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I dont put a final dollar price on it but the bible says where a mans treasure is found will be the true desires of his heart...

My ex husband's other ex wife proposed to him...I thought it was funny...but she also quickly divorced him..the marriage lasted 6 months. My ex husband never officially proposed to me. We talked about getting married and 4 days later we were mr and mrs. However I was always bitter at him for not giving me the fairy tale romance I dreamed of.

Money isnt everything but its right next to air and water. I am an independent woman but I am not going to be with a broke man or dirty man. I could deal with bad sex for a while I could deal with an ugly man (enough money and plenty of ways tp fix that) liposuction will take care of him if he is fat if he has money he can afford to fix or buy new broken things but no way I am dating a broke man. What can we build together if he has nothing to bring to the table? A mans ability to be financially successful is the hardest thing to change.

Love causes many things but if u meant cost...it cost to keep it.

I know how important food is for him. I really cant cook, not even American food. He and I came to an agreement that he would want me to cook but it isnt something I would have to do everyday just once a week or so.
I dont plan on hamburgers and pizza everyday...I dont eat those foods. I dont eat meat.

Ibkaye...I about died laughing at running from food like aids. But I do feel that way. And every time I see him he is eating and eats often cookie ice cream his food any food lol but he always wants me to eat and I have a million excuses why not. But he always puts a big bite on his fork for me to try...how sweet except I am praying that I dont become ill in front of him...I debate leaving every time he offers food. I want to lie and say an emergency happend lol all I can thinkIis I have got to get out of here. I dont think he would understand the eating disorder most people dont.

I dont mind his culture and I love where he comes from because it Is what makes him so amazing. However I cannot afford to gain weight. All his food is high fat high carbs...
I really hate cooking but I wouldn't mind agreeing to learn to cook his food as long as he would agree I dont have to eat it. That way he can show me his culture like he wants but I dont have to end up gaining weight.

I am in a relationship with Nigerian man but I am American. He has not been in the U.S very long. However we have many cultural differences but most we can work out. Over the weekend he had me attend a family celebration. He became upset with me because I didnt want to try African food. He constantly wants me to try his food. Anyways he makes it clear he isn't going to let me get away with not eating his food. To keep from being embarressed I follow him to get some food. He sets me down with his brothers who are trying to tell me what each dish is, however I am upset and not listening to them. While he is gone I move the food on the plate so it looks like I ate it.
The problem for me with the food is that I am real picky about food. I don't eat often and when I do eat I don't eat much. I have an eating disorder. I have recovered and relapsed many times in life. He is unaware of this and I don't want him to know.
His reasoning for wanting me to try all these foods is because he says he sees a future with us and wants me to know his culture. I truly want to be with him but How do I get him to stop trying to get me to eat his food without offending him or making him think I don't care about or respect his culture?

I once heard something about how women can forgive a man easier for an affair that is just sexual as long as it wasnt emotional. If he was emotionally involed with a woman that it would be very difficult for a woman to forgive him. However for a man it was the opposite. If the lady only had an emotional affair he could easily forever her but if it were sexual he was unlikely to forgive her.
Now I am a very jealous woman. If anything gets more of my mans attention then me we will have problems. It could be an object like a book, a video game, or his laptop. I will grow to resent these items but let it be another woman and I will never forgive him. I will instantly lose all attraction and desire for my man. Worst I lose all respect for him. I may let him stay but he shouldnt expect me to be faithful or do anything for even if it is only sexual and he didnt even know her name.

That is not true of all women. I would never want to hurt or disrespect any of my girls by laughing at them but if they have a flaw we have to fix it before we are seen together. I would never expose her secrets because I probably have something to do with them and during a timed of arguements I pray she says nothing too or we both will have problems. I am quick to let my girl know if she is messing up. I dont want her calling me upset at odd hours or especially when I am with my man. If any man talks bad about one of my girls he should be prepared for us to tag team on his asss. Me and my girls never expect anoyher to take sides in a disagreement between 2 of us. That is their dispute and I still love them both. A group of girls arent just friends we are a sisterhood and well we stand stronger together.

I stop talking to the person and just say I see snd mmhmm and ok then comes a long moment of slience because it is hard to argue with someone who says nothing...then later I complain that u never listen to how I feel and I think I am lonely because all u does is talk at me. Then my b/f asks me to explain. And I refuse to say anthing. This way my man thinks it really bothers me and I am upset so when I do bring up the issue in a couple days he gives me what I want and no argument.

