Your story reminds me of the nairalander who celebrated his daughter’s 5th birthday on this platform.

I pray you find and reunite with your father.

Doradorwa:
She always cut the discussion of me knowing him off. Sometimes she accuse me of been ungrateful. She's actually trying hard for me to have a good life. Sometimes I believe she just want to have all the glory to herself like single handedly raising me. I'm in my finals in EKSU now and she's already talking of Msc. She just want to have all the glory to herself. It's something she has done for so long that she can not think of stopping now.

The reason she is policing you from moving around anytime you visit your mother's home is to prevent you for getting an information from any of her relative or she is simply bitter against them for the role they play in spoiling her marriage.
try to get close to one of her family member and see if you can get a useful information from the person.
I pray you don't discover something scary in your findings

Doradorwa:
She always cut the discussion of me knowing him off. Sometimes she accuse me of been ungrateful. She's actually trying hard for me to have a good life. Sometimes I believe she just want to have all the glory to herself like single handedly raising me. I'm in my finals in EKSU now and she's already talking of Msc. She just want to have all the glory to herself. It's something she has done for so long that she can not think of stopping now.

(She is actually trying hard for me to have a good life.
Sometimes I believe she just want to have all the glory to herself)

I will delete my other post

Goodluck

VICTORCIZA:
The reason she is policing you from moving around anytime you visit your mother's home is to prevent you for getting an information from any of her relative or she is simply bitter against them for the role they play in spoiling her marriage.
try to get close to one of her family member and see if you can get a useful information from the person.
I pray you don't discover something scary in your findings

You are very close to the truth mam... I'm grateful for your words.

Graxie:
This is it, any single mom that will not allow her sperm donor access to her child is joking. That child must look for her dad. Stop suffering alone, involve your sperm donor in child upbringing. I have been attacked by so many women here when I suggested that a woman should leave her child for the man. As long as it's not rape, give the child to the father.

Poster you are doing well, Anambra men hardly leave their kids outside, go to his village and ask questions.

I think this has to be preached in every platform everyday, the earlier single mum's accept the fact that their kids will always look for the absentee father, the better.

You have to persuade your mother to connect you to your father. If she doesn’t want to, you can ask her friends or other members of the family secretly to help you out. It won’t be fair for you to be doing the search alone

@Graxie
You are right and also wrong.Some men are just deadbeat.That is just who they are.While some want to be in their kids life but the mother will do everything to make it not work.
It is very very unfair for a man to impregnate a lady and abscond.The child grows up and you want to take the glory.Some men do have this mentality that when the child grow to a certain stage,he or she will look for them.

Doradorwa:
You are very close to the truth mam... I'm grateful for your words.

Go to his village.I can tell you for real someone will know his whereabout.
I pray you locate him soon.

No matter how long it will take, a male child will always look for his father. Regardless of any amount of sacrifice, money and time, He will ask for his own father one day and you won’t do shit.

Blood is thicker than water is a very strong adage.
Every woman should know this and know peace.

Harrykn:
No matter how long it will take, a male child will always look for his father. Regardless of any amount of sacrifice, money and time, He will ask for his own father one day and you won’t do shit.

Blood is thicker than water is a very strong adage.
Every woman should know this and know peace.

That is not a truth! That is only true in some cases. No need to generalize!

Doradorwa:
She always cut the discussion of me knowing him off. Sometimes she accuse me of been ungrateful. She's actually trying hard for me to have a good life. Sometimes I believe she just want to have all the glory to herself like single handedly raising me. I'm in my finals in EKSU now and she's already talking of Msc. She just want to have all the glory to herself. It's something she has done for so long that she can not think of stopping now.

The day this your miracle will happen, it will remain unforgettable.

The man is alive... himself maybe yearning for you. Don't reveal anything to your mom again (i.e your yearning to know and meet your dad) until the day you'll show her the picture of you and your dad...

You are a treasure your mom doesn't want to loose... shes having the fear that you'll be taken away from her...

Y we are waiting for this thread to b pushed,
How old are u b4 I continue?

Doradorwa:
Thank you so much. My mom never said a bad word about him except their ethnicity could not allow them be together. Your advise is valuable sir.

