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bisqit:
where are the virgins? My ex confessed she was a virgin till i stumbled on her erotic chats.

Afodot0022:
Hmmm am just speechless with OP experience. Seems like we both are going through the same issues mentioned by you. Infact it looks like your wife is related to my own wife in some certain ways cos she exhibit same trait your wife display. You have said all and a word is enough for the wise. Single guys should open their eyes and pray real hard before settling down with any lady expecially those that were raised by single ladies and those that came out of polygamous home. They are really toxic and unbearable. My wife mom abandone them to their father when they were young and it was their step mom that raised them. The father had many wives and also her mum married multiple husband before she married their father and still left him to marry another again. So you can imagine how messed up their background was. I knew all this when i was still dating her but let me say i was carried away with love or probably lust and didnt make me consider those things.
The issue am facing now with my woman, when i maried her, i only did traditional marriage and didnt do any registry. After the traditional, madam show me hell o that i was even looking for a way out cos of peace of mind. Now after some years, my father inlaw just called me recently that we should go and do our registry which is court wedding. He mentioned that he gave me a week to get this done and if i dont have enough funds , he is willing to assist financially. Now my question is with the way my wife has behave in the past, should i still go ahead and do the court wedding now after 5 years we did our traditional. Pls i need answers and advice from matured married men out there cos if left to me, i am not doing any court wedding cos the way i look at it, i dont think our marriage will last with the way my wife had behaved. If its you, will you proceed to do the court marriage.

Munzy14:
That your last statement is deep!..


I av noticed their is a threat of arrogance and pride when some women feel they have achieved financial stability...You will notice this when you date some professional or career ladies.


Yet, there are very comfortable ladies humble, cool and humane..with womanly care...

In all this, you just pray you meet the woman for you...Even in the long run most trusted partners can be influenced by a lot....Friends, what they read, hear or see etc..

When a man is ready to settle, e dey involve prayer o..

If not you may repeat marriage.

AutoChick4U:
Aeya sorry. Im a single mom but definitely raising my kid in love. Not all single moms bad sha

Frenzy01:
Why does everybody keep advising single men to avoid ladies raised by single mothers



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Mutemenot:
I wish my friend could see this thread, his own hell is on this earth; courtesy of wife trained by a single mother...
our women are becoming trap, looking for who to catch and, they re after the good men in the society to devour...

adedayourt:
OP, let me first empathize with you as this must be that very phase of your life you wish not to arrive at.

Exactly what you stated up their is what I go through, but mine is happening while we still dating and we already have a wedding date. Introduction is supposed to be in few weeks from now.


But this lady is raised by partially her mum, partially her dad. She does most of the things you stated up there to the extend that when I step out of the house to buy stuff, she tails me and locks around behind (I have caught her doing this).



Now she has gone to my family to speak a whole lot and currently I am the worst guy on earth before my folks while she walks like an angel. Presently I called off everything with her and cancelling the wedding even though everybody is insisting I cannot take such decision.


I am only glad I am not married to her yet.

Rubbiish:
Not in all cases!
Sometimes we feel happy losing some people & start regretting why we had to wait that long to lose them. Especially when u see how meaningful your life has become without them.

adedayourt:
OP, let me first empathize with you as this must be that very phase of your life you wish not to arrive at.

Exactly what you stated up their is what I go through, but mine is happening while we still dating and we already have a wedding date. Introduction is supposed to be in few weeks from now.


But this lady is raised by partially her mum, partially her dad. She does most of the things you stated up there to the extend that when I step out of the house to buy stuff, she tails me and locks around behind (I have caught her doing this).



Now she has gone to my family to speak a whole lot and currently I am the worst guy on earth before my folks while she walks like an angel. Presently I called off everything with her and cancelling the wedding even though everybody is insisting I cannot take such decision.


I am only glad I am not married to her yet.

