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 Family › Oga Sir!!! Even If She Offends You, Eat Her Food. by Paulajeigbe(op): 12:22pm On Feb 12, 2023 |
I know you are angry. Your wife took you for granted. She did something that angered you so you are not happy or smiling with her. But she has cooked your dinner. While you were angry at her she was in the kitchen sweating and making sure that your best food is set. Now the food is set. Dinner is ready. But Oga, you are still angry. So you went out because you are still angry at her. She even begged you to at least eat. But you want to make her see that you are still angry. You went out, go to a restaurant and you eat. You returned home and went straight to bed. Oga, stop it. If you are angry with her, abeg don't let that reach good food. But just to get the view and opinions of the ladies. That food Oga refused to eat, what happened to it? And if you have been in this situation before how did you respond to this? Someone might be reading who is also in this mess right now. 26 Likes
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| Family › Sex Is Pleasure, Love Is ... by Paulajeigbe(op): 10:19pm On Oct 07, 2021 |
Sex is pleasure, love is affection and respect is stability someone said. But I am still yet to understand fully. I never grab . So am sincerely asking, how does this three play out? Should I marry a woman I love, or a woman that gives me stability? Which one pay me? What's your opinion? Advice me as your friend and brother so that I can advice my friend too.
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| Family › Re: I Offended My Wife And She Is Denying Me Sex by Paulajeigbe(op): 8:07pm On Oct 03, 2021 |
SweetDipBenny:100% correct. Thank you. |
| Family › Re: I Offended My Wife And She Is Denying Me Sex by Paulajeigbe(op): 8:00pm On Oct 03, 2021 |
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| Family › Re: I Offended My Wife And She Is Denying Me Sex by Paulajeigbe(op): 7:53pm On Oct 03, 2021 |
ToyinOlorunsola:Hmm! So a I think a man should find all ways to make sure he keeps his wife happy. A man would be justified even in the eyes of the woman if after he has done all to make her happy then she is now not opening the gate for the king to come in. |
| Family › Re: I Offended My Wife And She Is Denying Me Sex by Paulajeigbe(op): 7:50pm On Oct 03, 2021 |
budaatum:Amen!! And really you will. Their is nothing as lovely as having an husband or a wife that are both intimate in everything. There will not be any strong head over anything. To apologize and to forgive will be easy and sweet. And yes, this kind of men or women are worth waiting for. |
| Family › Re: I Offended My Wife And She Is Denying Me Sex by Paulajeigbe(op): 7:46pm On Oct 03, 2021 |
crackhaus:Thank you. In as much as I will continue to support men to treat their woman well and do the needful to continue to have a lovely and eagerly expectant wife when it is time for the do. Yet, I stand with you to also say denying your man sex to get back for an offence done ain't the right way to solving the issue. |
| Family › Re: I Offended My Wife And She Is Denying Me Sex by Paulajeigbe(op): 7:42pm On Oct 03, 2021 |
Iyaebe:Right. This is absolutely correct. Sex isn't the next thing when your woman isn't happy. Thanks 2 Likes |
| Family › Re: I Offended My Wife And She Is Denying Me Sex by Paulajeigbe(op): 7:37pm On Oct 03, 2021 |
Phiniter:Lol! 1 Like |
| Family › Re: I Offended My Wife And She Is Denying Me Sex by Paulajeigbe(op): 7:31pm On Oct 03, 2021 |
Foodqueen:  But should that be the solution to my offence to you ? Denying me ? Well we men sef sometimes our ego is what has blinded our eyes to the beauty of apology. But can I eat half of the cake and still keep the rest for later? (On a lighter mood)... You are simply right. You can eat your cake and have it. Men should learn to be sensitive and do the needful if they want to continue to enjoy unhindered trip to Disney world. |
| Family › Re: I Offended My Wife And She Is Denying Me Sex by Paulajeigbe(op): 7:03pm On Oct 03, 2021 |
Fahdiga:Lol! I just can't imagine the struggle within and without. |
| Family › Re: I Offended My Wife And She Is Denying Me Sex by Paulajeigbe(op): 6:43pm On Oct 03, 2021 |
budaatum:Well probably me I won't call it rape. Once you marry you both owns your body. Rape I think would be good to use when I don't have the right to your body and you forced your way into me. But this is marriage I have that right. But to balance it. It does not now speak well as a man to enforce your right when she isn't willing. Sexual intimacy is supposed to be mutual. Understanding between the two before, during and after the pleasure. So, I agree with you. It is not right to force you way on your wife even though you technically have the right to her body. |
| Family › Re: I Offended My Wife And She Is Denying Me Sex by Paulajeigbe(op): 6:38pm On Oct 03, 2021 |
chatinent:lol! Delicious poison!!! 1 Like 1 Share |
| Family › Re: I Offended My Wife And She Is Denying Me Sex by Paulajeigbe(op): 6:36pm On Oct 03, 2021 |
