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RapLawd:
I'm heart broken and in pains...


We have dated for like two years+ now, she was 18+ when we met, after some time, I was deeply in love with her and I believed she loved me too, so with that thought I asked her out for marriage, though she was excited over it but she said that she's not ready, that she just finished her secondary school and have to learn some business first as she's not going to further her educations, that she will consider marriage at the age of 22+,I was ok with that and so we kept going.


She learned food stuffs for like 4 months, we were supporting each, I assisted her to secure a shop and she was doing well.


Her ex came back and all of a sudden, we start having issue over unnecessary things, this prompted me to bring up marriage issue again, she maintained her stance, so I called off the relationship, and kept on being friends with her.


The break lasted for some months and we somehow managed to reconcile, we were back like never before, everything was so cool, I always tell her we need to prioritize the relationship so that it will have a clear direction, I wanted to tell her my mind, which is if you can't marry me, then let's quit for good, all that was on my mind but time and business never let me air it out.


Due to business, I have been traveling here and there, but we do talk frequently.We haven't seen for like two weeks cus I'm busy traveling (courtesy of my business).


I traveled last week Thursday, my mum got sick and was admitted to hospital while I was out,she always visits my mum at the hospital, I was worried with so many things that I didn't call her for like two days, so on Saturday, she called me in the morning which we talked very well, I noticed that something is off with her, I inquired but she said all is well, she asked if I'm coming back that same day but I was not sure cus I'm not done with my biz, she say that we need to see, which made me to ask her if there is any problem at all but she said no.


I was done with my biz towards evening,I was not fit for traveling that same day,but cus of my mum and the way my girl talked about seeing me,I decided to be on my way that same day.


Midway through the journey,my phone bleeped and it was text message from my girl,that she is getting married and that she has been trying to tell me but there's no chance for that...after reading the texts like about twenty times,I was confused and disturbed,I replied her saying that she's not serious...


Nairalanders,I came home that same night,went straight to the hospital, after seeing my mum,I went home and took my bath,then I went to her house,I refused to get inside,so I forced her to come out to come see me,she came out and was looking tattered and unkept, unlike the way I know her...I was eager to know what's going on and so I went straight to the point.


Hmmm,she was shaking, subbing and crying at the same time, she told me it's true, she's getting married, and that I shouldn't blame her,that everything just happened so fast...that it is not up to a month she met the guy,that since then he and his family has been disturbing her and her parents, and with that pressure she said yes without thinking, and besides, ever since we came back together that she can't exactly tell if I'm still interested in marrying her or not, that I never voiced it out or talked about marriage with her again like before...That she thought I no longer wants to marry her...


She said that it was on Friday that they came and said that they will be coming to take list on Saturday and then on 16th of June they will come and pay her bride price... She was not at home when all this was happening, she came back from shop and her father gave her the news, which was shocking to her.


I asked her, why didn't you tell me all this? Why didn't you tell me that you're ready now?
All she could say is that she still loves me and she's sorry... She keeps blaming me for not asking her out again...


We both cried like babies out there, till it was very late, the next I woke up wishing that all of the incident should be just a dream,I called her,she picked and her voice was down, truth is that,we haven't been the same since then, and as I am typing this, my girl is being married off to someone else, what I don't know is if she's doing it against her wish or she's doing it willingly?.


She's been calling since yesterday,that she wants to see me.

The last time we saw each other yesterday evening, I requested to be left alone, but she pleaded that I should not block her from communicating with me.

I couldn't sleep last night, and I believe she didn't as well, our last call was around 10:36 pm... She's not relaxed on the call which I noticed and asked her what is the problem again, she then said she will text me later...


Please, I need advice on how to move on from all this, and while doing that, I don't want to hurt her cus I'm certainly going to block all our communications after today...

RapLawd:
Doing that first thing tomorrow morning after my last marriage wish to her,almost allher friends have been calling me just know where I've been, I only picked those that I know what they stands for...most of them are even in shock too.

RapLawd:
Not her ex.

My intention was open to her right from the beginning, but I believe she was confused and naive, which she is still is, but I can't do anything about anymore, she's gone and I'm moving on...

She wasn't mine and that's why I lost her.

AutoChick4U:
So to you a girl cannot dump a rich dude? Or guys who get heartbroken are all broke?

You'll be filled with frustrstion when you make this money but unable to find a suitable spouse.

LikeAking:
Simp!


