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SBL28:
I can't describe how I feel, but it's not a good feeling. I'm divorced with two kids and I'm not even 30 yet (late 20s), crazy right? I never imagined life would turn out like this...I married the only man I have ever dated and it turned out to be a complete disaster. I feel bad for my kids the most, they are the real victims here. Their father didn't love them or me enough not to walk away from his family.

I have been single and celibate for over two years now but I'm tired of it now. I'm tired of being alone. I want to love and be loved. I want to have a connection with someone. I want that great feeling that comes with being in love.

I have considered having friends with benefits but I don't think I'm wired that way ( not like I have a lot of experience in the that department). I just don't think I can have sex with someone I don't feel anything for.

Another issue is the religious aspect, in the eyes of God, am I still married to my ex? Will God be angry with me if I go into another relationship? But don't I deserve to be happy to? The man in question already moved on...don't I deserve a fresh start too?

On the career front, I have not worked for a full year since I graduated from school. I have not been able to get a decent and stable job. This bothers me to no end...don't get me wrong. My children and I are comfortable but I don't really have any money of my own. I feel do bad when I see my old uni classmates working in the top firms and rising. Some of them were not even better than me then. So I keep wondering why all these things are happening to me, home front 0, career 0. I just want things to go my way...

I can't remember the last time I got a decent amount of sleep, so many thoughts in my head. Sometimes I just want freedom from all my worries and problems, I crave for peace...but I can't leave my children alone in this wicked or intentionally bring such pain on my parents and siblings who have been there for me. Most importantly too, I can't condemn myself to eternal damnation... So I'm just going to be here, taking one day at time and praying for a complete turnaround.

Be strong for the sake of your kids and stop flogging yourself cos you've not arrived, my sister you're not in a competition with anyone.

Nope

xynerise:
What do men gain from it?

Sex na, what else this kids sabi?

morningstar55:
I don't know if I should term my situation"depression" or i'm just being rebellious.
Hailed from the most useless and poorest family on this planet,useless father and most useless late mother got separated when dude was less than two.most useless late mother dumped dude with useless father that's hardly around,dude has to grow up from house to house(useless father's family' clircle).
Dude has been surviving from his teenage yrs with menial jobs as everyone has their cross to carry,no education...no money to start a business,no nothing.Dude was born to be poor but the problem is he has refused to accept his fate,his hustling mates are all married with kids and managing themselves in one room.
Instead of the stubborn dude to accept things the way they are...he gathered his little savings to start open university after losing about 700k to a transportation business that didn't see the light of day and he also paid for apprenticeship training on networking here in Abj..thanks to the boss himself for being supportive,won't mention names because he's a Nairalander.
Note:dude is a matured man now,infact...there is this neighbour that calls him a manchelor ,,urging him to try n settle down but they don't understand what dude is after.This always make dude to question his decision,What if....Dude hardly sleep,always indoors thinking about life when there's no hustle at hand.
What am I suppose to call this,depression,rebellion or foolishness?

Inconclusive dude

Sex is no longer a big deal, you opened your legs for a guy you dislike so much. I think money is involved and you want a baby from this guy.

Linda Ikeji fell into pregancy and you feel pregnant. You are not pregnant.

How people dey go do this npower work fulltime? Oversabi go kill some people for this country

Mankiso:
Mine is a sad tale. We used to live in a large extended family compound at the village. There were always intra-family fracas and wars, so this often repelled my emotions. There was this family, living right side of us whose children and their mother fought my mother constantly. One day, I was going out of the compound and I was met at the gate by one of their sons who was older than me. Suddenly, Aneke pulled me and dragged me by the hand into the bush. I was five and he was about thirteen. I got thrown to the ground and he lay on my body facing me, his rising dick touching my penis. He tore through my dirty and sweat soaked knicker and brought out my small dick. He began to lick it, and would move gently and forcefully up and down the length and breath of my full body, his penis rousing mine up. When he finished, he said I should suck his dick which was bigger. Afraid and shocked and my heart pumping fast, I licked his dirty and smelly penis. He would cloth himself and ask me to zip back my untidy knickers. I was dumbfounded by the whole act. I would not tell my mother because Aneke had warned me, saying we would be beaten if I exposed what he did. Since I couldn't talk, afraid of what could happen to us, for I was already tired of the constant wars and fights and afraid for my poor mother, I lived through my childhood and teenage and now as an adult emotionally and psychologically bruised, tormented and traumatized. I almost ended up a homosexual since I thought it was the norm, but my close relationship with God early in life had helped me to be able to control myself whenever the urge comes. I hardly keeps a relationship and my communication pattern is poor, if not none-existent. I always feel that people suspect me and I am impetuously angry and pained by my experience. However, I have not had anal sex with anyone and nobody has done that to me. I also have not had penetrative sex with the female. I will be thirty-nine soon. I am not married.

