doggedfighter:


You go fear sharing formula

doggedfighter:


Did you even read the thread before writing this nonsense.

Is he seeking advice on how to spend his money that you are already sharing his money for him?

Where did you read that he abandoned his mother?
That you are talking about forgetting his source.
He won't regret anything if he switches off his phone but that's not the issue here.

ImaIma1:


Are you the only child?

If you resign to go and stay by her side, where will the money come from for the bills?

What have her relatives done for her except to drag you because you have a job?

Our African culture makes it frustrating for one family member to do well. He has to carry the weight of the whole family upon his shoulders and they won't appreciate it. Instead, they think it's their entitlement.

Someone is saying he should set up a provision store, another is saying he should send half of his salary. Is it that easy to set up a store like that? How will the sick mum run the store? When family members run it to the ground, they will come back and expect you to vomit out more money for another business.

Please keep helping your mum as much as you can. But quitting your job to go and take care of her is not a good move because money will be needed.

Mindlog:


Based on her age and health status, I would suggest you and your siblings see to it that you get someone to stay with her to help prepare her meals, do her laundry , general cleaning and most importantly make sure she religiously adheres to her medication.

You know the financial strength of each of your siblings, do encourage them to contribute accordingly to support your mum's assisted living as it would help you all have the peace of mind knowing your mum is not alone and being cared for.

NoToPile:



Your siblings are smart, some relatives are better handled with this method.


Whatever you do don't resign your job, that's their way ooo.

At worse you will move mama to live with you or your siblings.

Klass99:


Your siblings are interesting and funny, I don't blame them at all.

But, what happens in an emergency where they need to be reached for a valid reason?

Can you bring your mum to your base to stay with you for some time and find good help to cook/care for her, while you are at work? That's if none of your siblings can accompany her

NoToPile:



Your siblings are smart, some relatives are better handled with this method.


Whatever you do don't resign your job, that's their way ooo.

At worse you will move mama to live with you or your siblings.

lecturer50:


Guy stop typing what you don't know about me.

I know what I am doing for them.

I just need an advice, not a bad judgement from a person who believes he knows everything about me.

lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?

Oizee:
don't mind that guy, this your issue is synonymous to what's happening to me presently. I wish you well in making the right decisions.

most of the numbers on my blocked list are my family members.... I'm sick and tired of their never ending demands...

1F30M4:


Look dear, don't ever give in to the call to resign.. Even your ailing mum wouldn't urge you to do that, alwayss those onkuu agbayas ati awon ebi alainironu

You & your siblings should try and get a caregiver for mama, that way you're sure your mum is well taken care of.. Keep constant communication going.. Travel home anytime you can, same with your siblings, spend time with mama.. Orrr better still bring mama to yours, get a help that will assist mama all the time.. Mama can even be rotating from one of your siblings house to the another, whichever, y'all need to talk about it

Preferably, if mama can come stay with you or any of your siblings, you'd have taken away that power/right those relatives feel they have, they'll be sooo pissed haha I'll pay to see their reaction lol jk.. In the meantime, for you to have peace of mind, I suggest you change your line.. Only mama & her caregiver should know about it and make it clear that on no account should they give it out to anybody without your consent.

Oizee:
don't mind that guy, this your issue is synonymous to what's happening to me presently. I wish you well in making the right decisions.

most of the numbers on my blocked list are my family members.... I'm sick and tired of their never ending demands...

lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?

doggedfighter:


Very stupid post

He even drew monthly plans and percentages on someone's salary

If you're not wise, people will ruin you with responsibilities and before you realize it. Hmmm.

OmejeGuy:


My Dad and I never talk this 2021. He wants me to be financing my sister's education. Hostel rent, laptop, feeding allowance while he cruise his Sienna with his second wife.

I refused to be used this year. Cut off mode activated. "The boy is good" has sent a lot to the grave.

lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?

lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?

Ebuka78:


A river that forgets it source will surely runs dry. You have to help your mum, God gave you that job to support your family.


If it were your girlfriend, you would help her without thinking twice.

You can divide your salary into half, and give your sister to start a Saloon business/ become a hair stylist.

The next salary, you divide it and assist your brothers or brother to open a trade.

In 3 months time, there wouldn't be pressure on you to help the family. It is not good for one person to be rich in a family, let the rich one help others to get rich.

You should send 50% of your last month salary to sustain your mum.


You don't know what she passed through before birthing you. She would never tell you.

Switch of your cell phone and regret it for life.

Send her half of your salary for her health and remain blessed for life.

Ebuka78:


A river that forgets it source will surely runs dry. You have to help your mum, God gave you that job to support your family.


If it were your girlfriend, you would help her without thinking twice.

You can divide your salary into half, and give your sister to start a Saloon business/ become a hair stylist.

The next salary, you divide it and assist your brothers or brother to open a trade.

In 3 months time, there wouldn't be pressure on you to help the family. It is not good for one person to be rich in a family, let the rich one help others to get rich.

You should send 50% of your last month salary to sustain your mum.


You don't know what she passed through before birthing you. She would never tell you.

Switch of your cell phone and regret it for life.

Send her half of your salary for her health and remain blessed for life.

lilvicky68:

Thumbs up.. family is everything