₦airaland Forum

ravensckar:
A typical Naija lady's defensive argument. Una no dey ever change tactics ni?

Meanwhile, I'm patiently waiting for that deranged one to come and scream the future is 'female'.

Hahah

djon78:
Before I used to berate redpillers but I come to realize they are talking facts

The worst that can happen to a man is married to a woman that you cater for everything but she doesn't appreciate it but rather makes everything miserable for you

I will never forget nairaland for the knowledge of the redpill

Pecoleee345:
Is she exhibiting those characters I mentioned
Not all of them are like that oo.

My wife is from a single parent home we have been married 15 years with none of these issues.

I also did not live with her before marriage all those things mean nothing because marriage is different from boyfriend and girlfriend.


The advice is the op’s opinion and he used kpekus to decide to marry not his brain and normal investigation to know the person and her family until it was too late. It is well. Live and learn.

southniyikaye:
there are some of us that provides even to her underwear and still took pain in helping setting her up and what did we get in return?

Nagging

djon78:
My brother honestly you have spoken very well

Like I said in the opinion you quoted
Quality of human beings is depreciating with each passing generation

The kind of women we have now i something

There are still some very few good ones but they are minute
Any man that has got one should be thankful to God

In coming decades
People may not be getting married like that

If my father's generation passes away, marriage interest and sustaining marriage may not be that viable in our clime and culture again
We will be seeing more what is obtainable in African American culture where many children will be born to baby mamas and single father's

Many men have been pushed to the wall

women are not being raised up properly again
True they are more educated now
But the real education of training a woman to be cultured, respectful, and virtuous is dieing away rapidly at an alarming rate


And in the end
Women will bear the brunt

Many males are becoming unwilling
Not ready to sacrifice again
Because there sacrifices are not appreciated



And while it will be bad for them is that in Western laws
A man must be compelled to take care of his children
We don't have such laws here
So with unwilling men
Women will be faced in taking care of the children alone

Honestly we are really getting to the end times or apocalypse
Society bit by bit is falling apart before our very eyes

I can only weep
Again, Your write up speaks volume.
MEN have become endangered specie.
MEN should stop getting married at this rate.
Some saved up millions just to have a leech beside them. It's not worth it.

Again, the LADIES should start delisting marriage from their plans too especially when you are not ready to live with a man yet.
I'm appealing to Ladies to remain in their parent's houses or better still marry themselves especially when you have vowed never to come under the tutelage of any man.

MARRIAGE is not warfare.
If our mothers could do such when our fathers married 3, 4 ,or 5 wives, why can't you do it now that men have been brainwashed to marry one.

Officially... We the single men association of Nigeria hereby crown you the elder of this very union

You've gone through alot and decided to share your experiences with the association...

Sorry for all the pains you went through... And also accept our humble Award


Signed

Management

Single Men Association Of Nigeria (SMAN)

When will Nairalanders learn not to judge matters with only one side of the story?

bunto:
When will Nairalanders learn not to judge matters with only one side of the story?

You may be right but I'm of the opinion that the ladies should start delisting marriage from their plans especially those ones who have resolved never to see themselves wives but to see themselves as husbands too.

Secondly, MEN should start keeping their hard earned money in their pockets.
U can't save up cash to marry, only to start having headaches from same union.
With this everyone will respect him or herself.
Again, this my decision doesn't stop anyone from having kids, for you don't need marriage to have kids. IVF procedures are also there too.
Enough of all these INSULTS.

IF our mothers whom nowadays ladies term foolish and gullible could withstand our fathers who married 4 wives with many concubines, I don't see reason why a wife who is still a visitor in her husband's family will develop fangs overnight.

You are still mentioning your grandfather's time in this day and age?
Our men are really the reason why our society is messed up.

How many people on this thread were raised by:
1. Their single moms
2. Their married moms living single?

Things will only get worse as long as Nigerians men keep blaming their women.

Men are leaders of society. The men here are not creating a good life for their families.
How many of them go out to vote? How many men are members of political parties?

How many men are "deliberate" in guiding and guarding their families?
How many of the people on the thread will beat their cheat and say they were raised by their fathers?

MALIGNANTGuest:

I can only weep
Again, Your write up speaks volume.
MEN have become endangered specie.
MEN should stop getting married at this rate.
Some saved up millions just to have a leech beside them. It's not worth it.

Again, the LADIES should start delisting marriage from their plans too especially when you are not ready to live with a man yet.
I'm appealing to Ladies to remain in their parent's houses or better still marry themselves especially when you have vowed never to come under the tutelage of any man.

MARRIAGE is not warfare.
If our mothers could do such when our fathers married 3, 4 ,or 5 wives, why can't you do it now that men have been brainwashed to marry one.