I am thinking all the time. I hate my village and I do not like to go there. I hate Aneke and I do not like to see him.

In the last recent years, I started experiencing a very troubling health challenge: a distressing mouth and body odours. I have gone to hospitals, clinics, and to herbal homes and others, all to no avail. A lab scientist kindly suggested I go to a neuropsychological hospital and I was referred. I was shocked to learn that the odours are psychologically functional, being the chemical and hormonal results of increased and unabated sexual identity tensions, fears and thoughts expressed by me through thinking and anger. I go to a prophetic church and I am often advised to stop being angry and to stop hating and avoiding people. I don't visit people at their home, I am afraid of re-experiencing my childhood rape and abuse. I have no friends and I worry constantly about who would be my best man during wedding. I am trying to settle down with the help of very nice medical psychologists and psychiatrists and it has not been easy. They advise that I should learn to forget and forgive, that my sexual abuse wasn't my fault. They say I should learn to move on with life. I get dragged in my dreams by handsome males and abused.

I am.learning to understand the horrors of life and why there are many homosexuals in Nigeria. When people say they should be killed and thrown into jail, I do not share this opinion as they may be victims of child sexual abuse. What they need is therapy to overcome the trauma of their violations. I am writing about my experience and how I nearly got disoriented sexually. It is a story of anger, apprehension, and self-hate. I constantly worry about how to publish such a controversial topic and where to get the money to do so. My therapists diagnosed that my experience affected every facets of my life: relationship, communication, career, thoughts, including physiological growth and maturity.

I.am shakened by my experience and my response to it is with a story of understanding of tragedies as this and how not to be a homosexual in Nigeria, in a letter to my friend who has run away from Nigeria.

Child sexual abuse is a crime. Your boy child who gets abused by a male could become a gay tomorrow. Watch out!

You for do that guy something like beat him up badly

Na so

mytime24:
tnx dear

you're welcome

mytime24:

You are pretty

donstan18:
You daughter did not tell you the truth.

She loosened her hair so that it won't be distracting her when sucking diiiicks in the campus.

Use your common sense. She just don't want any guy to hold her hair during diiick deep-throatingg.

Werey she never loose the hair

finalboss:
naso.

Watin?

nurey:
okay ooo, open your own thread so we dont derail this one. Also type of car and other explanation

Thanks

nurey:
okay ooo, open your own thread so we dont derail this one. Also type of car and other explanation

Let me call you

pkang:
And you touch me not too.

Why will women find it normal to touch men but men cant do the same

Why I go touch a man? I no like touchy touchy right from small

nurey:
concerning what please?

The car dey consume too much fuel

Take it to the bank

Amberon11:
Wpji estate

Them give una prepaid meters, we dey beg for prepaid meter since..

Scapegoat

Boxer007:
First u need to visit place called restaurant. You not allow to eat with hands thou

I want you to teach me

Boxer007:
Take u out to where? Pissssa hut? How?
Do u know how to eat with fork n knife & napkin?

Teach me

Annoying habit, touch me and I slap craze comot that your face

Boxer007:
Oyin.didi and Hisd.uchess, ladies please do not evem bother. You will be gated and not be given transport money. You will walk back home.

Preach

You want to take us out?

Mtcheeeeew..

Boxer007 cone and apply

You don't want to father a child yet you skin dive