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hosemujica:
That last one na coco. Thats why most guys want a child before they even say yes these days .

ravensckar:
My apologies for misunderstanding you then.

I've been a bit bored, hence I needed someone to have a 'word match'.

Pecoleee345:
She is in father house.....I don't expect her to spend her money.....her father should continue from where I stopped.

They want right but not equal responsibility...

CharisEleos:
Twp Captains cannot be in one boat.
The problem lies with both of you.
She cannot take shit. You cannot take shit. So, who will now take the shit? Pride.

Pride goes before a fall. That is what has befallen your marriage.
When you learn to get off your high horses, you both will be cohabitable.

The problem with many couples is that they place themselves higher than the other. Now you talked about her trying to measure up to you ( equality). What made you see her as trying to do that if you yourself have not placed yourself so high.? Even before God, we all are equal. So why think you are higher than someone else? Your better half for that matter.

It's normal for two people to have a misunderstanding. But you should learn to to let go immediately and also try to avoid anything that will cause any further misunderstanding. If you see it coming, quickly turn it to a joke. Is she sees it coming, let her do same. but no. Rather you'll feel, "Why should I be the one to backdown" let him /her go to hell!!!!!!. Ego.

If you can't manage your first marriage then you'll not be able to manage the next. mind you the other woman will be coming with a baggage of her own character flaws.

No one is perfect.

djon78:
Abegi make we hear word

A woman must bring something to the table when coming into marriage

A topic was trending on Twitter some days ago where one guy put his condition for marrying any woman includes her financial assets/ capability and her academic potentials

And many guys affirmed to that

Many guys are now considering a woman's financial capability before marriage unlike before where they shoulder everything

SimplyFacts:
For compatibility, a lady once told me that she needed to get confirmation from her two Pastors & her mom's?

3 Pastors Mo ya look away. Before she gave a reply, [b][/b]I told her my Pastor said (na lie o) he saw death ahead of us .

I can't lay the foundation of my marriage or live my life on the beliefs of other people she called Pastors.

Pecoleee345:
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Yea.....i messed up in that aspect..... Especially the background check and way of life.

The worst one was the medical check it was two years into marriage I found out she had weak womb due to abortion....

MASTERYANKEE:
You forget to talked about her weak womb and abortion. You be yeye person .

CharisEleos:
Twp Captains cannot be in one boat.
The problem lies with both of you.
She cannot take shit. You cannot take shit. So, who will now take the shit? Pride.

Pride goes before a fall. That is what has befallen your marriage.
When you learn to get off your high horses, you both will be cohabitable.

The problem with many couples is that they place themselves higher than the other. Now you talked about her trying to measure up to you ( equality). What made you see her as trying to do that if you yourself have not placed yourself so high.? Even before God, we all are equal. So why think you are higher than someone else? Your better half for that matter.

It's normal for two people to have a misunderstanding. But you should learn to to let go immediately and also try to avoid anything that will cause any further misunderstanding. If you see it coming, quickly turn it to a joke. Is she sees it coming, let her do same. but no. Rather you'll feel, "Why should I be the one to backdown" let him /her go to hell!!!!!!. Ego.

If you can't manage your first marriage then you'll not be able to manage the next. mind you the other woman will be coming with a baggage of her own character flaws.

No one is perfect.

Pecoleee345:
So over last weekend....I called family meeting my mum,elder brother and I went to my wife parents house...her family members were present.

They wanted to resolve things between us but no one gave a Bleep about me....they asked her to speak and she said alot of things both truth and lies.
I was lambasted from both sides and I let them finished properly before dropping the bomb......I looked into her eye straight up and told her am divorcing you.

They were all stunned.... they were now interested in my side of the story.

I decided not to say anything.....am not the type that bad mouth people to score points or look good (my ex-wife is very good at that)....I just told her family to demand the truth from her.

My device to young men.
1.make sure u know the background of the lady u wanna get involved with....there way of life etc
The mistake I made wasn't evaluating her background......we from completely different backgrounds....eg where she comes from people talking crazy and shouting at one another isn't a big deal but me it was a Taboo infact in my parent house u can't talk with high tones for normal discussions.

2.See forget love and looks......Make sure you know the main reason she wants to marry you.
I know she loves me but she had another motive which is am meant to give her everything she wants in Life....She had that mind set of her responsibilities is totally dependent on me.

She told me she can only spare or borrow me money towards doing anything in the house but is my duty to provide anything she wants even the riddicules ones.

3.For your peace of mind stay away from most ladies raised by single mothers because most her poison to hate men right from teens by there mother.
They are mostly insecure....they believe all men cheat and can never trust.
Comes with mad jealousy

They mostly have anger issue.... they will tell you I don't take shit... trying to show they are strong and can't take what there mother took despite you not doing any shit.....they want to have say in everything just to show you are equal.

They are always quick to be on the defensive
Just to mention a few

I once told my wife am not like your father when I couldn't take the policing, sneaking and threat anymore.

