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Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Casalindal(f): 10:11am On May 26, 2021
Hassanmaye:

What do you mean they share A bond


There are special bond people share with their friend. I will like to think that was what my comments was referring to.

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Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Casalindal(f): 10:12am On May 26, 2021
Fiscus105:



I did not pity you o, but the guy you called ur husband


You don’t have to pity my husband uncle... he is more enlightened and bright, Chanel that pity on yourself
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Casalindal(f): 10:12am On May 26, 2021
kingreign:

This comment came out of a known troll.


Your mother is a troll
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Casalindal(f): 10:14am On May 26, 2021
summerflame:


Feminist and oloshos are really multiplying daily on nairaland.. u go read some comment and e go be like say some people think with the hole in between their legs..

Useless farming tool (hoes that ain't loyal)

I would not share words with you. You this thing!!!!
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by kingreign(m): 10:14am On May 26, 2021
Casalindal:



My mother is a public dog
Oh you don't mean it?
No wonder. A dog gives birth to a dog.
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by blahc007: 10:15am On May 26, 2021
ABANGWABOI:



You are just a sissy boy ..
grin grin grin I have dated both young and old.. bedded even your mother's mates..
And everyone that has been in this game for decades knows that the younger the better..
Your lack of common Sense is so glaring..

Is like you gain strength when you insult people's mother...i have mentioned you twice here without the word mother appearing on any...
Well, maybe that's how you gain balance when you are loose guarding...

When I called you a kid....shey u think say na insult...
Low Confidence, low self-esteem, wanting to be heard even when you make zero sense, hauling insults, etc....these have I observed in you boy...go work on yourself....you got a long way to go....
Hear the words of the elders...maka na okwu onye okenye anaghi ada n'aja
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by amadaovie(m): 10:16am On May 26, 2021
I think OP was just obsessed about the babe from the onset and thinks the bestie was in his way to capture the girl. So he hurriedly married the babe at that immature age of 22 thinking he has finally hit the jackpot only to be disappointed in the end.


Verdict:
OP hurriedly married the babe out of jealousy of the relationship between his now wife and the bestie and it is just backfiring.

SHE WILL CONTINUE FUCKING THE BESTIE AND OP WILL BE TOO WEAK TO ACT!!! I EVEN SEE OP BEGGING HER TO STOP FUCKING THE BESTIE IN THE FUTURE.....


That's the life of a SIMP spotted gbamutiously���!!!
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Casalindal(f): 10:17am On May 26, 2021
Cnach:

U are not talking about ur happiness alone but that of ur partner too, a marriage of 3months old is totally different from a marriage of 5years old, they are somethings that could be too early to emerge and so I don't think ur marriage and this marriage we are talking of here it in match. I repeat no guy with current sense and real love gets happy hearing such fallacy "bestie" as as how nah?
I will advice u too to repent from that ur way bc the cunning nature of a man can neither be underestimated nor intimidated. We don't rush to get it but at the right time.
Op she is too happy, bring a problem so that focus will change..not financial problem o, in fact ur outlook should even go higher by the power of 3..and do know that my suggestion may not count bc women don't have formular


I understand you view and I would not dispute your argument are not valid.. but why will the world not back an eye if it were the other way round? I don’t see anything wrong having a male bestie in my opinion, regardless of what society will think. I personally feel balancing both relationships is all that matters. Knowing when to place your partner feeling and respect should be the major key.
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Casalindal(f): 10:18am On May 26, 2021
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You this thing... don’t associate me with yourself
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by ABANGWABOI(m): 10:20am On May 26, 2021
blahc007:


Is like you gain strength when you insult people's mother...i have mentioned you twice here without the word mother appearing on any...
Well, maybe that's how you gain balance when you are loose guarding...

When I called you a kid....shey u think say na insult...
Low Confidence, low self-esteem, wanting to be heard even when you make zero sense, hauling insults, etc....these have I observed in you boy...go work on yourself....you got a long way to go....
Hear the words of the elders...maka na okwu onye okenye anaghi ada n'aja


You insult me, I insult your mother period..
Don't choose for me whom to insult..
Otu nne gi.. ewu..
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Casalindal(f): 10:21am On May 26, 2021
kingreign:

Oh you don't mean it?
No wonder. A dog gives birth to a dog.



See the stress you when just to make that comment look like what I wrote..... I always say this it’s better people assume you are stupid than you making them see you for what you are.
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by ABANGWABOI(m): 10:22am On May 26, 2021
AmazonTopaz:

That is my opinion whether an adult or not a 22 year old has no business getting married.

Don't come under my mention to talk trash mind your business and get lost

How old was Regina when she got married??

