Good morning! I'm a guy who is really disturbed on a very pressing issue concerning a girl I've never met myself but my parents did. It all started on a faithful day when my parents went out to get something, they met a beautiful girl & they eventually approached her & talked to her cos of how decent she's looking. she gave my parents her number so as to give me their Son. my parents actually wants the best girl for me.
when they got home, they gave me her number & I actually saw her on WhatsApp, start talking & all. The girl is actually what Every responsible man needs. she's, beautiful, soft spoken and have all the good traits to make a good wife. She is still a student though.
But, I later found out she's into a serious relationship after some time on WhatsApp & call. she really doesn't chat with me much or even if I call she rarely picks. Her boyfriend is always around her close marking her. then, I initially gave up cos she really doesn't even want to come see me for the first time at least so she can @ least see me in person & we talk since we have become mere friends. for months upon months(4months), I've been a friend zone on WhatsApp cos she is well mannered & doesn't wants to double date. she still doesn't wants to come & see me in person cos she is faithful. But are always close marking (clinging boyfriend) doesn't see it. she Even gave me her boyfriend last 2 numbers sometime ago that if he calls I should not pick. Was surprised cos we just friends & I don't call/ chat her often. It was always rare cos she has a guy & she is faithful. I actually told her that it makes no sense in what he does cos I even barely called her. she doesn't even pick my calls most times.Within me I said what kind of a clinging & no trust guy he is.
Just 2wks ago, she was sick & I asked what happened, she told me malaria & typhoid. she later told me she's facing heart break also. Her guy cheated on her with another girl she knows. I had to send money to her to buy fruits. I've been consoling her as a friend & we became more close the past few weeks. I'm on my leave @ d moment, really had time chatting & calling her & we planning to see. she actually told me her guy cheated on her with a girl she knows cos she doesn't want to have sex with him.
yesterday, she was telling me about the guy coming to beg her & for them to come back & that the guy has been begging her friends @ school to talk to her. now she said she wants to be going to school from home cos she doesn't want to be seeing the guy daily cos memory of the past flashes back. Then I told her, if he is actually ur ex as you have said why you allowing him disturb your sanity? Do you wanna be going to school from home cos of someone that doesn't deserve you? I con ask am if e rent the house for you? she said No.
I'm actually becoming fond of this girl.she is a good person & soft spoken. cannot you see the guy is taking Advantage of her good nature? I told her yesterday to choose between Sanity & heart breaks. You can imagine she is scared to stay in school hostel cos she doesn't want to be seeing the guy daily. We are suppose to see this week I've not seen her in person before Now that oga dey put pressure for her body again. she actually told me it's her first relationship and I can relate. she actually needs time to heal.The guy is actually using Advantage of her simplicity. Why will you want to be going from home cos of fear of not seeing a guy that broke your heart. She needs confident to stand on her ground. What can I do cos I'm beginning to like her person on phone call & Whatsapp. I really want to see her. I really felt bad yesterday for her saying she wants to go from home to school for sometime cos the guy will be disturbing her & she can't stand it cos I understand it's her first relationship. Plz help

Slow and steady, that's how to win the race. Just take it easy on her and pressure her gently, she's still a novice.

The only problem now is that she will still forgive her guy and they may continue from where they stopped. Just be smart in your dealings and prove to her that you're a better man with better intentions.

All the best in your pursuit sir

Mjshexy:
Slow and steady, that's how to win the race. Just take it easy on her and pressure her gently, she's still a novice.

The only problem now is that she will still forgive her guy and they may continue from where they stopped. Just be smart in your dealings and prove to her that you're a better man with better intentions.

All the best in your pursuit sir

Thanks alot .

Mjshexy:
Slow and steady, that's how to win the race. Just take it easy on her and pressure her gently, she's still a novice.

The only problem now is that she will still forgive her guy and they may continue from where they stopped. Just be smart in your dealings and prove to her that you're a better man with better intentions.

All the best in your pursuit sir

RT!

Lol...you sent her money to buy fruits??asin how do you guys even think sef.It's guys like you that make relationship to be a poverty allieviation programme.Secondly you knew she was in a serious relationship,but you kept sticking around hoping for her to break-up with her boyfriend,that's ain't one of the bro code man.Thirdly you too emotional over women matters,and the said girl na student sef.Na premium tears loading all the way.

Let's go into the mind of the lady, bkos she is easy going and more of a cool person, she avoids confrontation, she's currently "afraid" of that guy, being forceful was how he had his way with her at first and I may like to think that most probably he may be a narcissist (someone who has only their interest at heart, caring less of the effects of their actions on others as far as they get ahead).


Your goal should not be to villainize (speak evil) the guy, but through subtle persuasion and persistence communicate to the lady your intentions and plans for her, sincerely and genuinely care within a define time, before asking her out.


The advice below too is a good one.

Mjshexy:
Slow and steady, that's how to win the race. Just take it easy on her and pressure her gently, she's still a novice.

