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Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by Iamdbull: 8:38pm On May 12, 2021
I moved from Abuja to a popular local town in ogun, I don't want to mention the name, in order to pursue my music career.

First of all let me explain something, sometimes as human beings to keep the spirit healthy you need people superior to you or people of higher value to draw energy from or to draw inspiration or an environment that excite and brings live to you or make you alive.

Now that's the problem am facing currently, there are no too many well to do young people in my environment, I can decide to stroll from one street to another and like 10 people would have begged me for money, I went to chicken & co ( it's a fast food outlet like kfc or chicken republic) and I was stopped and harassed by police just because I bought food at a fast food joint. They were asking me what I do for a living. What saved me that day was that I was dressed in some faded clothes, i can't dress nicely because everyone will start hailing and begging me for money and as an introvert I hate unnecessary attention, the ones that don't beg for money will try and engage one in some meaningless side talks that will lower your I.Q.

The ones that are okay are Yahoo boys and I can't relate with them. It's really getting depressing, I can't remember when last have had a highly intellectual conversation. Everyone just seems so rigid and unexposed and it's tiring. I am not really sound and exposed myself now imagine people reducing the little I.Q I have. It's so depressing.

Naturally you Will expect me to move from there but the nearest place is Lagos which will have to be on island because I hate noisy environment and you know how expensive that will be. Am so tired and fed up

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by doggedfighter(f): 8:39pm On May 12, 2021
Move to Oshogbo.

Steady light, quiet and peace of mind.

Or you can brave Lagos.

And see if you will blend in their madness and smells.

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by Nobody: 8:40pm On May 12, 2021
What made you settle for Ogun of all places in the first place?

Anyways there are nice and affordable places in Lagos on the mainland that are equally cool like the island. If you're interested you can get a cool selfcon for 400k to 650k. The place is very central and exposed. You'll love it!

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by Omihanifa: 8:45pm On May 12, 2021
Everyone knows you are talking about ijebu ode grin

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by alpharoyalty: 8:46pm On May 12, 2021
There are places that are not noisy in Lagos, it also depends on the house you live in. Look for a good area in Lagos and move to save yourself from unnecessary stress. Life is too short. Lagos is okay.

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by Weneda(m): 8:47pm On May 12, 2021
This ur story is funny sha. Some places are like that, just ignore them or leave that place before u start having that mindset. But i will advice you to change environment. Places like Ogbomosho, Enugu, Awka ifite( school environment) etc. needs to be explored

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by Iamdbull: 8:59pm On May 12, 2021
doggedfighter:
Move to Oshogbo.

Steady light, quiet and peace of mind.

Or you can brave Lagos.

And see if you will blend in their madness and smells.

Really, but I heard it's full of gee boys

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by Iamdbull: 9:00pm On May 12, 2021
Weneda:
This ur story is funny sha. Some places are like that, just ignore them or leave that place before u start having that mindset. But i will advice to change environment. Places like Ogbomosho, Enugu, Awka ifite( school environment) etc. needs to be explored
I use to ignore but getting bored and lonely and u don't want to move back to student area, the difference between me and students is becoming too large for me relate with them very well

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by Iamdbull: 9:01pm On May 12, 2021
alpharoyalty:
There are places that are not noisy in Lagos, it also depends on the house you live in. Look for a good area in Lagos and move to save yourself from unnecessary stress. Life is too short. Lagos is okay.
But it's too difficult securing apartment in lagos

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by Iamdbull: 9:02pm On May 12, 2021
CharisEleos:
What made you settle for Ogun of all places in the first place?

Anyways there are nice and affordable places in Lagos on the mainland that are equally cool like the island. If you're interested you can get a cool selfcon for 400k to 650k. The place is very central and very eposed. You'll love it!

See as u mention the money like say na small change, its not as if I can't afford it but then I will have to empty all the little savings I get and before I know it 1 year don pass and am left with nothing, if things don't work as planned in lagos

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by Iamdbull: 9:04pm On May 12, 2021
Omihanifa:
Everyone knows you are talking about ijebu ode grin
Chaiii no be me talk am ooo. Do you reside there?

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by Nobody: 9:06pm On May 12, 2021
Iamdbull:

See as u mention the money like say na small change, its not as if I can't afford it but then I will have to empty all the little savings I get and before I know it 1 year don pass and am left with nothing, if things don't work as planned in lagos

Ok

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by GboyegaD(m): 10:49pm On May 12, 2021
My question is what do you do for work? Are there other cool places you could relocate to that you would have great opportunities like your current location?

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by chatinent: 10:49pm On May 12, 2021
Ok o
Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by doggedfighter(f): 10:49pm On May 12, 2021
Iamdbull:

Chaiii no be me talk am ooo. Do you reside there?

Hahahahahahaha, so easy to decode?

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by Ovis1302(m): 11:08pm On May 12, 2021
You moved to the town in question because of your music career.
Why not network with fellow folks who are in the music space with you in that town, that is , joining a professional group or something there.

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by Richy4(m): 4:32am On May 13, 2021
Those people will be the ones to buy your music some day....Because the high class ones with 1000000% IQ will think that what you were singing was noise and a waste of their time....

I do not believe that in a community, all of them were as bad as you mentioned. have you seen a Rose flower before? the body part is surrounded with thorns..Infact it looks ugly... but the great thing is that rose emerged from it...

