This has been bothering me for sometime now, I am 35 and she is 28. We got married November 2019 and have a 17 month old baby boy. Lately on like before, she neither responds to my love making advances nor initiates one, when she relunctantly allows me IN, she just stays like a wood and does not play any part nor add any flavour to it. I am beginning to lose interest on going close to her these days and even considering checking up on my ex (not married) who still shows interest on me just to fill in that gap. Please advice.

She's probably not happy about something. Don't you think politely asking her about it would be a good idea?
You're already considering cheating on her. Don't you love her? Did you get married to her because of sex? Haba! This is a test of your faithfulness, and you are already showing signs of failure. Try your best to discard that consideration and focus on getting to know your wife's problem(s). Marriage isn't a bed of roses.

Op go ahead, anything that makes you happy is welcome.

Anything that can cause pain on a man without him gaining financial dividend should be given a good gap.

Leave her for some months, she'll open up to you.

Romance is usually tied to happiness and comfort. You may not be able to afford happiness but how about comfort?

GeniusWannabe:

She's probably not happy about something. Don't you think politely asking her about it would be a good idea?
You're already considering cheating on her. Don't you love her? Did you get married to her because of sex? Haba! This is a test of your faithfulness, and you are already showing signs of failure. Try your best to discard that consideration and focus on getting to know your wife's problem(s). Marriage isn't a bed of roses.

Who have time to pamper a full grown lady of 28years, she know what her husband love and expect from her in love making, why is she pretending as she has no urge for sex or maybe she getting it outside, who knows? Oh maybe she thinks she is doing her husband a favour, that is childlish thought...such drama woman should be ignored till futher notice.

No woman can manipulate me with sex.

You are already considering cheating on her? Did you care to know the cause of her sudden break down? Have you talked to her about it?
How's your sex life like? Do you just jump and start strucking without pre-intimacy?

Ask yourself all these before considering destroying your marriage yourself.

make sure when fūcking your wife you do it hard to the extent that she'll beg for mercy (after cumming several times)

Lonestar124:
Who have time to pamper a full grown lady of 28years, she know what her husband love and expect her in love making, why is she pretending as she has no urge for sex or maybe she getting it outside, who knows? Oh maybe she thinks she is doing her husband a favour, that is childlish thought...such drama woman should be ignored till futher notice.

No woman can manipulate me with sex.

The OP said the behaviour is unlike her. If the change is notable, then it's obvious she's not pretending. Something is wrong somewhere. The best thing he should do is find out what the problem is, instead of running into hasty conclusions.
What does marriage mean to you?

Take her out, try to be romantic, be nice to her.If it does not work talk to her or visit a sex therapist

GeniusWannabe:

What does marriage mean to you?

Marriage is nupital knot tied with two opposite gender, that ought to remain for forever if every neccessary viod is fill between them...It's strictly made for adults that knows how to express thier displeasure without hurting each other.

Lonestar124:
Marriage is nupital knot tied with two opposite gender, that ought to remain for forever if every neccessary viod is fill between them...It's strictly made for adults that knows how to express thier displeasure without hurting each other.

Based on this definition, do you expect those goals to be achieved with a snap of the fingers?

You don't need to be contemplating like this alone. Sit her down and iron things out. She may have some issues to discuss with you. Express your grievances to her, let her know that marriage is not only about procreation . You need to enjoy wedlock and you must ensure that you work toward it

GeniusWannabe:

Based on this definition, do you expect those goals to be achieved with a snap of the fingers?

But the goals are achievable when there is understanding and maturity between the couple

Why playing with your husband feeling that is hieght of immaturity.

Preshy561:
You are already considering cheating on her? Did you care to know the cause of her sudden break down? Have you talked to her about it?
How's your sex life like? Do you just jump and start strucking without pre-intimacy?

Ask yourself all these before considering destroying your marriage yourself.

Is she a kid ?? Why can't she voice out if there is a problem

Let her be.

*no longer romantic*

Preshy561:
You are already considering cheating on her? Did you care to know the cause of her sudden break down? Have you talked to her about it?
How's your sex life like? Do you just jump and start strucking without foreeplay?

Ask yourself all these before considering destroying your marriage yourself.