EndRape2:
U are a stupid man, you do not live her, you divource her because of the weak womb, nothing more nothing less,

You are stupid, she should go and thank God you left her, because in marriage we need people that truly love us, and willing to go an extra mile for us , you can not put live aside in marriage , love is the only thing that can make you see strength in your partner's weekends,

It is the weak womb, and abortion that made you see other weaknesses,

A weak womb does not mean she can not give birth, ivf is there , surrogacy is there
As long as there is no domestic violence , both partners can sit and resolve issues that comes with marriage, you think divource is a thing to celebrate , you are a mumu ,people praising you here have their own marital challenge , and they are solving it gradually.



Let her dust her self and be happy, that you left, because every woman needs a man that genuinely love her because at old age she will need care and love, not a man that will dump her at old age and follow young girls .


Give me her number let me celebrate with her.

lightwind:
Looks like you have do ABORTIONS well well?

Elsueno:
pls, can we see ur picture? , even if it's just a silhouette..I & my friends want to make sure to stay away from a woman like you

Fountainofyouth:
What you think of me is SOLELY your problem, you are just a mere moniker same as everyone else.

Stupidquestions:
One last point....be careful with women with big yansh....cos most times..the yansh dey geh insurance for outside unknowing to the man.

Fountainofyouth:
Dumbness of the century, you keep ranting lack of womb everywhere when Op specifically said she had miscarriage TWICE, are you blind? Or you lack comprehension?

CharisEleos:
Twp Captains cannot be in one boat.
The problem lies with both of you.
She cannot take shit. You cannot take shit. So, who will now take the shit? Pride.

Pride goes before a fall. That is what has befallen your marriage.
When you learn to get off your high horses, you both will be cohabitable.

The problem with many couples is that they place themselves higher than the other. Now you talked about her trying to measure up to you ( equality). What made you see her as trying to do that if you yourself have not placed yourself so high.? Even before God, we all are equal. So why think you are higher than someone else? Your better half for that matter.

It's normal for two people to have a misunderstanding. But you should learn to to let go immediately and also try to avoid anything that will cause any further misunderstanding. If you see it coming, quickly turn it to a joke. Is she sees it coming, let her do same. but no. Rather you'll feel, "Why should I be the one to backdown" let him /her go to hell!!!!!!. Ego.

If you can't manage your first marriage then you'll not be able to manage the next. mind you the other woman will be coming with a baggage of her own character flaws.

No one is perfect.

Fountainofyouth:
Dumbness of the century, you keep ranting lack of womb everywhere when Op specifically said she had miscarriage TWICE, are you blind? Or you lack comprehension?

Yea.....i messed up in that aspect..... Especially the background check and way of life.
The worst one was the medical check it was two years into marriage I found out she had weak womb due to abortion....

DrayZee:
Did you see the part where he wanted her to get medical attention but she was blaming it on spiritual problems?

Belafonte:
Why violence, dear?

You're not blind but you missed this direct quote from the OP himself?







https://www.nairaland.com/6673069/marriage-finally-crashed#104176980

bisqit:
where are the virgins? My ex confessed she was a virgin till i stumbled on her erotic chats.

see mu.mu o. So because someone is hor.ny then she's not a virgin. Did you enter "the place" only to discover that someone has been there before you? What's your obsession with the V card

lordally:
My friend's elder brother left a Cool headed and respectful business woman he was dating saying he needs to marry a professional by the way , he's a doctor working at UCTH he ended up marrying a Doctor too! That is one of the greatest mistake he made in his life and he's deeply regretting it. The woman does nothing in the house! Even to cook na Wahala to even sweep na Wahala, plates go dey sink for 2 days. The woman's mum came for Omugwo and does absolutely nothing in the house. In the morning the wife go carry phone dey press the mama go dey follow the wife gist na this man go wake up to go cook. The wife has no atom of respect for the man! The man's mum too came for Omugwo this woman doesn't even care if she eats or not. But the woman would bath the baby , cook etc. Make I just stop here. See bro take your eyes away from Profession. Doctor , lawyer engineer , SSCE holder all na bullshit! You're not marrying the profession na the woman you dey marry! See let me tell you , a stack illiterate and a PHD holder all give the same wahala! Just go for one that gives peace of mind and sees her Helping you all round as her responsibility.

