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Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by NamelessOGBENI(m): 7:58am On Jul 31, 2021 |
We live, we learn, we laugh... Most importantly, it's our lives... |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Jman06(m): 8:43am On Jul 31, 2021 |
I used to be an advocate of girl child education and empowerment, but with what I'm reading here, I am beginning to align with those that believe that it is useless to educate a female nor offer them employment. I think they should just sit at home, birth children and take care of the homes while the men take all the jobs in order to enable them provide. That would be fair enough. 3 Likes |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by lightwind(m): 10:48am On Jul 31, 2021 |
Ishilove:IYANGBALI wife aka ABORTIONISTER. |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by elay44: 12:08pm On Jul 31, 2021 |
FORWARDEVERLY: Damn! You are pained. You need hug. Hard guy. Lol 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by FORWARDEVERLY: 12:22pm On Jul 31, 2021 |
elay44: Pained on Did you take bread away from my mouth All this kiddies on nairaland won't stop amazing me with their use of words and stupid displays.. |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Liposure: 8:43pm On Jul 31, 2021 |
Klass99:Marriage is all about transparency and accountability. This means as partners i ought to know certain things about you. I'm your husband and i reserve the right to your deepest secrets good or bad. I will stomach it. |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Gummygummy(f): 6:14am On Aug 01, 2021 |
OP your wife's cervical incompetence is most probably natural, alot of women have too. It’s guilty conscience and ignorance that made her confess to having an abortion after the discovery, lol. She would have to had LOTS of abortion and when I mean lots, I mean in quantum before having a weakened cervix due to multiple dilations in the past. Cervical incompetence isn’t even a big deal, a couple of stitches and you’re good to go until due date. 3 Likes |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by kingsoncj: 12:41pm On Aug 01, 2021 |
I was once engaged to a girl who's father was unfriendly/harsh towards the children, things were going on well initially until she started becoming cold towards me expecially in communication, she hardly calls, I do all the calling and texting, what broke the camel's back was a day I called her & she raised her voice at me.. I had to call off every wedding plans and arrangements. Guys please, don't neglect any red flag � 5 Likes |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Boss13: 4:21pm On Aug 01, 2021 |
Jman06: Becareful these feminists/misandrists will eat you raw. |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Boss13: 4:26pm On Aug 01, 2021 |
Klass99: It's considered disrespectful to shout at your husband. It is disrespectful to talk back at your husband or challenge the authority of your husband. Of course you should know it is disrespectful to insult your husband. If you are aggrieved by your husband's actions or decisions, speak to a man he respects and express yourself or approach your husband in humility and calmness and express yourself or tell him why you are unhappy. Hope this is enough for you 6 Likes |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by LagBlogger(m): 1:46am On Aug 02, 2021 |
Belafonte: But you just did. 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Karlifate: 10:22am On Aug 02, 2021 |
bizzibodi: Lai Mohammed daughter
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Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by graciousify(f): 10:46am On Aug 02, 2021 |
Jman06: Thank God the fate of women is not in your hands. We will continue to grow and maximize our potentials. Peace. 3 Likes |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by graciousify(f): 10:52am On Aug 02, 2021 |
Gummygummy: I recently saw a post on Twitter where someone was asking if women would tell their husbands if they have had abortions in the past. A lot of women decried such actions, stating that they will never tell their husbands of past abortions. At first, I wondered why they choose to hide such a past but now, I think I get it. So because the author of this thread fell out with his wife, he came on NL to tell everyone about an abortion she told him in confidence. Chai. At least, for the sake of what they both shared, he shouldn't have embarrassed her like this. 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by GloryAhead(m): 2:16pm On Aug 02, 2021 |
Mogadishuu: I agreed with you... |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Harlequeen: 9:35pm On Aug 02, 2021 |
NoToPile:exactly, they want to be parasites |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Klass99(f): 9:52pm On Aug 02, 2021 |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by mrblessed(m): 4:59am On Aug 03, 2021 |
graciousify:Disclosing to this platform that his wife had a poorly executed abortion is necessary to establish his case, since most readers would naturally impugn his submission as being one-sided. The exposure wasn't to mock and degrade her as you erroneously implied, because it's also the reason she couldn't bear children. I am not surprised that you missed this vital point in the defence of your gender. Worse still, she hid it from him until she couldn't hide it any longer. So it's in the interest of couples to always come clean about their sexual history; it won't deter any serious-minded person from continuing with the marriage plan. But to hide something as grave as abortion that could have adverse consequence in the future is not only betrayal but contracting marriage on a deceitful foundation. That's completely gross and unacceptable. 7 Likes |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Mkingz(m): 5:57pm On Aug 03, 2021 |
Noone can graduate from the University of Life |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Lunaretta: 4:14pm On Aug 04, 2021 |
You write everything correctly. But it's all true if you don't love the person. If you have feelings, you would never test her family or question the sincerity of the person. Do you know what I'm saying? Of course before you get married, you have to live with the person, get to know them. What he eats, what he likes in sex, what music he likes. My young man likes to experiment in sex, for example male sex doll, and many girls could not accept it. Think about what you are doing |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by efficiencie(m): 7:40am On Aug 05, 2021 |
