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modsfucker:
Corrupt minds... Tell us more

Honestly...
kai, Some ppl on this forum erhnnn
Well, good tin is dey didn't go for any surgery just to become "A LEKPA"

biomustry:
no matter what the president does, they will make noise, he was dead now his speech is short, he just resumed for god's sake, good thing he ignores them
no man can be perfect

Exactly.

akanbiaa:
Whether there is sign or no sign, whether you expose yourself or not just make sure you go for blood screening its mostly free, I go for test almost every 6 months as a tradition, even though am negative the result boost ones confidence the more, last week I also did hepatitis test it was also negative, they said it can be contacted even thru non sexual means and kills more than AIDS.

Thank you. #educating

Lastking147:
I admire that picture of him in military outfit
Hes handsome

HE TRULY WAS AND STIL IS..
#Youngevenathisage

Davidgrey:
[color=#000050]I'm a perfectionist(not the narcissistic kind) but i try to be open-minded most times and it's mentally demanding

Personally i would advice anyone dealing with a perfectionist to not take his/her outrageous personality personal

Always communicate your feelings, stand your ground

As much as i love having things my way, I still listen and show empathy. [/color]

Thank you... I have lived with a perfectionist and my experience can't be typed. the good thing is i am glad i was able to speak out when i had the opportunity to.

LordKO:
Mind games is for small-mined people. What if she took in and after you paid her pride price she has miscarriage? Personally, if I cannot place absolute confidence in you then, I have no reason having you as a wife.

I have no reason to marry someone I don't love. The word love is meaningless on its own without its constituents: fancy, honesty, respect, faithfulness etc. So, before I say I love you, I must have found you worthy of these attributes and as such I can stand firmly for you in all conditions, either for good or bad.

GOD BLESS YOU ABUNDANTLY....

OBku4:
I'm sure this freeze man didn't get to read the reason for d ban before commenting.
I applaud the step taken by redeem church.

the ban was not for people wearing aso ebi to church, but for group wearing... to stop compulsory sewing/buying of uniform aso ebi's

I'll say, its bloggers I blame... who try to twist things so as to get traffic

THANK YOU FOR THIS.
I AM SURE HE DIDN'T GET THE ACTUAL MSG. On the other hand, i strongly agree with what she said. This aso ebi thing has separated some friends. If e too cost (even 1,000 naira is too much for some ppl) and i no buy i don turn ur enemy and somtyms some ppl even borrow money from other ppl just to buy and get it sewn so as to meet up. I am a supporter of pick a color and let everyone wear what he or has. it's just for the wedding, what we should focus more on is the marriage after the wedding. May God help us all.
#whoamitojudge

Nma27:
You are already married. Halting your white wedding means nothing. Take charge like a man! She shout at you, you give her one resounding slap unless she's d breadwinner... Look before una leap

SLAP
Uhmmm, my dear brother is this ur own opinion? Well, like it is said, we are all entitled to our own opinion and our character is made by many acts; it may be lost by just a single act. If you ask me, i would say True fulfillment comes when we impact humanity. DO YOU SEEK PEACE OR YOU SEEK WAR??
What impact do you make?
I'M SORRY NO OFFENSE

PaperLace:
Dear OP,

Whether you cancel the white wedding or not _ you're already married. Marriage isn't relationship where you can waltz in and out as you like. It's an oath, binding on both parties.

Be careful how you bring your issues to the public, considering that your mind is currently fragile. The general rule, may not apply to your situation. I don't think any responsible married person would tell you to walk away so soon. I have domineering in-laws too, your wife's whole family can never be as rude as my FIL alone _ but you handle such people with wisdom (now that you're already married). If you weren't married, I would have said run.

The early days of most marriages are like this. One person will always see the other as a demon, while painting him/herself as the angel. You are not an angel, I am sure your wife would sound just as bitter as you, if she creates her own thread. What you have to do is win your wife to your side. Once you genuinely win your wife to your side, she would handle her family.

The last post on your wife and SIL, you didn't do well.
If that's your own attitude, then you and your wife need orientation. Why does your wife shout? Is she a mad woman? Has she always been like this? What is she always shouting about?

My husband also doesn't know how to discuss in low tones, he must raise his voice. I used to join him, until I sat and thought about it _two people no dey mad at the same time. He did it again and I ignored, I politely told him he is embarrassing US and we would talk when he is calm. He still repeated it and I used all my self-control to keep ignoring.

One day, he called me and asked why I have been refusing to get angry. I started laughing and we had a talk that changed a lot till this moment. People like that know what they are doing to a good extent, the best medicine for them is to show them how normal people express themselves. Don't come down to their level, don't go begging unnecessarily _ just express yourself firmly.
When you do this over and over, they'll come to revere your silence and few words.

You mould your spouse to be who you want them to be. There is really no perfect spouse at first, but we mould them to our perfection with time.

Captain your ship as best as you can _all with the dignity of a king.

THANK YOU SO SO SO MUCH. YOU JUST ENLIGHTENED ME. May I add by saying, only wisdom can be made applicable. No marriage is a bed of roses....And as far as I am concerned, there's only one captain on a boat. Though it might not be easy, infact it might seem almost impossible to let them have their way but there are other ways to handle certain issues such as:- 1. to speak to them about their actions in the calmest way possible and 2. To seek God's face.
May God grant us his sustainable grace.
Amen....