The only problem now is that she will still forgive her guy and they may continue from where they stopped. Just be smart in your dealings and prove to her that you're a better man with better intentions.

All the best in your pursuit sir

My last observation is, have you really settle it in your mind that she's what you want in a woman hence your pursuit? Bkos I may suspect she hardly trust and when she does she goes all in. So have it at the back of your mind that what you see from a distance may not really be attractive when you come close, albeit if the character stand's out and she's willing, you both can build a very outstanding relationship, more importantly pray about it. All the best bro.

I will rebrand your write-up and name it;

Characteristics of a simp.

gfon:
Lol...you sent her money to buy fruits??asin how do you guys even think sef.It's guys like you that make relationship to be a poverty allieviation programme.Secondly you knew she was in a serious relationship,but you kept sticking around hoping for her to break-up with her boyfriend,that's ain't one of the bro code man.Thirdly you too emotional over women matters,and the said girl na student sef.Na premium tears loading all the way.

sending her money to buy fruits is just a kind gesture due to our mere friendship.she has not ask me for money before and she was ill. secondly was not praying for her relationship to break. Imagine if she's your sister, won't you want the best relationship for her? besides, I've not seen her. I just need the Good girl to be confident enough she has been in tears, heart breaks & all this past few weeks.

Itstrending:
I will rebrand your write-up and name it;

Characteristics of a simp.

Everything na simp attitude to una

ersonleads:
Good morning! I'm a guy who is really disturbed on a very pressing issue concerning a girl I've never met myself but my parents did. It all started on a faithful day when my parents went out to get something, they met a beautiful girl & they eventually approached her & talked to her cos of how decent she's looking. she gave my parents her number so as to give me their Son. my parents actually wants the best girl for me.
when they got home, they gave me her number & I actually saw her on WhatsApp, start talking & all. The girl is actually what Every responsible man needs. she's, beautiful, soft spoken and have all the good traits to make a good wife. She is still a student though.
But, I later found out she's into a serious relationship after some time on WhatsApp & call. she really doesn't chat with me much or even if I call she rarely picks. Her boyfriend is always around her close marking her. then, I initially gave up cos she really doesn't even want to come see me for the first time at least so she can @ least see me in person & we talk since we have become mere friends. for months upon months(4months), I've been a friend zone on WhatsApp cos she is well mannered & doesn't wants to double date. she still doesn't wants to come & see me in person cos she is faithful. But are always close marking (clinging boyfriend) doesn't see it. she Even gave me her boyfriend last 2 numbers sometime ago that if he calls I should not pick. Was surprised cos we just friends & I don't call/ chat her often. It was always rare cos she has a guy & she is faithful. I actually told her that it makes no sense in what he does cos I even barely called her. she doesn't even pick my calls most times.Within me I said what kind of a clinging & no trust guy he is.
Just 2wks ago, she was sick & I asked what happened, she told me malaria & typhoid. she later told me she's facing heart break also. Her guy cheated on her with another girl she knows. I had to send money to her to buy fruits. I've been consoling her as a friend & we became more close the past few weeks. I'm on my leave @ d moment, really had time chatting & calling her & we planning to see. she actually told me her guy cheated on her with a girl she knows cos she doesn't want to have sex with him.
yesterday, she was telling me about the guy coming to beg her & for them to come back & that the guy has been begging her friends @ school to talk to her. now she said she wants to be going to school from home cos she doesn't want to be seeing the guy daily cos memory of the past flashes back. Then I told her, if he is actually ur ex as you have said why you allowing him disturb your sanity? Do you wanna be going to school from home cos of someone that doesn't deserve you? I con ask am if e rent the house for you? she said No.
I'm actually becoming fond of this girl.she is a good person & soft spoken. cannot you see the guy is taking Advantage of her good nature? I told her yesterday to choose between Sanity & heart breaks. You can imagine she is scared to stay in school hostel cos she doesn't want to be seeing the guy daily. We are suppose to see this week I've not seen her in person before Now that oga dey put pressure for her body again. she actually told me it's her first relationship and I can relate. she actually needs time to heal.The guy is actually using Advantage of her simplicity. Why will you want to be going from home cos of fear of not seeing a guy that broke your heart. She needs confident to stand on her ground. What can I do cos I'm beginning to like her person on phone call & Whatsapp. I really want to see her. I really felt bad yesterday for her saying she wants to go from home to school for sometime cos the guy will be disturbing her & she can't stand it cos I understand it's her first relationship. Plz help

she is going to use you to get back together with that guy.

