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My guy. You get as you take dae o. If this is true then person suppose slap u

Milky1017:
Greetings Nairalanders,

I'll try being as brief as possible. Please pardon my typos.

I met this girl about three years ago and we dated for about a year after which we broke up because she was like she isn't really feeling like being in one again. I pleaded and asked her to reconsider but it was all effort in futility. And I was pretty broke then to be honest.

Well, fast forward to late last year, we got talking again. (I got a lot better financially, a whole lot). But this time she changed churches and became 'born again'.

So she had accomodation issues, so I squatted her at my place from January uptil last month when she got herself a place (with a little assistance from me and her savings). While she was staring at mine, I was taken my care of every bills you can think off even her pads. I did all those because I felt like we had a future together and I legit have plans of getting married to her.

Now, the thing is she has a best friend, a guy, a member of her new church. She has his Chat pinned on her WhatsApp. So somehow I was with her phone and I got to see their chats yesterday

Omo!, I had the shock of my life yesterday. They were talking about me and the guy called her my boyfriend and she picked offence, warning him not to repeat it again. That wasn't the worst, I listened to a voicenote that she sent to the guy saying that she actually wants to cut my off from her life, she's just putting up with me.

[/b]This is someone I've started a business for twice, someone I've bailed her mom from police cell when she had issues, someone that I promised an iPhone 12 pro and a new laptop, a whole lot of other things I've done/plan on doing a whole lot more. Thinking I'm building life with my future wife lol.[b]


Now the thing is, I want to know the best approach to go about this. Should I confront her or act like nothing happened and quietly withdraw or something. You guys should help me with suggestions. It perturbed me all night. And before I forget, she said she doesn't want to be getting intimate again so for over two months, it's been non-sexual.

Ideas, suggestions, even insults are all welcomed.

After reading the embolded,I concluded that u are a very big fool and u deserve what you are going through
You must have heard the different funny stories about Nigerian girls but u felt your love was different so u started spending on someone like your daughter..ntohh,u deserve it,person wey no wan hear go hear by force

Somebody is thinking of how to source capital to take care of parents yet one mugu is wasting so much money on a liability

Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

mosdii:
Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

Boss man,I hail o
If Nairaland feminists fit find your address,u are a gunner

The way the OP is been insulted is alarming, he has realised his mistakes and obviously decided to move on, that's what really matters

Ritzybeauty:
The way the OP is been insulted is alarming, he has realised his mistakes and obviously decided to move on, that's what really matters

In retrospect, I was just trying to make it work not knowing I was being played. Everyone's contribution has been immensely appreciated.

Milky1017:
In retrospect, I was just trying to make it work not knowing I was being played. Everyone's contribution has been immensely appreciated.

I believe you know what to do now.. Good luck on finding someone that would really suit you

mosdii:
Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

The comment i've been looking for lmao XD

If I pansophist is in this your situation, this is what I will do. I'll collect back all my stuff that I can possibly get back and cut off all ties with her. I won't even explain to her why I did that, I'll just "off" totally. My rule is simple, and it is that "I'll only be a gentleman to a good woman, but a total lunatic to a woman that belongs to the streets". If she was not with me for material benefits, then yes, I won't get my stuff back, but deceiving me for years, undermining my commitment and even not been remorseful will kill off all the gentleman in me and it will be pure war mode.

You'll realise that when you set yourself free from her, there are other women elsewhere even more sophisticated in all areas than her that will make you beat yourself for putting up with her rubbish all these years, because men usually aim too low, and women usually aim too high. You're a good man, and you're the type of guy she will regret loosing when her prime years are over and those flashy boys she feels she deserve and are on her level have wasted her precious time. Then you'll flash back in her mind, she would have been matured then, but it would have been too late.

That is her karma, it's in the distance future, probably within the next 5-10 years. Just be patient. For this Nigeria, a man like you that wish her nothing but the best, bought expensive stuff for her, she wanted to get rid off, like you're a pest or something. The audacity of being cold-hearted, damn. You'll be fine bro. Easy.

pansophist:
If I pansophist is in this your situation, this is what I will do. I'll collect back all my stuff that I can possibly get back and cut off all ties with her. I won't even explain to her why I did that, I'll just "off" totally. My rule is simple, and it is that "I'll only be a gentleman to a good woman, but a total lunatic to a woman that belongs to the streets". If she was not with me for material benefits, then yes, I won't get my stuff back, but deceiving me for years, undermining my commitment and even not been remorseful will kill off all the gentleman in me and it will be pure war mode.

