Ebuka78:


A river that forgets it source will surely runs dry. You have to help your mum, God gave you that job to support your family.


If it were your girlfriend, you would help her without thinking twice.

You can divide your salary into half, and give your sister to start a Saloon business/ become a hair stylist.

The next salary, you divide it and assist your brothers or brother to open a trade.

In 3 months time, there wouldn't be pressure on you to help the family. It is not good for one person to be rich in a family, let the rich one help others to get rich.

You should send 50% of your last month salary to sustain your mum.


You don't know what she passed through before birthing you. She would never tell you.

Switch of your cell phone and regret it for life.

Send her half of your salary for her health and remain blessed for life.

BRATISLAVA:


It sounds smart, but that's not the case.

Once people get married, they belong to their spouses and children in terms of responsibility. Parents are the children's responsibility as much as children were once the parents responsibility. You can't pass it off.

If the Uncle asks them for money he is a pest why can't he leave a married man alone, but if she's sick he should take care of her this is his sister? Nigerians.

lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?

lecturer50:


She is living alone.

I am not the only child.

There are others trying to make ends meet at different places in Nigeria.

I am the only one whose phone is always on whenever they are calling me from the village.

Others have got new lines which they don't want the other relatives to know due to their disturbance.

Whenever they visit my mom, they would stay with her and then go back.

If any of my relatives ask for their numbers, they give their old lines which they only switch on when they are in the village,

claiming that where they are working, their lines do not go through, since they are in remote areas.

lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?

lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?

Klass99:


Lol, I swear down fear catch me at the proposed sharing formula and baseless assumptions he made about OP.

What even annoys me the most is how they automatically expect one sibling who is "seemingly doing well" to be the saviour of the others, as if those ones are handicapped.

Are the other siblings invalids incapable of making their own way in life or fighting for their own success? That OP has to open salon for one and start a trade for another.

lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?
I have to login to answer you bro.
Please listen to this advice.
Your mom shouldn’t stay alone. I have see same issue a bit with my own mom. I am currently with her and the eldest of her children. Women(over middle) age tend to live life as it comes.
So do this, move her away from that village. Away from that village to avoid the village relatives. To save cost, you could bring her to you or any of your sibling that has more time. Let her feed well and avoid stress and thinking. Also, your other sibling see whatever little ways you ca assist them to get stable financially so they can also bring their own little quarters for her. Don’t allow those relative to visit her. They might talk on phone but strictly tell your mom not to disclose your location to them.

pansophist:
Tell your uncle to come look after your mum, while you supply cash. If he refuses, don't pick his calls again. It would send a clear message that you're not subservient to him. Don't also quit your job, it's your power and bargaining chip. Let one of your siblings look after your mum, while you supply the funds necessary until your family gets over this challenge. Make it clear that quitting your job is not negotiable, of what use is a man when he can't even provide ? Don't make that mistake.

The responsibility to look after your mum is also on them, not just you. Telling you that they will hold you accountable if your mum dies should only worry you if you're not providing funds, as far you're providing, ignore their words, even a stupid person have something to say, and you must accept that many times, stupid people are not far, they are within your circles, even families.

It is your conscience and "being right" you should care about, not some threats and opinions of someone that is probably lazy, haven't work and have a low milage of ambition.

lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?Try as you could to take proper care of ur mummy, medically and make sure her feeding is in good shape.
Buy food stuffs for her and treat her well
See ur statement to switch off your phone
If something serious happened to her NA ME DEM GO CALL.dont resign but do what you are supposed to do.

pansophist:


Thats the point. It doesn't make any sense for his uncle to come babysit his mum, just as it doesn't make any sense asking a breadwinner to quit his job and do the babysitting, especially where there are alternatives such as his siblings, extended family members and he could periodically visit. His uncle should "get" it if he ask him to do the babysitting and if he refuses (which imply that his own responsibilities is not negotiable), then why should he expect the poster to do the same?

The solution is to look for other solutions, not expecting him to quit his job. Got it ? If he quit his job, how will he be able to carry the family expenses ? Its not just a wrong, but a stupid one from his uncle.

chatinent:
Bros, you are not from Bethlehem!


If I were you, I'll set up a provision store for mom to minimise the monthly expectations.

I can easily relate to what you mean.


Advise everyone of your relatives to go and WORK! Make them know you have your own life to live.


To be great, you have to be stingy.

Because if you fall now, those people will still abuse you that there's nothing you did from your Federal job for so and so years. They'll forget you helped them!

SpeciallyUnique:



Please sir, I would like to have you as as my role model. I have learnt a lot since I started following you on Nairaland. I'm not a Nigerian. I have a respected, good-paying government job in my country. I'm a simple quiet guy still navigating through life and everything you say resonates with me.

I would understand if you ignore me, but I truly believe taking little pieces of advice from you can guide me to make the best life decisions.

maximunimpact:


OP is stingy and selfish along with anyone sympathizing with him. I will give everything for my mother and family without thinking about it

Ebuka78:


A river that forgets it source will surely runs dry. You have to help your mum, God gave you that job to support your family.


If it were your girlfriend, you would help her without thinking twice.

You can divide your salary into half, and give your sister to start a Saloon business/ become a hair stylist.

The next salary, you divide it and assist your brothers or brother to open a trade.

In 3 months time, there wouldn't be pressure on you to help the family. It is not good for one person to be rich in a family, let the rich one help others to get rich.

You should send 50% of your last month salary to sustain your mum.


You don't know what she passed through before birthing you. She would never tell you.

Switch of your cell phone and regret it for life.

Send her half of your salary for her health and remain blessed for life.

pansophist:


Thats the point. It doesn't make any sense for his uncle to come babysit his mum, just as it doesn't make any sense asking a breadwinner to quit his job and do the babysitting, especially where there are alternatives such as his siblings, extended family members and he could periodically visit. His uncle should "get" it if he ask him to do the babysitting and if he refuses (which imply that his own responsibilities is not negotiable), then why should he expect the poster to do the same?

The solution is to look for other solutions, not expecting him to quit his job. Got it ? If he quit his job, how will he be able to carry the family expenses ? Its not just a wrong, but a stupid one from his uncle.

Oluwaseun2020:
Foolish people like you... if you didn't have anything now... you will be finding family up and down... You will tell all your friends how they didn't help you.. is that not the same family that raised you up and sent you to school to get a good job and help them? bro nothing like family. God has made the family line so strong that you cant do without them. Where is thy brother? God asked Cane... Am i my brother keeper? he reply.
Genesis 4:10
The LORD said, "What have you done? Listen! Your brother's blood cries out to me from the ground.

IgboWarlord:


Shey because you hear FG job,you think sey na seven figure im dey earn?...If he keeps dividing his salary every month to set up businesses for family members,how im go take survive..Do you even think that half of his salary will set up those ventures you talked about?..You wan kill am?