RiloKiley:


Sure it would. Just aim for the underbelly. She'll scurry up to save her life.

Use the pm facility

I also dropped my email earlier

..

I'm sure this will be the last season for one of the series...
tvd

The program is on life support

3 points a good one

Spy360:

Check, that's the lowest in a top club. He could earn more at PSG.

dude/.... duh\google is your friend\
stop misfiring
http://www.totalsportek.com/money/highest-paid-football-managers/

Highest Paid Football Managers In 2016-17 Season
NO# MANAGER TEAM SALARY
1 Pep Guardiola (New) Manchester City £15m (3 year deal set to start in 2016-17 season
2 Jose Mourinho (new) Manchester United £13.8m (3 year deal with option to extend to fourth year)
3 Carlo Ancelotti (new) Bayern Munich £9m (signed a 3 year deal to remain at Bayern till 2019)
4 Arsene Wenger Arsenal £8.30m (signed a 3 year deal in May 2014)
5 Zinedine Zidane Real Madrid £8m (2 and half year deal)
6 Jurgen Klopp Liverpool £7m (3 year deal)
7 Antonio Conte (new) Chelsea £6.5m (3 year deal from 2016-17 season)
8 Luis Enrique FC Barcelona £7m
9 Mauricio Pochettino (new deal) Tottenham £5.5m (signed 5 year extension till 2021 season)
10 Unai Emery (new) PSG £5.65m
11 Ronald Koeman Everton £6m (signed a 3 year deal)

you can also check http://www.telegraph.co.uk/football/2016/09/05/who-are-the-top-10-highest-paid-managers-in-the-world/

domido:

Robbers with jazz oooo. Around agege side. Twas the next day jazz clear for my guy eyes.

praise God

please can you share learnings from this incident so it does not recur again

domido:
He' has been found. tank u for the concern.

What happened

Spy360:


It's a sacrifice to stay in a top club having in which you received no transfer funds but rather or even worse have to sell your best every summer.

The likes of Jose, Pep, Carlo, LVG, Conte and most top managers wouldn't do it- not when they could get offers else where.

Do you know why Conte left Juve?

Answer: not enough transfer funds.

Hell even Steve Bruce left Hull City- a small club due to no transfers.

Guy you wicked o!

Staying in a top club earning eight million pounds is no fun

Wow...what a story... caveatemptor

You are paying it forward

Let's wait for thorpido lead on this matter

What I will add is that interest is cooling on this matter

She need to hit the iron while it is hot and use this goodwill to better herself

sunvick:
May God bless all those who have supported her and those yet to support.

Amen

raumdeuter:


That is my own opinion too. You are ready to commit suicide but are not ready to follow your mom to shop?, Not to go carry concrete or dig ground like some women have to do?

If she follow through with Her previous parole of suzi16, she fit get some people that would pay for sexx with a pregnant woman sha

Lol

That one na top up dem dey call am

phulxpression:
Heaven sef no b for lazy pple o ,u must have strength to shout hallelujah consistently without ceasin
Our God doesn't condol laziness

missjo:

Stating the obvious, how can I be the only one who sees those lines for what they come off as even if from a good place?

Pampering and indifferencehas enabled a series of bad decisions which we see now

That pattern of potential bad decision seems to still be playing itself with a reluctance to reconcile with her mom n work

However it's still an opinion and we are entitled to each of ours

We will log out n move on with her lives
The question is will she be better off

Smh

Did he give you any reason why he is leaving

Did anyone of the ex tell you why they left
you
Or has any of your own girlfriends told you about your character or poise or anything

LORDI:
Having graduated about 5 years ago, I am already making plans to settle down probably next year or two, but the issue is my girl friend.

My girl friend has a problem of depression, am sure hers is way above the normal level of depression(if depression has levels).

Her dad has been having health issues lately, all she does is stay indoors and get drunk, wishing she was never given birth to, lamenting how her dad has been punishing them (by punishment she meant not being able to provide),it has been her mom that have been helping them.

Though according to stories from her and her sisters, her dad is very lazy.. When he has money, he rather party outside till he spends it all, before coming home.

Gf currently has ulcer.. Because she starved herself for days when her ex broke up with her.

According to her parents she has attmped committing suicide before, she was stopped.
I found a book in her bag, where she wrote how she would die and leave this miserable earth,.. Seriously I thought this only happens in the movies until I met her.

After from this depression part, she is a nice girl, a girl I would love to settle down with ,she has sacrificed alot for me.

I don't know what should do... Am confused.

