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udoji2021:
hmmmmm

I would have expatiate the more but I will be tagged spiritualist.

The grace of God is sufficient for you bro.


Next time a lady is desperate for marriage especially without any reasonable source of income in this harse economy becareful.

You are not financially okay to take care of yourself, you went ahead to marry. What's wrong with people sef
How do you intend to care for the wife and child?
God! We are our problem in this country nitori oloun. Not bubu.
Please work extra hard and quit complaining.

Righteousness2:
Calm Down bro..
According to you, she changed after Pregnancy.
Just see it like the things that come with pregnancy. Some ladies could be very unbecoming when they are pregnant.
So stay calm and do the best you can.

pls sir,are you righteousness89?

Nnamebuka:
Kindly drop the number and bank. Don't include your name it'll automatically pick it up.
And if you get the alert just comment "seen"

You can send it here.

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udoji2021:
suspect

how sir, if you read through my previous posts, you will understand that she stop going to the farm since even before the pregnancy was 3months. and I never meant she should be following me to the farm but at least she can cook and keep for me cos I'm usually tired when I'm back.

I swear to God, I can never beat someone's daughter talkless of the one I didn't even pay a dime on her head. trust me brother, all I want from her is her understanding and above all, she should stop hitting me as if I'm a kid.

You write eloquently for someone who is in want and penury. I didn't expect a reply to my comment, least of all from you, which strongly suggests that you are probably not who you claim you be. Noone is that jobless.

I won't bother with your fictitious story and tales anymore. You are obviously having the time of your life. Take the compliments but next time, do a little research before you weave your next web of lies.

chelsea04:
atimes before u make any move aknowledge God. That woman is bigger than u and she can be married spiritually. Go and ask her parent who truely she is, for her actions changing so sudden and of the truth u are afraid of her that was why i said she is stronger than u spiritually dont go to prayer huz u will make the matter worst go to God in prayer start praying night around 12 to discover who she is but be wise.

This person is saying something.

People talking of change due to pregnancy hiss might not understand the extent of what you're talking about.

God help you

udoji2021:
Life is sweet generally but can be cruel to others.

I was once a happy guy with a bright future but marriage is practically killing me. It all started when I become sick and was admitted in a hospital. my aged mother was the person staying with me and was responsible for my everything. inside the ward, another patient was with this very beautiful girl that was very hard working, my condition was critical that my mother will have to bath me sometimes, this girl now started helping my mother and to a point, my mother will leave her to be taking care of me and go home.

I become close to her, but i use to think that she just pity my condition and wanted to help so I did not think of having any relationship with her. I was later discharge and went home but since we exchange our contacts earlier, we use to talk often. I asked her one day to visit me which she agreed. To my surprise, this girl brought some provision for me and slept over in my house. she continue visiting till one day, I told her that if i was strong and capable, I would have loved to date her. she confessed instantly that she was really interested in me and did not care about my condition. According to her, she was born in a poor family and can handle the pressure of been broke, that she will be the happiest person if I love her back the way she loves me. I was moved with her words and to cut the story short, we started dating.

Her parents were highly against the relationship initially but when they become tired of us, they allow us to do our thing but never involve them if something happened. fast to December last year, we got married. I was not even able to pay 1h to her parents. she just pack her things and join me in my house. we were the happiest couple on Earth till things started going north.

First, we agreed to do many things in the farm against hunger next year, we started with melon farm, then groundnut and yams. we were still on this and I must confess that she is hard working but pregnancy came and this girl started misbehaving, she will not follow me to the farm again and will not even cook for me. I dare not complain cos she will insult me seriously. sometimes, I will tell my sister to cook but this girl will not eat it because the food is bad.

One night, she sent me out of the room in the night that I must get bananas for her to eat. I suffered that night till I got it from one woman on credit cos I was not having money on me. last month, she was sick and visited one private clinic, I was to give her 10k for her treatment but did not have the money so I told her to give me 4days to look for it, there was no insult I did not receive that night. I have to sell my yam seeds and pay. infact, I'm tired of this life presently cos i use to think that she will help me but the reverse is the case now.

