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Betty1000:
I'm heartbroken because before I agreed to date him, I asked him if he has been married in the past or has children, he said no.

I don't trust him anymore. I feel like I have been deceived because not even his family members told me,

I am close to his sister but she never opened up to me.

Betty1000:
Good day Nairalanders,

My fiance proposed to me three months ago. Before that, we were in a relationship for six months. Everything seemed perfect, he has been good to me and I never had any reason to doubt him.

Last week, a friend of mine told me that she heard my fiance has a son and she already verified this information before telling me. At first, I was hesitant until she showed me pictures of the boy, he looks exactly like my fiance. So I decided to go deeper and found out that my fiance is indeed the father of the child.

I confronted him and he accepted that the son is his but he has no relationship with the mother anymore and he planned to tell me before the wedding.

I'm heartbroken because before I agreed to date him, I asked him if he has been married in the past or has children, he said no.

I don't trust him anymore. I feel like I have been deceived because not even his family members told me, I am close to his sister but she never opened up to me.

We have everything planned, in fact, we have our wedding card sent out to everybody. The wedding is in July.

He has sent his friends and family to beg but I don't trust him anymore.

My family has assured me that any decision I make, they would support it.

How do I call off this wedding without going through the embarrassment?

I'm so confused.

Hintona:
Please avoid single fathers

frozen70:
See my sister, men lies by nature and defaults, they do so to save their head in some situations depending on the circumstances

Having a child before meeting you is not enough reason for you to end the marriage plans

Some men still have children or a child while even in a current marriage

So forgive him and accept his apology and continue your relationship with him

There is more lies to come and it can't be worst than the first lie

Good luck to your marriage

Hintona:
Please avoid single fathers

AmazonTopaz:
They are worse than single mothers.Some of them don't even take responsibility for their kids and abandon them.

I can't imagine a sane woman settling for a baby daddy in Nigeria anyway if the man has money some women won't mind.

As for me since they are so good at shaming single mums I can't for the love of my gender settle for Nigerian single dads

danilmo:
Message from a keypad warrior.

Single dad has no deformed body compared to a single mum who has gone though CS/enlarged V in d course of labour..


.. Dont quote me biko, I no get strength this night..

Betty1000:
Good day Nairalanders,

My fiance proposed to me three months ago. Before that, we were in a relationship for six months. Everything seemed perfect, he has been good to me and I never had any reason to doubt him.

Last week, a friend of mine told me that she heard my fiance has a son and she already verified this information before telling me. At first, I was hesitant until she showed me pictures of the boy, he looks exactly like my fiance. So I decided to go deeper and found out that my fiance is indeed the father of the child.

I confronted him and he accepted that the son is his but he has no relationship with the mother anymore and he planned to tell me before the wedding.

I'm heartbroken because before I agreed to date him, I asked him if he has been married in the past or has children, he said no.

I don't trust him anymore. I feel like I have been deceived because not even his family members told me, I am close to his sister but she never opened up to me.

We have everything planned, in fact, we have our wedding card sent out to everybody. The wedding is in July.

He has sent his friends and family to beg but I don't trust him anymore.

My family has assured me that any decision I make, they would support it.

How do I call off this wedding without going through the embarrassment?

I'm so confused.

Bola146:
Are you sure he is not hiding anything again from you? If a grown man could denied his child I hope he would not do the same to you. Watch and pray very well please, don't rush!!!

Betty1000:
Good day Nairalanders,

My fiance proposed to me three months ago. Before that, we were in a relationship for six months. Everything seemed perfect, he has been good to me and I never had any reason to doubt him.

Last week, a friend of mine told me that she heard my fiance has a son and she already verified this information before telling me. At first, I was hesitant until she showed me pictures of the boy, he looks exactly like my fiance. So I decided to go deeper and found out that my fiance is indeed the father of the child.

I confronted him and he accepted that the son is his but he has no relationship with the mother anymore and he planned to tell me before the wedding.

I'm heartbroken because before I agreed to date him, I asked him if he has been married in the past or has children, he said no.

I don't trust him anymore. I feel like I have been deceived because not even his family members told me, I am close to his sister but she never opened up to me.

We have everything planned, in fact, we have our wedding card sent out to everybody. The wedding is in July.

He has sent his friends and family to beg but I don't trust him anymore.

My family has assured me that any decision I make, they would support it.

How do I call off this wedding without going through the embarrassment?

I'm so confused.

Qatar2022:
Can you please shut up that gutter you call mouth, all this post did you see where she wrote that the guy denied the child? You people can think like animal sometimes all in the name of screwing men

lilvicky68:
Just one son and you're complaining..

Earthstorms:
Technically the guy did not lie to you.

You asked if he was married previously and he said no. You have not discovered that he was previously married. So he did not lie about not being previously married.

You asked if he has children, he has only one child, he does not have children so he told you the truth that he does not have children.

Anty, you did not ask the right questions, you got the truthful answers to the questions that you asked.

Whether you marry or not, life goes on. No one can decide for you.

