I No Longer Feel The Urge To Be With A Woman. - Romance (2)

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Re: I No Longer Feel The Urge To Be With A Woman. by WifeBeater: 2:35pm On Apr 20, 2021

Mr Man, are you sure you're not GAY?

Re: I No Longer Feel The Urge To Be With A Woman. by mobo76503: 2:35pm On Apr 20, 2021

Good day Pls I need help Am presently stuck with my project in school and we are to submit at the end of this month 2076868612UBATOLUWASHE THANKS

Re: I No Longer Feel The Urge To Be With A Woman. by skondo09(m): 2:57pm On Apr 20, 2021

Bigbeard:
Ever since my adult life, I've had a non conventional way I approach females and relationships.
Even though I'm fairly good looking and most of the time easily get a girls attention. in recent times, I've had an ample opportunity to start a relationship with a few ladies but I no longer feel the need or the urge to make it happen.

I can categorically say I haven't been with or had sex with a woman upwards of a year a Drnd even at the last encounter, it was nothing to write home about. We just slept together after convincing her to spend the night with me, ofcourse with money. I could hardly have an erection talk less of sustaining it.

Now, this to me is not an issue because I believe sex starts from the brain and my mindset isn't wired that way anymore. It seems I can't bring myself to do it if I don't feel any deep emotional connection with that person.

That emotional connection is the problem because mostly these days, girls really don't care about that. All they mostly care about is what you're bringing to the table or what you provide financially and materially. Seems to me like love and sex is merely a transaction not different from paying a prostitute for sex.

Can someone help me put this into perspective. Maybe I'm getting it all wrong because this is costing me a lot of relationships I'm very reluctant to pursue even after the first contact and exchanging numbers. I no longer feel the urge to ask them on dates and all that.

Bros..honest question tho..
How often are you on vaseline?
I mean if u do masturbate alot..cos with that you will loose interest in women and real life sex

Re: I No Longer Feel The Urge To Be With A Woman. by OnlyDeCapPlease(m): 4:17pm On Apr 20, 2021

Bigbeard:
Ever since my adult life, I've had a non conventional way I approach females and relationships.
Even though I'm fairly good looking and most of the time easily get a girls attention. in recent times, I've had an ample opportunity to start a relationship with a few ladies but I no longer feel the need or the urge to make it happen.

I can categorically say I haven't been with or had sex with a woman upwards of a year and even at the last encounter, it was nothing to write home about. We just slept together after convincing her to spend the night with me, ofcourse with money. I could hardly have an erection talk less of sustaining it.

Now, this to me is not an issue because I believe sex starts from the brain and my mindset isn't wired that way anymore. It seems I can't bring myself to do it if I don't feel any deep emotional connection with that person.

That emotional connection is the problem because mostly these days, girls really don't care about that. All they mostly care about is what you're bringing to the table or what you provide financially and materially. Seems to me like love and sex is merely a transaction not different from paying a prostitute for sex.

Can someone help me put this into perspective. Maybe I'm getting it all wrong because this is costing me a lot of relationships I'm very reluctant to pursue even after the first contact and exchanging numbers. I no longer feel the urge to ask them on dates and all that.

Hmm. Some naija girls and their wahala/tricks are turning some good men gay.

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Re: I No Longer Feel The Urge To Be With A Woman. by Fvckyouall: 4:21pm On Apr 20, 2021

Romanoff:
Is friendship expensive?

yes seems ladies have started to bill their friends too

Re: I No Longer Feel The Urge To Be With A Woman. by BigBellyBurst(m): 5:08pm On Apr 20, 2021

Am in this situation too.

I had been in love just once. And it didn't end so well. After that, I swallowed the red pill unknowingly and the urge to date or keep female friends diminished.

It could have been the fact that I was hurting and saw women for who they truly are (selfish and ruthless).

Or I began to see them as a lost cause.

Am currently in a higher institution where girls plenty yakpa, but most times I feel like I don't need them, even tho I think about it, fear chips in.

So what I began to do was this: any girl I get entangled with, I apply little or no emotions. I am always ready to loose any girl that comes my way because I feel they ain't Worth it anymore.

I always feel insecued, thinking that what a girl needs is money... Which is actually the case.

I loose interest in them easily, too.

My fear is this:

I just hope the woman am going to end up marrying wont suffer for what another did... Because, I don't trust myself.

Op, ur not alone in this.

For that lady asking if friendship is expensive, yes, it is. These selfish people actually bill thier male friends more than they bill thier boyfriends at times.
There was this lady I met, online during the lockdown. Luckily, she was a student of my school. So some few weeks back I decided to meet her... Just meet somewhere on campus and catch up.

You need to see what this girl was telling me, that I will take her to one expensive eatery in town and I should get my pocket ready. I asked her if she had a boyfriend and the idiot told me yes. I just laughed. Since then I just Lock up.

These people are just hungry, selfish and ruthless. They are a lost cause. Just let them be and live ur life.

