1Alex:
We all make mistakes sometimes. You have made yours.

I'm my opinion, you should have gone with an elderly person to see her people pay her bride price only and explain your condition to them and plead with them to also help you take care of her till you get back on your feet.


If you abandon and forget about this baby now, in about 20 to 30 years later, you will begin to regret it.

AuroraB:
This one didn't . He took it a notch higher by reporting not only himself but the girl too
And this same girl wants to somehow be a wife to diswan instead of getting her life straighthened out first

Doubleoh7:

Eerrmmm, he had to report as he was still receiving his calling then. Just wondering whatever happened to the call now abi the network dn bad? No too blame the girl shaa, she was probably picturing herself as the wife of a powerful GO in the next couple of years

AuroraB:
I guess she discovered she couldn't be a GO quite early and chose this particular GO not knowing he's a GO in unexpected places

LilMissFavvy:
Oga

CharisEleos:

......
Everytime Sex sex sex.. sex that doesn't give you a happy ending, is that one sex?

When I tell people I've been celibate for many years, they think it's because I'm trying to form super girl. It's because of all these nonsense super story that you men come up with once there's any little mistake plus the fact that my body is the temple of Holy Spirit and not for any coconut head man who's just looking for anywhere to ease himself.
Mtcheeeeewwwwwww.

RenaissanceGuy:
After all these self-righteousness jargons you wrote here, what advise did you add that could be of help? He already said he fell into the temptation after been celibate for 7 years, and you think a similar thing can't happen to you? You're more spiritual and careful than people who were born again Christians for decades of years and later permanently 'backslided'?
That you even ended by hissing, shows how very hateful and unchristian you're whilst you claim the opposite.

Sleyk:
You didn't keep to your promise...
this story is LONG and not short.

CharisEleos:


When I tell people I've been celibate for many years, they think it's because I'm trying to form super girl. It's because of all these nonsense super story that you men come up with once there's any little mistake plus the fact that my body is the temple of Holy Spirit and not for any coconut head man who's just looking for anywhere to ease himself.
Mtcheeeeewwwwwww.

CharisEleos:


So how has my hissing to the OPs predicament become a criteria to judge my Christian faith? Or does he deserve a pat on the back for destroying a young girls career the poor parents suffered to send to school, bringing shame on them? And did you not see where I advised him to go and do the needful?

I'm not surprised you're holding brief for him.
Continue.

MejiLoyon:
Finally read it and this is my question. I hope you enjoyed it. I hope you nacked the bazooka out of that toto. I hope she screamed hallelujah and spoke in tongues while you squeezed your anointed rod into her red sea. I hope she came.

Pastor wey dey nack. I won't judge you Sha. And I have no advise for you. I'll just chip in something hopefully you will use it to have small sense. STOP GIVING YOURSELF UNNECESSARY PRESSURE. Think about that last sentence deeply. It's the answer to everything.

When are.you returning to school? I want to invest in church business. Pastor wey Sabi nack toto go Sabi make money from offering and tithes.

Hahaha hahaha.. The bros nack shege comot for her body on the contrary, e fit be say na small tin im do and im no enjoy am too now Belle don enter for wetin guyman pastor no enjoy. Which kain bad market be this sef?
Come to think of it, na pastors nack pass sha. Where do you think ride on pastor came from?
@op, she's not really threatening with not seeing ya baby stuff if na Imo State she truly come from, some parts of Imo sabi do that tin wella and there's nothing you can do about it even with ya wealth if dem decide say you no go see ya pikin.

My advice, use ya little savings wey remain go learn skills and make something for yourself and this time around, tie ya preek rope to avoid another unplanned pregnancy.
GOODLUCK, you go need am! Mr nackist cum guyman pastor I dey loyal to ya ministry!

Michelle55:

Hahaha hahaha.. The bros nack shege comot for her body on the contrary, e fit be say na small tin im do and im no enjoy am too now Belle don enter for wetin guyman pastor no enjoy. Which kain bad market be this sef?
Come to think of it, na pastors nack pass sha. Where do you think ride on pastor came from?
@op, she's not really threatening with not seeing ya baby stuff if na Imo State she truly come from, some parts of Imo sabi do that tin wella and there's nothing you can do about it even with ya wealth if dem decide say you no go see ya pikin.

My advice, use ya little savings wey remain go learn skills and make something for yourself and this time around, tie ya preek rope to avoid another unplanned pregnancy.
GOODLUCK, you go need am! Mr nackist cum guyman pastor I dey loyal to ya ministry!

CharisEleos:


So how has my hissing to the OPs predicament become a criteria to judge my Christian faith? Or does he deserve a pat on the back for destroying a young girls career the poor parents suffered to send to school, bringing shame on them? And did you not see where I advised him to go and do the needful?

I'm not surprised you're holding brief for him.

Continue.