Just ask him why he did not tell you about his son, maybe he was afraid you might not agree to date him if you knew about the son, which means that he was afraid of losing you His family did not tell you about the child because it is not their duty to scatter your relationship.

cooooooks:
How can you know somebody enough to marry them after six months?

Vision101:
@LadyRosa

Call it off... Na expenses waste not the opportunity to marry a bloody liar




@me
If she becomes evening newspaper she will hate you for life oooooo.

Vision101:
@frozen70


See my sister, men lies by nature and defaults, they do so to save their head in some situations depending on the circumstances

Having a child before meeting you is not enough reason for you to end the marriage plans

Some men still have children or a child while even in a current marriage

So forgive him and accept his apology and continue your relationship with him

There is more lies to come and it can't be worst than the first lie

Good luck to your marriage.




@me
I don't consider what he did as a lie. So long as he was not formally married to the mother, there is no problem. He was simply having problem braking the news to you.

It's just a result of an accidental discharge in an old relationship. It happens everywhere. If all other things are in order I will advise you to go ahead.

Besides you know as country be. Husband no easy.

AmazonTopaz:
That isn't the issue,the issue is that he did not tell her and she found out from someone else.

Nobody likes to be deceived he is not a sincere person and for me that is enough reason to let him go.I like to know what I am getting into instead of being taken unaware.

Lies are not okay and no decent person should accept it.This your advice get K-leg

Magnoliaa:
Exactly. When we pinkpillers tell them that, these simpresses think we're ice-hearted.

These brhoes don't deserve the ring.

Vision101:
@Hintona

Please avoid single fathers[



@me
So men should avoid single mothers?

Betty1000:
Good day Nairalanders,

My fiance proposed to me three months ago. Before that, we were in a relationship for six months. Everything seemed perfect, he has been good to me and I never had any reason to doubt him.

Last week, a friend of mine told me that she heard my fiance has a son and she already verified this information before telling me. At first, I was hesitant until she showed me pictures of the boy, he looks exactly like my fiance. So I decided to go deeper and found out that my fiance is indeed the father of the child.

I confronted him and he accepted that the son is his but he has no relationship with the mother anymore and he planned to tell me before the wedding.

I'm heartbroken because before I agreed to date him, I asked him if he has been married in the past or has children, he said no.

I don't trust him anymore. I feel like I have been deceived because not even his family members told me, I am close to his sister but she never opened up to me.

We have everything planned, in fact, we have our wedding card sent out to everybody. The wedding is in July.

He has sent his friends and family to beg but I don't trust him anymore.

My family has assured me that any decision I make, they would support it.

How do I call off this wedding without going through the embarrassment?

I'm so confused.

Betty1000:
Good day Nairalanders,

My fiance proposed to me three months ago. Before that, we were in a relationship for six months. Everything seemed perfect, he has been good to me and I never had any reason to doubt him.

Last week, a friend of mine told me that she heard my fiance has a son and she already verified this information before telling me. At first, I was hesitant until she showed me pictures of the boy, he looks exactly like my fiance. So I decided to go deeper and found out that my fiance is indeed the father of the child.

I confronted him and he accepted that the son is his but he has no relationship with the mother anymore and he planned to tell me before the wedding.

I'm heartbroken because before I agreed to date him, I asked him if he has been married in the past or has children, he said no.

I don't trust him anymore. I feel like I have been deceived because not even his family members told me, I am close to his sister but she never opened up to me.

We have everything planned, in fact, we have our wedding card sent out to everybody. The wedding is in July.

He has sent his friends and family to beg but I don't trust him anymore.

My family has assured me that any decision I make, they would support it.

How do I call off this wedding without going through the embarrassment?

I'm so confused.

LadyRosa:
The fact she will call off a marriage to a bloody lair doesn't mean her chapter in life is over. Being an evening newspaper no be the issue. God go bring a man wey no mind any kind of paper as long as the News dey worthy to read.


Even the early papers, how many of Una dey get money /mind buy am read? No be to stand like lepers for bus stop dey argue?!?

babakb:
For real, you are still seeking advice? Dump his asss and move on.

Can't you read all the signs, within 6 months he pretended to be mr right and his family members aided him, they are ganging up to trap you with marriage.

You will be very surprised after the wedding what they will turn you into, better run while you can.

Any man that will hide this from you doesn't love you one bit, he just want a woman that will labour for his son and his family members.

LadyRosa:
The fact she will call off a marriage to a bloody lair doesn't mean her chapter in life is over. Being an evening newspaper no be the issue. God go bring a man wey no mind any kind of paper as long as the News dey worthy to read.


Even the early papers, how many of Una dey get money /mind buy am read? No be to stand like lepers for bus stop dey argue?!?

LadyRosa:
The fact she will call off a marriage to a bloody lair doesn't mean her chapter in life is over. Being an evening newspaper no be the issue. God go bring a man wey no mind any kind of paper as long as the News dey worthy to read.


Even the early papers, how many of Una dey get money /mind buy am read? No be to stand like lepers for bus stop dey argue?!?