RapLawd:
I'm heart broken and in pains...


We have dated for like two years+ now, she was 18+ when we met, after some time, I was deeply in love with her and I believed she loved me too, so with that thought I asked her out for marriage, though she was excited over it but she said that she's not ready, that she just finished her secondary school and have to learn some business first as she's not going to further her educations, that she will consider marriage at the age of 22+,I was ok with that and so we kept going.


She learned food stuffs for like 4 months, we were supporting each, I assisted her to secure a shop and she was doing well.


Her ex came back and all of a sudden, we start having issue over unnecessary things, this prompted me to bring up marriage issue again, she maintained her stance, so I called off the relationship, and kept on being friends with her.


The break lasted for some months and we somehow managed to reconcile, we were back like never before, everything was so cool, I always tell her we need to prioritize the relationship so that it will have a clear direction, I wanted to tell her my mind, which is if you can't marry me, then let's quit for good, all that was on my mind but time and business never let me air it out.


Due to business, I have been traveling here and there, but we do talk frequently.We haven't seen for like two weeks cus I'm busy traveling (courtesy of my business).


I traveled last week Thursday, my mum got sick and was admitted to hospital while I was out,she always visits my mum at the hospital, I was worried with so many things that I didn't call her for like two days, so on Saturday, she called me in the morning which we talked very well, I noticed that something is off with her, I inquired but she said all is well, she asked if I'm coming back that same day but I was not sure cus I'm not done with my biz, she say that we need to see, which made me to ask her if there is any problem at all but she said no.


I was done with my biz towards evening,I was not fit for traveling that same day,but cus of my mum and the way my girl talked about seeing me,I decided to be on my way that same day.


Midway through the journey,my phone bleeped and it was text message from my girl,that she is getting married and that she has been trying to tell me but there's no chance for that...after reading the texts like about twenty times,I was confused and disturbed,I replied her saying that she's not serious...


Nairalanders,I came home that same night,went straight to the hospital, after seeing my mum,I went home and took my bath,then I went to her house,I refused to get inside,so I forced her to come out to come see me,she came out and was looking tattered and unkept, unlike the way I know her...I was eager to know what's going on and so I went straight to the point.


Hmmm,she was shaking, subbing and crying at the same time, she told me it's true, she's getting married, and that I shouldn't blame her,that everything just happened so fast...that it is not up to a month she met the guy,that since then he and his family has been disturbing her and her parents, and with that pressure she said yes without thinking, and besides, ever since we came back together that she can't exactly tell if I'm still interested in marrying her or not, that I never voiced it out or talked about marriage with her again like before...That she thought I no longer wants to marry her...


She said that it was on Friday that they came and said that they will be coming to take list on Saturday and then on 16th of June they will come and pay her bride price... She was not at home when all this was happening, she came back from shop and her father gave her the news, which was shocking to her.


I asked her, why didn't you tell me all this? Why didn't you tell me that you're ready now?
All she could say is that she still loves me and she's sorry... She keeps blaming me for not asking her out again...


We both cried like babies out there, till it was very late, the next I woke up wishing that all of the incident should be just a dream,I called her,she picked and her voice was down, truth is that,we haven't been the same since then, and as I am typing this, my girl is being married off to someone else, what I don't know is if she's doing it against her wish or she's doing it willingly?.


She's been calling since yesterday,that she wants to see me.

The last time we saw each other yesterday evening, I requested to be left alone, but she pleaded that I should not block her from communicating with me.

I couldn't sleep last night, and I believe she didn't as well, our last call was around 10:36 pm... She's not relaxed on the call which I noticed and asked her what is the problem again, she then said she will text me later...


Please, I need advice on how to move on from all this, and while doing that, I don't want to hurt her cus I'm certainly going to block all our communications after today...

Patented:
Jejely block her everywhere. As for the pain....e go pass with time. Much faster if u city off all communication.

RapLawd:
I'm heart broken and in pains...


We have dated for like two years+ now, she was 18+ when we met, after some time, I was deeply in love with her and I believed she loved me too, so with that thought I asked her out for marriage, though she was excited over it but she said that she's not ready, that she just finished her secondary school and have to learn some business first as she's not going to further her educations, that she will consider marriage at the age of 22+,I was ok with that and so we kept going.


