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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by RSVP: 9:14am On May 13, 2021
it seems you have alot of time to play around with and that makes me wanna question what exactly you do for work.

If you're a full time artist which I definitely doubt then you should be around your folks in same industry and not one local village for farmers or student who doesn't have much choice.

If I should picture your lifestyle according to what you put out here then I would say you're also one of the few coded yahoo boi that doesn't like too much attention. Perhaps you have few money stacked in your account and you willing to promote your career with it but your problem is you trying to deassociate yourself with those fellow guy man that would bore you with lots of smoking, girls and irrelevant talk so you need to upgrade youself but unluckily you choose the wrong location my broda.. if you don't move out of there real quick then you might become their community baale very soon which is still a good thing .
At least you can organize shows free of charge grin

the only serious minded people I've came across with a decent figure of IQ level are young working class guys. You know all dus 7 to 7 type of guys but they don't have your time bro.

So I will suggest you move to Lagos. I think that Ogba area will fit your type well or gather yourself and travel out of naija where your dream matches your environment cheesy

Enter beta place for Lagos make you see watxup... Dem go put you on high key ur head go scatter.

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by amstamon: 9:15am On May 13, 2021
Froshloaded:
Lmao

This is obviously Ijebu-ode grin
The chicken and co gave it out grin






Is it finiky or Finiki grin
Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by Whobedatte(m): 9:16am On May 13, 2021
Investtorr:
Leave that place nigga...

You can come to Bauchi or even some northern state where livelyhood is least expensive and people there are well exposed.....

Places like Kaduna, Kano...

Nobody go harass you there...

Yahoo boys dey move around anyhow for those Northern states....
Asin they dress how they like nobody go tell you shit
Bauchi ,Kano are out of it please
Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by southpole: 9:17am On May 13, 2021
I live in Ikoyi, but I must tell you there is no city like Abuja in this country, it is only in Abuja you meet so many people with high degree of intelligent from different parts of the Country, other towns and cities in Nigeria are occupied by people with localized awareness.

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by Patozorinzo: 9:17am On May 13, 2021
Op, I don't think you have much problem. While searching for a better location, I think the best thing you need to do now is look for a good studio and spend much of your time there. Be friends with the producer. From there you'll meet people (artists) with the same ambition as you (not neccessary the same i.q but same passion for music)

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by Cryptodegen: 9:17am On May 13, 2021
Iamdbull:
I moved from Abuja to a popular local town in ogun, I don't want to mention the name, in order to pursue my music career.

First of all let me explain something, sometimes as human beings to keep the spirit healthy you need people superior to you or people of higher value to draw energy from or to draw inspiration or an environment that excite and brings live to you or make you alive.

Now that's the problem am facing currently, there are no too many well to do young people in my environment, I can decide to stroll from one street to another and like 10 people would have begged me for money, I went to chicken & co ( it's a fast food outlet like kfc or chicken republic) and I was stopped and harassed by police just because I bought food at a fast food joint. They were asking me what I do for a living. What saved me that day was that I was dressed in some faded clothes, i can't dress nicely because everyone will start hailing and begging me for money and as an introvert I hate unnecessary attention, the ones that don't beg for money will try and engage one in some meaningless side talks that will lower your I.Q.

The ones that are okay are Yahoo boys and I can't relate with them. It's really getting depressing, I can't remember when last have had a highly intellectual conversation. Everyone just seems so rigid and unexposed and it's tiring. I am not really sound and exposed myself now imagine people reducing the little I.Q I have. It's so depressing.

Naturally you Will expect me to move from there but the nearest place is Lagos which will have to be on island because I hate noisy environment and you know how expensive that will be. Am so tired and fed up

If you think you are better than everyone else in that community then you have a low IQ. you said you are an introvert and that may be the problem and not the environment

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by iamclime(m): 9:18am On May 13, 2021
Eze2000:



Pls name me a few of these places I'm interested. So tired of the chaos in my part of Lagos. I wanna move desperately
You go like come Badagry! Peace and quiet, to a great extent.
Don't worry about the road, it's improving.

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by Blackdisciple(m): 9:20am On May 13, 2021
I moved from Abuja to a popular local town in ogun, I don't want to mention the name, in order to pursue my music career.