Pecoleee345: The bolded does not guarantee anything. How many women will you cohabit with before finding your true spouse. If you are not careful you will cohabit with 100 women before meeting your wife because virtually every woman has one issue or the other. Medical check-up does not mean you may not encounter medical issues after marriage. And that you have no medical issues does not automatically translate to a happy marriage. As far as I am concerned, know who you are, find your match, be prepared to love her and stand by her, be sure she has the same mentality and you will enjoy your marriage no matter the storm life throws at your marriage! 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by bukatyne(f): 6:57pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
truthsayer009: @bold: true. Good girl/boy is only an issue when paired with bad boy/girl. |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by zeb04(f): 7:24pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
Pecoleee345: I am just reading your story here and i sincerely feel bad for everything you have gone through. However i wan to educate you so you dont say it in public Cervical incompetence (what you call weak womb is not as a result of abortion) it is a medical problem. it happens when the cervical tissue is weak and cannot hold pregnancy. It happens to a lot of women leading to miscarriage. Normally the cervix is closed before pregnancy. during pregnancy, it starts to open slowly. If the cervix is incompetent , it opens fasters than usual and the woman looses the pregnancy. Doctors will perform what is called a cervical cerclage. Just a single stitch to keep it together. it is a very simple procedure, you go home the same day. Since I do not know your ex wife, pls help me tell her about this so she can be better prepared for her next marriage and pregnancy. All the best to you both in your decisions. 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by bukatyne(f): 7:33pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
Liposure: Feminism is not the only culprit. Men abused/still abuse their leadership position in the home first. Feminism especially the modern variants is just a wrong/narrow minded response to it. 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Nobody: 10:23pm On Aug 06, 2021 |
bukatyne: The issue is that anybody can decide to be good or bad without informing the other person, good people also change even if you met them as a "good" person. I know i sound very paranoid now, but sincerely this is life. One can only pray he/she marries someone that is good to them. 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by BigBashiru: 12:47am On Aug 07, 2021 |
kingsoncj: The next one you meet will still have flaws....none of them is perfect.... |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by BigBashiru: 12:47am On Aug 07, 2021 |
bukatyne: I agree with u about men abusing their leadership position 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by investoped(m): 5:11am On Aug 09, 2021 |
We kip forgetting marriage is not a man idea but a divine idea that is not good for.man to.be.left.alone so wife.a helpmeet This days ....speechless with who wife material function is or trying to be. Let's consult d manual & save ourselves d heartaches. When sex DON enter, reasoning flies out emotional decision making and not critical thinking. Baba knows best but we think otherwise. Sad for u man, mine still gives birth like rabbit after several D/C. Again baba knows best
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Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by SavageResponse(m): 10:14am On Aug 11, 2021 |
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Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by graciousify(f): 12:56pm On Aug 11, 2021 |
mrblessed: Ok Mr blessed. He established his case to you guys-the social media court of judges. So how are you guys helping to restore peace to this marriage now? Everybody is now saying all sorts. Come, who made you all a judge? It is only a fool that judges issues after hearing a one-sided story. even women that married as virgins sometimes miscarry. there are no hard and fast rules to these things. So I dont believe that it is the abortion that is causing her to miscarry. a simple cervical cerclage can solve that issue. I agree that couples should come clean before marriage, but how many men and women are emotionally matured enough to handle certain secrets that their intended spouse will reveal to them in the process of coming clean? Did the woman impregnate herself? everybody here is condemning abortion and claiming holy. I condemn it too. But if God should play a video of what people do in secret, we will see that almost everyone here have at one time or the other committed abortion or impregnated a woman and paid for an abortion to be carried out. The woman may have done wrong (I have not heard her side of the story) but this her hubby is not a matured person at all. Divorce her if you don't want the marriage again but don't come on here to expose secrets she told you in confidence when the going was good, all because you want to make a strong case for yourself and to paint her black. UDO |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by mrblessed(m): 4:12pm On Aug 11, 2021 |
graciousify:The mere mention of the word abortion usually throws most Nigerian ladies off balance, and actuates them to become irrational in their silly and preposterous defence of their deadly act. What they dont realise is that the man is as guilty as the woman, unless it was carried out without his consent and approval. I am not sure you read the Op's account where he stated that the wife's past sexual history which she didn't disclose, is responsible for her inability to bear children. There is no point to vent your anger and call people names simply because they made comments unpleasant to you. At least, you will be a hypocrite if, for example, you have never aired your view on an issue in this platform based on the prevailing account presented by a party. And, don't worry about the Op forming an opinion from the views of members -- male and female -- on his predicament. That's, for sure, his call. |
Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by mayeni(f): 5:12am On Aug 13, 2021 |
Wow! I find dis a hard pill to swallow. Why do you think she was tailing you dat bad tho? Were your actions pure all through? Did you give her reasons not to do that? Did you at any point do anything dat made it get to dis point because am jst wondering what will make a woman tail her man dat much. adedayourt: |
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