PaperLace:
Dear OP,

Whether you cancel the white wedding or not _ you're already married. Marriage isn't relationship where you can waltz in and out as you like. It's an oath, binding on both parties.

Be careful how you bring your issues to the public, considering that your mind is currently fragile. The general rule, may not apply to your situation. I don't think any responsible married person would tell you to walk away so soon. I have domineering in-laws too, your wife's whole family can never be as rude as my FIL alone _ but you handle such people with wisdom (now that you're already married). If you weren't married, I would have said run.

The early days of most marriages are like this. One person will always see the other as a demon, while painting him/herself as the angel. You are not an angel, I am sure your wife would sound just as bitter as you, if she creates her own thread. What you have to do is win your wife to your side. Once you genuinely win your wife to your side, she would handle her family.

The last post on your wife and SIL, you didn't do well.
If that's your own attitude, then you and your wife need orientation. Why does your wife shout? Is she a mad woman? Has she always been like this? What is she always shouting about?

My husband also doesn't know how to discuss in low tones, he must raise his voice. I used to join him, until I sat and thought about it _two people no dey mad at the same time. He did it again and I ignored, I politely told him he is embarrassing US and we would talk when he is calm. He still repeated it and I used all my self-control to keep ignoring.

One day, he called me and asked why I have been refusing to get angry. I started laughing and we had a talk that changed a lot till this moment. People like that know what they are doing to a good extent, the best medicine for them is to show them how normal people express themselves. Don't come down to their level, don't go begging unnecessarily _ just express yourself firmly.
When you do this over and over, they'll come to revere your silence and few words.

You mould your spouse to be who you want them to be. There is really no perfect spouse at first, but we mould them to our perfection with time.

Captain your ship as best as you can _all with the dignity of a king.

THANK YOU SO SO SO MUCH. YOU JUST ENLIGHTENED ME. May I add by saying, only wisdom can be made applicable. No marriage is a bed of roses....And as far as I am concerned, there's only one captain on a boat. Though it might not be easy, infact it might seem almost impossible to let them have their way but there are other ways to handle certain issuesbsuch as:- 1. to speak to them about their actions in the calmest way possible and 2. To seek God's face.
May God grant us his sustainable grace.
Amen....

coolcatty:
Dude... I will talk to u like a brother.... Marriage is a big deal... It's for a lifetime... The fact that u feel like this is a clear cut sign that this marriage was never meant to be..... My people say it's better to have a good in-law than have a good wife..... The fact that your in-laws are this domineering ND insulting is a big red, yellow and purple flag which will definitely affect your marriage in the nearest future....... Who will you report her to in the event that she misbehaves??


Oga you have gone far by doing the court marriage sef.... You have a 2 options.... Marry her and live a permanent life of servitude to her and her domineering people or walk away from this impending disaster called marriage.

The choice is yours.

God bless you so much for writing this. An elder told me this too.
When the "IN-LAWS" to be wants to control your life it becomes a very big issue. I am a female but it's vise versa...
When it comes to the matters of the heart (marriage specifically), there are certain things we need to put into consideration before going any further. Most importantly, we need to make wisdom applicable. Well, may God help us not to make the wrong choices.
Amen

JONNYSPUTE:
Marriage is never a competition Nd besides who told u that if u marry early let's say 25 or 30 that its a guarantee that u will ve babies so early? I know of a guy that got married earlier than his elder brother because he said he wants his kids to be all grown by the time he gets to 50, he is about 48 now no issue. The elder bros that married 4yrs after,is now 52 with grown boys Nd girls. Also even if u starts having issue immediately,is it a guarantee that they will grow to become successful people in life? Just pray to ur God to always lead u in everything u do,so pls don't try to compete with anybody in life especially in marriage.Also marrying at 35 should not be ur worry,u should ask urself if u re ready,mentally,emotionally spiritual Nd even financially.

I LOVE YOU FOR WRITING THESE. No matter the pressure, u need to be ready mentally, spiritually, emotionally etc. those who pressurize you won't be the ones to live with you and your spouse. No age is too late. Just like in education, i know someone whom her parents made her jump either two or three classes just to be in secondary schl. She graduated from secondary schl at age 13 but struggled to secure admission into the higer institution. Unfortunately for her, she dint get into schl till after 6years. Who knows! Maybe God was protecting her from something. Long story short, We all have our time and God's time is the best. We only need God's guidance.

Mine is LEAN ON ME
"SOME TIMES IN OUR LIVES WE ALL HAVE PAIN WE ALL HAVE SORROWS BUT IF WE ARE WISE WE KNOW THERE'S ALWAYS TOMORROW" lean on me
the lyrics makes me strong and never to give up

Thank God and thank you for posting this.
I registered on the15th of June, 2017,
I got a 2016 reference number and I'm yet to receive any text nor email. Please, I want to know if having this reference number is still the same as the 2017 reference number and I also want to know why i am yet to receive any SMS nor email.

Reference Number is:- N-Tax 2016-000002192-97

God Bless...