Please I need advice on the way forward, I want to run away from home but she is pregnant, her people refused to help us too cos they warned her before.

pls advice me

I think she is just frustrated and pregnancy is also another factor. Just ask God to provide you with what you need to take care of your family. It is never easy with women and again you weren’t in the best place to marry at the time. Just pray bro and i think the lady really likes you cus normally ie hard now to see a girl willing to settle with a broke guy so don’t give up on her.

udoji2021:
That was my plan but the pregnancy is just 5months. Thinking of how to endure it for long is what will actually kill me. She can be violent sometimes and start hitting me. Infact, i think she is possesed by something recently cos her actions are NOT normal

Exactly what I was thinking after I read your first post.
Somethings are spiritual matters but ungodly/carnal people will never understand that.

Either spirit husband or Someone from her family side must have done something against your marriage . If you didn't know how to pray, you have to start praying. Go to a powerful ministry.
I highly recommend The Lord's Chosen Charismatic Revival Ministry

Search for our branch church and ask if there are any close to where you live. Start presenting your matter to God. There are plenty people God of Chosen has delivered from this kind of spiritual bondage and attack. It shall be well with you in Jesus name.

You never see anything, mine is constant nagging I almost sent her away yesterday, after some minutes when her eyes don clear she will start begging me with sex and all sorts of I love you. Na to just dey calm and persevere.

udoji2021:
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Is his name Shadrach?

Kyle, you haven't encountered any woman approaching her 30's that is so desperate for marriage, at that point, my brother, their target it to lure any available man for marriage especially when most of her folks are married. Whether the person is rich or poor , it not their concern that period. it is after the marriage that they will coded reveal to you their mission. Don't take any woman for granted, they may not have physical strength but they are spirituality stronger than men.

Kylce042:
I think she is just frustrated and pregnancy is also another factor. Just ask God to provide you with what you need to take care of your family. It is never easy with women and again you weren’t in the best place to marry at the time. Just pray bro and i think the lady really likes you cus normally ie hard now to see a girl willing to settle with a broke guy so don’t give up on her.

Nnamebuka:
Is his name Shadrach?

yes

udoji2021:
Life is sweet generally but can be cruel to others.

I was once a happy guy with a bright future but marriage is practically killing me. It all started when I become sick and was admitted in a hospital. my aged mother was the person staying with me and was responsible for my everything. inside the ward, another patient was with this very beautiful girl that was very hard working, my condition was critical that my mother will have to bath me sometimes, this girl now started helping my mother and to a point, my mother will leave her to be taking care of me and go home.

I become close to her, but i use to think that she just pity my condition and wanted to help so I did not think of having any relationship with her. I was later discharge and went home but since we exchange our contacts earlier, we use to talk often. I asked her one day to visit me which she agreed. To my surprise, this girl brought some provision for me and slept over in my house. she continue visiting till one day, I told her that if i was strong and capable, I would have loved to date her. she confessed instantly that she was really interested in me and did not care about my condition. According to her, she was born in a poor family and can handle the pressure of been broke, that she will be the happiest person if I love her back the way she loves me. I was moved with her words and to cut the story short, we started dating.

Her parents were highly against the relationship initially but when they become tired of us, they allow us to do our thing but never involve them if something happened. fast to December last year, we got married. I was not even able to pay 1h to her parents. she just pack her things and join me in my house. we were the happiest couple on Earth till things started going north.

First, we agreed to do many things in the farm against hunger next year, we started with melon farm, then groundnut and yams. we were still on this and I must confess that she is hard working but pregnancy came and this girl started misbehaving, she will not follow me to the farm again and will not even cook for me. I dare not complain cos she will insult me seriously. sometimes, I will tell my sister to cook but this girl will not eat it because the food is bad.

One night, she sent me out of the room in the night that I must get bananas for her to eat. I suffered that night till I got it from one woman on credit cos I was not having money on me. last month, she was sick and visited one private clinic, I was to give her 10k for her treatment but did not have the money so I told her to give me 4days to look for it, there was no insult I did not receive that night. I have to sell my yam seeds and pay. infact, I'm tired of this life presently cos i use to think that she will help me but the reverse is the case now.