I bu onye Ara..
Get lost too..
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Tribalism123(m): 10:23am On May 26, 2021
Nacoss25:
Good morning everyone. I am a young man newly married to a 22 yr old lady. our marriage is just 2 months old.

Before I met my wife in 2019, she has this male best friend who they have been best friends even before I met her though my wife is a social and jovial person always cheerful, she easily makes friends wherever she finds herself that's her nature and kind of personality.


SOLUTION: Take her to her parents and let her spend some months their. Give the parents ur reason and dont send her any shishi. Thank me later. She go mature by force.




Right now her friendship with that her male friend is what am becoming uncomfortable with right now because of the so much attention she is lavishing on him. I have complained to her that I am not comfortable with her closeness with the guy but she is seeing it that am trying to cut her off from her friends.

One interesting part of the whole thing is, since we got married the guy has been trying to distance himself from her a bit knowing too well that she is now married but my wife is even the one doing all she could to keep the friendship going the way it has been going. 2 days ago I and my wife were together she called the guy complaining bitterly how he has been distancing himself from her.

My people what do you think I should do to cut down that connection or will the friendship grow week by the day on it's own? My wife is refusing to understand that in marriage there are things u will have to let go.
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by blahc007: 10:24am On May 26, 2021
ABANGWABOI:



You insult me, I insult your mother period..
Don't choose for me whom to insult..
Otu nne gi.. ewu..

My boy grin
Go and give your life to Jesus...He saves
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by cmoney22222: 10:24am On May 26, 2021
OP=31
Wifey=22
Bestie= 24

Birds of same feather flock together. I think you forced this lady to marriage perhaps

Advice: Op has lost this one. Give wifey red card before you cause more problem for yourself.
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Wolfeye: 10:25am On May 26, 2021
Sundrus:
If u truly want make that friendship wane out naturally, become friend with that her bestie.

Smh. Smh.
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by GhostWisperer: 10:25am On May 26, 2021
AmazonTopaz:

That is my opinion whether an adult or not a 22 year old has no business getting married.

Don't come under my mention to talk trash mind your business and get lost
better to marry at 22 than to be whoring around collecting different assortment of disease sperm.

What is wrong with you?
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Tribalism123(m): 10:26am On May 26, 2021
Nacoss25:
Good morning everyone. I am a young man newly married to a 22 yr old lady. our marriage is just 2 months old.

Before I met my wife in 2019, she has this male best friend who they have been best friends even before I met her though my wife is a social and jovial person always cheerful, she easily makes friends wherever she finds herself that's her nature and kind of personality.

Right now her friendship with that her male friend is what am becoming uncomfortable with right now because of the so much attention she is lavishing on him. I have complained to her that I am not comfortable with her closeness with the guy but she is seeing it that am trying to cut her off from her friends.

One interesting part of the whole thing is, since we got married the guy has been trying to distance himself from her a bit knowing too well that she is now married but my wife is even the one doing all she could to keep the friendship going the way it has been going. 2 days ago I and my wife were together she called the guy complaining bitterly how he has been distancing himself from her.

My people what do you think I should do to cut down that connection or will the friendship grow week by the day on it's own? My wife is refusing to understand that in marriage there are things u will have to let go.

SOLUTION: Take her to her parents and let her spend some months their. Give the parents ur reason and dont send her any shishi. Thank me later. She go mature by force.
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Wolfeye: 10:26am On May 26, 2021
If you don’t get a female bestie you’re a super simp.
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by ABANGWABOI(m): 10:26am On May 26, 2021
blahc007:


My boy grin
Go and give your life to Jesus...He saves

Achorom inye ya Nne gi.. grin grin grin
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by AmazonTopaz(f): 10:26am On May 26, 2021
ABANGWABOI:


How old was Regina when she got married??

I bu onye Ara..
Get lost too..
Wetin concern me with Regina wey go do wife number 6 to ancestor.

Get lost jaree.
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by ABANGWABOI(m): 10:28am On May 26, 2021
AmazonTopaz:

Wetin concern me with Regina wey go do wife number 6 to ancestor.

Get lost jaree.

Otu Gbawa kwa gi ..
Cry me a river and get lost pls.
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by AmazonTopaz(f): 10:29am On May 26, 2021
ABANGWABOI:


Otu Gbawa kwa gi ..
Cry me a river and get lost pls.
Otondo grin

Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Fiscus105(m): 10:31am On May 26, 2021
Casalindal:



You don’t have to pity my husband uncle... he is more enlightened and bright, Chanel that pity on yourself

not only the poor man but all those who will imbibe ur dangerous opinion and take it to thier marriage
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by GhostWisperer: 10:34am On May 26, 2021
AmazonTopaz:

Wetin concern me with Regina wey go do wife number 6 to ancestor.

