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A lady talking and crying at the same time simply means deception and manipulation...

Absolutely normal in marriage... But where that slap come from? You neva even marry you don begin slap, i wonder wetin you go do when you marry o, 'cause women talk no dey finish o, as I'm writing this sef my ear dey pain me.

Maybe

Why slap her? Don't you have earpiece? She wants you to pet her, and if you can't do that, take a walk or just avoid her anyhow possible, when she's tired she would shut her mouth. Don't beat her please.

Queen of manipulation.

Give her #100 indosid she wud be calm


Thank me later

Abeg don't slap her again, instead, leave the room for her, so she can keep talking to herself, women are like that sometimes, try to be more accommodating, instead if things isn't working, both of you should go your separate ways.

EmptyGarden:
Absolutely normal in marriage...

In your marriage perhaps. In healthy marriages, it's not.

At OP, life is too short to be with damaged or unhappy people. Most people are in toxic relationships, they see the signs yet choose to ignore it and end up being miserable in marriage.
Anyone that can't give you peace and happiness should not be in your space not to talk of being emotionally entangled with them.
Since you're complaining, she isn't for you. She will find a man who would t mind her type of drama, there is somebody for everybody.

samuelson06:
Once she's deeply angry /sad, she talks like someone that is possess with the demon of talking. And she does it with tears. I had to slap her because of that. She's been talking and crying since 12 midnight till now. I seem to be lost.

Maybe she's expecting me to start begging and petting her but I'm not ready for that. She's talking about all the wrongs I've done to her since we met but ignoring what led to our misunderstanding.

Can I live with this kind of human being in the same house as a wife? The more she keeps talking, the more I'm getting angry. She's vomiting all my records of wrong since we met.

Is this normal? How can I handle this nature of human being?

You need to leave her. Stop trying to control her.

EmptyGarden:
Absolutely normal in marriage... But where that slap come from? You neva even marry you don begin slap, i wonder wetin you go do when you marry o, 'cause women talk no dey finish o, as I'm writing this sef my ear dey pain me.

A woman bragging and sobbing at the same moment simply virtue subterfuge and rigging...

Tokskob2008:
A lady talking and crying at the same time simply means deception and manipulation...

You're Wise

Marriage no be a walk in the park. If you feel you can't cope, when she sobers, call her attention and have a long talk with her about your relationship with her. It could be that you've not been listening to her feelings. When there's no communication in a relationship, anytime there's a crisis, the weaker party, which mostly is women will pour their hearts out. You have to train yourself to listen to their words. If she is manipulative and it is something she does, it is bad but if she suddenly opens up and it is one of the rare times she does, omo, you need to sit up and listen if you value that relationship.

And why would you slap a woman? You never marry you dey slap her? Omo, you go slap tire o. Never raise your hands against your significant other. I learn patience through my woman. Before I got married, if I see say you be drama queen, I go just withdraw but if a woman is good to you but because you don't listen or create room for communication in the relationship she voices her concerns through her tears, if you love her listen to her. Tears, emotions are not bad o. If you meet those ones wey their mind be like stone, you will thank God say your own they cry o.

The tears of a woman are priceless. They remind you of our common humanity, vulnerability and emotional commitment. They could be used for manipulation, too, but if they are not, they are priceless.

samuelson06:
Once she's deeply angry /sad, she talks like someone that is possess with the demon of talking. And she does it with tears. I had to slap her because of that. She's been talking and crying since 12 midnight till now. I seem to be lost.

Maybe she's expecting me to start begging and petting her but I'm not ready for that. She's talking about all the wrongs I've done to her since we met but ignoring what led to our misunderstanding.

Can I live with this kind of human being in the same house as a wife? The more she keeps talking, the more I'm getting angry. She's vomiting all my records of wrong since we met.

Is this normal? How can I handle this nature of human being?

Some people can be very emotional when they're angry and it makes them cry...

Yoruba called it Igbe Abosi.

Very mischievous crying

zed7:
In your marriage perhaps. In healthy marriages, it's not.