Lamanii22:



Loool but it was interesting

Priceless007:
Hello Nairalanders.
It's a long story, but I'll try to keep it short and to the vital points. Please endure the length. There's a girl i met at a theological college in where I was studying to become a clergyman and also learning a skill under the civil engineering department of the college. She was my junior in the course, as I was a year away from graduating from my first course, while she was just a fresher. She was always having issues getting through her courses and projects and would always ask for my assistance since I was the course rep in that department. It was forbidden to have any intimate relationship with your course mate or anyone in the college for that matter, the penalty would be expulsion. But unfortunately for me, out of sheer lust and seduction on her part, and gross indiscipline and lack of self control on my part, I got intimate with her and we ended up committing fornication during one of our semester vacations. And it just happened once, of which out of deep regret and remorse I confessed the matter to the college Admin when the next semester resumed. We were panelled, after which I was suspended, while she was expelled. During this time I was learning a skill sponsored by the college, of which I use to get paid some weekly stipend. After I was suspended I was also stopped from continuing my apprenticeship, because I was not to associate with any of the students or lecturers in the school while my suspension lasted. So I was without a job and without a source of income since I wasn't yet mastered on the skill. The condition that was given to me to resume my studies and apprenticeship was that I should go and get married before I could come back to college, so as not to be tempted to repeat my error. But I wasn't ready for marriage whether financially or any other wise for that matter. So while I was contemplating my next move, this girl came to me that she was pregnant, that she needed us to go and see her parents. I told her I had no money neither was I ready to father a child at this point in my life. I pleaded she should give me time to think about what next to do. Two weeks passed, and I called her to enquire about her welfare but her number wasn't reachable, I decided to go to her place, but I was told she had travelled a week ago to go see her family. A week later, I received a call from a woman telling me she was the girl's mother, that her daughter came home with a pregnancy, and she asked me if I was responsible for the pregnancy, I answered her in the affirmative. She then asked when I was coming to see her family. I told her I wasn't sure about coming to see them that I needed to speak to the girl first. She said okay, then later that day the girl called me, and I told her to come back for us to talk deliberate on the way forward. When she came she told me her parents (who are by the way divorced) will not accept her nor the pregnancy without me coming to see them for marriage arrangements. I explained to her I wasn't ready for any such thing, that I have a calling to answer and a course to finish, that what happened between us was just a stupid and careless mistake that has been as a setback for me to achieve my goal, and that I was ready to overcome the trials and get back on track, and I explained to her that before then I had neither dated nor been intimate with anyone for over seven years, and so any kind of relationship or marriage was not even in my nearest future plans, and besides, I didn't even have a job, not to mention having enough money to embark on a marriage plan. She said she would never accept such excuse, that I should look for whatever means to make sure I come see her parents before her pregnancy becomes obvious. She also said that she needed money to move her belongings back to Imo state where her family resides. I agreed to raise some money for her. I went to do some menial jobs and raised some money, about ₦20k, which I gave to her and she traveled back to Owerri. From then on her parents kept calling and pressuring me to come and see them for marriage arrangements. I told them I was going to come, but just to introduce myself to them as the person responsible for their daughter's pregnancy not for any marriage arrangements. But they disagreed, that if I wasn't ready to come for marriage that I shouldn't bother coming. I pleaded with them to give me enough time to look for money to come and see them, but they instead started threatening me with court cases and arrests, at one time they brought the girl and some soldiers to my family house and harassed my family members including my mother. So I later traveled to Benin city to go look for money. After one week of my arrival in Benin, I lost my phone and I couldn't retrieve my number. I lost connection with them until I got back to Uyo where I got her phone number from a friend of hers. At this time, I was told that they came to my house several times with police officers claiming I raped their daughter and impregnated her then absconded. At this, I established contact with the girl again and she told me that I should not bother her that she wasn't in the mood to talk to me, I kept calling her but she often ended up abusing me or we often times ended up in quarrels, so I left her alone for sometime. Two weeks ago I related the matter to one of my distant uncles, who advised me to gather some money and go see her, I called her and told her I wanted to come and see her before she puts to bed, which is expected to be sometime next month (August). But she told me that she still stands by what her parents had said, if it's not for the marriage issue that I should not come, that I should rather send her the money I would use in coming so she can use it to buy the baby clothing and buy some hospital requirements before she puts to bed. I called her parents and they told me the same thing, and said if I don't come for the marriage agreement before she puts to bed, that after she's delivered of the baby I should forget ever coming, and should never mention that I have a child anywhere not to mention coming to claim it ever in the future. And that I should just forget about her and the child.
The issue now is this, I am a bit frustrated because I seem to have lost everything at the moment because of this issue; my calling, the skill I was learning is gone, I have no job aside the menial jobs I do at construction sites which isn't available regularly. Now the little I have saved so far, I am contemplating on whether to use the money to pay for my skills training and continue with it and start my life afresh and forget about her, the child, and her parents, or use the money to support her in her hospital requirements for her delivery. Because I don't want to be seen as abandoning her when she is in this condition, and I also don't want to give up on the child, though I'm not capable of taking care of the girl and the baby right now, and probably, I might end up getting married but not under my present circumstances. I know I've made a grave mistake and this is the consequences for not being true to myself and my calling, and I deeply regret it, and I've suffered for it in any way I can possibly imagine, but I also need to put my life back in order, because right now I'm so devastated that I'm contemplating terrible alternatives to survive the storm, I'm at a very critical moment of my life and I just feel like giving up on life altogether. Please I need your help and advice on this issue. Thanks.

PS. Please if anyone is willing to teach me any skill, I would be very grateful and willing to learn.