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Donald3d:


I am about to go very raw, kindly permit me, I haven't gone this raw here before, but you need help, so here it is.
I hope this doesn't change people's perspectives about me sha , we Nigerians like been mute about sex. Its an important ingredient in marriage, no matter how spiritual you are.

The best way to solve any problem is identifying the source or root of the problem and eliminate it .

From what you have said, she enjoys pre-intimacy , I would have loved to ask what type of pre-initmacy to help find a solution, but I also understand she is your wife and you can't be too explicit because this is a public forum.

Anyway, as I said earlier, let's tackle the source of the problem, which is FEAR, she is afraid, very afraid, so we need to eliminate the fear.

She is also pressured because you are "reporting" her to people, keep this between both of you Sir, please stop involving other people, fear and pressure is a very dangerous combination.

Please don't give her any sedatives, you really don't need it.

The issue with her fear is closely related to why lubricant aren't even working, the internal muscles of her privates would contract making it tighter because she is afraid, her natural lubrication won't also be discharged because her fear is making her mind "switch" it off, coupled with the fact that you are also scared of inflicting injuries on her privates.

There are two possible ways to eliminate her fear

1.Trying to convince her not to be afraid (easier said than done)
2. Introducing something that would involuntarily eliminate her fear.

I assume you have tried number 1, let's go to number two.
There are a few things that are greater than fear, but we would be sticking to the subject matter.
In this context and with the peculiarity of the situation, there is only one thing I believe can exceed that fear ...... Pleasure , Excessive Pleasure, when a human experiences excessive pleasure, the body releases pain killers and anti-stress chemicals.

So what should you do ?
You need a non-invasive pleasure mechanism, proven and tested , the most painless sexual activity. Guaranteed to give utmost pleasure .
You guessed it , O r a l Sex.

Its isn't just about putting your mouth there , you need to do it right (forgive me as I am about to go a bit raw).

You know your wife more than anyone, you know what turns her on, her pleasure spots. Use your mouth very well on those spots.
You need to understand that there is a mission here. O r g a s m
But there are some "hot spots" common among most women

1. The nipples
2.The clitoris

I would focus on number 2 ..
1.Make sure the bed is well made, clean sheets, turn on the AC , if you don't have one, turn on the fan and leave it running to cool the room. Make sure no one else except the both of you is in your home, she needs to be comfortable.

2.Ensure you both have a warm bath and wash each others privates before you commence.You wash hers, she washes yours.Try and start up a conversation about some funny experiences you've both had, how you met each other and fell in love , how much you love her, all while washing each others privates. You are psychologically manipulating/distracting her with this.When you are done, dry each others body and carry her to the bed.Careful, so you don't slip and fall oo, you can leave that part out, but women love it !. You can back her like a baby or carry her in your arms, whichever you are ok with. Make sure she is unclad, but put on a boxers short, this eliminates her fears of seeing an erect instrument.

3.Its important you place a pillow under her waist to elevate her lower region, it allows for easy access with your mouth and with your instrument, when its time for insertion. It also ensures you don't feel neck pain and can breathe well during the process.

4.Use your mouth on the clitoris till she "explodes", don't stop no matter how long it takes, but you have to be careful not to be too hard on it as you would get the opposite of the desired effect, you would give her pain instead of pleasure. You need to be gentle and firm(I know this sounds contradictory, I would explain), use your lips as they are soft tissue, that won't cause much bruising, suck on it, in and out, grab the whole of it (the clitoris--- I have attached an image for easy identification, its that slightly protruding part of her privates that looks like a mini peeeenis) with your lips and gently slide it out of your mouth, without it leaving your mouth completely, make sure your lips holds unto it(this is what stimulate it and gives pleasure), but not too tightly, you can use your tongue as support to put the clitoris in place, if the clitoris is slipping out of your mouth. Keep repeating this back and forth.

5.Now, its important to hold her, so you can feel the "rhythm" of her body, hold her sides, or her laps, start out slowly, but not to slowly, gradually increase your "sucking pace" as you notice the rhythm of her body starts to change . This method ensures you don't bruise her and you also don't get tired easily.It also ensures a natural flow and gradual increase in pleasure.It would get to a point you might have to go really fast, this clouds her brain with pleasure, do this only when the rhythm of her body tells you to do so, when she starts to slightly wriggle or when she asks you to increase your pace.

