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coolar:
So 7M naira is making your big eyes bulge out!

Poverty is a disease!

5minsmadness:
Scratch the last part
Was thinking of something else at the time.

5minsmadness:
Wow!
I thot it was video trick till I saw thier gesticulations were matching thier speech!
Chai!

World War 3 is coming.

imas:
OP what is wrong with you, stop painting UBA in bad light here, they have explained to you,the fault is from your customer who knows what he's doing while you don't. the solution to your problem has nothing to do with UBA, you need police or EFCC and a lawyer to solve this and you're shouting UBA, Better act fast before the money is reversed.

hariorh:
Playing physical don't mean racking up the cards like that IMO

follypimpi:
I disagree on that mate! But to each its own

Spy360:
If I were to put up an hypothesis I'd say
1. The training regime, I heard AW puts the boys into short but strict endurance practices such as short sprints.
2. Considering that we have more technical than physical players, engaging mainly physical opponents.
3. Our pattern of play that involves so much twisting and turning, usually aimlessly.
4. North London witches and wizards.

follypimpi:
Very true I really was impressed with the Shad appointment, I really was expecting our injury issues to reduce this season.

follypimpi:
There is no Shawcross in La Liga n Smelly leg breaker

follypimpi:
If only Welbz the guy is FIT, Ozil behind AS TW & Welbz The GUY!

follypimpi:
With a bit of Luck, we will push hard for the EPL!

iPopAlomo:
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I honestly wasn't going to quote you but I just your rubbish needs to stop at some point...

Walcott played against Bayern three times... and we won two of those matches... lost one... considering head-to-head... the team played Bayern six times... lost three... drew one... won two... at this point... your brain should be telling you this means something... but if you're still a bit daft... then there's more...

The first time we played... Bayern Munich... we lost... why... we failed tactically... we had pace... but we never utilise the counter-attack approach... we played the Arsenal way... and of course... Walcott started this match... we lost... 3-1... during the second leg... with a patch up defence... Arsenal sat deep... and we played counter attacking football... with walcott... laying the first goal on a platter for Giroud to tap in... we beat them 2-nil... with Rosicky scoring a third or almost I can't remember... it's been a long time and he he incorrectly ruled offside... that's two matches and Walcott pace pivotal in beating Bayern the second time of asking... now... your brain is telling you to YouTube the match to verify my claims... it's okay... I'll wait...

now that you've seen the preview... I'll go on to analyse the third match Walcott played in...

It's more recent... we won 2-0... with Walcott wasteful... we could could been 3-0 by first half... causing Bayern defence all kinds of problems... Alaba not marauding forward... this time was aware.... whether Walcott was wasteful or not... was a threat...[/s]

follypimpi:
I just want Ramsey back asap, that way too Ozil can get a rest with Cazorla playing the 10 position. AW needs to rotate at all cost, with the injury angel always hovering around Colney, We need a Fit Ozil.

follypimpi:


+ Ozil, Thanks to his crosses

follypimpi:
Well his pace could and would have caused trouble for the Munich defenders. Funny thing is, Kokomaster made similar mistake against Spurs.

Nihilist:
And the consequence of the decision is always apparent BEFORE the decision is made? If you step outside your door today, and a stray bullet comes from nowhere and takes you out, does that imply a character deficiency because you did not allow for stray bullets when considering leaving your house?

A bad decision is only ever recognized in hindsight. Due to our human instinct for self-preservation, we ALWAYS take what appears to the best option based on our feedback mechanisms at that particular time. It is only after gbege happens that we realise 'maybe we shouldn't have done that'

I'm not sure how you've managed to get to this conclusion from my post. All i have done is challenge the fallacious statement that is 'bad decision making is based on character'. That is clearly and patently untrue


The message is very clear and in my opinion a very good piece of advice. The premise however, is very wrong



Are you a meerkat

follypimpi:


We really miss Walcott, We easily could have drawn the game in Munich if he + Koko master were fit.

follypimpi:
Don't mind the He-goat! We just need Ramsey back, Cazorla can play LW to give Alexis a rest.

follypimpi:
and OX is so unpredictable & unreliable, after the Community Shield performance really thought he will cement his place in the starting 11!

follypimpi:


I worry for Alexis, with the hectic December just around the corner.

Nihilist:
In what context?

What is a bad life choice and what were the other options? Who gets to determine what a bad choice is? You? or the Decision maker?

