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It's tough out there

It's shouldn't demoralize you or your entire family. .let me ask, is your husband working or doing something productive? That's where the concerns of you being uncertain comes from....
Anyway brace up, with your level of experience and the clients you have built over the years you could easily get another job elsewhere.
As for your daughter's, they are not kids anymore, they are adolescent now n should understand better. A little adjustments to financial dealing for a while won't kill them but keep telling them things will be better again. Naomi the time also for each of you to come together as one and pray...morning and night.
I believe before 2021 ends, you will get a better offer....
Cheers!

Very sad

mema900:
START A BUSINESS!!
Not trading ooh! BUSINESS!

What's he going to start the business with? Person never chop you dey tell am make him start business. Do you even thing any fresh business can survive this buhari economy? Even the well established ones are finding it difficult to meet up.

How about your husband. Doesn't he work?

CharisEleos:
That's one thing with private organizations. No job security. Imagine after thirteen whole years of service, you were laid off over the phone just like that. Dang!

That is why govenment job is still better. Though they may not pay so hugely but at least you're sure of job security and a huge compensation ( gratuity) after your service years with a lifetime benefit ( pension).

This is why it is good to have a personal establishment while working with all these private organizations just in case.

So demoralizing.

A senior staff member in my department was told to leave after 22years of service for reasons best known to the company. The kind of shockwave that went through my spine eh

Chai!

ITs so sad losing ones job and from the OPs writeup it seems OP is a botty...if money no dey ground, that big fresh face go sharpaly turn Pako face o, aswear

Sad

Deep




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I came home and prepared rice and peppersoup for my family the day I got tired and resigned.

NarnieAceTech:
A senior staff member in my department was told to leave after 22years of service for reasons best known to the company. The kind of shockwave that went through my spine eh

Hm.. that's a huge blow. Must have been devastating for him.

Everyone working with private organizations should just have a plan B as shock absorber.

It's not easy

As much as i commensurate with her on the loss of her job, i believe this should also be an eye opener and a sort of awakening for people who are still in paid employment to not just relax and pray against being laid off.

The reality in the world we are today is that, in your lifetime you would likely go through 3 different career paths (e.g Health, IT, Entertainment) all has one person.

So let us all keep updating our skill sets not just acquiring degrees oh ! (That era is long gone), this would make us flexible and survive the times we are in.

mema900:
START A BUSINESS!!
Not trading ooh! BUSINESS!

why not trading

Job
Job
Job

I gat a vacancy to offer those

But who will take the risk

Well e be things

Wow! Your story is pathetic but I want to advise you not to just depend on getting a new job. If you have some money saved, I advice you look out for business to start . Also, don't over adjust your standard to avoid unwanted circumstances that may affect your family.

Let the children understand that all is well by action and approach. Also, believe yourself...

Robertkenny:
Mrs. Juliet

I was with my husband on March 31st, it was 3 or 4 o’clock in the afternoon and I took a phone call from the owner of my company, the president and COO. He informed me that my position was being eliminated.

Significant changes had to be made to the small, family-owned business I worked for due to the coronavirus pandemic.

Coming from leadership, I understand. I worked for Skymack communications, a publishing company here in Lagos, for over 13 years. I was senior vice president of operations, client service and account management. The majority of the clients I worked with were in the airline space, so Covid-19 had huge impact on the area of the business I managed.

Even though being let go is not a personal issue for me, when you get that call from your boss, it’s quite a shock to the system.
I love the people that I worked with. And I have never been unemployed.

This was a first for me, and I had to tell my kids.
The first person I told was my husband. We went for a walk because I just wanted to takeout bad thought and feel free. It’s so overwhelming that you don’t want to think about the “What if”.

I cried when I told my husband, but it wasn’t sadness that I felt. I didn’t feel a connection to my job title such that it was a loss of my sense of self. It was more, “Well, what am I going to do now?” Or maybe it was because you have to say those words: “I’ve been laid off.” I never said those words before.