See you ...

Better move out of that place.

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by Nobody: 9:21am On May 13, 2021
Bruh! Lemme tell you one thing.
It was once said by a psychologist that when an enlightened person lives or dwells with people who he has exploring qualities than, they will lure you sociologically, mentality to eventually make you become degraded intellectually like them. Jakpa while you can.
You may even find their pathetic discussion and voices irritative

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by IBreakRules: 9:24am On May 13, 2021
Esseite:


Saw the line of being an introvert and It all made sense...

Get into a forum of introverts and you just might find solitude and ideas sharing for quiet and deep thinkers.. you might find same minds like you in that environment.

Have any forum you can introduce me to?
Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by mamaafrik(m): 9:24am On May 13, 2021
Go and rent apartment close to ShopRite ikeja and thank me later
Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by hustla(m): 9:25am On May 13, 2021
doggedfighter:
Move to Oshogbo.

Steady light, quiet and peace of mind.

Or you can brave Lagos.

And see if you will blend in their madness and smells.

Best advice

Or he should goto Abeokuta.. Find one nice GRA there.. Finish

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by hustla(m): 9:27am On May 13, 2021
Iamdbull:
I moved from Abuja to a popular local town in ogun, I don't want to mention the name, in order to pursue my music career.

First of all let me explain something, sometimes as human beings to keep the spirit healthy you need people superior to you or people of higher value to draw energy from or to draw inspiration or an environment that excite and brings live to you or make you alive.

Now that's the problem am facing currently, there are no too many well to do young people in my environment, I can decide to stroll from one street to another and like 10 people would have begged me for money, I went to chicken & co ( it's a fast food outlet like kfc or chicken republic) and I was stopped and harassed by police just because I bought food at a fast food joint. They were asking me what I do for a living. What saved me that day was that I was dressed in some faded clothes, i can't dress nicely because everyone will start hailing and begging me for money and as an introvert I hate unnecessary attention, the ones that don't beg for money will try and engage one in some meaningless side talks that will lower your I.Q.

The ones that are okay are Yahoo boys and I can't relate with them. It's really getting depressing, I can't remember when last have had a highly intellectual conversation. Everyone just seems so rigid and unexposed and it's tiring. I am not really sound and exposed myself now imagine people reducing the little I.Q I have. It's so depressing.

Naturally you Will expect me to move from there but the nearest place is Lagos which will have to be on island because I hate noisy environment and you know how expensive that will be. Am so tired and fed up


Move to Abeokuta or Osogbo

Find one GRA rent... Its cheap

Infact, na you go dey beg people to visit you cos no one go send you
Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by Zizicomm: 9:27am On May 13, 2021
Funminded:


Since I arrived IB, I de bored o. Shey you go help my life?

What do you do sir/ma?
Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by Emperor88(m): 9:30am On May 13, 2021
At Op I can feel your pain. I also relocated to Mowe, Ogun state resently after living my whole life in Lagos and it was like a suicide decision. Too religuous, too hypocritical and very boring place...power supply is the worse I have ever experienced, recreational activities are almost zero, the ladies are not exposed and.the guysI just cant relate cuz of their low IQ....@OP my advice is just for you to adapt gradually, as an artiste find the best club, DJ's around that arear and if possible a music producer that can help you settle down faster and don't forget to always meditate and don't lose your worth trying to bring your level down and last last na Lagos you go still end up...the worse arear in Lagos is better than any where in other part of south west.

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by nams77: 9:33am On May 13, 2021
Richy4:
Those people will be the ones to buy your music some day....Because the high class ones with 1000000% IQ will think that what you were singing was noise and a waste of their time....

I do not believe that in a community, all of them were as bad as you mentioned. have you seen a Rose flower before? the body part is surrounded with thorns..Infact it looks ugly... but the great thing is that rose emerged from it...

