purples25:


I don't even understand the mom's wisdom. Honestly. If I was her, I wouldn't try to exhibit and parade myself in front of his friends. What's the deal? Does she want to become friends with the son's friends too or what?

If I am her, even acting with wisdom, I will first assess the situation. These boys are rich but not wise, and he needs their connection to move forward in life and later help mom. Because they are not wise, they may try to dismiss her son if they find out she's the mother. If I was her therefore, I will not call out to him or associate with him when he is with them. As long as he is coming back home and still with us in reality, no problem. That particular time is not the time to start acting like a baby, trying to validate 'I am his mother! I am his mother!' For what now, haba! How will your son move if you are always sticking to him like chewing gum?

I, in her shoes, will let him gain what he must gain from them. When he is done benefiting from them, and moves up so high with so much power, then they cannot do anything when I am finally introduced as mom.

I see her behavior as childish.

She's been on the streets since, she didn't understand the way of social oppression here? MUST she reinforce her status as his mother at that instance? What's this desperation for relevance from her?

You're a mumu

pansophist:


Situations like this is why it is advisable for women to have a job somehow, and their own money. Then she will have the ability to act in a way that is respectable.

Since the man has checkout by action, then she should do the same. If he is there for the kids, then good, if not, she should take care of the kids alone with all the help she can get.

You can't negotiate from a position of weakness, and if you do, the deal will be a punishment to the weakling than uplifting. Forcing someone into polygamy through the barrel of a gun is not a fair deal.

He should have asked her that before going to impregnate another woman. He is not a good man. So in her case, she will suffer in any path she takes. If she becomes the second wife (in practice she is even if she is the first), the home will be worse that a prison for her.

If she choose to raise the kids alone, she will retain her self respect, the world will respect her, and it's a position of strength. She will only suffer materiallly, physically, but her soul will be at peace, and the burden of conscience will be on him.

I'll advice she go with the second option.

Thanks for the reply chief. I appreciate.

pansophist:
The bias of thinking there are lots of options out there.

Lots of people will leave a good relationship because they thought something better is waiting for them outside. Instead of watering their own grass, they imagine that the grass they saw outside watered itself. Until reality sets in.

And when reality sets in, you've probably lost the thing that makes you appealing initially. You become jaded, bruised, with all kinds of emotional baggage, and lack of enthusiasm to build from scratch again.

It's sad that lots of people have to pass through hell themselves before they realize that it exists. Whatever.

Chief, what will you advise a mother of two to do if her husband abandons her and impregnates another woman in another state and gets married to her. Now he wants them to practice polygamy after betraying the trust but she doesn't want to share her husband?

Kindly drop a reply?

maxist2020:

Because they are still young to be adding the burden of plaiting hair to their parents numerous problems.

This is the first time I'm seeing such

Why all the girls dey barb their hair?

Abi na catholic schools

Please continue sir

crystalmoon:
solutions to this problems include
1) making indigenous science and technology a must
2) a strong and good leader like Putin who won't be betrayed by fellow Africans no matter the propaganda
3) banning of all foreign entities , religions ,value , imperialism and influence
4) an indigenous spy network
5) making congo a stabilized place and making use of all resources rich African countries for the betterment of Africa
6) African philosopher and thinkers like cave adullam,musicwriter should create an African education system, method of thinking and African beliefs system
7) female empowerment
Nuclear weapons must be created to prevent bullying from local and foreign entities
9) all African leaders must come together and discuss how we will move forward
At least most of them know our history
10) I believe a savior is coming

I like your suggestions except the last one. There's no saviour. Na only we fit save ourselves