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| My Entitled Distant Cousin. Why Are Some People Like This? by PuZZyNegro: 4:34pm On May 21, 2021 |
So, I created a topic the last time about my grand aunt's wife that died. Her burial took place on 13th April, 2021. On 10th April, I sent 20k to the eldest grand son to support the burial. I was surprised when he called me yesterday that he wants to start a new business, that I should send him 30k. Like seriously, someone who isn't that closely related to you gave you 20k, and you're calling the person to request for 30k in such a short time frame? I was angry yesterday that I don't know whether to shout at him and end the call but I kept my cool and told him next month. Definitely the "next month" will never end since he feels I now owe him because I gave him 20k. My elder sister whose husband is even richer gave him 5k and I'm sure my other siblings didn't give him/them any money. Because I benevolently gave him big money, he now thinks I place too much value on him or something. How much do I earn in a month that this guy expects 50k in such a short interval. My elder sister lost her father-in-law and the burial held on 9th May, I also gave her 20k, meaning I gave this guy the same amount that I gave my own blood sister and I know the last thing my sister will do now is to call me to request for money, how much more a 30k. I wonder why people abuse kind gestures and privileges. What's your experience dealing with this type of entitled people without conscience? 3 Likes |
| Re: My Entitled Distant Cousin. Why Are Some People Like This? by Chris525: 4:39pm On May 21, 2021 |
Should have told him your mind instead of coming here to rant. I don’t really understand why you have brought this here. 21 Likes |
| Re: My Entitled Distant Cousin. Why Are Some People Like This? by DaddyRochie1642: 4:45pm On May 21, 2021 |
Chris525: Oga let the man rant in peace joor 21 Likes |
| Re: My Entitled Distant Cousin. Why Are Some People Like This? by DontSuckToto: 4:51pm On May 21, 2021 |
Ok |
| Re: My Entitled Distant Cousin. Why Are Some People Like This? by 3pleDAssistant: 4:57pm On May 21, 2021 |
What if he truly needs the money and he's seeking for help from every available avenue he can get? If you don't have, just tell him. ........... By the way, please check my signature and patronize us for your data. |
| Re: My Entitled Distant Cousin. Why Are Some People Like This? by donbachi(m): 4:59pm On May 21, 2021 |
Give if u have. |
| Re: My Entitled Distant Cousin. Why Are Some People Like This? by Solosolojohquay: 5:02pm On May 21, 2021 |
Don't blame the cousin ,since you gave him 20k he thought 30k won't be your problem to solve his own problem you have to tell him your mind or he will see you as wicked I don't see what is wrong in you telling him your mind unless you can afford the money and didn't want to give him or you look like you can afford it 1 Like |
| Re: My Entitled Distant Cousin. Why Are Some People Like This? by PuZZyNegro: 5:26pm On May 21, 2021 |
Chris525: If I don't rant, how will a goat like you see space to type shiiiit? 5 Likes |
| Re: My Entitled Distant Cousin. Why Are Some People Like This? by PuZZyNegro: 5:26pm On May 21, 2021 |
DaddyRochie1642: Don't mind the hoodlum 2 Likes |
| Re: My Entitled Distant Cousin. Why Are Some People Like This? by PuZZyNegro: 5:29pm On May 21, 2021 |
Solosolojohquay: It's not about affording or not. It's about knowing when to ask. This guy has been living his life. All of a sudden, because I sent him 20k, he now needs 30k. That's absurd. I need the money more than him even if I have it 2 Likes |
| Re: My Entitled Distant Cousin. Why Are Some People Like This? by Richy4(m): 5:49pm On May 21, 2021 |
But I don't really like what u did. You should have told him what you were telling us instead of promising him... The matter would have died down assuming you told him that look buddy.... I gave you so much... My inlaws, one of them passed and I gave so much... now, I can barely feed... FULLSTOP. Now he might be hoping that next month you will be giving him what u promised... and if u don't, it will seem as if u have and u don't want to give... You guys should try and be honest in your dealings. it doesn't take much... 9 Likes
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| Re: My Entitled Distant Cousin. Why Are Some People Like This? by Solosolojohquay: 6:09pm On May 21, 2021 |
The problem with most human is we don't put others into our condition before we judge your cousin is like let me ask him he might give me the person that can afford 20k if I don't ask him now how will I know he won't give me ,give him anything you have or tell him you don't have is not the end of the world |
| Re: My Entitled Distant Cousin. Why Are Some People Like This? by Shellsploit: 6:47pm On May 21, 2021 |
#RantHq |
| Re: My Entitled Distant Cousin. Why Are Some People Like This? by frozen70(f): 8:47pm On May 21, 2021 |
PuZZyNegro: Don't blame them, it's the hardship that caused it If you can freely give 20k to a cousin who is nit that too close to you this hard time, he will assume you have more to give Situations like this, your family should have agreed to give them a certain amount collectively by sharing it among yourselves, by so doing there won't be another request 3 Likes |
| Re: My Entitled Distant Cousin. Why Are Some People Like This? by Chris525: 12:23pm On May 22, 2021 |
First you gave out money you couldnt afford to give, now you have promised money you don't have and you’re talking about goats and shit Dundee United  Tell him you don’t have the money & go about your underwhelming life that has you frustrated because you gave someone 20k & you’re about to lose your mind because same person asked you for 30k. PuZZyNegro: 3 Likes |
| Re: My Entitled Distant Cousin. Why Are Some People Like This? by PuZZyNegro: 1:18pm On May 22, 2021 |
Chris525: Have fun |
| Re: My Entitled Distant Cousin. Why Are Some People Like This? by PuZZyNegro: 1:20pm On May 22, 2021 |