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Re: I No Longer Feel The Urge To Be With A Woman. by Nobody: 5:26pm On Apr 20, 2021

Something Is Wrong With U. Go 4 Medical Check Up.

Re: I No Longer Feel The Urge To Be With A Woman. by ikillbrokegirls: 5:45pm On Apr 20, 2021

Angrygoat:
U just saved yourself at least wasting close to 20k a month trying to flex one useless girl. Its been 1 year 2 months I've not sexed,normal soapy twice a week. Naija girls are all useless and relationships to them is investment especially from poor ghetto kids

Don't date broke girls especially nigerian girls they are useless.

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Re: I No Longer Feel The Urge To Be With A Woman. by PlayMaker14: 5:48pm On Apr 20, 2021

ikillbrokegirls:
Don't date broke girls especially nigerian girls they are useless.

Hey bro....

Jidenna.

Re: I No Longer Feel The Urge To Be With A Woman. by liveyourlife007(m): 7:54pm On Apr 20, 2021

Hmmm. This is deep. Let me begin by saying,you can only fall in Love once in a lifetime, others that come after is just a replica, a mirage. The rage that one feels when you finally realise, that she's not the one , continues to build up until it reaches a level of Zero feelings, So you only do the needful (marriage) because the society demands it. How many people do you think marry for Love?. regretfully, Nigerian women are not helping the situation at all, with their typical vicious and golddigging mentality.

This is how I see it, Just like someone adviced, For now channel all that energy into making something productive, forget about love for now.
I'm sure you must have heard the popular saying " I married him because of his money, not that I love him"

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Re: I No Longer Feel The Urge To Be With A Woman. by eloolosam(m): 8:47pm On Apr 20, 2021

Op nothing is really wit you am in your shoes atleast it saves alot from thinking

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Re: I No Longer Feel The Urge To Be With A Woman. by mekuso89(m): 9:52pm On May 26, 2021

Thank your star

Re: I No Longer Feel The Urge To Be With A Woman. by phazotron(m): 10:23pm On May 26, 2021

Kriss216:
I'm surprised you just asked this question. Do you actually know what it takes to sustain friendship?

Going on a date
Birthdays
Calls
Texts
Time
Miscellaneous expenses.
etc

All these are monetary.

Friendship with a Nigerian girl is a useless venture. I can't even advice my enemy to venture into that.

Worst of the worst.

Re: I No Longer Feel The Urge To Be With A Woman. by phazotron(m): 10:25pm On May 26, 2021

You're doing well.

I'm also like this and it's very useful.

These girls are expert manipulators.

You must learn never to be afraid to lose them.

Even when you enter into a relationship, it will serve you well.

I'm not very keen on being in a relationship right now either.

Just ditched one that behaves abnormally this night.

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Re: I No Longer Feel The Urge To Be With A Woman. by mmadu4: 11:11pm On May 26, 2021

mobo76503:
Good day Pls I need help Am presently stuck with my project in school and we are to submit at the end of this month 2076868612UBATOLUWASHE THANKS

mumu why dont you sell your phone . fuckin scammer. nairaland is not a charity organization

Re: I No Longer Feel The Urge To Be With A Woman. by RENOWNED2(m): 11:24pm On May 26, 2021

Me and op dey the same boat. I don comot hand for Nigerian women mata, they are just want to take, take and take somemore. My self esteem is healthy enough to not allow myself be used in that manner.

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Re: I No Longer Feel The Urge To Be With A Woman. by Nobody: 4:43am On May 27, 2021

Bigbeard:
Ever since my adult life, I've had a non conventional way I approach females and relationships.
Even though I'm fairly good looking and most of the time easily get a girls attention. in recent times, I've had an ample opportunity to start a relationship with a few ladies but I no longer feel the need or the urge to make it happen.

I can categorically say I haven't been with or had sex with a woman upwards of a year and even at the last encounter, it was nothing to write home about. We just slept together after convincing her to spend the night with me, ofcourse with money. I could hardly have an erection talk less of sustaining it.

Now, this to me is not an issue because I believe sex starts from the brain and my mindset isn't wired that way anymore. It seems I can't bring myself to do it if I don't feel any deep emotional connection with that person.

That emotional connection is the problem because mostly these days, girls really don't care about that. All they mostly care about is what you're bringing to the table or what you provide financially and materially. Seems to me like love and sex is merely a transaction not different from paying a prostitute for sex.

Can someone help me put this into perspective. Maybe I'm getting it all wrong because this is costing me a lot of relationships I'm very reluctant to pursue even after the first contact and exchanging numbers. I no longer feel the urge to ask them on dates and all that.

Since you don't want to be used for your money, looks for independent women who are financially stable. Those women are looking for genuine emotional connection like you because they don't need money from men. Also start with forming friendships without expectations. True love and genuine emotional connection grows with time. Friendship allows you to see them for who they really are.

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Re: I No Longer Feel The Urge To Be With A Woman. by tokon37272: 9:06am On May 27, 2021

Kriss216:
At the expense of his pocket

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