Pardon my typo error, am in a hurry, I have work this morning.
Pls your advice is appreciated.

So what is exactly positive about this lady

She hates her fada
She does not want to work
She is suicidal
Has bouts of Anorexia
An alcoholic

katchycouture:



Adoption shldnt even be an option, have you heard of the light at the end of the turnel?? because she is going tru a tough time she shld labour for nine months, all d pain of childbirth and then give d child out forever?? No no tht is extreme

Your opinion is noted

Well articulated

You should consider writing

sonnie10:


You see, the core of the problem lies in what you have just suggested- man can substitute-, and I will explain. This is exactly what happens in such homes where the man's is salary far less than the woman's. Because the system in US is such that you can work 2-3 different jobs, this men see it as an opportunity to work more just to equal their women in pay. But that is where the trouble starts.

Now consider this; for a couple with two kids of school ages say 6 and 8 years, the law requires that whenever they are home, there must be an adult around. In most cases, it is either the man or the woman, depending on their work schedule.


Ok, let me explain what the daily routine is for most immigrant families who have to work to achieve their American dream, using the RN Wife scenario. Most healthcare jobs have 8hrs shifts (7am- 3pm, 3pm - 11pm and 11pm- 7am), assuming she picks the 7am- 3pm job.

Morning

Here is when it gets tricky. Remember, we are not talking about Nigeria, abroad when they 7am you must be there at 7am (-+ 5 mins). So she gets to work at 7am, and her kids are still at home preparing to go to school at 9am, therefore husband must be there to get them ready. These means that the husband lets go of any $12hr job that has 7am- 3pm shift. He has made a huge sacrifice for the kids and stability of the family. But usually this sacrifice usually goes unnoticed. Remember, he could also have used this time, like his wife to make money, no matter how small.

Afternoon

The kids get back from school at 2:30pm but mom is still at work, however Dad is home to pick them. Once they are home, Dad is stuck with them till mum gets home at say 4:pm. You remember the 3 shift mentioned earlier? Dad is left with only one option 11pm- 7am shift. Considering that it is a night shift, in the morning he must sleep, you can't cheat nature. So, he sleeps once the kids are out to school.

Night

Mom and kids would be sleeping and Dad would be at work.

I have taken the time to explain this in details to make the situation clear. The emerging fact from this explanation is that although the man is not making as much money, his contribution to the stability of the family albeit financially, cannot be quantified. Even when he could do two jobs and match the wife, penny for penny, he put the welfare of the kids first.

Be the judge. Does the wife honestly deserve to keep whatever she is making for her self? When she does, problem starts because those men often remind them of their primary duty, which is taking care of the family. Likewise, the women rebut by asserting that they are the ones in most part, financially responsible for the family, without which they might experience poverty.

Ego sets in and the man then demands that she stops work and face the family while he picks up two jobs. It is neither pride, envy nor power struggle, it is what most have suggested here, "why can't the man do more?" A recipe for disaster, working two jobs to the detriment of family time when the family could do better with one job from both parents. Anyway, in most instances, the wives call them bluff and continues with their job. Also the man makes good with his threat and finds a second job. Their children and home suffer because of this misunderstanding.

As events continue, the man sits back and ask himself, why would I even tolerate all these? Emotions begin to build up and anger turns to rage. Did somoone just ask why can't they do pre and after school programs that let parents drop off their kids outside of school hours? The answer is simple. For someone making $12hr and has 2 kids, it makes no sense because that money he going to make is not enough for those programs.

It seems the adoption option is not palatable to.some of us

Note however it is an option which has its own merits and.demerits like any option or decision in life.

We have to take the consequences of.our actions or inaction if any.

Even the mom we talk about has a finite amount of patience and raising kids who have different fathers is no.mean feat

I wish her the best as I have always said

Cc: tv01, 5minsmadness

Well.done everyone

Welldone

Coldfeet

Contact tehn on nairalandcharity@gmail.com

Your story has to be verified and then looked at in its own merit

baby124:
I agree with pickabeau steps but I also agree with Thorpido's assertion that she can work. She is determined to keep the baby, let us not force her to give it up. If thorpido can be assured of her mother's support and assistance in rehabilitating her, both ideas can effectively work. The good thing is that her mother has a shop business. The kids can be there while she goes for her job training. Also from now till she gives birth she must assist her mother in the shop, for free. Especially that the mother is housing and feeding her and her kid. Or go and learn the skill. Even if she is sick, she must get up like most of us and go out to either make a living or assist the mother. I see heavily pregnant women work as loaf carriers. I don't even want to hear every pregnancy is different please. If you are hungry and on your own in this world, no matter how sick, you will get up and find a job.

