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Thank you for sharing!
I appreciate you!!

Selfish peoples and greedy peoples are everywhere including in Japan.

Many Japanese peoples don't like if someone always ask you or demand you something they want you to do for them.
Mostly mind own business.
Maybe sounds like heartless or not kind.
But self responsibility is very important in Japan.
Everybody need take full own responsibility, at own risk etc.
Anything you should do it by yourself. Something like that.

So if someone need your help, but if that person doesn't try any effort before asked your help, many peoples will not help this kind of person. Many peoples don't care about this kind of person.

Self responsibility and do yourself whatever you have to do.
This is very very important in Japan.

Anyway, Thank you so much!
I'm always feel so happy whenever I saw peoples who like Japan and Japanese!
Always making me more love and more proud of my country and my peoples!(о´∀`о)
I really really appreciate you!

MsFaith:
I'm cool. Yes, thank you.

Yes, English Teaching jobs

why would you say your information is useless, please don't ever say such a negative thing to yourself, don't allow anyone make you look down on yourself, ok?

I already sent you a mail, please reply, so that I can mail you further. Thanks.

I'm happy to hear that you are cool

Oh! No, nobody look down on me. Everybody very kind and gentle to me on here! I'm really grateful and I really appreciate!!

Sorry, I mean useless is I wanna help peoples who wanna know about Japan and Japanese if I can. I wanna share with them what I know. If I don't know something, I wanna search it and I wanna tell them.
But most of times I couldn't do that. I couldn't give peoples useful information.
I'm not happy about it.

Thank you so much for your kind words!
I really appreciate you!!

Oh! Ok! I will check it!

MsFaith:
Hello peacefull,

How are you doing today?

please I need your help in terms of ESL teaching jobs for Non native speakers in Japan.

Can I send you a mail?

Hello!
I'm good! Thank you for asking.
I appreciate you!
How about you? I hope you are good too and stay in safe!

Sorry, what is ESL? English teacher job?
Please give me some time. I will check about it!
I'm not sure if I can help you or not. Because my information is always like useless
Have you checked or asked someone on Japan topic? There have topic on travel section.

Yes! Of course! You can send me a mail

iamadonis22:
It seems you love adventure.

Please listen to Oga and postpone your visit to Nigeria for a few more years. It will be safe to come soon.

Please be patient

Oh! I'm a like very very stubborn child sometimes!
If I heard No or don't do that, sometimes I'm feeling like I wanna do more than before I heard No

Yes! Of course, I must listen to my Oga!
Ok! Thank you so much!
I will try to be more patient!

iamadonis22:
That’s nice but please hold that thought one second....

We will tell you when to come
My country is trying to settle a small matter of insecurity at the moment; it’s nothing we can’t handle.

Danger?

Since I met my husband till now, I still have never been to Nigeria.
I don't know how many times I told him I wanna visit Nigeria one day.
But my Oga always said danger

Long time ago, he shared with me about one story.
His friend? or someone who is Nigerian man married with Japanese woman like us. His wife had never been to Nigeria before like me.
One day, she visited Nigeria with her husband.
They saw robbery with gun.
From this her experience, when they went back to Japan, she told her husband that she never wanna visit Nigeria again

My Oga said I will have this kind of experience like her is very possible.
He even told me about kidnapping.
But I'm very stubborn I still can't give up about I will visit Nigeria one day!

iamadonis22:


Yes lingo is word. Someday, if relative calm and security returns to Naija, you could visit.

Thank you!
I wanna visit Nigeria one day!

MNDY:
Yes I feel bad about the way you women think and how you give your opinion on things happening in the society.

You cannot do sex work but you are in support of sex workers. You should be able to do anything you support. People should look for jobs or business to do instead of going into something that is not proper.

I am not asking you to feed them or look for job for them or establish business for them. Do you know that your opinion on topics like this can either encourage or discourage somebody out there?

I'm very sorry for made you feel bad.
I'm really apologies you.

