Bestie basically means a person’s best friend.

For one in a relationship or marriage, having a bestie who isn’t the person you’re involved in the relationship with is enough red flag. It’s cheating already by sharing emotions with someone who isn’t your partner. For one to be your best friend, it mean you share every details of your life and secret with the person, secret you don’t disclose to anyone else. Would you be cool if you find out your boyfriend or girlfriend shares secrets with another person other than you? Secrets you have no idea about, it’s even more hurtful when this bestie is of opposite gender.. this already signify the lack of trust in the relationship. Trust is a major element for a successful and peaceful relationship, it’s better not to be in a relationship, than to be in one where there’s no trust. Imagine bring suspicious of every move your partner makes, studying every actions of him or her, in an attempt to know what he or she isn’t telling or hiding from you, “no be die you dey so?”. Trust is gotten from communication, where there’s lack of communication between people in a relationship, problems begin to crop in. Communication is the bedrock of a peaceful and happy union.

Many besties are having sexual relationships, both of opposite gender and same gender. Some are friends with benefits while some are actually in love but can’t be together due to certain reasons. I’ll leave the discussion of same gender for another day, let’s discuss about that of opposite gender today.

I don’t believe people of different gender can be very close friends. Theirs always a catch Inbetween, even if the friendship started innocently like it sometimes happen, people tend to develop feelings for someone they communicate and spend more time with, this explains why a guy falls in love with a ‘not so good looking’ girl, and why a girl falls in love with a ‘not so rich’ guy most times.. Every guy wants a beautiful girl; every girl wants a successful guy, a guy who can hold his own . It all begins with the person being a shoulder to cry on (opening and sharing secrets with him or her).. and for men, there’s a saying that a shoulder to cry on becomes a dick to ride on. You’ll always hear them say “I don’t know how it happened but we just found ourselves having sex”.. the emotions have been building with every communication and time you spent together.

When I discuss this with male friends, most agree with me, but when I have this discussion with female friends most argue against, but end up saying that they’ll never allow their men have a female bestie but they can have a male bestie, their justification is that men always have ulterior motive. I don’t accept this excuse, it’s lame, selfish and it doesn’t hold water, if men have ulterior motive, then what makes their own male friends different? Is that not a good reason to avoid having a male bestie so as not to complicate your life, if you also don’t have an ulterior motive you don’t want to disclose. My submission on this is that they don’t want their man to have a female bestie because they know the atrocities they commit with their male bestie. Like they say no one fears a knife more than one who kills with it.

The ones not having a sexual relationship are doing it for the attention they receive and the one sided relationship they enjoy, in a platonic friendship between both gender, the male friend does the responsibility of a boyfriend while the female friend doesn’t give back the responsibility of a girlfriend.. yahoo yahoo kind of friendship. Your boyfriend or husband attention and care should sufficient for you, it should be all you need. Be contented.

Like all general rules having exceptions, there are very few true friendship between opposite gender. But even the ones having sexual relations would still claim that they’re among the few true friendship until the bubble burst and yansh open Lol, so what I’ll still say is, it doesn’t matter if yours is a true friendship or not, so long as you’re in a relationship, your best friend (bestie) should be your lover of your husband, anything other than that is cheating. Cheating doesn’t need to be physical, sharing more emotions with another person other than who you’re in a relationship with is cheating too.. know where to draw the line with others. Create boundaries.

Let’s hear your view on this..

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Raw facts.
Bestie = Friends with benefits.
It's for cheats. Watch as only people currently enjoying such will counter this.

AGNESikpuNNU:

Raw facts.
Bestie = Friends with benefits.
It's for cheats. Watch as only people currently enjoying such will counter this.

Personally, my girlfriend can't have a male bestie. I'll tell you why.

I have 3 female besties. All endowed with the goodness of the Lord. Created specially cuz damn, why would a woman be given what these women have? Bright future and glorious past (front and back).

Now two of these ladies are in a VERY serious relationship. Like very serious. But each time they visit, I am always privileged to taste of God's goodness.

Please don't blame me.

No same man would turn down a fat, soft and bouncy bum bum. No sane man. I've seen them lie to their boyfriend that they are at home, or in a female friend's abode while taking solace in my embrace.

So...

BEFORE EVERY SUPPORT THERE IS ENTANGLEMENT.

Op I get ur point,very detailed and true write up
Although not all besties do d do sha. There are still some who are besties nd nothing else.
But it especially becomes dangerous if dey are adults.
I 4 my own part had dis bestie while I was in sec sch. Almost everyone thought we had something else going on but truth was dat there was nothing. The highest I went with her was lying on her laps.
That being said,I don't think either gender shld have a bestie of the opposite sex when he or she is married.

Bigggloadofcum:


Personally, my girlfriend can't have a male bestie. I'll tell you why.

I have 3 female besties. All endowed with the goodness of the Lord. Created specially cuz damn, why would a woman be given what these women have? Bright future and glorious past (front and back).

Now two of these ladies are in a VERY serious relationship. Like very serious. But each time they visit, I am always privileged to taste of God's goodness.

Please don't blame me.

No same man would turn down a fat, soft and bouncy bum bum. No sane man. I've seen them lie to their boyfriend that they are at home, or in a female friend's abode while taking solace in my embrace.

So...

BEFORE EVERY SUPPORT THERE IS ENTANGLEMENT.

Wow!
I bet you'll be dealing with trust issues due to this lifestyle. You'll never trust your girlfriend

meobizy:
Hmm. People have time.

Me sef tire o