Most people already knew she is lieing asss beitch. From her silly comments one can tell

HolyTitus:
How I wish the person that engaged you can see this to see how unlucky he/ she was

Or prolly, you're just a troll

modified: Or why would someone that claimed to be engaged make a post of her bestfriend that went ahead to date the guy that was still wooing her on the 28th of JUNE, 2021 .

bunto:
You are still mentioning your grandfather's time in this day and age?
Our men are really the reason why our society is messed up.

How many people on this thread were raised by:
1. Their single moms
2. Their married moms living single?

Things will only get worse as long as Nigerians men keep blaming their women.

Men are leaders of society. The men here are not creating a good life for their families.
How many of them go out to vote? How many men are members of political parties?

How many men are "deliberate" in guiding and guarding their families?
How many of the people on the thread will beat their cheat and say they were raised by their fathers?

It's GOOD we are having Healthy discussion.
We don't need to insult each other.
You can drive home your points.

MINE is to ensure MEN stop getting married as much as possible for it's no longer of any benefit to them.
The WOMEN are not left out too since they claim same MEN treat them as trash.

So if both see such that way, then why make efforts to join them again?
Marriage is not warfare.
I know many LADIES out there who have vowed never to take SHIT from Men.
And I praying for them not to see any MAN in their lives. You can't crave for what you detest.
Again, a man can't save up cash to be with a lady who have vowed to traumatize him all in the name of marital union.
MEN should start buying properties.
There are many ways you can have kids without pledging permanent allegiance to one lady who's is not worth it.
Senator Arthur Nzeribe did it.
A wealthy man in his OLD AGE can still employ the services of any lady he deems fit.
MEN wake up.
All you need is MONEYYYYY

Seeing comments so far from Nigerian young men I can boldly say I give up on you all because all of you are not ready to be in charge and take care of your responsibilities. Most of you are for the streets, you all have no business with marriage and keeping a home

Rozcol:
Seeing comments so far from Nigerian young men I can boldly say I give up on you all because all of you are not ready to be in charge and take care of your responsibilities. Most of you are for the streets, you all have no business with marriage and keeping a home

BETTER
You are CORRECT.
The MEN are now encouraged to go back to the streets where money can be sourced.
Go and make MONEY.
See Timaya, and FLAVOUR.
They have paid COOKS whom they placed on payroll. No LADY should act inimical to you.

Firstly, Ask yourself what you want from Ladies?
Secondly, can't these stuffs be provided without marrying them?
Thirdly, what efforts can I make to enrich myself towards actualizing such effortlessly,

I can mention 3 Nigerian Senators with KIDS but not married. WATCH such men live up to 90yrs.
Nzeribe is almost 95yrs now.
IF he had married, his WIFE would have widowed him earlier on and cornered his entire wealth.

MALIGNANTGuest:
BETTER
You are CORRECT.
The MEN are now encouraged to go back to the streets where money can be sourced.
Go and make MONEY.
See Timaya, and FLAVOUR.
They have paid COOKS whom they placed on payroll. No LADY should act inimical to you.

Firstly, Ask yourself what you want from Ladies?
Secondly, can't these stuffs be provided without marrying them?
Thirdly, what efforts can I make to enrich myself towards actualizing such effortlessly,

All these people you mentioned are busy birthing babies out of wedlock and living an irresponsible life.They have the money but still need women to give CARE

Rozcol:
All these people you mentioned are busy birthing babies out of wedlock and living an irresponsible life.They have the money but still need women to give CARE

You claim they live irresponsible life right simply because they got kids out of wedlock .

So same MARRIAGE is now the S.I unit for responsibility.
My Question is, why is it that the LADIES that got married responsibly are now behaving irresponsible too in same marriage?
Are there no married Men that are Irresponsible or lazy too?

Pecoleee345:
Previous thread https://www.nairaland.com/6653469/another-marriage-crash

So over last weekend.... I called family meeting my mum, elder brother and I went to my wife parents house... her family members were present.

They wanted to resolve things between us but no one gave a Bleep about me....they asked her to speak and she said alot of things both truth and lies.

I was lambasted from both sides and I let them finished properly before dropping the bomb......I looked into her eyes straight up and told her am divorcing you.

They were all stunned.... they were now interested in my side of the story.

I decided not to say anything.....am not the type that bad mouth people to score points or look good (my ex-wife is very good at that)....I just told her family to demand the truth from her.

My advice to young men.

1. Make sure u know the background of the lady u wanna get involved with....the way of life etc.

The mistake I made was not evaluating her background...... We came from completely different backgrounds....eg where she comes from people talking crazy and shouting at one another isn't a big deal but me it was a Taboo infact in my parents' house u can't talk with high tones for normal discussions.

2. See forget love and looks...... Make sure you know the main reason she wants to marry you.

I know she loves me but she had another motive which is am meant to give her everything she wants in Life.... She had that mind set of her responsibilities is totally dependent on me.

She told me she can only spare or borrow me money towards doing anything in the house but it is my duty to provide anything she wants even the riddicules ones.