No problem..it's also.her choice to.make

May God help her and us

thorpido:
I understand your position.
Can she just go ahead with the process of adoption without the consent of the babyfather?I'm not sure her mother too would like her to give up the child for adoption.

when i get to talk to her on phone,i'll mention it.

Which consent does a man who chased a pregnant woman out

You can't dictate over a woman u chased out

What if she had a major issue due to the traditional medicine homes.she is going to

Is the man ready to.pay for delivery
What if she needs a caesarian


I understand where mummy is coming from
However the best decision at Times is painful

thorpido:
I'm not sure adoption might work here.Even if the man is not responsible now,chances are that he might want his child later.

Nothing like that

No drop child for future acceptance when you feel like it
Who says the woman can cope till then..if you want the child..take it as It comes now or sorry..lose the chance



Without any plan for this lady she will be in a worse position

Even if you pay for beauty school or catering school, she can't go until the new child is old enough which means her life is still on hold for another year at least.


Coupled with the fact that education of these two kids will be coming in ...

As unpalatable as it sounds ..I think this new child should be raised elsewhere

If the father wants the new child
Let him take just after birth

This girl will not lift off at this rate if something drastic is not done

Ok..no problem

Let's hope and see a plan is mapped out

MizMyColi:


It is because of needs like the second that I suggested bank account.

Except it is not a state-wide thing, cost of pre-reg has increased.
Then there is booking day.

I use a GH too.

In the meantime that we are trying to get her right with mom, shebi she will need small money like say 2k to enter transport to the place of antenatal.
And maybe to satisfy some craving as a pregnant woman.

I just figured that Thorpido might not always be chanced to be doing such deliveries.

I like your order of arrangement too.

I'm not sooooo keen on the bank account ish either, for now at least, till people like Onegai and Thorpido confirm that she is ready to handle one...but I just think it a necessity for convenience.

What I am concerned with is mending fences with mom.
If we solve that, just watch how everything else falls into place.

MizmyColi

Second is not bank account in my opinion

First is settle with mom
Second is have child..helping with antenatal is ok here until child comes
Third is empowerment with work
Fourth is now any help preferably in.kind not cash
Fifth is mentoring though I'm not sure as major attitudinal adjustments are required

thorpido:
If she actually changes and shows progress,after she births the baby,she will have to cooperate with me to go on a long term family planning method.She has to be on IUD or implant.

Having two kids to manage is not a mean feat for any mother not to talk of a single parent

Is adoption an option if abortion is not palatable

Yes I get the points

I was asking why you think leaving your wife in naija with kids was better than bringing them over so that she does not go over to the dark side thus living apart?

AreaFada2:


I doubt with the age of some of the men mentioned, if they did not already marry a black or white American lady to secure kpali.

People often know why the chose to marry from home.
One major reason is the future. Lots of men have the desire to return home in the future. The idea is if at least you marry a woman from 9ja, better still from your area of ethnicity, planning to return home together 20 or 30 years later would be easier. Though increasingly, women are becoming less inclined to return home permanently. People also dream that being from same place, the kids can be imparted with some of our traditional culture, language, together more easily. People hold on to 9ja values a lot. Whatever the level of education.

Some of those men also already have a bad experience with discrimination (having arrived in the days of more serious racism) or bad experience with a Yankee lady. A 9ja lady who's supposed to at least know our culture, if she now disappoints the hubby, it becomes double painful.

There's actually much logic behind the step of marrying from home. But fact is when empowered, human behaviour hardly follows logic.
Sometimes, you need to have seen how things happen abroad over a long period of time to really appreciate my point.

Compare Tinubu versus Buhari, OBJ versus GEJ.

As for living apart, won't you prefer your friend alive & well in 9ja than dead in America? It is not ideal, neither is death.

missjo:

Sure, and she has made plenty bad decisions whose consequences she now suffers. Need we add more?

I am not referring to the past

Adoption is also a choice open to her now

AreaFada2:

Perhaps the simple message here is that be careful with the kind of woman you empower. Lots of women will abuse that power. Why they may go to church daily, the bit of the Bible that says " be submissive to your hubby" has no meaning.
[b]The clever thing could be marry her, leave her in 9ja. Impregnate & have the kids in 9ja. Your kids will still get the Yankee Kpali.
That might be the best way to avoid being a murderer./b]

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Why not just marry a lady there already or even use a surrogate

Why suggest deliberately leaving apart from your partner