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Please let us put her latest outburst to pregnancy hormones

Thorpido

Please keep the house posted

princeonx:
Olboy am just tired of the senseless killing. If na the money be issue make him too go back to school! If na compitition for money, make you study something that will make 4 times her income since you always want to be ahead!
Any body that hurt or kill my sister or daughter will not like my action oh cux I will not only kill anybody that has the same last name as him, I will make sure not even grass grow in his father's compound again.

I feel you

Internet is not a priority


Baby food vs Subscription

I know which one is more important

Bruh..

You gats to chill


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princeonx:
I honestly don't understand why some of you guys are justifying the reason or making excuses for somebody to kill another person.
Tha ratio of world population (don't quote me, na so they talk) is 11 to13 women to 1 man. If the situation gets to where you can't fix or deal with it any more, get a divorce and move on. Why will you rot in jail because of a woman? The moment you get in the back seat of the police cruiser your eyes go open and reality will set in and your kids automatically become orphans! Both that money, house, power, name, and respect you killed for will be taken away from you. You will now be known by an inmate number (not ur name anymore), your house will turn to 6ft by 4ft! Wtf?
Imo these are selfish, illitrates, wicked, and lazy men!
I was at a child dedication last Sunday and similar topic came up about respect, nurse, brought you to America, paid tuition and all that, 2 bosses in the house, bla bla bla!! Why is this bs only when the lady is a nurse? There are other fields out there that the women make way more money and they still live in happy homes. To answer that, it's because there are too many da.mn Nigerian/African nurses in the same place at the same da.mn time working crazy hours, gossiping, sharing ideas mostly bad ones and all that!
Guys if you don't have/make enough income pls get a second job if you have to. NEVER EVER share bills with your wife except you're also ready to share the domestic work in the house and that includes doing dishes and laundry, etc (I don't see anything in doing it anyway) but if you're too proud or too african/Nigerian to do dishes, buy disposable plate/spoons.
What pisses me Off the most is that some of these our Rambo brothers were married to Americans, kissed their a$$es, cooked for them, did their laundry, eat to.to during $e* (mmmm lawd have mercy lol) and even help raise kids from their baby daddy but when it come to Nigerian woman they automatically remember they had one useless title back home and can't do certain things! They will now differentiate male and female work in the house which they don't when the check come in!!
And what kind of stu.pid love is that for a 24yrs old girl to follow a 50-60yrs old man all because he live in America? Are you mad? Then after paying your way through school you will remember that he's an old man, doesn't have a good job or just a taxi driver, or security man and all that!

CFCman:
Lol. I'm studying to be a paralegal.
Part of my duties would be researching the law.

Awesome

All d best

agrovick:
Nooooooooooooooooo, that's a life I'm eagerly anticipating. I was only advising our brothers in diaspora

Okay..No problem

agrovick:
Moral lessons

¹ If you brought her from Nigeria, don't send her to nursing school
² Sign a prenup, I don't know how it works in this case
³ Don't get married
⁴ Control your temper

It's unfortunate the women died this way though

Duh
It's not about nursing school

It could as well be a computer school
The point is the earning power of the lady

If she is a liability more load for you

Well..I just saw 3 now
You are one of the anti marriage crew

No bother

CFCman:
It's so sad

Is this recent also

Really sad

How is work as an attorney doing

Billing those clients eh

I suggest you work for trump
Lawsuit money to be made

What's the source of these numbers

Seems high to me considering its a locality

Really sad if true

The nurse syndrome is recycled every year

missjo:
I agree with all you saying,i was just looking at this adoption or abortion thing from another perspective.

I'm an optimist,and I believe people who make an attempt to move do not remain stagnant for very long. So let's say in two or three years from now,she becomes stable financially and psychologically, she would definitely regret giving up her child for adoption or terminating it before it gets to full term.
I hope you understand my perspective now.

Well that is life
Every decision has a consequence

missjo:
She has a family,not a destitute living on the streets. Her case isn't even about money I think,she needs a complete psychological work up.
Giving up her baby for adoption or terminating her pregnancy (can't believe some women even advised her to do this,shocking) , selling her gadget, or changing locations has very little to do with her situation. Lagos is a place with more work opportunities than any other state in Nigeria,THE BEST which people in a position to help can do for her is to provide opportunity no matter how little, that will earn her income.

Financial assistance can also be considered,but only if it is for a business.