But I didn’t actually tell my two girls, who are 12 and 16, for almost a full 48hours. I just sat with it first. I was thinking, “How am I going to tell them that I have been laid off”?.

My girls have seen me get up and go to work their whole lives. I don’t believe they tied me as a person to my job, but they do understand that my job provides money for the family to live.

I was really trying to figure out, how do I tell them without scaring them? And how will I keep a level of composure?.

The third day I told them. Schools in Lagos were closed, so my daughters were homeschooling. I called them into the living room, sat down and told them that I had been let go from my position at work. I was crying while telling them.

They both sort of looked at me and they said, “Well, what does that mean for us?”

How you handle yourself is everything when it comes to how they’re going to respond, so I immediately composed myself.
“Well, we’re probably going to have to make some changes initially, but as a parent let I and your dad focus on that. I don’t want you to worry about that” I said.

My eldest daughter got angry and frustrated at my employer. “Aren’t you important? Don’t they think you’re valuable?” she asked with a sad face.

“I am valuable” I said. But my value has nothing to do with my job. I’m valuable for a lot of other reasons.”

“I will find a job that makes me happier, a place to work that values me, a place where I want to be” I said. The girls asked questions about money too. I have a loan to pay and other bills. “Yeah, we’re going to have to make some changes, for me to be able to pay back” I said.

“I’m going to have to really work to get another job or figure out what my next move is” I said.

For now we’re good. My girls and I are stable and we’re happy. We have made some changes towards managing most things around us. For instance with food shopping, we are not particularly frivolous, but now we are much more careful.

Also there is no “I need does cloths just because they’re beautiful or I want to do online shopping for me and my girls”. They know they need to be conscientious about what they ask for. And they have been fantastic without reminder.

And I have not stopped my job search, but I am not obsessing. Right now everything is fine, but that won’t last forever. So I am trying to determine what my new normal is going to be.

Thank you Bogger for sharing my story

Have you ever lost any job that makes you think twice? Please share your story.

take a bottle or two of cold legend extra stout...

las las you go dey alright ...

The same thing has happened to me where I worked at Chibuikem hospital and Maternity.

It's well cos my doctor then was so greedy and mean and has refused to pay me all my salaries but I had to let go

CharisEleos:
Hm.. that's a huge blow. Must have been devastating for him.

Everyone working with private organizations should just have a plan B as shock absorber.

It was, my dear. He had to take it like a man. Acted all cool and that but his voice betrayed him while speaking to us.
You are right about government jobs though.

NarnieAceTech:
It was, my dear. He had to take it like a man. Acted all cool and that but his voice betrayed him while speaking to us.
You are right about government jobs though.

So you took notice of his shaky voice.

Robertkenny:
Mrs. Juliet

I was with my husband on March 31st, it was 3 or 4 o’clock in the afternoon and I took a phone call from the owner of my company, the president and COO. He informed me that my position was being eliminated.

Significant changes had to be made to the small, family-owned business I worked for due to the coronavirus pandemic.

Coming from leadership, I understand. I worked for Skymack communications, a publishing company here in Lagos, for over 13 years. I was senior vice president of operations, client service and account management. The majority of the clients I worked with were in the airline space, so Covid-19 had huge impact on the area of the business I managed.

Even though being let go is not a personal issue for me, when you get that call from your boss, it’s quite a shock to the system.
I love the people that I worked with. And I have never been unemployed.

This was a first for me, and I had to tell my kids.
The first person I told was my husband. We went for a walk because I just wanted to takeout bad thought and feel free. It’s so overwhelming that you don’t want to think about the “What if”.

I cried when I told my husband, but it wasn’t sadness that I felt. I didn’t feel a connection to my job title such that it was a loss of my sense of self. It was more, “Well, what am I going to do now?” Or maybe it was because you have to say those words: “I’ve been laid off.” I never said those words before.