I live in the U.S and I am divorced. Before the court would allow me to divorce I had to take a class about divorce. The instructor said the biggest reason people divorce is one person becomes selfish. I believe this to be very true. One person stops looking at how the whole family will benefit and becomes just how they will benefit.

The instant eww lol
Sometimes you cant describe a man and his feelings any other way but ewww.
I think one of the hardest things for men to understand is that women are attracted to what they hear and men are attracted to what they see.
It wasnt the way his car looked it was how it sounded that turned us off
More then anything else that makes me say eeww is something he has said.....it made him sound too needy, too weak, or too desperate. I lose all romantic attraction for him but I still can see a limited time purpose in my life for him....a friend

Today is the day! Cant wait to see how it goes!

Well it has been a couple days...I just got home from a great evening with him. I tried some food he cooked but lol it was too hot ...we spent the evening cuddled up talking joking laughing drinking some beer. He brought marriage up and that he talked about it with a family friend. I brought up the cost of a wedding so we are deffinantly moving towards the future. I am dying fir an official proposal!

In the westetn world if a woman is smart she proves where he transferred property and then files for a quiet title and the man is pentalized.

Damlesky: if u no get money and u want a girl then dis tread is for u but if u get money.......



beat her for a whole year she go still come back to u

Money isn't everything but it's right next to air and water. Plenty of broke men beat women too and not all rich men beat women.
Without money doing all those things would only be a way for a man to compensate his low funds but a man with money it would make him perfect.

His belts will be in a different measurement and Ihave no clue how to convert it to u.s. size

He lives not far from me in the U.S.

Sweetestguy the libdo does have to do with the guy you are with. How can I want something or want it often if I don't enjoy it? Not all sex is the same with all men. Although I could want it often I may not let the guy know everytime I want it.

I figured I would do things reversed..blow his mind go to lunch blow his mind and leave him with his family.
How do I know what size of belt?

Well almost because a man could do all of this and be unemployed or under employed and all that sweet stuff means nothing.

People never completely self actualize.we spend our entire lives figuring out who we are. The older we get we dont change mentally, emotionally, morals, or direction in life as fast as when were younger. I would say if you can wait almost 2 years for then be willing to wait at least 4-5 years aftet that for her.
I can think of a million reasons why or how this could go wrong and only one how it could go right. Your chances of it being all your thinking it will be is one to a million.
Give her time to grow as a person learn as a woman and experience as a human if its meant to be it will be.

I am newly in a relationship with a man and his birthday is this week. I don't want to get him something cheesy but I also dont want to buy him something too flashy that he takes me ss not sincere as we have only been dating a short while.
Then I am going to take him to lunch but I have not a clue where. He has only been in the U.s 2 months now. The state we live in doesn't have any place to eat African food at which I know he likes best. He has said Chinese is as close to his food he has found but we ate Chinese together already. I cant cook my own American food let alone cook his food. Any ideas

All women aren't the same but I find most this to be true...if a man could do all that he would be almost perfect.

I think a womans libido is only as high as she is interested in that man but its low if she had no real interest in him. My ex I would never be in the mood or feel like it and I deffinantly wasnt faithful but my other ex I couldn't sit in a separate chair or drive 10 mins without stopping to get some and never cheated on him

I only read that in the bible... I dont read romance novels. And I deffinantly believe that.

I disagree love never fails and It conquers all things...if I love him and he loves me and we can see success then what more is to know?

Well I got my question answered tonight...he toldme we needed to speak and he expressed that he thinks he loves me although he isnt completely crazy about the love idea. He is completely crazy over me. We spoke about marriage some! He didnt purpose but he said he needed to talk to his sister about everything! I am hoping that means he will soon ask me!

I believe he is Christian. He attends church. He has invited me but I declined. He made a comment that if I was to be with him I would need to go sometimes just at least to make an appearance. Whatever that means . But it is not the only thing he said I would need to do. He wants me to learn to cook. I am not sure how he expects this to happen.
He has said we should take a trip to Nigeria so I can better understand him but I dont know about all that either. I don't see why I would need to fly 20 hours away and stay somewhere a couple of weeks to understand him.
I am not concerned about him not being number one in the bedroom. He might be able to work his way to that point.
I love who he is as a person. And I really want to be with him. He tries hard to please me. I just dont understand where he is going with me.