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KreativGenius:
God bless you my sister. Now you've arrived. Not the eba or how we packs the eba or folds it that matters, but you love right ! loving right blinds our eyes to the flaws in our partners.Please transfer this knowledge to the younger ladies abeg

Lol, it was not easy back. We celebrated our 10 years anniversary last Friday.

To the topic of discussion, that lady is not serious. I married in my early 20s and I'm not regretting one bit.

Blackfyre:
Hehe, that's serious. You remind of this bros whose babe gave him that same amount because he needed to sort some things out. You won't believe the dude took the most to fela shrine to get wasted....

Needless to say, the dude never got married to her, perhaps fortunately for her...

That guy no get sense

Blackfyre:
Funny how those little thing bother peeps, as for me i will prefer separate rooms entirely because i have a very odd way of arranging and placing things in certain places and i will flip if someone moves it....

You must learn to accommodate others. You need to learn that fast

KreativGenius:
Rules confines and then causes inhibition. I went through boarding school, became so self reliant that i hardly ask people for things and leave by myself. To unlearn that process, i had to unlearn things and lower my guard for people to come in. Which goes back to what you said, many of our sisters are overbearing and arrogant ( i.e. uunyielding ), the moment we can bend, one is ripe for marriage. Which is more important? How one snores? or the partner? Was rules made for humans to rbing humans into subjection or to make a thing better? if we all investigate the motives behind our actions, we will be fine


And yes, offense will surely come, do we like this person enough even after they break the bridge to remain the relationship? It's a kweshion we must confront, if we can take offense, if we can forgive on the other hand to a healthy extent, then such a person is good for marriage, but then it takes two to tango.


Ogula

Lol my brother, we learn daily. I'm a very difficult person. before now we quarrel whenever we are eating eba and soup together. It's funny now my hand will be very neat and soup must not touch my eba but he is opposite of me I will look at him with disgust and he will just wash his hand and leave the food. Now, I don't care.

Blackfyre:
Oohh....now i understand. Have the same ish too but it's only for those i care about. But like the truth you said, every man for himself oh....

One's own is enough to deal with

In 2008 a pregnant lady I was close to needed 50k to complete her shop rent. She was complaining and promised to pay in a week time. The soft me gave her the money, its almost 10 years and I'm yet to collect all the money.

Right now, I'm so hardened. Someone can cry blood in front of me and I won't look at the face of the person

KreativGenius:
Forgiveness before offense, thoughtful. Not carrying images of my partner must never offend me. You're now a man. You've reached the point many ladies haven't yet reached, when resolve comes, there's an abundance of forgiveness in the heart for almost everything. I.e. you can never offend me enough to hate you. Hence how we react to issues are first of all incumbent on our own characters than what they did to us

Offends will surely come whether you like it or not. Marriage is not easy.
I like sleeping alone, I don't like the breathe of someone touching me
Imagine what I av to adopt to

KreativGenius:
Make a default response. i.e. any question or request should end with a no first, or i have so many projects at hand, or give me time i'm expecting something when it arrives i'll let you know. It gives you time to make careful thought before giving into reqests, it makes you less spontaneous.

I'll tell the person a straight NO! The person can go to hell. I killed the emotional me. Was way too emotional and always want to help people out when they were in need.

KreativGenius:
Subjective, if awareness of our conditions is there, the atmosphere for change is a strong factor that will def create better individuals

I'm saying this cos I've changed. Lol, I tell people what keeps marriage is tolerance and forgiveness. Forgive your partner before he/she offends you.

Blackfyre:
That's serious, if it's just your things that will be okay but if it can affect the freedom of the choice of others, that's quite overbearing... Perhaps if you see how you may be hampering the choice of others, you will tend less to do so...

I know my problem and I'm trying to control it. I can go to any extreme to help people too. Right now, every man for himself

SmellingAnus:
hahaha ok nice... But I for prefer you like the lights on .... Anyway... I never really get chance but I go surely reach there by God's Grace...

Light or off no matter. I just type that off

Blackfyre:
Funny, never would have thought of you that way. Neither your posts nor your face looks it...

My brother, that's one of my biggest problem.

SmellingAnus:
emi o.... I no know say you like darkness o

Lol, I was given 2 options and I go with off. Why you no want come eliel again?

SmellingAnus:
sister the Sister

tiobra?

cahrlifa:
are u shy for d first tym or everytym

Do I have to answer that?

KreativGenius:
Because they were tolerant, ready for compromise, willing to make ammends. If a man tells you shyte now, you go slap am, and it may not mean he's a shyte, but may be a turn around the corner, this generation tolerance don reduce drastically. Sure you can relate

I preach tolerance in marriage. I'm not saying one should stay put in abusive marriage. Most people don't understand their partners(myself inclusive) . Before now, I was very authoritative, I want everything to be done my way. Unknown to me, I felt my man is too principled. Imagine, I gave the key to our spare room to a Church to pack their equipment. I didn't see anything wrong back then but I'm regretting my action now. Its 4 years and they are not ready to move out. Why am I saying all this? We are overbearing and arrogant to our partners without knowing. I make amends and we're cool

Dollarship:
Wow

Kilode? Dey your lane

Most of our mothers married as teen brides.

Thanks all that mentioned me though I didn't see the category you placed me.

Oga Esteemedboy I sight you.

See you all in 2018

Tgirl, much love

Mikelowe:
Nlanders, initially I felt so reluctant to posting this due to my kind of person. I keep to myself alot and try as much as possible to solve any challenges am facing without telling a single soul. But what am currently facing is taking a consuming dimension.my fiancee took in and this led us to make prep for wedding/engagement. But shockingly, I lost my job a month to d program. I begged and wept like a child that day but was told d decision can't be reversed. I took to my faith and started husking to see if I can atleast savage the day and I was able to complete some of want will be needed.. I was selfless about it. I was shocked the way some family members reacted toward me. Not a single soul was able to come to my aid. I am pleading to this forum for help as the engagement/ wedding is just 5 days. I did an estimate and noticed I will need roughly 70k(am yet to get my cloths, pay for menu, and other logistics) to cement my plans so as to avoid embarrassment.. I know I will be abused by some Pple but I noticed this is d only medium for me as time is not on my side. Pls Nlanders, any amount will be respectfully appreciated. I

Go and refund the money.

Mikelowe:
hmmm...will u defend urself if u finally discover that am still not this person u claim I am?

Sharrraaap! What about the phone number?

9 years? Wait another 9 years

Off, I'm shy

Martin0:
Hahahahah commot for here ee
Wayo woman

Lefulefu don recruit you

Martin0:
Dey ask me na?

Hahahahahahahahah kikikikikikik chai ur craze pass my own oo
So pesin nor fit admire common Nyansh in peace anymore

Abeg ooo

Hahahahaha... I dey learn where you dey

Martin0:
Hahahahahah Oyindidi
U sef eh ur own dey ur body

How na? How many Vaseline you don finish on top this pix?

Martin0:
So who be de lezbo now

Nobody, I no rate am

Martin0:
Na wa for u oo I talk anything about lesbian

Na lesbian dey rate another lady ass

crackhouse:
blood of Jeremiah

You like?

Martin0:
Oyindid e don tae oo,abeg how u see that Nyansh

I dey, I no be lesbian

lefulefu:
since wen evaberry come fat like dat?

Na Chief wife to be

doctorkush:
oyin , wife material is scarce

Hahahaha... Them scarce or you never ready