If the emboldened is what your mum has told you, then there is something she is hiding from you. This isn't enough reason to block every access to you.

The bond between female children and their dad is always out if this world..so it's not surprising to seet that you are desperate to reunite with him.

I wish you good luck...but please, try to ask one of those you call family now about him. E get why

midolian:
If the emboldened is what your mum has told you, then there is something she is hiding from you. This isn't enough reason to block every access to you.

The bond between female children and their dad is always out if this world..so it's not surprising to seet that you are desperate to reunite with him.

I wish you good luck...but please, try to ask one of those you call family now about him. E get why

Oh please cut the bull! What bond exists again between female children and their dad's? Africans too dey like twist nonsense into facts.

Stop making up stories because the lady says she misses her dad. Not every female out there who has been estranged from their fathers have the same pull to reconcile. There are equally so many documented cases of females who have found their missing past only to wish they has never done it. So, please stop lying to her.

Doradorwa:
Good evening everyone

The man in the photo below is my father. I don't know him, perhaps he knows me I can not say. I was separate from him when I was 7 months. Lately im having the urge to know him more... He and my mother are divorced and my mom has been blocking every means for me to meet him. I just want to know him.

I've tried facebook, added almost everyone with Nwafor as their surname. That's why I decided to try NL.

He's from Nnewi, and his name is Nwafor Azubike, that all I know about him. And that photo is the only one I have.

Pls help me check in case you know him...... Thanks so much

My dear be gentle with your mum.

Whatever the reason for your dad not being in your life (your mum's fault or your dad's fault), it must have been an extremely traumatic experience for her. No well adjusted human being will want to have anything to do with any person, place or situation that gave them trauma and heartbreak in the past. It's self preservation. Tracing your dad is something that you might have to do by yourself, starting with where he worked and lived in Edo.

However, I must advice you to keep an open mind and thread carefully. So many people have idolised an absent mum or dad throughout their life, only to be bitterly disappointed and heartbroken with what they eventually discover.

Keep an open mind and accept whatever you see.

Kobojunkie:
Oh please cut the bull! What bond exists again between female children and their dad's? Africans too dey like twist nonsense into facts.

Stop making up stories because the lady says she misses her dad. Not every female out there who has been estranged from their fathers have the same pull to reconcile. There are equally so many documented cases of females who have found their missing past only to wish they has never done it. So, please stop lying to her.

ok

OnlyDeCapPlease:


My dear be gentle with your mum.

Whatever the reason for your dad not being in your life (your mum's fault or your dad's fault), it must have been an extremely traumatic experience for her. No well adjusted human being will want to have anything to do with any person, place or situation that gave them trauma and heartbreak in the past. It's self preservation. Tracing your dad is something that you might have to do by yourself, starting with where he worked and lived in Edo.

However, I must advice you to keep an open mind and thread carefully. So many people have idolised an absent mum or dad throughout their life, only to be bitterly disappointed and heartbroken with what they eventually discover.

Keep an open mind and accept whatever you see.

Your words are very kind and your advice is valuable sir. I'm grateful.

Doradorwa:
She always cut the discussion of me knowing him off. Sometimes she accuse me of been ungrateful. She's actually trying hard for me to have a good life. Sometimes I believe she just want to have all the glory to herself like single handedly raising me. I'm in my finals in EKSU now and she's already talking of Msc. She just want to have all the glory to herself something she has done for so long that she can not think of stopping now.

Watch it young lady be careful with your words.

Doradorwa:
hmm... You are right but I'm not trying to be part of his life too, the both of us have gotten people we can call family over the years but I just believe I have the right to know him.

Of course. I just can't control my tears. I don't know why.

OnlyDeCapPlease:


My dear be gentle with your mum.

Whatever the reason for your dad not being in your life (your mum's fault or your dad's fault), it must have been an extremely traumatic experience for her. No well adjusted human being will want to have anything to do with any person, place or situation that gave them trauma and heartbreak in the past. It's self preservation. Tracing your dad is something that you might have to do by yourself, starting with where he worked and lived in Edo.

However, I must advice you to keep an open mind and thread carefully. So many people have idolised an absent mum or dad throughout their life, only to be bitterly disappointed and heartbroken with what they eventually discover.

Keep an open mind and accept whatever you see.

Apt!

