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Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by femi4: 9:29am On Apr 04, 2021
lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?
Bring her over and monitor her health through someone that can stay with her

Don't let your relatives use your mom's sickness to turn you to ATM

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Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by mudiana(m): 9:29am On Apr 04, 2021
Ebuka78:


A river that forgets it source will surely runs dry. You have to help your mum, God gave you that job to support your family.


If it were your girlfriend, you would help her without thinking twice.

You can divide your salary into half, and give your sister to start a Saloon business/ become a hair stylist.

The next salary, you divide it and assist your brothers or brother to open a trade.

In 3 months time, there wouldn't be pressure on you to help the family. It is not good for one person to be rich in a family, let the rich one help others to get rich.

You should send 50% of your last month salary to sustain your mum.


You don't know what she passed through before birthing you. She would never tell you.

Switch of your cell phone and regret it for life.

Send her half of your salary for her health and remain blessed for life.
have you asked him how much is his salary that you are helping him divide like that? I wonder how pple just think they have a right to advise pple like this. if you don't have something good to type, Baba leave Ur keypad.

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Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Ikillbrokehoes(m): 9:29am On Apr 04, 2021
lecturer50:
What surprises me is that immediately I got the job, my mom started having health challenges.

I have observed it several times in different people.

When they are able to make a breakthrough in life (like getting a good job, graduation, financial breakthroughs),

something bad (like sickness or death) would affect their relatives, either the mom,dad,son, daughter or any close relative.

Please who else has noticed this, and why must it be so?
Lolz they want to finish you, give the little you can and save the rest, because if anything terrible happens(which will never happen) they will run away from you, just do the little that you can and save more
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by id4sho(m): 9:30am On Apr 04, 2021
lecturer50:


Guy stop typing what you don't know about me.

I know what I am doing for them.

I just need an advice, not a bad judgement from a person who believes he knows everything about me.

Bring your mom to the city with you for treatment, I hope it's a list Agency. CHEERS
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Brandonx(m): 9:30am On Apr 04, 2021
Op do not resign from your job.
Mothers are protectors and this afflictions to your mother is either because of you or your siblings.
Whatever religion you practice now is the time for you to be serious as in very serious with it.
Your mother too.
As time goes on you'll understand better.
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by sandra50(f): 9:30am On Apr 04, 2021
Take your mum and one member of your family to live with you so you can personally know where the money is going into and warn them not to call and threaten you again else you would get them arrested..feeling so entitled.or better still tell them you have been sacked and you are looking for other jobs then from time to time tell them you went to a site to do daily job then send your mother what is right to give her...
lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by rhames(m): 9:30am On Apr 04, 2021
lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?

Carry the woman from the village and bring her to the city for proper medical check up before your village witches and wizards start using her as ATM to extort you everytime they needed money.
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by mudiana(m): 9:31am On Apr 04, 2021
lecturer50:


Guy stop typing what you don't know about me.

I know what I am doing for them.

I just need an advice, not a bad judgement from a person who believes he knows everything about me.

Omo I blame u for bringing this up here. if u didn't, that mungo park no go dey type rubbish. him dey divide fed government salary like say na 1 million em dey pay u.

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Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by godofuck231: 9:32am On Apr 04, 2021
U
lecturer50:
What surprises me is that immediately I got the job, my mom started having health challenges.

I have observed it several times in different people.

When they are able to make a breakthrough in life (like getting a good job, graduation, financial breakthroughs),

something bad (like sickness or death) would affect their relatives, either the mom,dad,son, daughter or any close relative.

Please who else has noticed this, and why must it be so?
witchcraft and manipulation go offline and pour fuel on anyone who comes close to you , trust me before you get a light they will be in the village
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Skullano(m): 9:32am On Apr 04, 2021
Don't you have enough space to bring your mum over bros?.

Make provisions and move your mum out of bad sight place.
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by mudiana(m): 9:33am On Apr 04, 2021
samyj2477:
beware of that your devilish uncle. I am even suspecting him. Don't even think of resigning that job.... if you resign, it will be the greatest mistake of ur life. Try as much as possible to always call home possibly daily, to know how ur mum is doing until she gets well. Make sure ur mum is given the best health treatment she deserves....