So look for that Rose boy or girl that you can relate with in everything within that Community...The way you put it, it might be difficult but they are there...And as for those boys you think knows nothing, they will come handy someday....You will need them... and you will be surprised based on what they know and how they will help....When you remove the "Johnny just come from oversea" spectacle you are wearing now and see them for real, you might be surprised...

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by Ishilove: 8:15am On May 13, 2021
Omihanifa:
Everyone knows you are talking about ijebu ode grin
grin

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by Ishilove: 8:23am On May 13, 2021
It reminds me of my service year. That year was the most miserable year of my short life as, like you I'm an introvert and I couldn't relate with the locals as they were housewives and cocoa farmers who barely spoke English. Other corp members were a bit of a distance from the village where I resided so I was always alone, battling goats and talking aloud to myself. In that village I realized why goats are called 'stubborn', was toasted by almost every walking male, and of course, for the first time discovered it would be very easy to have multiple boyfriends. I however did not choose that kind of dirty life so I endured intense loneliness.

You have to change your environment because you will be miserable. Don't bother looking for who you can relate with, just change your environment. Change it!!! I speak from experience. Change it!!! I cannot speak English too much. CHANGE IT!!!!!!!!

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by pocohantas(f): 8:41am On May 13, 2021
Apart from Lagos, other SW states (and their capitals) are very slow-paced. You go there for ease of life, not to meet Einsteins on the street. So I wouldn’t know what you were thinking when you relocated to one. Except of course you are working or in school, what did you think was your chances of having stimulating discussions with random locals?

Please enjoy your “IJ” abode.

By the way, musician isn’t a “job”. I’ll rather marry an Okrika seller than an artiste, because for every Zlatan/Bella Schmurda, there are a million that didn’t blow. You can move to Lagos mainland and look for a skill or business to do while pursuing your musical career. Else you’ll keep running in circles.

Pursue music career in a remote SW town? Na FUJI you dey sing?

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by Froshloaded: 8:50am On May 13, 2021
Lmao

This is obviously Ijebu-ode grin
The chicken and co gave it out grin

Omihanifa:
Everyone knows you are talking about ijebu ode grin

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by iconnecta(m): 8:54am On May 13, 2021
this is serious oo
Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by mbahdi(m): 8:54am On May 13, 2021
Even we at dis extreme can't even help ourselves talk more of helping others.so help yourself guy man.naija today na oyo
Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by SouthSouth1914: 8:54am On May 13, 2021
You want to have intellectual conversations and you moved to an unknown town in ogun.. !!

Before you moved, I am sure you never put into consideration for intellectual conversations, nor notify anyone!

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by Afam4eva(m): 8:55am On May 13, 2021
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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by BigDawsNet: 8:55am On May 13, 2021
You don't have any contact in high ranking force in Nigeria?


When the cops harraz u just pick you phone and call your people...

They will let you move on as long as you are legit and not a criminal

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by ecomalchemist(m): 8:55am On May 13, 2021
move out now

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by Investtorr: 8:55am On May 13, 2021
Leave that place nigga...

You can come to Bauchi or even some northern state where livelyhood is least expensive and people there are well exposed.....

Places like Kaduna, Kano...

Nobody go harass you there...

Yahoo boys dey move around anyhow for those Northern states....
Asin they dress how they like nobody go tell you shit

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by Skillsnigeria: 8:55am On May 13, 2021
hmmm, dumb people plenty for NIGERIA.

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by Nobody: 8:55am On May 13, 2021
Iamdbull:
I moved from Abuja to a popular local town in ogun, I don't want to mention the name, in order to pursue my music career.

First of all let me explain something, sometimes as human beings to keep the spirit healthy you need people superior to you or people of higher value to draw energy from or to draw inspiration or an environment that excite and brings live to you or make you alive.

Now that's the problem am facing currently, there are no too many well to do young people in my environment, I can decide to stroll from one street to another and like 10 people would have begged me for money, I went to chicken & co ( it's a fast food outlet like kfc or chicken republic) and I was stopped and harassed by police just because I bought food at a fast food joint. They were asking me what I do for a living. What saved me that day was that I was dressed in some faded clothes, i can't dress nicely because everyone will start hailing and begging me for money and as an introvert I hate unnecessary attention, the ones that don't beg for money will try and engage one in some meaningless side talks that will lower your I.Q.

The ones that are okay are Yahoo boys and I can't relate with them. It's really getting depressing, I can't remember when last have had a highly intellectual conversation. Everyone just seems so rigid and unexposed and it's tiring. I am not really sound and exposed myself now imagine people reducing the little I.Q I have. It's so depressing.

Naturally you Will expect me to move from there but the nearest place is Lagos which will have to be on island because I hate noisy environment and you know how expensive that will be. Am so tired and fed up

Saw the line of being an introvert and It all made sense...

Get into a forum of introverts and you just might find solitude and ideas sharing for quiet and deep thinkers.. you might find same minds like you in that environment.

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by Authortee: 8:55am On May 13, 2021
Then move to Lagos, Ogun has too many poor people and undeveloped human capital; and the government isn't even doing much good to change this situation -- what the state need is massive infrastructure to bring in more investors, but Ive given up on the state. Relocate bro!

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