southniyikaye:
they just want to get the youths off the street..
This is another FG strategy to discontinue the Endsars endswat thingy...
They can't use force cos the whole world is watching

My thoughts also.

I'm so grateful for the words of encouragement and the lash also.
I spoke to my dad,Yes I did.it wasn't easy but it was worth it..I understood his fears and worries.
I assured him that I wasn't going to do anything that would tarnish his image,I only wanted in my own little way assist the family and also develop my self.
We came to an agreement and time will be the judge on how things will become.
I just started a POS point and also displaying my pastries in front.the feeling is amazing and I'm grateful for the opportunity.
Happy birthday to me...

RonaldoVido:


They are killing your future.

My advice is to post as many job applications as possible. like 100.

One day, next year, even 2 years time, one must click.

Recruiters keep CVs for up to 5 years. Anytime parents call you and you are handling a business, complete it b4 going home.

Thank you for this.... Gracias

DIVINEEVIDENCE:


You have a problem, and it's that of comparison.
You're most likely comparing yourself with friends in relationships, marriages and so on.

You're trying to paint your parents gray but I don't get the picture.
Come to think of it, they were allowing a man to come visit you at home until they decided they'd had enough.

If they were as uptight as you're making them look, they wouldn't have let him in at all in the first place.

And your referring to your dad as 'landlord' speaks volumes of your relationship with your parents.
You seriously need to work on that.

You are a self-confessed introvert, and that's the reason for your lack of friends. Not your parents 'overbearing' attitude.

I see a picture of morally upright parents who don't want their labour of child-training to vanish all of a sudden and a daughter who desperately wants to go out there, get noticed, mingle and taste the other side of life.

You were in the University up till graduation.
Were your parents interrupting your lectures and other academic activities with calls?
They trusted to take care of yourself, you did and now you're a graduate.

I understand it's not comfortable staying at home beyond graduation but my dear, understand that life happens to us all individually.
If your parents won't let you leave the house then reach a compromise with them on how to take care of your needs.

Look for a stable employment if you need one, where they can easily pinpoint your location or you could ask them to get you a job with their own connection and influence.
Not something as volatile as marketing where calls can interrupt prospective deals.

You could take a pump attendant job in a fuel station for example, if the issue is merely the money to buy toiletries and some other little girls' things.

Also, your folks must have monitored your emotional responses before they started acting up.
I know husbands don't just fall from heaven but understand that whatever is yours has a way of coming back to you.

People meet in the oddest and weirdest of places, without prior planning, and it just clicks. So keep your mind open.

Let the lockdown days be over, then you can proceed with your NYSC.
Until then, build a healthy relationship with your folks, and stop all the resentment.

If you go out with this hotheadedness, you'll simply 'fall in love' with the first available guy, and the next thing is a string of sexual encounters.

Only when the cloud has lifted would you realise that what you couldn't see standing on the mountain, your folks saw it lying down.

It's good you don't walk into marriage with a 'dark past'.
That's what most of these people egging you on are currently burdened with. And knowing they cannot turn back the hands of time to reorder their mistakes, would gleefully push others into the same pit to make their own lives look normal and obtain some reprieve for their conscience.

Good luck.

With all your ranting, you said something useful.I can't take a pump attendant Job because I have issues with my "eyes"

Mayhem999:


Read her story gradually n follow her replies. The girl Need freedom. Even the Question ur'e asking make Sense to u? She is not Providing Anything For Them. This na very Stupid Thread na. She want to Work she Mant to get Married she Just Messing Wif Heads Here.

If you see it that way, who am I to argue with you??
You're entitled to your opinion.
Please if you see a job anywhere, you're free to send a "PM"

Now I see that comprehension is an issue to some people but what's my own??
Please for the records, the marriage thing was just an instance.
I'm not eager to get married.
I want to work and earn something, no matter how little it is.
My point is if I didn't bring shame to you after spending 6years in the University, what's the issue now?
I'm not looking for a relationship or a husband,please and please that's the least of my problem.
BTW I call my dad landlord because that's what he is,he has the final say. He's the Lord of everyone as he says( I'm not going to bore you with details).
The young man is a Neighbor that lives with his family in my location, so I don't see any issue with him dropping by once in awhile to say hello.

Make I write am for pidgin, Marriage or relationship no be my problem.
Nah work I want so I go fit earn something come takia of myself abi you want make I turn to instagram slay queen? Shey Una go dey watch my videos.
Ndi deputy Jesus wey know say nah man I want go find..... I no follow for school, nah house I want come start my trade.
This shows how shallow most of you are.
If at 25, you have a problem with me deciding to do something with my life while waiting for the "so called service " then you need serious psychological evaluation.

Please do you have a job for me? If yes, send a contact address or leave me alone.
Do you know how embarrassing it is to ask for money for pad, or for undies or bra?
At 25 ,if you think I don't deserve to work and earn money, then you deserve this present government and everything it stands for.

Your words of encouragement gave me a boost because I have bottled up for so long .
Thank you !!!!!!!