Fahdiga:ahhh! You damage a woman more when you force your way in. She simply sees herself as been used. And this is not the intent of sexual intimacy. So even forcing your way with your woman isn't the way... 1 Like 1 Share |
| Family › Re: I Offended My Wife And She Is Denying Me Sex by Paulajeigbe(op): 6:34pm On Oct 03, 2021 |
chatinent:Not at all. Cheating will only add fire to the frypan that is already hot. Just saying denying of sexual right because of offense is also not the right approach. And like you have rightly said, as a man, it does not reduce you to make things right. |
| Family › Re: I Offended My Wife And She Is Denying Me Sex by Paulajeigbe(op): 6:31pm On Oct 03, 2021 |
chatinent:Absolutely!!! Abeg chop knockle. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Family › I Offended My Wife And She Is Denying Me Sex by Paulajeigbe(op): 9:43pm On Oct 02, 2021 |
I know this may rock the table at various point with various reasons. Yet, I want to ask the women and the wife's, who may be in this at this time or who have done this before as a get back response to pepper their man just for offending them. Did this solve the matter? And then I am asking, please what lesson or point do you want your man to get or gain, when he offends you and he is asking to be intimate with you and you are carrying the gateway to his kingdom away? Has this pepper him approach solved any thing? I don't think so. I wish we know that sex in marriage is a powerful tool. And so to use it againt your husband is like using a weapon against yourself. It does not end well. It will affect your whole family. Because once your man is no longer focused at work,all he now sees are ladies in the mini's and the bikini's and the spaghettis and noodles, things he has been seeing but because he has a woman who is giving it to him well and with joy, na wahala dey knock o. So what should you do woman? Your bobo offended you, and one way or the other he hasn't apologize yet. He is forming and shurning and not even paying attention to you. So it looks as if the both of you are doing Tom and Jerry in your home. Then 10pm he is coming close to you bringing his key. He want to enter Into the tabernacle and just be lost there. Abeg wife, woman, this is not the time to turn , then you look at him , and then you now hissed and cover yourself with the duvet. Noooo!!! He has only come to resolve matters. Lol! Welcome him, calm him down and then take him to paradise gradually and steadily. Don't raise the matter of what he has done yet. While he is still worshipping and doing all of the different worship styles let him. When you have taken him there and then back, this is the time to open up your heart. Tell him his offense and how hurt you have been. Pour out everything. I know some men are insensitive. Immediately they have stood up from the place of worship, and then dash out leaving the woman just their. Yet, for a majority this is the time they just want to listen and truly listen. When a man truly know what it means for him to have been taken to the tabernacle of worship and back by his wife whom he has offended, he will apologize. For someone like me, I won't only apologize alone, I ma take her shopping, I will make feel like the woman she is. I will kindly that light again. Sabi it was the tabernacle you she took you to, Kai !!! Wait until she takes you to paradise all because you triggered the girls and the beautiful woman in her. We men have lost our wives because we weren't sensitive. And by the time we are realizing the damage has gone too deep and things done spoil far. So in summary, and in conclusion, denying your husband sex because of offense isn't the way. There are better ways and approaches that brings the result you desire. Kindly leave you comments I would be reading and replying. Peace. 31 Likes 6 Shares
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| Family › Re: Shush It!!! If I Hear You Cry...(why Mother? Ehn!) by Paulajeigbe(op): 11:04am On Sep 27, 2021 |
| Family › Re: Shush It!!! If I Hear You Cry...(why Mother? Ehn!) by Paulajeigbe(op): 11:03am On Sep 27, 2021 |
1F30M4:Lol! Hmm  |
| Family › Shush It!!! If I Hear You Cry...(why Mother? Ehn!) by Paulajeigbe(op): 2:17pm On Sep 26, 2021 |
Why do you spank a child and then tell him/her not to cry? I have been trying to wrap my head around this. I was in church today, a little girl misbehaved so the mother took her out and spanked her and the girl started crying. And I was hearing her tell the girl, shush! Fem!! If I hear you cry shush!!! And the helpless girl full of tears In her eyes and mouth was trying hard to hold it all back. Abba, now!!! Sabi you have spanked, please let them cry it out. If you are worried about the cry disturbing others, take them somewhere so that they can really cry there. Ehn ehn!!! When the tears has finished, then draw the child closer and tell the child why he/she was whooped. Then love them. And sincerely I want to know why mother's do this. It is mother's that do the spankings most. Abi I lie ni? So why should I not cry after you have spanked me painfully?