She learned food stuffs for like 4 months, we were supporting each, I assisted her to secure a shop and she was doing well.


Her ex came back and all of a sudden, we start having issue over unnecessary things, this prompted me to bring up marriage issue again, she maintained her stance, so I called off the relationship, and kept on being friends with her.


The break lasted for some months and we somehow managed to reconcile, we were back like never before, everything was so cool, I always tell her we need to prioritize the relationship so that it will have a clear direction, I wanted to tell her my mind, which is if you can't marry me, then let's quit for good, all that was on my mind but time and business never let me air it out.


Due to business, I have been traveling here and there, but we do talk frequently.We haven't seen for like two weeks cus I'm busy traveling (courtesy of my business).


I traveled last week Thursday, my mum got sick and was admitted to hospital while I was out,she always visits my mum at the hospital, I was worried with so many things that I didn't call her for like two days, so on Saturday, she called me in the morning which we talked very well, I noticed that something is off with her, I inquired but she said all is well, she asked if I'm coming back that same day but I was not sure cus I'm not done with my biz, she say that we need to see, which made me to ask her if there is any problem at all but she said no.


I was done with my biz towards evening,I was not fit for traveling that same day,but cus of my mum and the way my girl talked about seeing me,I decided to be on my way that same day.


Midway through the journey,my phone bleeped and it was text message from my girl,that she is getting married and that she has been trying to tell me but there's no chance for that...after reading the texts like about twenty times,I was confused and disturbed,I replied her saying that she's not serious...


Nairalanders,I came home that same night,went straight to the hospital, after seeing my mum,I went home and took my bath,then I went to her house,I refused to get inside,so I forced her to come out to come see me,she came out and was looking tattered and unkept, unlike the way I know her...I was eager to know what's going on and so I went straight to the point.


Hmmm,she was shaking, subbing and crying at the same time, she told me it's true, she's getting married, and that I shouldn't blame her,that everything just happened so fast...that it is not up to a month she met the guy,that since then he and his family has been disturbing her and her parents, and with that pressure she said yes without thinking, and besides, ever since we came back together that she can't exactly tell if I'm still interested in marrying her or not, that I never voiced it out or talked about marriage with her again like before...That she thought I no longer wants to marry her...


She said that it was on Friday that they came and said that they will be coming to take list on Saturday and then on 16th of June they will come and pay her bride price... She was not at home when all this was happening, she came back from shop and her father gave her the news, which was shocking to her.


I asked her, why didn't you tell me all this? Why didn't you tell me that you're ready now?
All she could say is that she still loves me and she's sorry... She keeps blaming me for not asking her out again...


We both cried like babies out there, till it was very late, the next I woke up wishing that all of the incident should be just a dream,I called her,she picked and her voice was down, truth is that,we haven't been the same since then, and as I am typing this, my girl is being married off to someone else, what I don't know is if she's doing it against her wish or she's doing it willingly?.


She's been calling since yesterday,that she wants to see me.

The last time we saw each other yesterday evening, I requested to be left alone, but she pleaded that I should not block her from communicating with me.

I couldn't sleep last night, and I believe she didn't as well, our last call was around 10:36 pm... She's not relaxed on the call which I noticed and asked her what is the problem again, she then said she will text me later...


Please, I need advice on how to move on from all this, and while doing that, I don't want to hurt her cus I'm certainly going to block all our communications after today...

RisenJoe:
Just like in the movies, carry her and run away then come back 8 months time with pregnancy

Educationalserv:
U be simp .she scopping you we called it soft landing make u no retaliate. a richer guy came in the she grap the oppurtunity.

Hathor5:
I don't know what to say.

Nezzjnr:
Please if they're sharing rice in the wedding... Do well to inform us abeg.

That's the only thing that matters

BREYZ:


Young man, concentrate on yourself. Leave girl matter and make money

Educationalserv:
U be simp .she scopping you we called it soft landing make u no retaliate. a richer guy came in the she grap the oppurtunity.