Get lost jaree.
Regina is living the life you will be too afraid to dream of.

She's a wife, fulfilled.

You're a frustrated feminist pouring out your bitterness on young girls.

Amazontopaz, but why?
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by ABANGWABOI(m): 10:34am On May 26, 2021
AmazonTopaz:

Otondo grin


Otu gi Odi uto ??
Biko Mee ka nmara..

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Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Casalindal(f): 10:36am On May 26, 2021
Fiscus105:


not only the poor man but all those who will imbibe ur dangerous opinion and take it to thier marriage

Okay, sit and let me educate you and listen. Because just may be you will learn something new. There are no templates on building a happy marriage. What work for me will definitely not work for Mr B. Telling your wife what and how to behave in this institute (marriage) is a dead road for me. Secondly people should be allow to pick and chose who to be friends with provided they the relationship is pure. Lastly don’t @ me again.
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Wolfeye: 10:36am On May 26, 2021
AmazonTopaz:
You married a 22 year old that may not be mature for marriage and is supposed to be free living her best life.

You said she is a jovial person so that is how she is and besides she knew that guy as a friend before meeting you so you gotta accommodate that.The only problem is that she isn't mature enough to know that there should be boundaries and she shouldn't over do it.It is a good thing that she is open to you about it.

She is still young and don't cage her because of marriage or that she should let go of someone she has known for years because she married you.

Just tell her to minimise it and draw boundaries.

LMFAO. Women. Ahahah @Op please get a female bestie. Don’t listen to trash like this.
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Powersurge: 10:38am On May 26, 2021
Nacoss25:
Good morning everyone. I am a young man newly married to a 22 yr old lady. our marriage is just 2 months old.

Before I met my wife in 2019, she has this male best friend who they have been best friends even before I met her though my wife is a social and jovial person always cheerful, she easily makes friends wherever she finds herself that's her nature and kind of personality.

Right now her friendship with that her male friend is what am becoming uncomfortable with right now because of the so much attention she is lavishing on him. I have complained to her that I am not comfortable with her closeness with the guy but she is seeing it that am trying to cut her off from her friends.

One interesting part of the whole thing is, since we got married the guy has been trying to distance himself from her a bit knowing too well that she is now married but my wife is even the one doing all she could to keep the friendship going the way it has been going. 2 days ago I and my wife were together she called the guy complaining bitterly how he has been distancing himself from her.

My people what do you think I should do to cut down that connection or will the friendship grow week by the day on it's own? My wife is refusing to understand that in marriage there are things u will have to let go.

OP I perceive you are under 30. That notwithstanding, 22-year lady may has a lot to learn in life. Even 25 can still behave erratically, let alone 22.

I have come to understand that when you force a human being to achieve a particular result, you just postpone the evil day. Stop complaining. If you say it once And she doesn't change, don't say it again. If you force yourself to say it again, never say the same thing thrice.

Some friendship are very strong. Especially the ones with the opposite sex. It is even stronger when intimacy is not involved. I have a friend (guy) who is a friend to another acquaintance of mine, this guy knows her menstrual cycle. And I am 1000% sure he is not having affairs with her. The guy lost some GFs because of this. likewise the girl. The lady is married now. But they are still close.

You need a bigger "problem " to swallow the lesser one. Distract her with activities whenever you have the time. Do not force their break up. Time will disintegrate them.

Notwithstanding, This could go beyond friendship. sex could be involved. That's why, as a man, you must know how to dissect issues. Either sex is involved or not, do not lose your temper over relationship matter. But I will advise that you do DNA test. As nothing is sure again in this life. Your wife is still very young. So you should expect lots of erratic behaviors. But she will improve with time (like 3 years more) that I am sure of.
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Great2021(m): 10:40am On May 26, 2021
Sundrus:
If u truly want make that friendship wane out naturally, become friend with that her bestie.
@ if only the op will accept to do this, it will be the end of all his worries
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by blahc007: 10:47am On May 26, 2021
ABANGWABOI:


Achorom inye ya Nne gi.. grin grin grin
Jesus nakpo go nwam...
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by AishaYesufu: 10:48am On May 26, 2021
AmazonTopaz:

[s]That is my opinion whether an adult or not a 22 year old has no business getting married.

Don't come under my mention to talk trash mind your business and get lost[/s]
No wonder you are aged and frustrated. I'm very sure you are terribly sad that no man has considered you while your mates are already married with teenage children.

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