See as a man no one gives a shit about you..... people are sympathetic towards the female and expect you to take whatever she throws at you but you need your peace of mind.
The society has made it possible for women to get away with lot of things.

If you found a woman you want to marry please put love aside and get to really know her background well......cohabit with her for 6month......lastly even if you don't have money, please borrow and go for comprehensive medical check up with her.... (check your sperm count and the state of her womb) please.

Ishilove:
Your father is the biggest fool for not pouring you into a condom. Now we have to endure your nuisance. Your parents think they have a son, they don't know they have cursed the world with a braying donkey in human flesh.

You ignored henceforth, you irritating, ripe boil on the ass of humanity.

kingreign:

b3llo:
I like your closing remark "Run a background check on the woman you want to marry."



Avoid women raised by single mums like fire...

Pecoleee345:
So over last weekend....I called family meeting my mum,elder brother and I went to my wife parents house...her family members were present.

They wanted to resolve things between us but no one gave a Bleep about me....they asked her to speak and she said alot of things both truth and lies.
I was lambasted from both sides and I let them finished properly before dropping the bomb......I looked into her eye straight up and told her am divorcing you.

They were all stunned.... they were now interested in my side of the story.

I decided not to say anything.....am not the type that bad mouth people to score points or look good (my ex-wife is very good at that)....I just told her family to demand the truth from her.

My device to young men.
1.make sure u know the background of the lady u wanna get involved with....there way of life etc
The mistake I made wasn't evaluating her background......we from completely different backgrounds....eg where she comes from people talking crazy and shouting at one another isn't a big deal but me it was a Taboo infact in my parent house u can't talk with high tones for normal discussions.

2.See forget love and looks......Make sure you know the main reason she wants to marry you.
I know she loves me but she had another motive which is am meant to give her everything she wants in Life....She had that mind set of her responsibilities is totally dependent on me.

She told me she can only spare or borrow me money towards doing anything in the house but is my duty to provide anything she wants even the riddicules ones.

3.For your peace of mind stay away from most ladies raised by single mothers because most her poison to hate men right from teens by there mother.
They are mostly insecure....they believe all men cheat and can never trust.
Comes with mad jealousy

They mostly have anger issue.... they will tell you I don't take shit... trying to show they are strong and can't take what there mother took despite you not doing any shit.....they want to have say in everything just to show you are equal.

They are always quick to be on the defensive
Just to mention a few

I once told my wife am not like your father when I couldn't take the policing, sneaking and threat anymore.

See as a man no one gives a shit about you..... people are sympathetic towards the female and expect you to take whatever she throws at you but you need your peace of mind.
The society has made it possible for women to get away with lot of things.

If you found a woman you want to marry please put love aside and get to really know her background well......cohabit with her for 6month......lastly even if you don't have money, please borrow and go for comprehensive medical check up with her.... (check your sperm count and the state of her womb) please.

Pecoleee345:
l
Yea.....i messed up in that aspect..... Especially the background check and way of life.

The worst one was the medical check it was two years into marriage I found out she had weak womb due to abortion....

Xilsbridalhouse:
pecoleee345

There are 3 sides to a story, yours, hers and the truth.

I have a feeling you are leaving her because of the test result. Perhaps you detested her afterwards and now making her look bad to everyone to justify your actions.

Ishilove:
Op, nobody is perfect. Let he who is without sin be the first to cast the stone.

Rozcol:
Op is a liar, most Nigerian men are liars and manipulators.You all will be surprised if you hear the wife's side.

Ishilove:
We oftentimes don't know what we have until we lose it.

Rozcol:
exactly, I don't believe everything he's been typing here,if he weren't a bad man he wouldn't have come across a bad woman as a wife.All he's been typing here are lies

elay44:
Bro I only read stuff as a guest. this your post made me register on nairaland. I am in this same boat the, threats, jealousy, anger, no support financially,( I earn very well to take care of the family but it can be exhausting sometimes) etc. but we have Kids . I salute your courage bro. you need to be in this shoes to understand what this bro went through. you can comment and call names but you just can't understand. I feel you and I am very happy for you. thanks for speaking up and being an encouragement. a lot of men are going through shit all in the name of love. forget redplliers. we are not built to be violent, we geniuely care for people, that just how we are wired. but we are taken for granted and our nature taken for weakness.

Visocrate:
Are you okay is everyone the same your girl is different and you may not get another one like her if you break up because of what you are reading here, every one has his own problem you want to spoil a relationship you cultivated over time because of one post

Pecoleee345:
l
Yea.....i messed up in that aspect..... Especially the background check and way of life.

The worst one was the medical check it was two years into marriage I found out she had weak womb due to abortion....

Rozcol:
She's your responsibility as wife and her primary duty is to give care and not provide, be a masculine man and not a man who feels relaxed watching his wife toil to help him share responsibility.