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| Family › Re: Why Did You marry Her If You Won't Create Time For Her? by Paulajeigbe(op): 1:46pm On Sep 26, 2021 |
Sonnobax15:Ahhh! Please grab a glass of water and a good sir and come and sit oh! |
| Family › Re: Why Did You marry Her If You Won't Create Time For Her? by Paulajeigbe(op): 1:43pm On Sep 26, 2021 |
AmazonTopaz:And this is what has really affected majority of the homes we have. No time for the woman you claim you love. So how do you have deep communication, how do you study your woman to know what she means when she has not even alters a word, how do you have deep communion if not in the confinement of making time available just to be with this woman. But I believe things are changing. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Family › Re: Why Did You marry Her If You Won't Create Time For Her? by Paulajeigbe(op): 1:34pm On Sep 26, 2021 |
elonmuskbaby:am sincerely asking them o! And we men must give an answer. 1 Like |
| Family › Re: Why Did You marry Her If You Won't Create Time For Her? by Paulajeigbe(op): 1:32pm On Sep 26, 2021 |
etrange:Lovely macaws. You can even differentiate the male from the female sef. Lol! 1 Like |
| Family › Why Did You marry Her If You Won't Create Time For Her? by Paulajeigbe(op): 1:03am On Sep 25, 2021 |
Dear Men, If you are/were not planning to keep making time available (time whose primary purpose isn't for sex) for your wife, I mean the woman you claimed to love. Please why did you marry her? Commitment, communication and communion are all centered around time. No wonder your marriage isn't sweet. You just dey manage, you just patch am, nothing new, nothing exciting, nothing fresh. You marriage isn't even up to 3yrs, all your strength, excitement, joy already finished. Ahh! How do you now what to finish the remaining 50 years left? Then you will now come and say that marriage is not easy or marriage is not sweet or marriage has its own problem and challenges...excuses for the gods. Sorry to use that expression, there are just no excuses why your marriage to that woman shouldn't produce sweet sweet things. Sorry no excuse. Lol! So what should you do? If you are married, you are married. Know that and know peace. That the wife you married, the woman that was your moon and stars when you were courting her, has now suddenly become a destiny killer and a witch? Sorry that won't change anything. You have married her. She is yours and yours alone. Secondly, am a Christain and I believe in Jesus. So Is Christ part of that marriage? Abi it is just the two of you? The presence of the life of Jesus in your marriage is the central theme that makes your home/marriage heaven on earth. We have so many men who are just religious. They do not know or have the life of Christ. So their marriage is still being influenced a little by the world and a little by religion. See why you are not happy? See why you hope so much but nothing exciting and joyful is happening? Christ is that spice that's missing. Know this and know peace. Thirdly, put a system in place to create time for your wife. Love, affection, compassion, sensitivity grows through spending time with your wife. We know that you must work. We know that a home requires finance and so as part of the responsibility of the man,he should provide for his home. Yes, this is true. And all men should and must rise up to this responsibility. Yet, in all of this, you will see that all your wife needs is you. Give her all the money in the world, she will still be lonely though married. And men, let's stop using working as an excuse for not having quality time with your wife. Work, and create a system that will enable you make that time. When you have and know your wife, when you spend time with her, studying and taking note of her, when you give yourself to her, the first thing that you have gotten is peace of mind. You come home to rest. The atmosphere is set, then you can pray and the result is wowing!!! Then you can raise your children to be children who desires the kind of love that exist between their parents. Children who wants the God of their parent because they have touched him and seen him through their parent. Dear men, please I want to plead, plan that you will always have quality time with your wife. This is where cultivating and growing comes in. If this is not in your agenda, abeg bros! Don't marry her. You will make her life miserable. And you will not also enjoy yours. I submit to you that marriage is not to be endured. It was created to be enjoyed. 3 Likes 1 Share
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). Nigerian women are taught about marriage from birth but you don't see men being given much attention or taught how to be lovely husbands to their wives as long as they are bringing in the money who cares? And this mindset has made some women believe that men are only good for money so they settle with the wealthy ones and leave the broke boys/men behind because in this part of the world the only thing a man needs to have and know is money nothing else.
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