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Re: Why Would Someone Not Want To Be Close To Their Extended Family? by sgtponzihater1(m): 2:48pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
SavageResponse: I have positioned relatives, but have never felt the need to "identify" with any of them for help. I am content with the most that I have, and that's all that matter to me. I do not need crutches from anyone to make advancement in life. Any true favour does not come from man but from the supreme being. I also have no issue with anyone trying to identify with a successful cousin. Life should be by choice and "per head". No need condemning people's choices or tagging others as "terrible" because their ideologies do not conform to yours. We can all live on our own terms under God's blue sky. All the best 3 Likes |
Re: Why Would Someone Not Want To Be Close To Their Extended Family? by fred04(m): 3:01pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
It happens when your so called extended family doesn't have anything to offer. Nobody wants to associate with parasites |
Re: Why Would Someone Not Want To Be Close To Their Extended Family? by BarrElChapo(m): 3:01pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
mamagee3: Its not by force besides you dont know what their family dynamics are.. P.S. All my paternal cousins are strangers to me, not one would ever get any help from me no matter how little. |
Re: Why Would Someone Not Want To Be Close To Their Extended Family? by JaceBlaze: 3:08pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
I think we all do have those cousins we don't wanna spend too much time around.That one special family gathering where we sit alongside them on a table cracking fake smiles is enough LoL 1 Like |
Re: Why Would Someone Not Want To Be Close To Their Extended Family? by jamislaw(m): 3:26pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
Kentuforchrist:one of my uncle once told me who admitted me to that university that his son wrote Jamb four time without been admitted to the same university. imagine, to be orphan no easy o. just to avoid their trouble shikena |
Re: Why Would Someone Not Want To Be Close To Their Extended Family? by lmm4real: 3:29pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
mamagee3: People are wicked. Let Love Lead. |
Re: Why Would Someone Not Want To Be Close To Their Extended Family? by ToneroInc: 3:30pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
humberjade: If you want your eyes to be opened, read what this person wrote twice. 1 Like |
Re: Why Would Someone Not Want To Be Close To Their Extended Family? by WorldRichest: 3:34pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
saphiere: That's why Bugatti has only two seats. |
Re: Why Would Someone Not Want To Be Close To Their Extended Family? by georgeakins: 3:36pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
People associate with those they can gain something from. That is the new culture among Nigerians. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Would Someone Not Want To Be Close To Their Extended Family? by Maj196(m): 3:42pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
Because they are useless to me all of them ![]() |
Re: Why Would Someone Not Want To Be Close To Their Extended Family? by yungchop: 4:45pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
when the family looks like a competition or when some are celebrated because they are more successful and some are not there yet, then you need to keep your distance. family is overrated. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Would Someone Not Want To Be Close To Their Extended Family? by Lemmy123(m): 4:48pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
My cousins and I share healthy relationships, especially the female ones (no incest intended) but we gist a lot even about intimate topics without feeling out of place... These cousins are relatives from my mother's side. As for Father's side, they have proven to be do irrelevant to us, they've never been useful (No insult intended). But I feel that once in a while, they should pay visit and make themselves known. I once asked a cousin from my dad's side for a job and his response was not the usual complain of no job, rather he was comparing the job situation of his children to mine, I got the background message, since then, I'd rather everyone should be on their own... 2 Likes |
Re: Why Would Someone Not Want To Be Close To Their Extended Family? by mamagee3(f): 4:53pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
My post finally made the front page after so long. ![]() ![]() |
Re: Why Would Someone Not Want To Be Close To Their Extended Family? by Richthekid: 5:21pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
Family drama |
Re: Why Would Someone Not Want To Be Close To Their Extended Family? by Wolfeye: 6:07pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
Herrmes: Yup. It does |