You'll realise that when you set yourself free from her, there are other women elsewhere even more sophisticated in all areas than her that will make you beat yourself for putting up with her rubbish all these years, because men usually aim too low, and women usually aim too high. You're a good man, and you're the type of guy she will regret loosing when her prime years are over and those flashy boys she feels she deserve and are on her level have wasted her precious time. Then you'll flash back in her mind, she would have been matured then, but it would have been too late.

That is her karma, it's in the distance future, probably within the next 5-10 years. Just be patient. For this Nigeria, a man like you that wish her nothing but the best, bought expensive stuff for her, she wanted to get rid off, like you're a pest or something. The audacity of being cold-hearted, damn. You'll be fine bro. Easy.

Thank you brother, these words mean a lot to me. Thank you pansophist

I know its going to hurt,but you've gotta Let her go.
Leave everything,you bought for her as collateral damage.
If it were me,I would tell her what I saw
And she's leaving b4 weekend.
Do us a favour, dont have sex with her

This is what I would have done if I were you.
I will stylishly collect every tangible things i have gotten her, this should be easier since she's living in your home.
Please do not touch her clothes, shoes and underwear even if you bought them because she might turn the table around and tag you a ritualist.

2. I will withdraw all form of care, affection, and act nonchalantly towards her.
She might have been overwhelmed by your loving and caring attitudes hence the sudden change .

However, has she ever discussed or complained about any of your actions, inactions, or behaviors?
Perhaps she does not like either of them and she might have spoken to you several times but no changes hence she doesn't see a future with you.
Sorry to say this, maybe your source of living is not legit and she's told you to change since you're doing okay now but you're reluctant

Give me her number.

I will like to ask her something.

Cc: martinez39s

Milky1017:
Greetings Nairalanders,

I'll try being as brief as possible. Please pardon my typos.

I met this girl about three years ago and we dated for about a year after which we broke up because she was like she isn't really feeling like being in one again. I pleaded and asked her to reconsider but it was all effort in futility. And I was pretty broke then to be honest.

Well, fast forward to late last year, we got talking again. (I got a lot better financially, a whole lot). But this time she changed churches and became 'born again'.

So she had accomodation issues, so I squatted her at my place from January uptil last month when she got herself a place (with a little assistance from me and her savings). While she was staring at mine, I was taken my care of every bills you can think off even her pads. I did all those because I felt like we had a future together and I legit have plans of getting married to her.

Now, the thing is she has a best friend, a guy, a member of her new church. She has his Chat pinned on her WhatsApp. So somehow I was with her phone and I got to see their chats yesterday

Omo!, I had the shock of my life yesterday. They were talking about me and the guy called her my boyfriend and she picked offence, warning him not to repeat it again. That wasn't the worst, I listened to a voicenote that she sent to the guy saying that she actually wants to cut my off from her life, she's just putting up with me.

This is someone I've started a business for twice, someone I've bailed her mom from police cell when she had issues, someone that I promised an iPhone 12 pro and a new laptop, a whole lot of other things I've done/plan on doing a whole lot more. Thinking I'm building life with my future wife lol.


Now the thing is, I want to know the best approach to go about this. Should I confront her or act like nothing happened and quietly withdraw or something. You guys should help me with suggestions. It perturbed me all night. And before I forget, she said she doesn't want to be getting intimate again so for over two months, it's been non-sexual.

Ideas, suggestions, even insults are all welcomed.

Stop impressing a lady. Learn to appreciate yourself and spend on your families and love ones. She isn't into you, get that into your skull. No amount of money spent on her can change that. Loose her , and let her go

Milky1017:
Thank you bro!

dude you disgrace us men here why naw kia empty her quickly and move on

Sorry to say this bro, but you are an IDIOT.

Milky1017:
Greetings Nairalanders,

I'll try being as brief as possible. Please pardon my typos.

I met this girl about three years ago and we dated for about a year after which we broke up because she was like she isn't really feeling like being in one again. I pleaded and asked her to reconsider but it was all effort in futility. And I was pretty broke then to be honest.