I think you said you like what she wrote on here?
And I like what she wrote too. I think I'm her side since beginning.
But to me, some peoples seems like feel bad or angry about what she wrote.
And I was confusing and still confusing.

I tried to understand why peoples got angry? Why some peoples seems like attacking her? etc.
Your first response to me is maybe you tried to make me understand.
I really appreciate you about it.
But to me, you seems like feel bad or angry like some other person. You also wrote same thing to her.

You said I'm defending women whose eyes on men's money.
I didn't do that. I think I didn't defend someone whose eyes on other person's money.
So, I'm feeling like something I didn't do, but I got blaming. I don't know why.

I don't know when I said I support sex work.
I just didn't discriminate work. If that's legal work, I have no reason for discriminate their work. Not crime. But work.

Money can't buy women's heart. Money is not everything. I don't discriminate work.
Is this my opinion affecting which society?
What happened in which society?

My opinion is crime? My opinion about sex work is crime?
Indecency actor, porn actress, pornography model etc, spreading their naked, their sex etc, Is that not work? Is that not business?
Is not better than someone who is not their work, but spreading their naked or kind of sexuality pictures or videos?

If I will support sex work or sex worker, yes, I will support them instead of support someone who spreading their kind of sexuality pictures or videos shamelessly but that's not their work.

iamadonis22:


You’ve learned Naija lingo

I know meaning Naija! Naija is Nigeria!!
And I checked about meaning lingo. Something like word?

Yes, Oga iamadonis22, I learned!

I hope your kitten is eating well now.

iamadonis22:
You all will be fine, eventually.

Yes!! Thank you so much!
My husband is a super man!! No matter how much I got confusing, he always can fix everything! My Oga is a super man!

MNDY:
So, you cannot condemn sex worker? That is why even in normal relationship, the girl is doing like a s.ex worker too. Collecting money because of the sex she is having with her guy even if she enjoyed it too.

I am not talking about legal or illegal work. S.ex work is not a proper work. Is it a proper work to you? It is because people like you cannot join your voices to condemn it that it has entered inside normal relationships too.

If you don't see it as your responsibility to condemn something bad because you are living your own life, when the effects starts affecting the society at large, you will be affected too.

I love how she did not follow the money of those guys that returned. We are just saying you women should join voices to condemn the wrong things done by your own gender.

Let more women be like her by speaking out against women putting their eyes on men's money which is very common and caused the men to return. Instead, women will say men are not condemning the wrong things done by their own fellow men too. As if it is a competition.

I was talking about legal and illegal sex worker. I didn't talking about someone who is collecting money after sex in relationship.
When did I support women who collecting money after sex in relationship?

To me, sex work is not proper work. I can't do that. Very very difficult work. Very very hard work. I can't imagine having sex with many many men because for money.
But I can't do, doesn't mean I can look down on them or their work. If that's legal sex work, I have nothing to say for them.
Because work is work.

If someone who think like only IT work, office work etc is good work or proper work, but look down on like cleaner work, factory work etc, maybe can't understand what I'm trying to say.
Work is work. They are working and they are making money for life.

Illegal sex work is different. Someone who collecting money after sex in relationship is different. Teenager looking for older men for money is different.
I was and I'm talking about legal sex worker.

I maybe can condemn about something wrong. But something wrong to me is not always something wrong to other peoples. And after condemn them, what is next? Just condemn them is maybe not difficult. But what is next? If I could stop them working there and they lost work, what is next? I should feed them till they can get another work?
I don't think I can do it. And that's very irresponsible act.

If I had to condemn them, I will condemn both men and women.
Because there is supply and demand. Not only supply or not only demand.

I can exchange opinion with them if they want. I can discussion with them if they want.
But I don't think condemn or blame them is good act.

I told you about one of my friend who is thinking about men are only for money and sex.
Around me, this kind of woman is very very few. Because most of my friends are hard working peoples.

I don't know why you are seems like angry with me?
When did I support or praise women who eyes on men's money?
Did I make you feel bad or angry?