So look for that Rose boy or girl that you can relate with in everything within that Community...The way you put it, it might be difficult but they are there...And as for those boys you think knows nothing, they will come handy someday....You will need them... and you will be surprised based on what they know and how they will help....When you remove the "Johnny just come from oversea" spectacle you are wearing now and see them for real, you might be surprised...
You are right. It will be difficult to find his type but they exist
I have experienced same thing with op. I moved somewhere due to some engagement and it was really frustrating! I was do lonely. I missed my former hood badly.
I later discovered that the neighborhood laundry guy was someone who has traveled vastly and very exposed. He worked as a seaman before and had even lived in Libya at a time.
We do sit together and discuss politics and sundry. He is a bit younger than me but who cares. He enjoys my company too because he gets to get current gist and happenings on the global stage.
I'm planning to relocate now before my ambition and drive is stunted grin

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by DavidEsq(m): 9:34am On May 13, 2021
Ishilove:
It reminds me of my service year. That year was the most miserable year of my short life as, like you I'm an introvert and I couldn't relate with the locals as they were housewives and cocoa farmers who barely spoke English. Other corp members were a bit of a distance from the village where I resided so I was always alone, battling goats and talking aloud to myself. In that village I realized why goats are called 'stubborn', was toasted by almost every walking male, and of course, for the first time discovered it would be very easy to have multiple boyfriends. I however did not choose that kind of dirty life so I endured intense loneliness.

You have to change your environment because you will be miserable. Don't bother looking for who you can relate with, just change your environment. Change it!!! I speak from experience. Change it!!! I cannot speak English too much. CHANGE IT!!!!!!!!
cheesy grin grin grin angry grin
Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by femi4: 9:35am On May 13, 2021
Iamdbull:
I moved from Abuja to a popular local town in ogun, I don't want to mention the name, in order to pursue my music career.

First of all let me explain something, sometimes as human beings to keep the spirit healthy you need people superior to you or people of higher value to draw energy from or to draw inspiration or an environment that excite and brings live to you or make you alive.

Now that's the problem am facing currently, there are no too many well to do young people in my environment, I can decide to stroll from one street to another and like 10 people would have begged me for money, I went to chicken & co ( it's a fast food outlet like kfc or chicken republic) and I was stopped and harassed by police just because I bought food at a fast food joint. They were asking me what I do for a living. What saved me that day was that I was dressed in some faded clothes, i can't dress nicely because everyone will start hailing and begging me for money and as an introvert I hate unnecessary attention, the ones that don't beg for money will try and engage one in some meaningless side talks that will lower your I.Q.

The ones that are okay are Yahoo boys and I can't relate with them. It's really getting depressing, I can't remember when last have had a highly intellectual conversation. Everyone just seems so rigid and unexposed and it's tiring. I am not really sound and exposed myself now imagine people reducing the little I.Q I have. It's so depressing.

Naturally you Will expect me to move from there but the nearest place is Lagos which will have to be on island because I hate noisy environment and you know how expensive that will be. Am so tired and fed up
Come to lasgidi. ... oppression and depression will chase you away
Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by atonement12: 9:39am On May 13, 2021
"will try and engage one in some meaningless side talks that will lower your I.Q. "- cheesy
Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by dehiero: 9:41am On May 13, 2021
Buhari:
Ogun is not bad at all as painted. Serenity is in the capital city. You can give me a dm. There are lot of intelligent and well to do people here. Ogun capital city is like a hub for who is who so you have to understand the environment and get along the real social class and go to right places.
Suggest a good place to settle in ogun
Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by jieta: 9:41am On May 13, 2021
JeffSiberstein:
Move to Abraka, Delta State. University environment, rich teenagers, nobody will beg you for money and you can engage in intellectual arguments. Your I.Q will improve because when you see your age mates building their own houses you will hustle harder.
I tell you, the mentality of deltans is second to none.
Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by ogbuefi677(m): 9:42am On May 13, 2021
TempUser:
@op has a personality disorder.
I swear.
With electricity, internet,money for alcohol and cigarettes, I can stay indoors for 2 months.
All the company a human needs is in the internet nowadays.
You can be online from morning to night on WhatsApp calls with who you want.
Download and play music nonstop with you small bluetooth speaker,watch your football matches with your phone online.The list is endless

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by Originalsly: 9:42am On May 13, 2021
Maybe I don't get it. Is this wretched place rich in music?... a place where people.start making a name for themselves? .... lots of people into music live here? If not.... why choose here to move your music career? I want to believe you're here because of lowwww rent and not music career. You're not moving because of rent... you don't want to... cannot afford to pay more.