Oga ask yourself this question, what you are doing if someone do it to you, are you going to be happy? Stop pampering someone gf , I hate people like you

Bennysam:
Oga ask yourself this question, what you are doing if someone do it to you, are you going to be happy? Stop pampering someone gf , I hate people like you

if you read the right up very well you will know I started pampering her when the guy broke her heart.she actually do call him an ex @ d moment. So decode please. shey na girlfriend you call am, nor be wife. Imagine say your girlfriend cheat on you

Ehn...if you are so upset that she would have to go to school from home, how about renting her a place close to school?

gfon:
Lol...you sent her money to buy fruits??asin how do you guys even think sef.It's guys like you that make relationship to be a poverty allieviation programme.Secondly you knew she was in a serious relationship,but you kept sticking around hoping for her to break-up with her boyfriend,that's ain't one of the bro code man.Thirdly you too emotional over women matters,and the said girl na student sef.Na premium tears loading all the way.

see the part where she broke up because “she refused to have sex with him”
Are u thinking what I’m thinking? She don dey groom this guy already

@ OP, don't rush to call her guy names cuz I can bet my life..u maybe worse....without sex in a relationship, guyz tend to misbehave including you.....

AlexB300:
see the part where she broke up because “she refused to have sex with him”
Are u thinking what I’m thinking? She don dey groom this guy already

no be small street the babe wan run am

gfon:
no be small street the babe wan run am

on Gaad. She don dey play the virgin role for future purposes

You've suddenly become Rohit because your opinions will land her to your arms!

I bow to your knowledge.

I'll advise you take it slowly. Slowly does it better.


Can you explain the below? Come again?

I actually told her that it makes no sense in what he does cos I even barely called her. she doesn't even pick my calls most times.

ersonleads:
if you read the right up very well you will know I started pampering her when the guy broke her heart.she actually do call him an ex @ d moment. So decode please. shey na girlfriend you call am, nor be wife. Imagine say your girlfriend cheat on you

Oga don't pamper her, she's in a relationship and relationship has up and down now it's down side of it and you're indirectly telling her to leave her bf for you

AlexB300:
on Gaad. She don dey play the virgin role for future purposes

op never see anything
Shege

chatinent:
You've suddenly become Rohit because your opinions will land her to your arms!

I bow to your knowledge.

I'll advise you take it slowly. Slowly does it better.


Can you explain the below? Come again?

she told me she's actually in a relationship, because of that, we barely do talk & chat. I call & chat her on rare occasion cos she was now just a friend. But the day I called her, she didn't pick & she later returned the call & told me d boyfriend & her has a misunderstanding that if I see a number calling me ending with a specific digit I should not pick up. It was really funny. That was when I told her that we barely do talk or chat why does her boyfriend act in such way? it really doesn't make any sense.

Mjshexy:
Slow and steady, that's how to win the race. Just take it easy on her and pressure her gently, she's still a novice.

The only problem now is that she will still forgive her guy and they may continue from where they stopped. Just be smart in your dealings and prove to her that you're a better man with better intentions.

All the best in your pursuit sir

Op, been in your shoes too and this was what gave me the winning edge.

Try this advice and be consistent and as well genuine in executing it. She will most probably end up with you.

Good advice Mjshexy.

jaybabs1:


Op, been in your shoes too and this was what gave me the winning edge.

Try this advice and be consistent and as well genuine in executing it. She will most probably end up with you.

Good advice Mjshexy.

Tnx. will just keep it simple

she has a boyfriend and ur still meddling around....bro....this is more than simping.....are u under a spell......?


u disgust me ......

Damfostopper:
she has a boyfriend and ur still meddling around....bro....this is more than simping.....are u under a spell......?


u disgust me ......

She Broke up Bro. Read d write up properly

Itstrending:
I will rebrand your write-up and name it;

Characteristics of a simp.

Lolz, you so mean!

But funny enough, it sounds true.

At OP. Prove to her you're a better man, but calmly, and don't try to impress or influence her feelings. Just let time tell. . .

Mjshexy:
Slow and steady, that's how to win the race. Just take it easy on her and pressure her gently, she's still a novice.

The only problem now is that she will still forgive her guy and they may continue from where they stopped. Just be smart in your dealings and prove to her that you're a better man with better intentions.

All the best in your pursuit sir

Baby how was your weekend?

Omo to dun, enyi arami, bawo ni?


iwo omo yi, oma dun goon..

just imagine , your parents collected her number to you , becus she is a decent girl . now after you have been chatting with her , she told you that, she's in a serious relationship , and you're still keeping moving on , just to win win . talking shit about her boyfriend . it might be that guy wanted to marry her, just due to your distraction, and trying to win her , then she now loose her sight on that guy , telling you shit is because of sex . brother how you take ugly reach wey go make you to no Sabi how to toaste girls.

What a pathetic simp you are

ersonleads:
sending her money to buy fruits is just a kind gesture due to our mere friendship.she has not ask me for money before and she was ill. secondly was not praying for her relationship to break. Imagine if she's your sister, won't you want the best relationship for her? besides, I've not seen her. I just need the Good girl to be confident enough she has been in tears, heart breaks & all this past few weeks.

Guy you just no get sense. You think by putting yourself in the substitute bench will earn you an upgrade? I pity you because it will end in premium tears.