Please I need advice on the way forward, I want to run away from home but she is pregnant, her people refused to help us too cos they warned her before.

pls advice me

She is pregnant. A pregnant woman is a different human being. Endure this. After Child birth you will see another her. Pray it is the good one.

udoji2021:
Life is sweet generally but can be cruel to others.

I was once a happy guy with a bright future but marriage is practically killing me. It all started when I become sick and was admitted in a hospital. my aged mother was the person staying with me and was responsible for my everything. inside the ward, another patient was with this very beautiful girl that was very hard working, my condition was critical that my mother will have to bath me sometimes, this girl now started helping my mother and to a point, my mother will leave her to be taking care of me and go home.

I become close to her, but i use to think that she just pity my condition and wanted to help so I did not think of having any relationship with her. I was later discharge and went home but since we exchange our contacts earlier, we use to talk often. I asked her one day to visit me which she agreed. To my surprise, this girl brought some provision for me and slept over in my house. she continue visiting till one day, I told her that if i was strong and capable, I would have loved to date her. she confessed instantly that she was really interested in me and did not care about my condition. According to her, she was born in a poor family and can handle the pressure of been broke, that she will be the happiest person if I love her back the way she loves me. I was moved with her words and to cut the story short, we started dating.

Her parents were highly against the relationship initially but when they become tired of us, they allow us to do our thing but never involve them if something happened. fast to December last year, we got married. I was not even able to pay 1h to her parents. she just pack her things and join me in my house. we were the happiest couple on Earth till things started going north.

First, we agreed to do many things in the farm against hunger next year, we started with melon farm, then groundnut and yams. we were still on this and I must confess that she is hard working but pregnancy came and this girl started misbehaving, she will not follow me to the farm again and will not even cook for me. I dare not complain cos she will insult me seriously. sometimes, I will tell my sister to cook but this girl will not eat it because the food is bad.

One night, she sent me out of the room in the night that I must get bananas for her to eat. I suffered that night till I got it from one woman on credit cos I was not having money on me. last month, she was sick and visited one private clinic, I was to give her 10k for her treatment but did not have the money so I told her to give me 4days to look for it, there was no insult I did not receive that night. I have to sell my yam seeds and pay. infact, I'm tired of this life presently cos i use to think that she will help me but the reverse is the case now.

Please I need advice on the way forward, I want to run away from home but she is pregnant, her people refused to help us too cos they warned her before.

pls advice me

oga go and marry second wife.......nobody go tell her to sit up.....

MrPRevailer:
Exactly what I was thinking after I read your first post.
Somethings are spiritual matters but ungodly/carnal people will never understand that.

Either spirit husband or Someone from her family side must have done something against your marriage . If you didn't know how to pray, you have to start praying. Go to a powerful ministry.
I highly recommend The Lord's Chosen Charismatic Revival Ministry

Search for our branch church and ask if there are any close to where you live. Start presenting your matter to God. There are plenty people God of Chosen has delivered from this kind of spiritual bondage and attack. It shall be well with you in Jesus name.

Tell him
I'm just laughing at all the comments above.

Johncuppa:
Tell him
I'm just laughing at all the comments above.

I'm beginning to be interested now. however, the church you mentioned is not close me. any suggestions??

udoji2021:
I'm beginning to be interested now. however, the church you mentioned is not close me. any suggestions??

Go to my profile and send me email message. I'll give you a Chosen pastor's no. to call

Fake Fake Fake

udoji2021:
yes

Done.

udoji2021:
I'm beginning to be interested now. however, the church you mentioned is not close me. any suggestions??

I'm not a fan of this church though, all I'm trying to say is that this thing is more spiritual than the comments you are reading up there.
And as such, find a solace spiritually to avoid story that might be worse. If it be possible, stay clear from sex with her to avoid backwardness and more financial setback.
God help you

Oga read your comment again and judge yourself. I have encountered pregnant women and heard some of their wired behaviours but I didn't hear that their husbands had to be bloodly bruised and attacked brutally before 9 months. Nawa oh, people giving their fellow humans advice that they themselves cannot take. Nonsense and Buhari

Misterone:
She is pregnant. A pregnant woman is a different human being. Endure this. After Child birth you will see another her. Pray it is the good one.

