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What I Do by olufunmi01(op): 9:14am On Jun 08, 2021

I and my fiance has been planning to settle down. I am not really earning that much here in ibadan, as a graduate I earn 30k but my fiance earn 40k in the same city. Things have been going rough lately because I want to take a new accommodation but all the savings I have wasn't enough. So, I asked my babe if she could support and later I will pay back but bluntly told me she can't give a dime. Well I told my friend about it and he told me that that kind of lady would never support even in the midst of financial crisis. Yesterday, I tempted her to borrow me 1k that by Friday I would pay back, telling her I don't want to touch money saved for our accommodation but she immediately told me no. What do you think I can do? Because I don't want to make a wrong decision. Advise. We have been together for 3 years

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Re: What I Do by chatinent: 9:16am On Jun 08, 2021

Man up, bro. Build your hustles.

I really don't understand what you mean by testing...whereas, you are in the realities of life.

You have to be financially ready by yourself to settle down.

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Re: What I Do by SarutobiEky(m): 9:17am On Jun 08, 2021

Baba drop her like it's hot. Thank me later with that same 1k. That girl no good. cool

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Re: What I Do by olufunmi01(op): 9:20am On Jun 08, 2021

SarutobiEky:
Baba drop her like it's hot. Thank me later with that same 1k. That girl no good.

3 years relationship

Re: What I Do by olufunmi01(op): 9:21am On Jun 08, 2021

chatinent:
Man up, bro. Build your hustles.

I really don't understand what you mean by testing...whereas, you are in the realities of life.

You have to be financially ready by yourself to settle down.

I know brother I have been trying but you know how the country is.

Re: What I Do by chatinent: 9:25am On Jun 08, 2021

olufunmi01:
I know brother I have been trying but you know how the country is.

More reasons you need to diverse your income, not shift responsibilities.

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Re: What I Do by olufunmi01(op): 9:30am On Jun 08, 2021

chatinent:
More reasons you need to diverse your income, not shift responsibilities.

I'm not diverting, just asking for a little help

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Re: What I Do by fati2001(m): 9:40am On Jun 08, 2021

olufunmi01:
I and my fiance has been planning to settle down. I am not really earning that much here in ibadan, as a graduate I earn 30k but my fiance earn 40k in the same city. Things have been going rough lately because I want to take a new accommodation but all the savings I have wasn't enough. So, I asked my babe if she could support and later I will pay back but bluntly told me she can't give a dime. Well I told my friend about it and he told me that that kind of lady would never support even in the midst of financial crisis. Yesterday, I tempted her to borrow me 1k that by Friday I would pay back, telling her I don't want to touch money saved for our accommodation but she immediately told me no. What do you think I can do? Because I don't want to make a wrong decision. Advise. We have been together for 3 years

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Re: What I Do by bigcee(m): 9:45am On Jun 08, 2021

olufunmi01:
3 years relationship

And so?

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Re: What I Do by Sacrosanct12(m): 9:45am On Jun 08, 2021

I just like this chatinent gingering.

Re: What I Do by pansophist(m): 9:48am On Jun 08, 2021

This is a really bad sign. In as much that I'm a proponent of men bearing the financial responsibilities of the household, that doesn't exempt her from supporting you in times of need, like now. Taking into consideration that it is the both of you that will live in the accommodation. I'll end the relationship if I were you. It shocked me to even think that someone will refuse to help someone you claimed to love. It's not love, I don't know what it is, but its not love.

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Re: What I Do by Divoc19(f): 9:48am On Jun 08, 2021

She's just scared of making you lazy by supporting you now.

Have a good talk with her, let her know you know her fears and you wouldn't let it happen.

Some men become lazy when they know their woman will help them out.

olufunmi01:
I and my fiance has been planning to settle down. I am not really earning that much here in ibadan, as a graduate I earn 30k but my fiance earn 40k in the same city. Things have been going rough lately because I want to take a new accommodation but all the savings I have wasn't enough. So, I asked my babe if she could support and later I will pay back but bluntly told me she can't give a dime. Well I told my friend about it and he told me that that kind of lady would never support even in the midst of financial crisis. Yesterday, I tempted her to borrow me 1k that by Friday I would pay back, telling her I don't want to touch money saved for our accommodation but she immediately told me no. What do you think I can do? Because I don't want to make a wrong decision. Advise. We have been together for 3 years

Re: What I Do by bigcee(m): 9:49am On Jun 08, 2021

Seriously, you're dating yourself. There is no connection between you and your babe. 30k is too small to be considering marriage. Never you marry a stingy woman who ain't supportive. Don't go and kill yourself, abeg. Try double your hustle and everything go dey alright.

Re: What I Do by pansophist(m): 9:49am On Jun 08, 2021

Divoc19:
She's just scared of making you lazy by supporting you now.

Have a good talk with her, let her know you know her fears and you wouldn't let it happen.

Some men become lazy when they know their woman will help them out.

Do you know her personally to make this conclusion?

Re: What I Do by bigcee(m): 9:50am On Jun 08, 2021

Divoc19:
She's just scared of making you lazy by supporting you now.

Have a good talk with her, let her know you know her fears and you wouldn't let it happen.

Some men become lazy when they know their woman will help them out.

Re: What I Do by Divoc19(f): 9:52am On Jun 08, 2021

Its a common thoughts in women.

They've been together for 3 years. If she was really stingy he would have known.

But to build a life together is a different thing.

Let him just talk to her.

pansophist:
Do you know her personally to make this conclusion?

Re: What I Do by donbachi(m): 10:02am On Jun 08, 2021

Love is a beautiful thing...but,a stingy self centered partner..is an abormination.

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Re: What I Do by olufunmi01(op): 10:06am On Jun 08, 2021

donbachi:
Love is a beautiful thing...but,a stingy self centered partner..is an abormination.

honestly up till now I have been doing things independently, I have never wanted to ask her anything. I have been trying to get another job with a good pay , she kept complaining that time is going

Re: What I Do by donbachi(m): 10:10am On Jun 08, 2021

olufunmi01:
honestly up till now I have been doing things independently, I have never wanted to ask her anything. I have been trying to get another job with a good pay , she kept complaining that time is going

no matter how beautiful a woman can be..if she's not supportive.she will be insultive when u don't have..someday.

Re: What I Do by chatinent: 10:26am On Jun 08, 2021

olufunmi01:
I'm not diverting, just asking for a little help

Diverse, not divert.

Re: What I Do by SarutobiEky(m): 12:50pm On Jun 08, 2021

olufunmi01:
3 years relationship

doesn't matter. You think you know a person, wait till you get married.

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Re: What I Do by ImaIma1(f): 4:31pm On Jun 08, 2021

She doesn't love you enough to part with her money even as she's seeing that you are trying hard.

Are sure you want to be with someone who cannot help you when you are financially down even though she has the means to?

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