Don't mind the frogbrain OP... he wants to cheat.. let him go ahead!...

My advice to the wife too... make sure you cheat too.. find a man who knows the game of preintimancy and pre-intimacy!

Op, no wonder your wife acts the way she's acting.. she sure had a premonition about your ex and what you intend to do!
Patriarchy men! Tufia

Margy:


Don't mind the frogbrain OP... he wants to cheat.. let him go ahead!...

My advice to the wife too... make sure you cheat too.. find a man who knows the game of preintimancy and pre-intimacy!

Op, no wonder your wife acts the way she's acting.. she sure had a premonition about your ex and what you intend to do!
Patriarchy men! Tufia

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Rockstar2014:
This has been bothering me for sometime now, I am 35 and she is 28. We got married November 2019 and have a 17 month old baby boy. Lately on like before, she neither responds to my love making advances nor initiates one, when she relunctantly allows me IN, she just stays like a wood and does not play any part nor add any flavour to it. I am beginning to lose interest on going close to her these days and even considering checking up on my ex (not married) who still shows interest on me just to fill in that gap. Please advice.

Stop wasting valuable brain energy on analyzing her behaviour. Wood or no wood is not important; she can still get pregnant; which is the reason why you married in the first place (or should be the reason). Just get your kids and spend your time thinking about how to invest and grow yourself in life. If she like, make she tag along.

Lonestar124:
But the goals are achievable when there is understanding and maturity between the couple

Why playing with your husband feeling that is hieght of immaturity.

That's exactly my point. Both members of a couple are not devoid of imperfections. When one of them expresses his/her imperfections, the other member should be able to consider this fact, and with understanding and maturity, attack the problem. If he loves her, then he should be able to bear with her. Same thing goes to his wife. She should be able to make mature efforts to make sure that they both live with their imperfections, and work together towards overcoming them. That's what marriage is all about. Rome wasn't built in a day, same way a good relationship can't be built in a day.

in all you do, never cheat on your wife

Men of this generation! Lord! Instead of him to seek for ways to the solution on ground, what his mind could come up with is to cheat on his wife.

Tufia!!!

Prec1ous:
Romance is usually tied to happiness and comfort. You may not be able to afford happiness but how about comfort?

God bless you, maybe he is not making the woman happy, sex is not the only thing in marriage, good communication is also a good key.

Try to ask her what's wrong. Women who do like this always have a cogent reason. You're her husband and you know the best way to get words out of her.

Probably one of those broads who think they are doing you a favour by having sex with you. Sex that is even more available than condoms. Nonsense




Perhaps she's getting sweet prick from her ex outside

You're gonna cheat on her? OP.. O De beru olorun... How many months into your wedding? Both of you need to talk about these things its not hard rara... You can google romantic relationships.. Let her see it herself...

Bros have you ever heard of postpartum depression? please do a research on it and help your wife .... stop being selfish that woman might be going through a lot shit mentally that you don't know about

Fejimummy:
Bros have you ever heard of postpartum depression? please do a research on it and help your wife .... stop being selfish that woman might be going through a lot shit mentally that you don't know about

Maybe

Cheating on her is not really the solution.
Kindly find solution not excuse or reason to backup your cheating plan.

Some of you are the reasons why we eligible bachelors are scared of getting married. Your wife's mood changed due to reasons best known to her and she couldn't easily confide in her hubby, shame on her. You on the other hand noticed this and couldn't sit her and communicate with her and try to find out the problems instead you are talking about seeing your ex when you just married not quite long, shame to you also. If two consenting adults don't know how to communicate with each other to bring peace then they have no business in marriage at all. Babymama and Babydaddy would have been better option for both of you. My hope in marriage is to find that partner I can pour out my challenges and we both can solve it together and she willing to do same, else no point having a partner instead to remain single and do a baby mama thing. Sefini

Rockstar2014:
This has been bothering me for sometime now, I am 35 and she is 28. We got married November 2019 and have a 17 month old baby boy. Lately on like before, she neither responds to my love making advances nor initiates one, when she relunctantly allows me IN, she just stays like a wood and does not play any part nor add any flavour to it. I am beginning to lose interest on going close to her these days and even considering checking up on my ex (not married) who still shows interest on me just to fill in that gap. Please advice.

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