Nnamebuka:
Done.

thanks.
pls how much do you send??

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udoji2021:
thanks.

pls how much do you send??

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Moneyboyz:
You never see anything, mine is constant nagging I almost sent her away yesterday, after some minutes when her eyes don clear she will start begging me with sex and all sorts of I love you. Na to just dey calm and persevere.

Sooner or later, you will notice the sex is another injury to your destiny.

As for the parents, their problem is money, infact, all I'm facing now all boils down to money but I can't kill myself to satisfy my wife. At least I'm trying to provide food which has not been easy, I always go to any length including borrowing and begging people just to satisfy her but all my efforts are not enough to calm her down. she bite my finger this evening and till now I don't have money to even buy cotton wool to cover it. I can't go to the farm again with this hand. How then did she expect me to prepare well for the future without me going to the farm?

I'm saying this simply but true, I feel like killing myself cos my life is just messed up[/quote]do not be let down by this incident. A probelm shared, is a probelm solved Take it to the LORD in prayer, share your probelm with JESUS , he would procure a solution to it, the devil is at work, so don't be suprised. My advice for you is to be PRAYERFUL, PERSEVERE and never react in anger, for whatsoever done out of anger is a sin.

Nnamebuka:
ch?

God will bless you sir.

I really appreciate this. kindly remove the details I sent earlier sir

DaddyRochie1642:
See why people are always advised especially men to be always be Financially stable before entering into Marriage.

See how this man is Weeping and gnashing his teeth because he didn't listen to logical advise... He probably watched too much Nigerian movies where the queen falls in love with the carpenter or welder and the got married and the lived happily ever after .

Oga I hope that you've now realized and seen that Real life and movies are two different things.

And to make matters worse, the woman is pregnant, how do you plan on taking care of the baby, the woman and yourself?

I tire for this guy oh dem no dey rush enter marriage

Please be patient with her. Pregnancy and childbirth has a way of messing with women's hormones.
This is a phase. It will pass.

She seems to be revolting because she thinks you don't understand her. Do you see the way you said she will not follow you to farm again or cook for you? If this is how you lay your complaints to her, she won't find it funny.

This is not about you. Pregnancy makes some women really tired and these woman can become irritable and difficult if they feel their partner isn't supportive. Being supportive here has nothing to do with money. But has more to do with how much attention you pay to her mental/emotional needs.

Your wife is already stressed and you are the last person who should add to her stress.

One thing I am sure of is that if you handle this situation with tact, you'll be glad you stood by her.

Meanwhile, try and see what you can do to boost your finances, taking care of children no be beans.

Righteousness2:
Calm Down bro..
According to you, she changed after Pregnancy.
Just see it like the things that come with pregnancy. Some ladies could be very unbecoming when they are pregnant.
So stay calm and do the best you can.

This is highly related to what might be happening to her. few ladies do becomes unwelcoming during pregnançy, while some becomes more beautiful. some looks ugly, many became fat. All these are hormonal.
She still loves you, hold to to your queen, feed her more calcium, choice fruit(Banana), burden her with lesser work. Return her misdeed with laugh. She would appreciate you forever and love more after her pregnancy trauma. More importantly, grt more money.

If issue continue after paturition, sit her down to discuss issue. seek marriage counsel. Iree ooo.

Caleb17:
Oga read your comment again and judge yourself. I have encountered pregnant women and heard some of their wired behaviours but I didn't hear that their husbands had to be bloodly bruised and attacked brutally before 9 months. Nawa oh, people giving their fellow humans advice that they themselves cannot take. Nonsense and Buhari

oga you should be the one reading your comment properly. people don't just change overnight. Pregnancy does so many things to a woman. Some women even experience mental breakdown (as in Kolomental). And the OP never mentioned that his wife bruised and attacked him brutally.