But I didn’t actually tell my two girls, who are 12 and 16, for almost a full 48hours. I just sat with it first. I was thinking, “How am I going to tell them that I have been laid off”?.

My girls have seen me get up and go to work their whole lives. I don’t believe they tied me as a person to my job, but they do understand that my job provides money for the family to live.

I was really trying to figure out, how do I tell them without scaring them? And how will I keep a level of composure?.

The third day I told them. Schools in Lagos were closed, so my daughters were homeschooling. I called them into the living room, sat down and told them that I had been let go from my position at work. I was crying while telling them.

They both sort of looked at me and they said, “Well, what does that mean for us?”

How you handle yourself is everything when it comes to how they’re going to respond, so I immediately composed myself.
“Well, we’re probably going to have to make some changes initially, but as a parent let I and your dad focus on that. I don’t want you to worry about that” I said.

My eldest daughter got angry and frustrated at my employer. “Aren’t you important? Don’t they think you’re valuable?” she asked with a sad face.

“I am valuable” I said. But my value has nothing to do with my job. I’m valuable for a lot of other reasons.”

“I will find a job that makes me happier, a place to work that values me, a place where I want to be” I said. The girls asked questions about money too. I have a loan to pay and other bills. “Yeah, we’re going to have to make some changes, for me to be able to pay back” I said.

“I’m going to have to really work to get another job or figure out what my next move is” I said.

For now we’re good. My girls and I are stable and we’re happy. We have made some changes towards managing most things around us. For instance with food shopping, we are not particularly frivolous, but now we are much more careful.

Also there is no “I need does cloths just because they’re beautiful or I want to do online shopping for me and my girls”. They know they need to be conscientious about what they ask for. And they have been fantastic without reminder.

And I have not stopped my job search, but I am not obsessing. Right now everything is fine, but that won’t last forever. So I am trying to determine what my new normal is going to be.

Thank you Bogger for sharing my story

Have you ever lost any job that makes you think twice? Please share your story.

Stories like this is the reason why one must not depend on only one source of income

CharisEleos:
That's one thing with private organizations. No job security. Imagine after thirteen whole years of service, you were laid off over the phone just like that. Dang!

That is why govenment job is still better. Though they may not pay so hugely but at least you're sure of job security and a huge compensation ( gratuity) after your service years with a lifetime benefit ( pension).

This is why it is good to have a personal establishment while working with all these private organizations just in case.

So demoralizing.

Government Jobs USED to be good, see what Elrufai is doing, Casualising the system and sacking without payments.

tofolo:
Government Jobs USED to be good, see what Elrufai is doing, Casualising the system and sacking without payments.

That is where we find ourselves today as a country.

Another thing I just finished discussing with my sister now is the rate of inflation and the fact that the govt is folding their arms doing nothing about it.

Where are we headed?

CharisEleos:
Lol.. @" his voice betrayed him". So you took notice of his shaky voice.

Yeah, I am certain everyone did. It wasn't shaky though but kinda lost its confidence. Just like Vin diesel sounding like David Beckham. Ever heard David Beckham speak before? It's like he squeaks

I lost my job about six months ago and honestly, God has been faithful. I've been trying all my best to secure another job. Thank God for Crypto but my major problem is sitting down at home all day. It's really crazy and my landlady is beginning to look at me like I'm lazy or not serious

NarnieAceTech:
Yeah, I am certain everyone did. It wasn't shaky though but kinda lost its confidence. Just like Vin diesel sounding like David Beckham. Ever heard David Beckham speak before? It's like he squeaks

Lol... Oh this guy stop making me to laugh abeg. this not a laughing matter. Biko.

It is well..

What??

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Robertkenny:
Mrs. Juliet

I was with my husband on March 31st, it was 3 or 4 o’clock in the afternoon and I took a phone call from the owner of my company, the president and COO. He informed me that my position was being eliminated.