Having a child is enough in some cases to suspend one's drive in life

Two is a major challenge

She needs to start over with her mom

The child may be better off ... especially if adopted in a two person home

Steve jobs was raised by adoptive parents

Well done bro

Guidance and rehabilitation is what she needs not money

Is it possible to give that child up for adoption after birth

thorpido:
Update

I've been to her house.I saw a young lady in distress.She's pregnant and ill(just first trimester blues).
She obviously has marital(unmarital actually) issues with the man she's pregnant for now-he's physically abusive too cos she showed me a mark on her body.
She also has issues with her mum.Her mum has been the one taking care of her but seems she's fed up with her and they are not getting along now.
I can confirm she was in SA(couldn't see her passport with the visa because she said she misplaced it) but I saw other documents.She was repatriated.she has a son that was born in SA.

Like some of you here feel,I saw a lady who obviously has a disjointed life.Poor choices and and an inability to put things right in her life.She will need long term counselling like some of you suggested.
However,I can confirm she needs money now.She presently attends an unorthodox
Maternity clinic.
I could get her out of the house because I met some people there who said she just going go with a stranger.Her mum called too while there and said they shouldn't let her out with anyone.I plan to meet with the mum tomorrow.

If anyone wants to see documents I could send pictures to you.
Cc: Onegai,Funjosh,Ifyalways,Jaybee3,Peakabeu1,Mizmycoli,Mindfulness

MizMyColi:
Good morning Pick,

I spoke with her offline o.
My intuition tells me she needs money. But there are still records that need to be put straight.

I don't mind being a mugu but I also don't allow my intelligence to be deliberately played on.

Mothers here who are into more humanitarian services than I might ever be on NL have raised valid questions. I do not fault their weariness and caution. The onus is on her to provide proof they have asked for.

However, I would that if she provides a bank account, let us just contribute something, at least to eat and transport.

If further investigations show she wasn't real after all...
Well, God bless her.

You know sometimes we just help people, not because we are so sure of their story, but because we feel a need to...false or not....because they need it, the money I mean....for whatever purpose and intent.

Well everyone needs money


So the need has to be ascertained

And she should have come out clear
Either way tehn.will only verify before involvement

So what's happening now


I remember the case of the other pregnant lady
She had to come out of her shell

Is this lady really pregnant

Cc


MizMyColi

Lewis is just being paranoid

Just bad luck

Three points

kingvibora:
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U are wrong,ward never killed d dog and he had ordas 4rm john garret to cross off fitz-simmons,bt he saved dem,though in a bad way.dats kul 4 me

Go and watch it.again

Everyone knows he killed.d.dog

How did he save ditz
fitz

Did he put.something for them to save themselves

Fitz got brain damage
firzz

good games so far


Still may be the game with psg to determine group leader

Please put the information here if it's free and meant to benefit us

babyme1:
This will need space and my location currently wouldnt be good for it. Thanks

You can start doing like an internship
Learning the ropes first before you start

More importantly

Fix the money on deposit so you are not.tempted to spend it

Not.for.investment while you make.your mind

have you considered a farm...eg piggery

may reduce frivolous accusations by ladies to innocent men
you my baby daddy

arbitrage:
Let's do N285. Do you have ownership proof of the source of fund please?

please educate me

What does the ownership proof mean and how will it affect someone
Thanks

be content with what you have

you have a foundation .. others don't even have anything to inherit

make your own money

Dyt:
Why do I see pickabea1 shaking his head?

Actually I am

You have a husband.. he is willing
All I see is whining about wedding day

in this economy?

My advise:

Do the traditional
Have a church blessing (you can wear gown)

Kimoni:
No vex Pick...work too mush ni. But really, no issues naa. If there are issues, then it's something else.

Raumtdeur, how do you do?

i feel u... in this economy...hustle must double

no problem

Kimoni:
Which crusade?

Lol

You just replied

..that there are no issues in relationships with earning disparities skewed to the woman

jumissy:
Mom is staying with me while she is visiting. She and dad have told me to stay out of it, but they are doing it in my house. I have not told my stepmom or her children (my siblings here) but of course she found out like most women when your husband starts acting different and she saw shopping receipts. She even mentioned my name, saying that her children and I are disappointed although I have not told them about it. She knows I would be disappointed. It's possible she might think this was what my mom and I planned.

How much further is she staying

if your step mom is awaere now, then i guess the cat is really out of the bag

Enforce the boundaries

For now... dont say anything to your stepmom.. the occasion is too raw.. let it chill

where does mum live..c an you move her out

i feel bad for your step mom who will feel u orchestrated this crap

Well done everyone

Rest in peace and all the best to those you left behind