Well, fast forward to late last year, we got talking again. (I got a lot better financially, a whole lot). But this time she changed churches and became 'born again'.

So she had accomodation issues, so I squatted her at my place from January uptil last month when she got herself a place (with a little assistance from me and her savings). While she was staring at mine, I was taken my care of every bills you can think off even her pads. I did all those because I felt like we had a future together and I legit have plans of getting married to her.

Now, the thing is she has a best friend, a guy, a member of her new church. She has his Chat pinned on her WhatsApp. So somehow I was with her phone and I got to see their chats yesterday

Omo!, I had the shock of my life yesterday. They were talking about me and the guy called her my boyfriend and she picked offence, warning him not to repeat it again. That wasn't the worst, I listened to a voicenote that she sent to the guy saying that she actually wants to cut my off from her life, she's just putting up with me.

This is someone I've started a business for twice, someone I've bailed her mom from police cell when she had issues, someone that I promised an iPhone 12 pro and a new laptop, a whole lot of other things I've done/plan on doing a whole lot more. Thinking I'm building life with my future wife lol.


Now the thing is, I want to know the best approach to go about this. Should I confront her or act like nothing happened and quietly withdraw or something. You guys should help me with suggestions. It perturbed me all night. And before I forget, she said she doesn't want to be getting intimate again so for over two months, it's been non-sexual.

Ideas, suggestions, even insults are all welcomed.

first of, you are an idiot.. Sorry but you deserve it... Somebody tell you she's not feeling you.. Now later in life you meet her again, and you are of course better off, how do you expect that her views of you will change genuinely, if it did, will it not be worried that it's because you are now financially buoyant?...

Your line of action will be :
Simply cut her off, cut your assistance to her of any sort. Before she does that to you.. Note don't confront because if you do she might find a way to gain your sympathy... She's a leech and should be treated as such

Bro run oo before she damage u emotionally Nd financially.. but why are some girls so stupid, you’re spitting thrash to someone looking after your well-being Nd this your church brother didn’t do shit to your already miserable life.

What does girls want?

You deserve better bro.. You have to let her know that you are aware of all the gimmicks and pretense, then you cut off off totally from her.. Let her regret her actions and know that she doesnt deserve you.. You have a good heart bro. You are a good man and such hoe and gold digger deserves less..

The5DME:
Cc: martinez39s

OP needs the red pill.

Till evening.

VlamesIffect:
Stop giving her attention.
You've allowed familiarity to creep in...

Cut all ties, don't even talk about dating or whatever with her anymore....

Let her hustle for your attention from now on..

Start seeing other girls in her presence....

She will come back on her knees with tears....

Attimes some ladies need "emotional dealing with" to trigger them....

If she doesn't react know she's not for you,... accept it then move on.


Say this after me...

Lord grant me the serenity to accept the things i cannot change, the courage to change the things i can and the wisdom to know the difference...

I wish you well.

another símp spotted... Wtf is atimes girls need "emotional dealing with" to come to their senses... They don't that's just the truth .. As long as op is providing for her, and giving her all the attention she wants, she will normally cry when op stops, but that doesn't mean she has changed.. It's like a child playing with a loaf of bread instead of eating it, when you take away the loaf from her, she will cry , but when. You give it back to her she will continue playing with it...

Depressed101:
another símp spotted... Wtf is atimes girls need "emotional dealing with" to come to their senses... They don't that's just the truth .. As long as op is providing for her, and giving her all the attention she wants, she will normally cry when op stops, but that doesn't mean she has changed.. It's like a child playing with a loaf of bread instead of eating it, when you take away the loaf from her, she will cry , but when. You give it back to her she will continue playing with it...

Too many words...no direction.

Milky1017:
Greetings Nairalanders,

I'll try being as brief as possible. Please pardon my typos.

I met this girl about three years ago and we dated for about a year after which we broke up because she was like she isn't really feeling like being in one again. I pleaded and asked her to reconsider but it was all effort in futility. And I was pretty broke then to be honest.

Well, fast forward to late last year, we got talking again. (I got a lot better financially, a whole lot). But this time she changed churches and became 'born again'.

So she had accomodation issues, so I squatted her at my place from January uptil last month when she got herself a place (with a little assistance from me and her savings). While she was staring at mine, I was taken my care of every bills you can think off even her pads. I did all those because I felt like we had a future together and I legit have plans of getting married to her.