6. Do this till she "explodes", and wriggles in pleasure, most likely at this point you are also erect, its important you take advantage of this moment, because at this point, you have killed three birds with one stone. She is too climaxed to notice her fear, her body has released enough chemicals to considerably reduce pain and she is properly lubricated for relatively easy insertion.Don't waste time !!!. Slowly (not too slowly), insert, before she comes back to reality . Make sure the pillow is still under her it ensures her lower region is elevated, so you can see clearly for insertion , I assume from the beginning she is already lying flat on her back, spread her legs out gently, this also relaxes/expands the cavity of her privates.If you still find it a bit difficult to penetrate, manually use both hands to spread the outer privates open for easy access, glide in back and forth as you both copulate to produce a wonderful seed that would bear fruit in 9 months.

7. You might need to do this more than once to be successful at it .
8.The fact that you did all this doesn't mean she might not feel pain, it just reduces the pain, it also might totally eliminate it.
9.Once you start have it in mind that you must see it through till the end.
10.If she is in excessive pain, stop and repeat the same day or another day till you get it done.


NOTE: Please stop reporting her to people, apart from the fear she is feeling, reporting her or telling other people about it, is putting her under additional pressure and stress, its adding to her Psychological lock-down. Please don't be upset with her. Buy her gifts, make her feel loved, make her understand you aren't judging her or upset with her. I am sure this steps would work for you

NB: I am married by the way, in case anyone was wondering.

sameereinstein:
Tell them how u love seeking for knowledge and teaching is the best way to do so because while teaching, you also learn. You can also add how much you love helping people and teaching is another way too by providing quality and comprehensive answers

Parisleo:
eye a....it seems that even those that were not shortlisted were allowed to write the exam....its well Sha....I pray this screening should not be for just for formalities purpose

jeftallion:
It seems we are in the same category.....kindly chat me up on whatsapp at 08023300161

pumpy007:
We dey same shoe

WhiteLavender:
there are no criteria to meet.
but to be on the safe side, you need people of good standing in the society (business owners, religious leaders etc. who can vouch for your moral character or professional competence) hence the letter headed reference letter.
Then if you have a VIP in your corner, it wouldn't hurt to use him/her.

Parisleo:
what do u need a reference letter for now...that stage don pass now.....or did anyone requested you bring it...except Sha for oral interview, then it will be needed by that time

jeftallion:
you have not submitted the ten photocopies right?

Millerules:
I believe the person above you was talking about the application print out.
As for who to address the letter to, see the attached picture. Of course the letter should be signed by your referee.

olalekan9320:
Typed

Peezzy:
are there any criteria for the referees?

ardeysholah:
If you can make all the necessary documents available, the test worth it. A friend of mine didn't submit all the 10 photocopies but he was invited for the screening examination. Simply because , he registered online. Best of luck to everyone of us

Bosedetoyin23:
The message sent through uch was it through Gmail or sms?.

Everrest9:
Finally I received the text message.... 28th of this month. I can't even remember what I applied for.

Miraclemonday11:
Pls how true is this.i just saw it yesterday in my email

nanauju:
These Ghanaians are funny people. Anytime they want to get attention they start looking for Nigeria


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Futuragetty:
Email address?

nuradeen011:
its general now, all aptitude test usually covers ENGLISH MATHS AND CURRENT AFFAIRS

oyeezah:
exam notification and copies of ur ID

Crazeworld:
It is real. Next time, blur out confidential information before posting online

madenigga:
let them sack them all. they have to decide either to renounce one amd accept the other or u loose the seat.

You cant be a citizen of another country while you rule us, then after you steal all our money and frustrate the future of Nigeria youths who have no other place to go, you run back to your other country why we continue to suffer here.

Nigerians are suffering, youths have taken to all manner of vices just to survive this harsh country, and people who are foreigners who don't have much to loose want to rule us.

We all die here together

Officialgarri:
Damn. Our politicians are so daring.

So you mean it is unconstitutional to own dual citizenship as a lawmaker, yet these guys didn't stop at being floor members, they had the guts to be house leaders.

And they would still buy their way out using the court that ought to uphold the law.

This is craziness and impunity.

Naughtysite:
If you ask Atiku and Peter Obi, they will tell you what Nigeria needs.

They are business men and politicians though NOT akara politicians who only know how to Share govt loot.

Use their Twitter and Instagram handles to reach them.

I don't argue.