BTW, to that individual saying whatever,I'm certain at my age you were beyond redemption that's why you feel I want to take your path. I'm not like you, I have values and getting a husband as you have been hammering on that particular line is the least of my problems(not everyone sees marriage as a do or die affair)
I'll send you my details to credit my account every month till I go for service so I can take care of my needs.
Thank you and please stop being bitter.

punisha:




U can lick her ass for all I care... If she gives u good.
If u can't see where her problem is how to meet man and get married then u are one of Nigerians major problem.

She wants to be free like a bird.
Her parents ain't useless, they take care of her needs. Angry that a grown up (man) was stopped from visiting her.

Her parents deserve a medal. This one is a problem child.

This is the last time I'm going to quote you. I don't see where I said I was looking for a husband, hell no that's the least of my problem. I need to have money and afford basic things I need.
It's your problem if you choose not to understand where I'm coming from.
You have problem with comprehension and it's not my fault. I only gave an instance of how things are.

Offpoint:

I don't seem to understand, do you need a job?
And if it's a job you need a job... Will your parents let you, since you said they bombard you with calls when you go out to run your little business?

I need a job even if it's a "sales girl" at a supermarket. I know I can't get a proper job without "NYSC discharge certificate " and they're no jobs anywhere even for those with their Masters .

jamze:
Babe just chill, I don't think you're the only one who is going through this.....go to service first bfr u come out to complaint further. I don't think there's any job out there you can engage in for long bfr embark on service. Unless u plan on serving in Abj.

Well, what do I Know

Thank you.

donPhill:
permit me to say that you are lucky to still have your parents, the ones that still care and have concern for you'...
am sure you must have heard this adage, "what an elder can see sitting down, a child even at rooftop would not see". your parents would never want anything bad come your way, they are being careful and protective. you just need to have heart to heart discussion with them, let them tell you the reason they are doing that and you make them see reasons with you why you are making that decision, going away from them at this moment in my opinion is a bad step to take because no matter how strong you are, when life hits you hard out there, chances are there that you might yield in to the temptations of "mini oloshoism"

I'm not leaving the house,all I'm asking for is an opportunity to do something even if it's a "sales girl".
I'm done with school and nobody gives me money.
I'm certain that you haven't met an African parent that is a "control freak".
Life will always happen whether I'm shielded or not.

punisha:



U pay for the food u eat, water and bill right?
U also paid ur school fees and trained yourself right? I must have missed that out in ur Whinning.
My friend just respect yourself mbok.
U needed advice and it has come...many more u will resent will still come.
Be grateful for the one u have and don't turn ur parents to villains. They deserve to be thanked.
Get ur head straight and stay home for now.
Btw why would any right thinking parent even allow a boy to be coming to visit their daughter in their home when he isn't coming for ur hand in marriage?

OK bye.

Ooh Sir/Ma,
I don't even know how to address you, when I need to get "pad",I'll run to them right?
They paid my fees, feed me and pay the bills and I'm grateful for that. I can't be home all day doing nothing and not earning anything.
How difficult is that for you to understand?
BTW, since I'm locked in the house, husband will fall from heaven?

On the contrary, I'm an introvert.
"Waka dupe " as you said is not my thing. I don't have a social life and I'm not complaining about it.
All I'm saying is allow me look for something doing that'll take care of my needs. Is that too much to ask?

punisha:
Waka dupe...
Wait for ur service year.
People like u think their parents are the worst thing after buhari.

There is time for everything and believe me, u will grateful to them at some point for helping u stay home now and avoid someone many problems u could have run into.

U should consider doing online certs for now that will boost your cv in the nearest future and yes they offer great courses.
How about u channels ur energy into making the man proud who still thinks he spent money on u training u. Let him know it isn't a waste and prove him wrong. I'm sorry he thinks that way of u.
Then u could send ur friend that is banned from coming to the house to step in for u if ur plenty waka is indeed bringing money.

After doing online certs and all, when I need to get toiletries and personal stuff,it will miraculously fall from above right?

punisha:
Waka dupe...
Wait for ur service year.
People like u think their parents are the worst thing after buhari

Only he that wears the shoe,knows how it feels.

I need something to take me out of the house, give me small change to take care of my needs. I'm getting tired of my mum telling me that my mates do so and so for their family and my dad keeps telling me that during his days, they don't send women to school and so I should count myself lucky.
The bone of contention here is that I can't go out, I don't have friends and the only one I had who was a classmate," Landlord" as I always refer to my dad barred him from coming to the house.
BTW, I'll be 25 next month. I'm a graduate awaiting service but the pandemic happened.
I have a mini business I run,but when ever I get a call from a potential client and go out, the next minute, my phone start buzzing with calls either from my mum or my dad.
I have lost so many opportunities because either my phone is ringing constantly and I can't turn it off because it's an offence in my house ,I can't put it on silence because I'll have a lot of explanation to do.
I reside in Abuja and in Kubwa to be precise.

For your peace of mind and sanity please put the wedding on hold or cancel it. I hate nonsense.

She's beautiful.

Hian
I dey craze? If you value what we have, you won't disrespect me and it's vice versa.

My neighbor kids answer : Rapture, Heavenly, Heshmond, Hodiah, Eternity, Shiloh, Abundance, Deliverance. I begin to wonder if parents of this generation are not loosing it already.
SMH