If I made you feel bad, I'm sorry.

iamadonis22:
That must have been a touching experience.

I hope you found the peace you needed.

I'm a very very confusing person

Yesss!! Thank you so much!!
Many peoples helped me a lot! I still really really appreciate them!!
I have peace of mind now. And I hope my husband have peace of mind too!
My confusing is really problem. I wanna make him peace of mind. But sometimes I can't. I'm a bad and mad wife

iamadonis22:
I thought wrongly. If I had to guess another Nationality using Nairaland I’d say a French-speaking African. I would hardly guess a Japanese.

How did you discover Nairaland?

Oh! Ok!
Thank you so much for answer my question! I appreciate you!!
I can only speak Japanese.
How do I say it? Japanese speaking Japanese? Japanese speaking Asian?

When I was very confusing about my marriage, I needed help. I thought if I could know and I could understand more about Nigeria and Nigerian peoples, I can understand my husband more.
And I wanted to know about marriage in Nigeria.
I searched about Nigeria on internet. Then I found out this website!

iamadonis22:
We met on the other topic. You are from Japan?

Goodness, me, I thought you were French!

Yes! I'm from Japan

Oh! Really?
Please I wanna know, why you thought I'm a French person?
This is very interesting to me!

MNDY:
Women having sex for money should have a job and be working to make money instead of that. The responsibility is on you women to condemn such thing for it to be more effective. Unfortunately, it is not so because majority are doing it.

I give you an example: You must have heard in the news how fellow guys ganged up and condemn cross-dressing by guys by beating up crossdressers. Guys condemn it online with comments very well too.

The very few different type of women who are supposed to condemn the wrong things done by women don't do it. They think the men condemning it just hate or discriminate women.

Those men would not have returned to the OP to try and impress her with money if she was working or if the mentality of Nigerian women was different to work and spend their own money and not to put eyes on a man's money or sleep around for money.
CONDEMN WRONG THINGS DONE BY YOUR GENDER. JOIN YOUR VOICE.

Why I should condemn sex worker?
Maybe not good work. But they chose that work.
If she has sex for money illegally, I maybe can condemn her.
But if that is legally, that's none of my business. That's their life and their work. At least they are making own money for their life.

I have responsibilty for condemn some Nigerian women?!
Why? And for What? Because I'm a woman too?

Please which news?
My country? or Nigeria?

If I'm not misunderstood about what she wrote on here, she doesn't eyes on men's money.
She doesn't follow men for money. That's why I like it.

And I still can't really understand that why some peoples seems like angry.
Because she doesn't follow their money? If she follow them because of their money, peoples are happy about that?

But if I'm not misunderstood, seems like some peoples are not happy about how women are rely on men's money or like you said women are eyes on men's money.

I'm really really confusing and I still can't understand.

womenareapess:
konnichiwa gozaimasu!

I have been following your diary quite some time, and I must say your diary really bring out that beauty of cultural diversity. For your writing skills, that it has improved drastically.

Do hope you update your dairy more.


Note: do heard about how Japanese are racist against black people. (Maybe you can clarify this speculation in your diary)

Konnichiwa!!

Thank you so much for reading my diary!
I'm so glad! I appreciate you!!

If I could make many peoples to have interesting about my country and peoples or if I could make many peoples to like my country and peoples, I'm so happy!!

I really hope my English skill is improving!
I appreciate your words!! I will keep trying.

Yes!! I will continue to write my diary.
I wanna write many many things!

Sometimes I saw peoples talking about Japan is racist country and Japanese are racist peoples etc.
I can't deny it. Because I can't say all Japanese are not racist.
But I think I can say some Japanese are racist, doesn't mean all Japanese are racist.

I think this is very delicate? sensitive? topics.
I don't know if I can explain well in English. But I will try it!

One thing I want you to know that someone who don't like foreigners is not because of skin color.
They don't like foreigners especially no manner foreigners.

I will try to write about that.

Anyway, Thank you so much for writing Japanese to me!
I really appreciate you!!