankers, Accountants, Engineers! etc.

Some ignorantly allowed themselves to be killed as they are confused. They do not know what to do or action to take before it was late. There are bits of help if such a person opens up. There are religious organizations that counsel, there are Advocacy organizations that offer help, there are lawyers that help even pro bono and there will be some close and trusted relations that can give useful help.
The starting point of an abusive marriage is raising voice by your spouse when discussions, followed by raising his/her hands and it progresses to slapping and finally beating to death.

don't wait to be sent to an early grave before you borrow yourself senses. Click on this link for help https://g.co/kgs/uKc7h5