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by dehiero: 9:43am On May 13, 2021
Emperor88:
At Op I can feel your pain. I also relocated to Mowe, Ogun state resently after living my whole life in Lagos and it was like a suicide decision. Too religuous, too hypocritical and very boring place...power supply is the worse I have ever experienced, recreational activities are almost zero, the ladies are not exposed and.the guysI just cant relate cuz of their low IQ....@OP my advice is just for you to adapt gradually, as an artiste find the best club, DJ's around that arear and if possible a music producer that can help you settle down faster and don't forget to always meditate and don't lose your worth trying to bring your level down and last last na Lagos you go still end up...the worse arear in Lagos is better than any where in other part of south west.
How is the security in mowe? Am currently searching for a place there for smbdy
Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by Nobody: 9:47am On May 13, 2021
Ishilove:
It reminds me of my service year. That year was the most miserable year of my short life as, like you I'm an introvert and I couldn't relate with the locals as they were housewives and cocoa farmers who barely spoke English. Other corp members were a bit of a distance from the village where I resided so I was always alone, battling goats and talking aloud to myself. In that village I realized why goats are called 'stubborn', was toasted by almost every walking male, and of course, for the first time discovered it would be very easy to have multiple boyfriends. I however did not choose that kind of dirty life so I endured intense loneliness.

You have to change your environment because you will be miserable. Don't bother looking for who you can relate with, just change your environment. Change it!!! I speak from experience. Change it!!! I cannot speak English too much. CHANGE IT!!!!!!!!
Lol.. battling goats had me rotfl. Abeg ur life no short oo cheesy
Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by Nobody: 9:48am On May 13, 2021
Iamdbull:
I moved from Abuja to a popular local town in ogun, I don't want to mention the name, in order to pursue my music career.

First of all let me explain something, sometimes as human beings to keep the spirit healthy you need people superior to you or people of higher value to draw energy from or to draw inspiration or an environment that excite and brings live to you or make you alive.

Now that's the problem am facing currently, there are no too many well to do young people in my environment, I can decide to stroll from one street to another and like 10 people would have begged me for money, I went to chicken & co ( it's a fast food outlet like kfc or chicken republic) and I was stopped and harassed by police just because I bought food at a fast food joint. They were asking me what I do for a living. What saved me that day was that I was dressed in some faded clothes, i can't dress nicely because everyone will start hailing and begging me for money and as an introvert I hate unnecessary attention, the ones that don't beg for money will try and engage one in some meaningless side talks that will lower your I.Q.

The ones that are okay are Yahoo boys and I can't relate with them. It's really getting depressing, I can't remember when last have had a highly intellectual conversation. Everyone just seems so rigid and unexposed and it's tiring. I am not really sound and exposed myself now imagine people reducing the little I.Q I have. It's so depressing.

Naturally you Will expect me to move from there but the nearest place is Lagos which will have to be on island because I hate noisy environment and you know how expensive that will be. Am so tired and fed up

Welcome to "Nigeria" 85% of the Population of this shiiiithole people are what you described above. It's a Very Tough environment for real Intellectuals like Us. Make plans and get the fuvk outta this hellhole.....

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by 8stargeneral: 9:50am On May 13, 2021
Wetin carry u go Ogun for d first time..Na u just put ur self for such environment,u go a place that will blend with ur career

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by Nobody: 9:51am On May 13, 2021
Nigeria it self is a giant I.Q DRAINER

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by Nobody: 9:51am On May 13, 2021
doggedfighter:
Move to Oshogbo.

Steady light, quiet and peace of mind.

Or you can brave Lagos.

And see if you will blend in their madness and smells.

Lagos Is Super Shiiithole. The worstest place to live on Planet Earth most especially If you are POOR.....

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Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by 001spice: 9:57am On May 13, 2021
doggedfighter:
Move to Oshogbo.

Steady light, quiet and peace of mind.

Or you can brave Lagos.

And see if you will blend in their madness and smells.
Madness and smell kill u there. Imagine this dirty cheap bitch
Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by FarahAideed: 9:57am On May 13, 2021
You are in Ijebu ...
Re: Help!!! My Environment Is Draining Me Psychologically. by 001spice: 10:00am On May 13, 2021
Mr man u r the one that has a prb n nt our evironment

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