Richy4: Have you heard of "I don't owe you an explanation" before? Actually I don't owe him any explanation. He will use his head to advise himself by the time I gave him excuses two three times. Besides, I didn't tell you that I can barely feed. I don't know what's wrong with people of nairaland that they feel talking down on others or making a jest of everything is the way to make you feel better about yourself? 30k is a money I can easily give out if the person deserves it but not to someone I recently gave money to. 5 Likes |
| Re: My Entitled Distant Cousin. Why Are Some People Like This? by PuZZyNegro: 1:22pm On May 22, 2021 |
frozen70: We're not that closely related that my family will sit down to deliberate on issues regarding them to the level of deciding how much to give them as a family. I did what I did because I felt I could close eyes and do it. I didn't know it is opening myself to more begging |
| Re: My Entitled Distant Cousin. Why Are Some People Like This? by GboyegaD(m): 1:32pm On May 22, 2021 |
Some are insensitive and some are genuine. He might feel you are the answer to the open did he's been praying for. |
| Re: My Entitled Distant Cousin. Why Are Some People Like This? by Richy4(m): 3:32am On May 23, 2021 |
PuZZyNegro: I wasn't talking done on you if that's how you feel..I was just saying what you could have told him so that he can stay on his lane...You were complaining bitterly and was asking how much you were earning for him to demand for money in a short period... Sorry if I mistakenly bruise your big ego oga.. that was not intentional .. I know u owe me no explanation... My apologies... cheers... 1 Like |
| Re: My Entitled Distant Cousin. Why Are Some People Like This? by PuZZyNegro: 8:44am On May 23, 2021 |
Richy4: My ego is bigger than your brain I agree. "I owe you no explanation" if you were not in a haste to quote, you would have known that I was referring to the guy that was asking me for money. |
| Re: My Entitled Distant Cousin. Why Are Some People Like This? by Uyi168: 9:46am On May 23, 2021 |
PuZZyNegro:. You own issues dey your body.. 4 Likes |
| Re: My Entitled Distant Cousin. Why Are Some People Like This? by ibechris(m): 2:08pm On May 23, 2021 |
My brother my case is similar to urs but not actually about burial. Three months ago,i travelled to my village to roof my house without informing my cousins and extended families that I was coming except my mum's younger sister. When I got home,i made sure I was done with what took me down there before I could even called my best friend to inform him that I was around when I was done seeing him and his family,I left to see my aunt. When I got there,there was so much talk regarding her family generally,her children were not taking care of her and barrage of complaints which I felt were beyond my capacity to handle and coupled with the fact that I needed to meet up with travelling back to my base the following day. So,I asked what she wanted to do,she mentioned it and I gave her 100k to support her and that was on 5th,March 2021 while j came down thinking of how to complete my house,I got a call from her asking for another 50k to augment her business. I maintained my calmn and turned the phone to the speaker and my wife heard everything she said and became angered just for that fact that i denied myself of things worth 100k yet she still came for more. Fact is ,this same woman has children of my age and the last born is about 28years of age. My reply to her was that,I will call her the next day and I will never call her again,because so far I have given the sum of 100k 4years ago,50k 2years ago,and this year 100k all because she is my mums sister. Let her own children also give to my mum. That is the problem most givers are facing in this country. 7 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: My Entitled Distant Cousin. Why Are Some People Like This? by PuZZyNegro: 9:19pm On May 23, 2021 |
Uyi168: I should mean you? |
| Re: My Entitled Distant Cousin. Why Are Some People Like This? by PuZZyNegro: 9:22pm On May 23, 2021 |
ibechris: I have much more similar experience to share but for the hypocritical nature of people on here. |
| Re: My Entitled Distant Cousin. Why Are Some People Like This? by VTJN(m): 11:18am On May 24, 2021 |
Richy4:He wasn't referring to you He meant he doesn't owe his distant cousin any explanation, not you |
| Re: My Entitled Distant Cousin. Why Are Some People Like This? by Richy4(m): 11:36am On May 24, 2021 |
VTJN: Thank you buddy |
| Re: My Entitled Distant Cousin. Why Are Some People Like This? by merieam16(f): 7:58pm On May 24, 2021 |
3pleDAssistant:abi o....never promise what you cant fulfill |
| Re: My Entitled Distant Cousin. Why Are Some People Like This? by armyofone(m): 8:56pm On May 24, 2021 |
| abi! Rant on bo ranting is good. One can only rant at Nigerian entitlement mentality. DaddyRochie1642: |
| Re: My Entitled Distant Cousin. Why Are Some People Like This? by Tony142: 7:16am On May 25, 2021 |
PuZZyNegro: They take those that give easily for granted, and respect those that hardly give Even if u give him the 30k, trust me he will still come back to beg u more money with some stupid excuse and emotional stories Moral lesson: be stingy |
| Re: My Entitled Distant Cousin. Why Are Some People Like This? by Evacroft: 8:04am On May 25, 2021 |
PuZZyNegro: It is a thing of the mind ,and a bad one at that. Some pple put u on a payroll every month for their upkeep. Sometimes even asking you money for naming ceremony. I can't even call my parents or siblings for money, except it is almost live and death situation. We all know the country is hard on most pple nowadays. Also he's been surviving before u came around. If u can afford it give him and tell him your mind so as to avoid next month payroll cos he's coming back. 1 Like |
| Re: My Entitled Distant Cousin. Why Are Some People Like This? by PuZZyNegro: 7:42pm On May 25, 2021 |
Tony142: Bro, I don't give easily. I gave him that lump sum amount because they had a burial ceremony but he mistook my gesture so I need to make him understand that there's no free lunch anywhere, not even my siblings can give me nor request from me in such quick succession unless in crucial and critical cases. 1 Like 1 Share |
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