Don't even think of resigning that job, beware of ur uncle, I sense evil and I am not joking.
he better don't resign.

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Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by tiswell(m): 9:33am On Apr 04, 2021
Op,just keep kwayet,!!





ordinary federal job and you won't truly help your relatives.







The spirit of giving is innate in some individuals while stinginess by choice.








We have been helping our not-so-privileged relatives since time immemorial, and we haven't complained about it, hence the benevolence of the mother nature to us.
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by ahmedee: 9:33am On Apr 04, 2021
lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?

take good care of your mum and do not resign from your job if there is no better alternative, request for leave from your place of work to attend to your mum health issue if it is not possible arrange for caregiver and mover her close to your place of work for ease of monitoring but do not take the option of resigning your job and move back to your village/state/town as advised by your relatives you may end up exhausting your savings, not having regular income and no money to take care of her
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by jaxxy(m): 9:33am On Apr 04, 2021
lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?

They know ure a chicken that’s why they can talk such rubbish. Some people wud have told them off since or are u God? All u can do is instruct sm1 to take care of her and pay for the upkeep. Visit when u can. That is Allll not more.

Anything anybody says after that they are wasting their time and energy. I will blast them immediately. So ur uncle can’t take care of his own sister also?

Don’t block or switch off ur fone. Tell them ur mind and let them deal with it.
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Nobody: 9:33am On Apr 04, 2021
Bros you're working with the Federal Government of Nigeria. With Buhari. You suppose get money. grin grin
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by mudiana(m): 9:34am On Apr 04, 2021
lilvicky68:

Thumbs up.. family is everything
family is everything if they are not stressing Ur life. I don't think u re experiencing something like wat the guy is passing tru.

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Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Brightdude007: 9:35am On Apr 04, 2021
I believe what your mom needs is companion and care, get a little girl or boy of not more than 13 years, to stay with your mom and run minor errands and also be her chat mate while you train the lad in your community school. Always frequent home as many times as possible. I don't believe your mom would encourage the idea of you resigning

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Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Coronavirus84: 9:35am On Apr 04, 2021
lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?
Please fund your mum medical bills and tell those relatives of urs to stop calling you again. Am a federal government worker and I know how the salary is for now with this newly introduced IPPIS. As for me, na only my mum and dad that is included in my funding for now, any other person should go and find work to do

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Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Chasaq237: 9:36am On Apr 04, 2021
Bros they are trying to kill you and not your mum.watch out you might die before your mum if you ever resign your job and relocate to the village. that's how my friend was killed in 2017.my friend that had visa to travel to Canada relocated to village from Lagos in order to attend to his sick mum.within weeks he was poisoned.the worst part of it was that he died and his mum was still alive till today

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Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by maximunimpact(m): 9:36am On Apr 04, 2021
lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?

You are selfish and stingy. I know someone who have never gotten any free money in life but he shares all his wealth with family and friends and he's happy doing it. Common to take care of your mother a grown man is whinning on social media.
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by kaboninc(m): 9:36am On Apr 04, 2021
Ebuka78:


A river that forgets it source will surely runs dry. You have to help your mum, God gave you that job to support your family.


If it were your girlfriend, you would help her without thinking twice.

You can divide your salary into half, and give your sister to start a Saloon business/ become a hair stylist.

The next salary, you divide it and assist your brothers or brother to open a trade.

In 3 months time, there wouldn't be pressure on you to help the family. It is not good for one person to be rich in a family, let the rich one help others to get rich.

You should send 50% of your last month salary to sustain your mum.


You don't know what she passed through before birthing you. She would never tell you.

Switch of your cell phone and regret it for life.

Send her half of your salary for her health and remain blessed for life.

As if you send half of your entire monthly income to your mom, sister, brothers, father and other relatives.

Or maybe you do not have a job or a steady source of income and so you don't know what it takes to earn income.

Please you must not advice or speak. Some times just read or listen.