This life no just balance....pray God links you up with him real soon

CharisEleos:
What makes you think he would wanna reunite with you?

Why has he not made any effort to look for you all this while if he truly cares about you?
Do you even know if he's still alive?

I think some stones are best left unturned. ( My honest opinion)

Anyways, good luck in your search.

You probably have both parents. If you were in this person's shoes you'll search until you find him. Even if he's dead no problem. You can't understand the trauma of not knowing a parent.

NoToPile:
Watch it young lady be careful with your words.

Why is she not to speak her mind?

Graxie:
This is it, any single mom that will not allow her sperm donor access to her child is joking. That child must look for her dad. Stop suffering alone, involve your sperm donor in child upbringing. I have been attacked by so many women here when I suggested that a woman should leave her child for the man. As long as it's not rape, give the child to the father.

Poster you are doing well, Anambra men hardly leave their kids outside, go to his village and ask questions.

I agree @bold,and move on with your life

Kobojunkie:
Why is she not to speak her mind?

Not saying she shouldn't speak her mind, its the way she described her mum as glory seeking is what I feel is not too palatable.

NoToPile:

Not saying she shouldn't speak her mind, its the way she described her mum as glory seeking is what I feel is not too palatable.

If she believes her mother is indeed glory seeking, she shouldn't say so? She knows the woman more than you do so why isn't she allowed to speak her truth?

Kobojunkie:
If she believes her mother is indeed glory seeking, she shouldn't say so? She knows the woman more than you do so why isn't she allowed to speak her truth?

Okay.

Harrykn:
No matter how long it will take, a male child will always look for his father. Regardless of any amount of sacrifice, money and time, He will ask for his own father one day and you won’t do shit.

Blood is thicker than water is a very strong adage.
Every woman should know this and know peace.

No always o, take the case of Jason Njoku the CEO of IRoko TV, it was even his father probably after waiting endlessly for Jason to look for him, na him initiate am.

OnlyDeCapPlease:


My dear be gentle with your mum.

Whatever the reason for your dad not being in your life (your mum's fault or your dad's fault), it must have been an extremely traumatic experience for her. No well adjusted human being will want to have anything to do with any person, place or situation that gave them trauma and heartbreak in the past. It's self preservation. Tracing your dad is something that you might have to do by yourself, starting with where he worked and lived in Edo.

However, I must advice you to keep an open mind and thread carefully. So many people have idolised an absent mum or dad throughout their life, only to be bitterly disappointed and heartbroken with what they eventually discover.

Keep an open mind and accept whatever you see.

In light of the above I think it's unfair for her Mother to deny her the right to know her father.

Doradorwa:
She always cut the discussion of me knowing him off. Sometimes she accuse me of been ungrateful. She's actually trying hard for me to have a good life. Sometimes I believe she just want to have all the glory to herself like single handedly raising me. I'm in my finals in EKSU now and she's already talking of Msc. She just want to have all the glory to herself. It's something she has done for so long that she can not think of stopping now.

If this quote is not enough for single parents to think twice while bearing the burden alone in the absence of their living partner, what more can?

I beg you in the name of God, don't suffer alone. Besides what is the joy in saying I did it alone? You are cutting off from the relationship but not from the product.

Even if that child refuse to look for the other parent, will it give you any satisfaction?

Graxie:
If this quote is not enough for single parents to think twice while bearing the burden alone in the absence of their living partner, what more can?

I beg you in the name of God, don't suffer alone. Besides what is the joy in saying I did it alone? You are cutting off from the relationship but not from the product.

Even if that child refuse to look for the other parent, will it give you any satisfaction?

Single parents have a right to choose to suffer it alone. These choices are typically based on the circumstance so it is wrong to fault them for choosing to go it alone when it may have been the only option available to them.

Many of the women or men were abandoned or even rejected for choosing to raise the child by the other side. So how can you fault them for having to go it alone?

Kobojunkie:
Single parents have a right to choose to suffer it alone. These choices are typically based on the circumstance so it is wrong to fault them for choosing to go it alone when it may have been the only option available to them.

Many of the women or men were abandoned or even rejected for choosing to raise the child by the other side. So how can you fault them for having to go it alone?

What inspired your signature?

Where did it come from?