At OP, life is too short to be with damaged or unhappy people. Most people are in toxic relationships, they see the signs yet choose to ignore it and end up being miserable in marriage.
Anyone that can't give you peace and happiness should not be in your space not to talk of being emotionally entangled with them.
Since you're complaining, she isn't for you. She will find a man who would t mind her type of drama, there is somebody for everybody.

are you married?

Bluewitch:
Some people can be very emotional when they're angry and it makes them cry...

That's deception...

How can she stylishly ignored what led to the current misunderstanding and be talking about the guy's past offence...

Can't she deal with the current situation before reminding the guy about his past mistakes?

Monogamy:
That's deception...

How can she stylishly ignored what led to the current misunderstanding and be talking about the guy's past offence...

Can't she deal with the current situation before reminding the guy about his past mistakes?

I didn't talk about everything bro!....
I only talked about the crying and talking like she's possessed....

This one go fit cut your preeq you one day oo

Macho Man,
Why in God's earth would you lay your hands on her?? That wasn't necessary, one bit..
I mean, who gave you that right??
You have to apologise to her,. And ask her for forgiveness,.
She's crying cause she's hurt and
she really needs you to listen to her,.
she wants you to be a better man.. not taking her for granted!! Work on your relationship boy,. before you destroy it!!

If she is possessed take her out for Deliverance, if u love her...devils don't forgive. To err is human but to forgive na God o.
If a woman refuse to forgive you, my brother just pray harder, she can do anything to cut ur life short, once you stop the relationship.

Exactly what am facing now, this idiot don't change for good it getting worst every day, is good for you now still early, mine she already had a baby

samuelson06:
Once she's deeply angry /sad, she talks like someone that is possess with the demon of talking. And she does it with tears. I had to slap her because of that. She's been talking and crying since 12 midnight till now. I seem to be lost.

Maybe she's expecting me to start begging and petting her but I'm not ready for that. She's talking about all the wrongs I've done to her since we met but ignoring what led to our misunderstanding.

Can I live with this kind of human being in the same house as a wife? The more she keeps talking, the more I'm getting angry. She's vomiting all my records of wrong since we met.

Is this normal? How can I handle this nature of human being?

If you know you cant handle her pls let her go.slaping her is not the right thing to do pls.

Queenslander:
Macho Man,
Why in God's earth would you lay your hands on her?? That wasn't necessary, one bit..
I mean, who gave you that right??
You have to apologise to her,. And ask her for forgiveness,.
She's crying cause she's hurt and
she really needs you to listen to her,.
she wants you to be a better man.. not taking her for granted!! Work on your relationship boy,. before you destroy it!!

Nice talk.

Japa now that you have the chance... This is a huge red flag that shouldn't be ignored!

HenryDion:
Japa now that you have the chance... This is a huge red flag that shouldn't be ignored!

Even as a girlfriend there is no woman that doesn't nag. Every woman on Earth nags, it's even worse when she is married.

@Op make her understand categorically that you despise someone trying to manipulate you by crying and talking at the same time.. tell her you will need a break from the relationship... (Just to strike sense in her brain)
But don't dump her... Every woman nags

samuelson06:
Once she's deeply angry /sad, she talks like someone that is possess with the demon of talking. And she does it with tears. I had to slap her because of that. She's been talking and crying since 12 midnight till now. I seem to be lost.

Maybe she's expecting me to start begging and petting her but I'm not ready for that. She's talking about all the wrongs I've done to her since we met but ignoring what led to our misunderstanding.

Can I live with this kind of human being in the same house as a wife? The more she keeps talking, the more I'm getting angry. She's vomiting all my records of wrong since we met.

Is this normal? How can I handle this nature of human being?

She's not getting the right reaction from you, so she's going all out to force the issue.

Either that or she suffers from depression.

There's something she want u to do for her,, u know ladies and their fragile emotions... If u can't bear it, just find something amusing to tell her... U can be like,in a funny way, "see ur wide mouth,cry cry baby"...no need for domestic violence