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Hello house,
I have been at the talking stage with this guy, lately he has been asking questions about finances and he wants to know how much I am earning; I get scared to tell him about my monthly salary. I fear he might leave me if I don’t earn up to his financial expectations. What should I do?

BetterHalf1:
Hello house,
I have been at the talking stage with this guy, lately he has been asking questions about finances and he wants to know how much I am earning; I get scared to tell him about my monthly salary. I fear he might leave me if I don’t earn up to his financial expectations. What should I do?

Please don't tell him. If he still continues to pressure you, give him a figure that is 50% of what you actually earn. Don't fall prey to gold diggers

Yeeeeeeeeeeee..... Danger oooo!!! Please don't let him know, na them . He should face something else not your finance Please don't let infatuation kill you

Women dey suffer sha.
I've just learnt from this post that women have the following stages, from talking stage to fvcking stage then it goes to either dumping or wifing stage.

You are scared he will leave you because you want him to wife you.
Forget these feminists who will tell you he has no such right. The first thing you need to learn about being a wife is that you must be submissive.

Ephesians 5:22-24, 1 Peter 3:1-22, Colossians 3:18, Ephesians 5:22, 1 Timothy 2:12, 1 Peter 3:1-7, Ephesians 5:22-33 and 1 Peter 3:5 all say you should submit everything.

Submission means to submit every part, thing, information and asset of your being to him.
From kpekus to salary plus other sundry information he isn't privy to.

Hanty, some ladies go to babalawos for husband, some go to Shiloh, some snatch their friends' own, some throw themselves at any man for husband because they know a husband is a woman's greatest laurel.

So if revealing your financial net-worth will give you a husband, please do it.
Infact, tell him your pension details and your parent's salaries too.

Did you say still at the talking stage? Use your brain girl.

Times have really changed...so women now bother about how well they earn before going into a relationship that is believed to be poverty alleviation for women?
This must be good times

It all depends if he is working too but never telling a man not working your salary figures cos n.a. dem preach fake love pass n will rush to marry you.

See no man wants to marry liability again now. We want family responsibilities shared in percentages so of he is working n ready to settle down, tell him. But if not just tell him a low figure n watch his reaction henceforth!

Lol since you are scared, I think he’s also well to do then, if he’s an honest guy which you should know then no problem in telling him that’s if you are in a relationship, but since you are still in talking stage, just tell him you don’t feel comfortable sharing it, he should understand.

Everyone up there just shouting anyhow. The OP earns way lower than the guy's expectations. Una no dey read??

Just because a guy asked her how much she earns, y'all are already shouting gold digger. How much she get? Selfish and stingy things!!
Mtcheeew

OP, don't mind them jare. Open up to him, he might even give you suggestions on how to have other streams of income. And if it's otherwise, take a walk. Sha don't be a victim.
God bless.

That guy nah sharp guy

Better keep ur mumu mouth shut!
As a nigga in the game, don't conceal anything... Its a bait to suck both your....he's being suvking before.. and your money

I don't know who need to hear this but I've come to the conclusion that Nigerian guys are Useless..
All of them

Onyi22:
I don't know who need to hear this but I've come to the conclusion that Nigerian guys are Useless..
All of them

Shuttup!

Na we say make u dey spread upandan..

Don't lemme slapp you this morning o

Why is he particular about how much you are earning? Has he told you the amount he is earning. It might be a red flag. A man that is so bent on knowing how much a proposed gf/wife is earning is a red flag.

That's how my close friend discovered later that her husband had gone around to ask about the salary and benefits the bank she was working was paying before he married her. Money was a major problem as the guy wanted her to be giving him a major part of her salary. Long story short...they separated.

You fear he might leave you if you don't earn up to his financial expectations? Lol really.. Talking stage, hmm I'm guessing you both are still trying to get to know each other.. I don't get why you're this scared, your emotions are all over the place already dear.. It's really very simple cos at the end of the day he'll stay if he wants to and will leave if it pleases him, even if it takes weeks, monthss orr yearsss.

Lol. This one is impressing sombori but what do I know except saying thank you mummy and daddy for giving me food.

Chai
The only question from me to you is, do you love him??

Financial expectations? Why not tell him where you work so he can do his due diligence on his own? He shouldn't ask you directly, it's wrong.

Dont tell him d correct figure...he is a gold digger.If u are earning 100k,tell him u r earning 25k

BetterHalf1:
Hello house,
I have been at the talking stage with this guy, lately he has been asking questions about finances and he wants to know how much I am earning; I get scared to tell him about my monthly salary. I fear he might leave me if I don’t earn up to his financial expectations. What should I do?

Nawooo

ImaIma1:
Why is he particular about how much you are earning? Has he told you the amount he is earning. It might be a red flag. A man that is so bent on knowing how much a proposed gf/wife is earning is a red flag.

That's how my close friend discovered later that her husband had gone around to ask about the salary and benefits the bank she was working was paying before he married her. Money was a major problem as the guy wanted her to be giving him a major part of her salary. Long story short...they separated.

If he leaves you based on such an irrelevant reason, then he doesn't love you. Beware because marriage/relationship with a man who is all about how much you earn can never be enjoyable. He should be contented with the fact that you are not idle but working.

BetterHalf1:
I fear he might leave me if I don’t earn up to his financial expectations. What should I do?

benjanjo1:
Please don't tell him. If he still continues to pressure you, give him a figure that is 50% of what you actually earn. Don't fall prey to gold diggers

I can't believe yoinjust told someone to lie

benjanjo1:
Please don't tell him. If he still continues to pressure you, give him a figure that is 50% of what you actually earn. Don't fall prey to gold diggers

So, every guy who asks for a lady’s financial status is a gold digger abi? It didn’t occur to you that d guy might be a high earner & probably wants a lady who can also bring something reasonable to d table so as to compliment his efforts.. in my opinion, I feel intending couple ought to have discussions about finances before going into any serious relationship or marriage to avoid ‘had I known ‘...

If you can reveal your private part to him what stops you from revealing your salary to him, is he not having his own source of income? Are you scared he wants to control your income? Be open if you want the relationship to work

Private part! Lol

Do not! I repeat, do not!

That's talking stage yay, Bros want to know if he should stay or japa.
He is obviously coming for the dough.
Some of this guys are coded gold diggers

Or probably some of this ones looking for working class girls because of what they will gain. This are the worst set of guys to be with.

BetterHalf1:
Hello house,
I have been at the talking stage with this guy, lately he has been asking questions about finances and he wants to know how much I am earning; I get scared to tell him about my monthly salary. I fear he might leave me if I don’t earn up to his financial expectations. What should I do?

Earn up to his financial expectations.

We don't like broke girls who subtract instead of add.

If he's financially buoyant or stable from your point of view.
Then tell him the actual amount, else you can tell him half or quarter of what you earn.
Although sincerity matters a lot, so everything dae your hand.

2buffagain:
Earn up to his financial expectations.

We don't like broke girls who subtract instead of add.

Exactly.
They can call it gold digging or whatever,but it is a reality.

Na Dem


Run oh

Complete other stages and leave this stage for now, simple.