Re: Why Would Someone Not Want To Be Close To Their Extended Family? by Nobody: 6:12pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
Lemmy123:its usually like that my moms side are friendly but partenal ppl dem be badbelle ppl |
Re: Why Would Someone Not Want To Be Close To Their Extended Family? by SeriouslySense(m): 6:28pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
very irritating culture. georgeakins: |
Re: Why Would Someone Not Want To Be Close To Their Extended Family? by SeriouslySense(m): 6:36pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
I don't judge anyone, everyone has their own way of seeing this. But from my experiences, Extended families tend to bring their baggage, such as competition, Jealousy or needed attention, but i also gain from them, by learning how to be wiser, intelligent, and more patient. Some Cousins are also unreasonable, especially the way they demand for money, and one should know how to kindly say no. Some extended family have different dispositions, that i don't feel safe or comfortable in their presence, so i keep my distance. Other extended families envy what you have but i over look that, the only extended families i stay away from are the ones who do not show the ability to reason or who seem controlling. hope that helps, thanks for other comments, its illuminating, ![]() ![]() ![]() When your extended family wants to control you through constants manipulations, or would not reason soundly, i.e is always dishonest, then, it is no good. |
Re: Why Would Someone Not Want To Be Close To Their Extended Family? by SeriouslySense(m): 6:54pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
What i am sure about, is that, I don't cut extended family off, i only give a healthy space, for sanity sake and out of respect. I appreciate any family with good reasoning and who has self respect. I appreciate those who made one a better person, even though they may not realize it, also those who make one grow, i can never abandon them even when they are poor. ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: Why Would Someone Not Want To Be Close To Their Extended Family? by Lemmy123(m): 8:39pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
brainmax2000:I swear |
Re: Why Would Someone Not Want To Be Close To Their Extended Family? by telkevog(m): 10:50pm On Apr 25, 2021 |
mamagee3:constellations my baby |
Re: Why Would Someone Not Want To Be Close To Their Extended Family? by IMASTEX: 7:54am On Apr 26, 2021 |
saphiere:Exactly, the country has created limited opportunities for only the smart working ones. Thus expanding your circle without care will attract more responsibilities especially from those with sense of entitlement. 1 Like |
Re: Why Would Someone Not Want To Be Close To Their Extended Family? by IMASTEX: 7:55am On Apr 26, 2021 |
saphiere:Exactly, the country has created limited opportunities for only the smart working ones. Thus expanding your circle without care will attract more responsibilities especially from those with sense of entitlement. Other factors, could also be dispute within the families either from the parents or the cousins themselves. |
Re: Why Would Someone Not Want To Be Close To Their Extended Family? by Tundex911: 3:07pm On Apr 26, 2021 |
Maybe see finish Smh |
Re: Why Would Someone Not Want To Be Close To Their Extended Family? by evioke(m): 4:54pm On Apr 26, 2021 |
LORDKing001:Lol |
Re: Why Would Someone Not Want To Be Close To Their Extended Family? by Herrmes: 1:11am On Apr 27, 2021 |
Wolfeye:aight. good looking. |
Re: Why Would Someone Not Want To Be Close To Their Extended Family? by stacyadams: 1:01pm On Apr 27, 2021 |
JaceBlaze: Haha after d fake smile,backstabbing and gossip continue ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Why Would Someone Not Want To Be Close To Their Extended Family? by JaceBlaze: 1:51pm On Apr 27, 2021 |
stacyadams: Yup,especially those cousins who never achieved much in life...very conniving set of people. |
Re: Why Would Someone Not Want To Be Close To Their Extended Family? by TMKsouth: 2:05pm On Apr 27, 2021 |
JaceBlaze: Huh Jace, how mean? ![]() ![]() Anyway, I also think we all have uncles you always have to buy beer for ![]() |
Re: Why Would Someone Not Want To Be Close To Their Extended Family? by JaceBlaze: 2:43pm On Apr 27, 2021 |
TMKsouth: Isn't it the truth though? I know people who avoid being around their cousins because of the reasons I just mentioned. I know right? ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Why Would Someone Not Want To Be Close To Their Extended Family? by TMKsouth: 3:12pm On Apr 27, 2021 |
JaceBlaze: Lol ![]() Yoh, the jealous cousins thing, I haven't noticed it with my cousins but I know some of them don't get along but I never get involved. Although I'm in the news business, I'm actually not very nosy - can u believe? ![]() Askies maan, that you've got some nasty cousins, or where u just being general? |
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