What if the 'bad choice(s)' was actually the best option when faced with a 'bum hand'?

Hastily concluding that a character deficiency is the cause of bad choices in whatever sequence is just not wrong, it is utterly illogical...

follypimpi:
So no Ramsey & OX This weekend + Walcott is 1-2 weeks away from being match fit. I hope Joel is ready, West Brom away is always difficult.

And she’ll have internalised this “romance” as part of her entitlement and the “expectation” of her husband - without the trauma, what trauma? Yes, from you, the hard working, conscientious – and perhaps relatively dull by comparison - guy who just wants to provide as best he can for his family.

Over time she gets disgruntled, resentment sets in. You are spending a lot of time managing, petting, appeasing, or simply dealing with the wider fallout of her damaged behaviour. Time and energy best spent establishing your home and forging ahead

TV01:
Run young man run - Part III
Some signs too look out for;
• Secretive
• Hardened demeanour (cold persona, shifty eyes)
• Unabashed, unblushing shamelessness
• No respect or recourse to their own parents or wider family.
• Unexplicable gaps in personal history - gray areas she doesn't like to explore
• Unduly immodest, uses flirtation as a tool
• Expensive tastes, usually not commensurate with earning or earning history
• No real friends, at least of high repute, people close may be weak ones she’s using or cover.
• Tries to force the situation (towards marriage) – although that’s most desperate women !
• Talks about scams with no real sense of unease – maybe even respectfully
• Reviles people a lot and is always quick to expose secrets or highlight others shady pasts, flaws
• Victim mentality when challenged about behaviours or past
• Will be overly felicitous to your family/circle beforehand, then cut them off afterwards
• Credit is bad, credit history is poor, maybe debt laden (other than student debt, mortgage etc.)
• May try and hide in church, but will know the form, not the real essence – no real depth!
• Will also gravitate towards the “power or influence” in church” – will class herself.
• Even if she works in church, will not really serve – part of making herself high-profile
TV

TV01:
Run young man run - Part I
A lot of damage can happen to women – and be embedded when they are young (and sometimes not so young ) and have unfettered freedom. They may well read this as liberty to do as they please. And, I’m not actually out to question that right in this piece
However, where that liberty is availed of by women of with a partially formed, or simply bad character, to make poor choices, or engage in destructive behaviour, I would candidly advise men to avoid choosing such women as spouses.
A young woman may undergo trauma in a number of ways; daddy issues, runs, sugary, being pumped and dumped, used, sexually or physically abused, or defrauded.
In some instances, she will actually believe she’s having a good time, or even “in love”, but in truth, she is damaging herself and being damaged, and as a consequence she will acquire baggage. This she will undoubtedly carry into future relationships. And it will in no way diminish the entitlement she feels to a “high-value” husband.
And then she meets you, and figures she can actualise her desires. She knows to be economical with the truth about her past, adopt a revisionist view of her personal history, re-direct blame for anything that’s evident, and paint a picture of herself as someone you are actually lucky to be with.
She’ll know how to describe her poor choices and waywardness as her being “naïve”, or her destructive behaviour as her being wrongly influenced – by friends, or a man. She’ll play a whole pack of victim cards. Yes, she’ll talk of “healing”, but it’s spin. She is damaged goods.
Dude, you are not buying. You don’t even visit that section of the market. It’s simply too big a risk! It’s too big a risk because if you do, here are some of the things that will possibly happen;
She’ll have romanticised the actual trauma she experienced – she’ll remember the trans-atlantic flights, the swish hotels, the shopping sprees, the meals at fancy restaurants, the happening clubs, and of course the hot sessions. She’ll remember the tingles she used to get from being rebellious, a transgressor and hanging with bad boys.
And she’ll have internalised this “romance” as part of her entitlement and the “expectation” of her husband - without the trauma, what trauma? Yes, from you, the hard working, conscientious – and perhaps relatively dull by comparison - guy who just wants to provide as best he can for his family.
Over time she gets disgruntled, resentment sets in. You are spending a lot of time managing, petting, appeasing, or simply dealing with the wider fallout of her damaged behaviour. Time and energy best spent establishing your home and forging ahead.
It is regressive and costly, you’ll find it tiresome and tedious, a real stressor. The peace every man wants in his home seems far from you. She’s bitter antagonistic, wilfully caustic and spiteful. A right nag.
She’ll consider you not giving in to, or prioritising her desires as maltreatment. But since that word no longer exists, it’s simply the wide-ranging term “abuse”. Her longings and revisionist memories will mean she may never consider anything you do good enough.
Her “tingle-memory” will mean she may never consider you to be the man she truly deserves or desires. It spirals – downwards! She gets more resentful and disgruntled – especially if there are any other pressures on the home, or outside interest in her – she ain’t loyal!
Obviously you are to blame, it’s always the man right? You are not ambitious enough, caring enough, or romantic enough. You don’t fulfil her needs. You are not worthy of your “headship”, you are not “leading” right – after all, she decides that right? She’ll be prone to second-guessing you, undermining you, even disrespecting you. She will meet any challenge to her behaviour out of that same poorly formed, damaged character.
Then, her pack of cards comes out – she’s a victim, it’s your fault. That is, you cheated her, you abuse her – yep, she’s in a “shitty marriage”! She deserves a divorce. And with the campaign to moralise divorce, especially, if you’re in a Western country, she will most likely get one. Even if she doesn’t, she will make your life difficult, if not outright hell.
If you are really unlucky, she’ll use the power of the courts and police to humiliate you, keep you from your children, and possibly label you a paedophile. You’ll likely be labelled a domestic abuser as a matter of course. Many women use the threat of and/or intermittent police action to keep their husbands subdued. Many men cower in their own homes, subject to the capriciousness of a damaged woman who was never wife-grade in the first instance.
I repeat – stay away from damaged goods. You are a man of character. Hopefully God-fearing, hardworking and willing to sacrifice to build a happy and solid family. Don’t cast your pearls before swine. Choose a spouse that is worthy.
You are a man, think strategically, consider your family bloodlines, kinship ties, think of your generations. It’s not just about you, that is why you have to be really considered about her. Be a man of worth and set your expectations high
All the best as you navigate your way towards marriage, make excellent matches and establish your homes.
TV
^{…don’t forget, it’s always a buyers market}