Fountainofyouth:
I believe you are educated, is a weak womb, a lack of womb?

skoroko:
As a responsible man you have to hold on to the ancient belief that everything a woman needs under your roof is your responsibility. Note this and no woman will override your position. If you get into another marriage with the feminist oriented woman the situation may be worst that the first... My opinion though....

Fountainofyouth:
So how does that equate to not having a womb?

Rozcol:
Please let us hear word and for your information she's right about that number 2,in marriage a man should provide everything and its solely depend on your wife's decision to assist you or not,its not a mandatory task.Women are care givers and not providers, you can't expect a woman to provide and still respect you it usually don't happen that way.She's not here to say her own side so nobody has the right to condemn her yet. No be Nigerian men again mtchewww

bisqit:
have heard you ms biglittlelois

Fountainofyouth:
@Pecoleee345 you are the cause of your problem not your wife, your wife is never at fault

1) You admitted you were carried away by beauty and whatsapp status instead of doing due dilligence

2) You did not table out how financial responsibilities would be shared before marrying her, if you did, you would have simply bounced out if you are not cool with taking full responsibility, you cannot force your mentality you feel is right, on another person who feels her own mentality is also right,

3) You admitted she told your family members and hers lies and truth, so why didn't you tell us the truths that is your fault? Why did you instead choose to tell us only her faults?

4) You said your family also joined in castigating you for all she said, even the lies, that means you were also castigated on her truth of your own faults, why didn't you clear the air and also tell them about the weak womb if you were that innocent as you opined?

5) There are so many reasons why she keeps having miscarriage, as much as having an abortion may be one of them, that doesn't mean she can't give birth, so many women have had abortion and they have kids today, also, women who have never had any still have issues of childbirth today. Now the case of your wife can easily be solved if you would have simply Google search what causes pregnancy incompetence and how it can be solved, then you can go to a good and reputable OB/GYN for consultation, you shouldn't just pack up and give up just because you were told she has a weak womb, except you were looking for a good reason to divorce her.

*first pics below are causes of cervix incompetence, 2nd pics is a common and successful solution to solving the issue, yours may even be rhesus factor if thorough tests was actually done for her.

And lastly, the nonsensical notion of avoiding single mothers or their daughters has got to be the most foolish rant coming from nairaland dings, should we also say men brought up from single mothers should be avoided like plagues? What of ladies raised by their dads? They are also damaged? So many idiots on here capitalising on this stupid notion comes from stable background but are very damaged, bitter, and thoroughly mentally ill, should we now say children from stable background should be ignored too? Let's kuku not date or marry anyone na since there is a high probability of meeting damaged people from every home, abi we should only date stone? Idiots, see how all the resident nl manboys have already capitalise on the single mothers ish forgetting same mumu Op already said not all of them are like that, na so una blind reach, to the extent that one said he would break up with his gf of a single mother, they prefer to follow bandwagon instead of using their brain to think, very daft set of people.

lordally:
My friend's elder brother left a Cool headed and respectful business woman he was dating saying he needs to marry a professional by the way , he's a doctor working at UCTH he ended up marrying a Doctor too! That is one of the greatest mistake he made in his life and he's deeply regretting it. The woman does nothing in the house! Even to cook na Wahala to even sweep na Wahala, plates go dey sink for 2 days. The woman's mum came for Omugwo and does absolutely nothing in the house. In the morning the wife go carry phone dey press the mama go dey follow the wife gist na this man go wake up to go cook. The wife has no atom of respect for the man! The man's mum too came for Omugwo this woman doesn't even care if she eats or not. But the woman would bath the baby , cook etc. Make I just stop here. See bro take your eyes away from Profession. Doctor , lawyer engineer , SSCE holder all na bullshit! You're not marrying the profession na the woman you dey marry! See let me tell you , a stack illiterate and a PHD holder all give the same wahala! Just go for one that gives peace of mind and sees her Helping you all round as her responsibility.

donbachi:
No perfect woman.but,make we no meet the ones wey go kill us.

TarOrfeeek:
Whether she exhibit.

Whether she nor exhibit

I no like wahala.

Buhari hardship is enough for one person.