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Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by holatunde1759(m): 9:38am On Apr 04, 2021
Do not resign and also take care of your mum.
I never blow but nah me dey take care of my mama pass and I do not regret doing that.
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by BluDesk: 9:38am On Apr 04, 2021
lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?




Move her to your house or get her two persons to see to her needs and sponsor the bill. That's all
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by kaboninc(m): 9:38am On Apr 04, 2021
maximunimpact:


You are selfish and stingy. I know someone who have never gotten any free money in life but he shares all his wealth with family and friends and he's happy doing it. Common to take care of your mother a grown man is whining on social media.

Seems you don't have sense.

As if you're a cheerful giver. I understand that you're passing through difficulties in life that you think you're the only one suffering and that's why you can't reason properly.
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by mudiana(m): 9:38am On Apr 04, 2021
lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?
take good care of Ur mum and don't give in to any demands of Ur family especially Ur uncle. u can get someone u trust in the family to help u take care of Ur mum Nd be sending the person d funds u have. Don't resign oh! even if something is pushing u to, reject it spiritually. just be close to God this time around Nd He will help u.
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Zontrident: 9:39am On Apr 04, 2021
This exact same thing is what I'm suffering from my father is the one a bit well to do on our side of the family and they don't allow him to rest, whenever month ends before money will reach us his children it has finished, all his brothers would be disturbing him up and down and the man cannot refuse them, we that are his children don't even know what to do self, this man can't even buy something good for his wife, eg good phone, cosmetics etc it's only God that's keeping us in school

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Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by kaboninc(m): 9:39am On Apr 04, 2021
lilvicky68:

Thumbs up.. family is everything

S.he.male...use your sense
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Rose99: 9:39am On Apr 04, 2021
Get someone to look after your mom in the village, someone you can pay a little salary. Change your phone number and make sure the carer alone has the new number. Make sure you send them money monthly for your mother's upkeep and forget about your uncle and the rest.

Some of these village people can be very diabolic. Be very careful!

lecturer50:


She is living alone.

I am not the only child.

There are others trying to make ends meet at different places in Nigeria.

I am the only one whose phone is always on whenever they are calling me from the village.

Others have got new lines which they don't want the other relatives to know due to their disturbance.

Whenever they visit my mom, they would stay with her and then go back.

If any of my relatives ask for their numbers, they give their old lines which they only switch on when they are in the village,

claiming that where they are working, their lines do not go through, since they are in remote areas.
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by ALLNIGERIANSMAD(m): 9:39am On Apr 04, 2021
lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?
bring your mom close, if your father is also alive, bring him too, rent one bedroom apartment for them if you can afford it, employ house help for them, change your sim card, then forget those uncles, forget anybody in this world and focus on your job, nobody care of happy if you succeed, they will only focus in bringing you down.

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Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by maximunimpact(m): 9:40am On Apr 04, 2021
kaboninc:


Seems you don't have sense.

As if you're a cheerful giver. I understand that you're passing through difficulties in life that you think you're the only one suffering and that's why you can't reason properly.

Lols... i can change your life in a heartbeat. We are all anom here doesn't mean real men don't hang around here
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Livadesh: 9:41am On Apr 04, 2021
lecturer50:


Guy stop typing what you don't know about me.

I know what I am doing for them.

I just need an advice, not a bad judgement from a person who believes he knows everything about me.


See don't mind that guy up there... He doesn't know what you're passing through at all.
Those people asking you to quit your job and go to village to treat your mum are wicked people that doesn't want your progress.
The guy up there thinks billing a middle class like you shows responsibility but he's wrong. Too much billing on you now will only wreck your finances. I'm not saying you should not take good care of your mum, but believe me, if your finances wreck, these same people will be the one to mock you... Not all pitiful conditions are be pitied

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Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Chasaq237: 9:41am On Apr 04, 2021
[quote author=lecturer50 post=100458409]Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?
Bros they are trying to kill you and not your mum.watch out you might die before your mum if you ever resign your job and relocate to the village. that's how my friend was killed in 2017.my friend that had visa to travel to Canada relocated to village from Lagos in order to attend to his sick mum.within weeks he was poisoned.the worst part of it was that he died and his mum was still alive till today
I just need advice?

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