LolZ

Originalsly:
Bro.... I hear you ... understand your pain. Blocking her is the first step ... but the pain will remain. Don't stress yourself by trying to figure out why she did you wrong... how much time and money you invested in her....why she didn't tell you before ... if what she is saying is the full truth ... if she really agreed to the marriage but telling you something different.... having all these thoughts streaming in your head will lead to depression ... depression can cause you to lose your business.... then your mind ... or the will to live... which leads to suicidal thoughts.... all because of one babe.
Look back on the relationship.... try to find signs that you missed ... things that she said that were yellow flags which you brushed aside ... look back to learn from the mistakes you made. See this as a blessing in disguise .... ask yourself.... if you got married to her... will she be really loyal to you? If she can keep this relationship secretive... can you imagine the secrets in marriage? She is not married as yet... but wants to continue with you in secret... unknown to the husband. It is women like her that give their husbands children that don't belong to them. The signs are all there .... she is deceitful ... she is not loyal and she is secretive... why should you be in pain because the yoke has been removed from your neck? Consider yourself lucky .... gather yourself together.... take a deep breath in .... exhale ... count yourself lucky and move on with your life.

jimmychang:
How is he a simp....mumu

godlessmind:
If i am going to be honest with you ,in my own humble opinion without being sentimental of course, without offending anyone who thinks differently from my own point of view,but also by looking into this matter in distinctive perspective ,i would like to say i have nothing to say.

Lamanii22:
I'm really sorry about my question... It's just a big part of it.... Every other person can ask other questions that may seem more important....

Phenomenal16:
Mine happened last year Nov
Being in a rlship with this man of God...never told me he is seeing someone else...only for me to see his introduction pictures
I thought I won't survive...I couldn't sleep.....I was taking piriton......I was Always talking to my self
I thought I would go mad
Mana look at me today
M strong n OK
Give it time
Is not easy
U will be fine
A better person is on d way

RapLawd:
I'm heart broken and in pains...


We have dated for like two years+ now, she was 18+ when we met, after some time, I was deeply in love with her and I believed she loved me too, so with that thought I asked her out for marriage, though she was excited over it but she said that she's not ready, that she just finished her secondary school and have to learn some business first as she's not going to further her educations, that she will consider marriage at the age of 22+,I was ok with that and so we kept going.


She learned food stuffs for like 4 months, we were supporting each, I assisted her to secure a shop and she was doing well.


Her ex came back and all of a sudden, we start having issue over unnecessary things, this prompted me to bring up marriage issue again, she maintained her stance, so I called off the relationship, and kept on being friends with her.


The break lasted for some months and we somehow managed to reconcile, we were back like never before, everything was so cool, I always tell her we need to prioritize the relationship so that it will have a clear direction, I wanted to tell her my mind, which is if you can't marry me, then let's quit for good, all that was on my mind but time and business never let me air it out.


Due to business, I have been traveling here and there, but we do talk frequently.We haven't seen for like two weeks cus I'm busy traveling (courtesy of my business).


I traveled last week Thursday, my mum got sick and was admitted to hospital while I was out,she always visits my mum at the hospital, I was worried with so many things that I didn't call her for like two days, so on Saturday, she called me in the morning which we talked very well, I noticed that something is off with her, I inquired but she said all is well, she asked if I'm coming back that same day but I was not sure cus I'm not done with my biz, she say that we need to see, which made me to ask her if there is any problem at all but she said no.


I was done with my biz towards evening,I was not fit for traveling that same day,but cus of my mum and the way my girl talked about seeing me,I decided to be on my way that same day.


Midway through the journey,my phone bleeped and it was text message from my girl,that she is getting married and that she has been trying to tell me but there's no chance for that...after reading the texts like about twenty times,I was confused and disturbed,I replied her saying that she's not serious...


Nairalanders,I came home that same night,went straight to the hospital, after seeing my mum,I went home and took my bath,then I went to her house,I refused to get inside,so I forced her to come out to come see me,she came out and was looking tattered and unkept, unlike the way I know her...I was eager to know what's going on and so I went straight to the point.


Hmmm,she was shaking, subbing and crying at the same time, she told me it's true, she's getting married, and that I shouldn't blame her,that everything just happened so fast...that it is not up to a month she met the guy,that since then he and his family has been disturbing her and her parents, and with that pressure she said yes without thinking, and besides, ever since we came back together that she can't exactly tell if I'm still interested in marrying her or not, that I never voiced it out or talked about marriage with her again like before...That she thought I no longer wants to marry her...


She said that it was on Friday that they came and said that they will be coming to take list on Saturday and then on 16th of June they will come and pay her bride price... She was not at home when all this was happening, she came back from shop and her father gave her the news, which was shocking to her.


I asked her, why didn't you tell me all this? Why didn't you tell me that you're ready now?
All she could say is that she still loves me and she's sorry... She keeps blaming me for not asking her out again...


We both cried like babies out there, till it was very late, the next I woke up wishing that all of the incident should be just a dream,I called her,she picked and her voice was down, truth is that,we haven't been the same since then, and as I am typing this, my girl is being married off to someone else, what I don't know is if she's doing it against her wish or she's doing it willingly?.


She's been calling since yesterday,that she wants to see me.

The last time we saw each other yesterday evening, I requested to be left alone, but she pleaded that I should not block her from communicating with me.

I couldn't sleep last night, and I believe she didn't as well, our last call was around 10:36 pm... She's not relaxed on the call which I noticed and asked her what is the problem again, she then said she will text me later...


Please, I need advice on how to move on from all this, and while doing that, I don't want to hurt her cus I'm certainly going to block all our communications after today...

mosdii:
Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

Juliusmalema2:
How is it a big part of it?