Significant changes had to be made to the small, family-owned business I worked for due to the coronavirus pandemic.

Coming from leadership, I understand. I worked for Skymack communications, a publishing company here in Lagos, for over 13 years. I was senior vice president of operations, client service and account management. The majority of the clients I worked with were in the airline space, so Covid-19 had huge impact on the area of the business I managed.

Even though being let go is not a personal issue for me, when you get that call from your boss, it’s quite a shock to the system.
I love the people that I worked with. And I have never been unemployed.

This was a first for me, and I had to tell my kids.
The first person I told was my husband. We went for a walk because I just wanted to takeout bad thought and feel free. It’s so overwhelming that you don’t want to think about the “What if”.

I cried when I told my husband, but it wasn’t sadness that I felt. I didn’t feel a connection to my job title such that it was a loss of my sense of self. It was more, “Well, what am I going to do now?” Or maybe it was because you have to say those words: “I’ve been laid off.” I never said those words before.

But I didn’t actually tell my two girls, who are 12 and 16, for almost a full 48hours. I just sat with it first. I was thinking, “How am I going to tell them that I have been laid off”?.

My girls have seen me get up and go to work their whole lives. I don’t believe they tied me as a person to my job, but they do understand that my job provides money for the family to live.

I was really trying to figure out, how do I tell them without scaring them? And how will I keep a level of composure?.

The third day I told them. Schools in Lagos were closed, so my daughters were homeschooling. I called them into the living room, sat down and told them that I had been let go from my position at work. I was crying while telling them.

They both sort of looked at me and they said, “Well, what does that mean for us?”

How you handle yourself is everything when it comes to how they’re going to respond, so I immediately composed myself.
“Well, we’re probably going to have to make some changes initially, but as a parent let I and your dad focus on that. I don’t want you to worry about that” I said.

My eldest daughter got angry and frustrated at my employer. “Aren’t you important? Don’t they think you’re valuable?” she asked with a sad face.

“I am valuable” I said. But my value has nothing to do with my job. I’m valuable for a lot of other reasons.”

“I will find a job that makes me happier, a place to work that values me, a place where I want to be” I said. The girls asked questions about money too. I have a loan to pay and other bills. “Yeah, we’re going to have to make some changes, for me to be able to pay back” I said.

“I’m going to have to really work to get another job or figure out what my next move is” I said.

For now we’re good. My girls and I are stable and we’re happy. We have made some changes towards managing most things around us. For instance with food shopping, we are not particularly frivolous, but now we are much more careful.

Also there is no “I need does cloths just because they’re beautiful or I want to do online shopping for me and my girls”. They know they need to be conscientious about what they ask for. And they have been fantastic without reminder.

And I have not stopped my job search, but I am not obsessing. Right now everything is fine, but that won’t last forever. So I am trying to determine what my new normal is going to be.

Thank you Bogger for sharing my story

Have you ever lost any job that makes you think twice? Please share your story.

I do quite understand with you madam and I share your same story. I lost my job since last year March and as the bread winner of the house with three kids, it's something I will not pray for anyone. Life has been so unbearable to the extent of providing food on the table. As a matter of fact, as day breaks, I always say thank you God. My house rent expired since last year August and I am living at the mercies of God. It's so frustrating seeing other tenants going to work as early in the morning and all you could do is sit down in the parlor. The worst is when my kids cries for food and you don't have a penny in your wallet. My kids have been asking me, daddy when are you going to work and it's makes me become so emotional with little years dropping. With my Msc, I have applied for lots of jobs, nothing forth coming and I am not tired of doing so as it is now a routine. I always put my faith and hope on God as I know one day, he will answer my prayers. Stay strong madam, keep searching and believe in God. You shall soon sing a song of great testimony.

I pray it should be a blessing in disguise to you in Jesus name
But Please what is the full meaning of 'op' that u people usually use here in nairaland

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I still laugh at my colleagues still in the banking industry.

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