Now, the thing is she has a best friend, a guy, a member of her new church. She has his Chat pinned on her WhatsApp. So somehow I was with her phone and I got to see their chats yesterday

Omo!, I had the shock of my life yesterday. They were talking about me and the guy called her my boyfriend and she picked offence, warning him not to repeat it again. That wasn't the worst, I listened to a voicenote that she sent to the guy saying that she actually wants to cut my off from her life, she's just putting up with me.

This is someone I've started a business for twice, someone I've bailed her mom from police cell when she had issues, someone that I promised an iPhone 12 pro and a new laptop, a whole lot of other things I've done/plan on doing a whole lot more. Thinking I'm building life with my future wife lol.


Now the thing is, I want to know the best approach to go about this. Should I confront her or act like nothing happened and quietly withdraw or something. You guys should help me with suggestions. It perturbed me all night. And before I forget, she said she doesn't want to be getting intimate again so for over two months, it's been non-sexual.

Ideas, suggestions, even insults are all welcomed.

Do not beg anyone to be with you oo oo oo oo. Kai you a big fooool

Milky1017:
I'll never be a simp again

Please, no matter what you do, keep being the good man that you are BUT please, make sure to reserve your goodness for a good woman.

The lady you're with is not a good woman. Don't let her turn you into a monster.

All these men calling men like you simps are toxic and they attract other toxic women.

Good women cherish good men like you. Look for a good woman to shower your love on.

Also remember that no amount of monetary gifts would make a woman fall in love with you. If you're lending, give without expectations. Don't expect a women to love you in return for the money you spend on her.

VlamesIffect:
Too many words...no direction.

Na wise advice I give you, You can continue being a símp for all I care. Na your mumu not mine

If you want to send her off just tell her your mom and siblings are coming to check on you and you will need some privacy cos it's a family meeting thing, like people said collect back all your things, it will give you joy I swear because later you will regret why didn't I collect back this, I bought a phone of 4k for a lady, she starts to misbehave I went to her mom's shop, collected my phone, removed her sim and mem card. My guy forget all this gentle attitude, If someone treats you with disdane also do the same, someone treats you like trash you are still asking what to do, you are so low self esteemed, women don't even like men who sulk like you, stop being too attached to women, stop spending on fake ass girls, you will find a better girl.

Milky1017:
Greetings Nairalanders,

I'll try being as brief as possible. Please pardon my typos.

I met this girl about three years ago and we dated for about a year after which we broke up because she was like she isn't really feeling like being in one again. I pleaded and asked her to reconsider but it was all effort in futility. And I was pretty broke then to be honest.

Well, fast forward to late last year, we got talking again. (I got a lot better financially, a whole lot). But this time she changed churches and became 'born again'.

So she had accomodation issues, so I squatted her at my place from January uptil last month when she got herself a place (with a little assistance from me and her savings). While she was staring at mine, I was taken my care of every bills you can think off even her pads. I did all those because I felt like we had a future together and I legit have plans of getting married to her.

Now, the thing is she has a best friend, a guy, a member of her new church. She has his Chat pinned on her WhatsApp. So somehow I was with her phone and I got to see their chats yesterday

Omo!, I had the shock of my life yesterday. They were talking about me and the guy called her my boyfriend and she picked offence, warning him not to repeat it again. That wasn't the worst, I listened to a voicenote that she sent to the guy saying that she actually wants to cut my off from her life, she's just putting up with me.

This is someone I've started a business for twice, someone I've bailed her mom from police cell when she had issues, someone that I promised an iPhone 12 pro and a new laptop, a whole lot of other things I've done/plan on doing a whole lot more. Thinking I'm building life with my future wife lol.


Now the thing is, I want to know the best approach to go about this. Should I confront her or act like nothing happened and quietly withdraw or something. You guys should help me with suggestions. It perturbed me all night. And before I forget, she said she doesn't want to be getting intimate again so for over two months, it's been non-sexual.

Ideas, suggestions, even insults are all welcomed.

She wants to cut you off because you didn't buy her the iPhone 12.

Depressed101:
Na wise advice I give you, You can continue being a símp for all I care. Na your mumu not mine

You no sabi read...

You no sabi understand....

You just type plenty words no single sense....

Abeg go siddown....