3. For your peace of mind stay away from most ladies raised by single mothers because most her poison to hate men right from teens by their mother.

They are mostly insecure....they believe all men cheat and can never trust.
Comes with mad jealousy

They mostly have anger issue.... they will tell you I don't take shit... trying to show they are strong and can't take what their mother took despite you not doing any shit.....they want to have say in everything just to show you are equal.

They are always quick to be on the defensive
Just to mention a few

I once told my wife am not like your father when I couldn't take the policing, sneaking and threat anymore.

See as a man no one gives a shit about you..... people are sympathetic towards the female and expect you to take whatever she throws at you but you need your peace of mind.
The society has made it possible for women to get away with lot of things.

If you found a woman you want to marry please put love aside and get to really know her background well......cohabit with her for 6month......lastly even if you don't have money, please borrow and go for comprehensive medical check up with her.... (check your sperm count and the state of her womb) please.

Background check or not,humans are capable of just about anything.I don’t see how someone who claims to love another find so much fault.we sometimes bring out the beast in others as a result of things we say or do.the fact that she’s had 2miscarriages is enough to put her on edge almost always.her “weak womb due to abortions”is only an excuse used to score yourself points and bring her down.Truth is,you are tired of the marriage and want out.people have gone through worst and yet worked it out.

lordally:
After calling off the wedding what was her reaction please?

She has this I don't care attitude on her face, but she won't allow my folks to rest, giving them calls constantly and in turn they trying to persuade me.

Rozcol:
All these people you mentioned are busy birthing babies out of wedlock and living an irresponsible life.They have the money but still need women to give CARE

They need paid women to CARE for them.
At least no marital responsibilities attached.
And you see such LADIES being committed because they do everything to please the MEN since they have to keep the money rolling in.

benji93:
You mean you've never told them their father is irresponsible? Do they know him?

Just one Lil kid for now but I plan to marry and bring her up in love. No need calling anyone irresponsible.

obc:
That's very correct. May God see you through and please run away from negative friends both male and female. Best regards.

Thank u

Moneywirer:
I agree. And I hope you raise that kid of yours not just in love but also in quality character.

Definitely. I won't b alone, omo I can't thrive alone o so she go get stepdad

dingbang:
what do you tell them about their father?

Them? Toddler for now.

Segfaultt:
is your mailbox active

Yes it is

GoldHorse:
All that you said is what our elders used to do in those days that we allowed western influence to destroy. This is the main secret of their lasting marriages.

Most NIGERIAN MEN who are citizens in the US have resolved never to bring their wives over.
In Fact, one of my colleagues here pays his wife in Nigeria 500k monthly for upkeep.
You need to see how that woman worships him.
The DAY that woman steps into the United States, will be the end of an era which will usher in a new era of insolence.

So, he travels to visit them.
The Respect can't be quantified.

MEN should wake up.
They should wake up.
They are losing grip because of useless pussy.
They need to be taught history of how those EMPERORS handled women.
They now abuse the Rights and Privileges we accord them. Not even Christianity supports their insolence. They are not encouraged to stand close to the altar of God not to talk of addressing MEN.

No need calling anyone irresponsible? A lot is contained in not saying anything as much as saying something? You didn't quite answer the other question. Do you plan to introduce your kid to his father? And if his father knows, do they have any relationship of any form?

AutoChick4U:
Just one Lil kid for now but I plan to marry and bring her up in love. No need calling anyone irresponsible.

AutoChick4U:
Them? Toddler for now.

alright.. Nice. Be a good mum

Pecoleee345:
Is she exhibiting those characters I mentioned
Not all of them are like that oo.

Well congrats... You have ended his relationship with your advise..hope you're happy now?

Lol...it's even better sef... Coz I don't support fornication...

Btw.... If you're a lady here dating a guy from a single home.... You better go and break up with him for your own good... Na Op talk am...no be me

IamGreen1:
Yes he married a good, virtuous woman give it a thought if your kind of person deserve such woman.

Are you a good woman

lordally:
Why na??

I have 3 close relations married to medical doctors while the fourth one to a pharmacist, these women are so lovely and down to earth. There is one who is a professor in medicine, she cooks for the whole family(including the gateman) before leaving the house for work in the morning while she goes straight to the kitchen after work to prepare dinner she does it every damn day till date, though she has a girl who assists her.

I have stayed amongst medical doctors. Their kids are brilliant, well co-coordinated, they got no time for social media attention or parties, etc, when there are lots of exams to write no time. When it comes to morals I give them a pass mark. It doesn't apply to all female doctors but It applies to a higher percentage.

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djon78:
Your head dey there

Never ever marry any woman not doing anything

It could be tolerated before
But not now

If she is toiling and making something
Anything you give her or bring to the table
She will appreciate it

But you see those ones not working
Very very big problem
They don't appreciate a man's sacrifices

I'm telling you, entitled mentality. She must be working, even if I'm wealthy. An idle mind is the devils workshop.