TV01:
Run young man run - Part II
I’d also like men to be keenly aware of how individual females and also “the herd mentality of women” will work together to blind men to these very pertinent facts.
Be aware of efforts to white-wash the past, resist slut-shaming, campaign for divorce, sell single-motherhood or divorce as of no consequence (or outright good), Be aware of advice that sells immorality, or justifies any action based on “feelings”.
The notion or claim of “love” is often used as a justification for any action, or excuse for any wrong-doing. It’s literally been endued with a moral righteousness in and of itself.
Note the kind of advice that counsels women to be economical with the truth, or simply lie about their pasts. Also beware tropes such as “what happened in the past is past”, or supremely annoyingly “it’s none of your business”.
All of this you will see repeatedly here on NL. A theme repeated across threads and from posters many look up to. If her future is your business, her past certainly is.
Query advise that tries to sell the result of destructive behaviour, of poor life choices as something one needs “heal from” – did she pick up a virus of get hit by a car? Bad choices were made based on character – and if the character was not properly formed, then one must question if that kind of empowerment is good? In any event, the consequences are damaging.
It’s not healing that’s required, it’s a character overhaul. And yes, there are some people who can achieve this via self-will, but they are very few. It first requires acknowledging, and then real effort to overcome.
Many women would rather just lie to themselves and everyone else about who and what they really are, and re-direct fault for the cause of their woes and trauma.
So here’s a caveat, as a Christian, I believe in redemption – people can change, but only the grace of God can bring about a lasting change of nature and true healing. Not just to mask, or forcibly resist destructive behaviour – which will ultimately reveal itself or manifest in other ways - but actually hate or have no desire to engage in it, and be free from it’s echo.
IFF you are sure a woman has been truly redeemed, should you consider her as spouse. And note, not only will she be honest about her past, she will be rightly acknowledge it as something she sees as wrong, and clear about how she intends to live in future. If you are not God-fearing, and looking to Him as you seek a spouse, OYO.
I’ve said it before and I’ll repeat it here; most women would be better served by staying under parental authority (especially their father’) until they get married. Especially in this age where the temptations are myriad and liberty can come at a relatively early age - before character is fully formed. In an era when everything is fluid, morality is relative and the pressure can be tremendous.
TV
^{...if you wouldn't accept a bruised piece of fruit, why settle for a damaged wife?}