yanabasee2:
I'm really convinced that she did not check on his background before accepting to marry him....



It's a terrible situation for a man to disrespect his wife and get another woman pregnant.. and still keeps her for sex....


Let her get herself a job or a business first... She should allow the husband to set her up before deciding to divorce.... So she'll have money to take care of those kids... And she should know that, if she leaves the man, the other baby mama will step in and take her place... So she will be at the losing end...

Margy:



STOP THIS NONSENSE!... STOP IT

if the phone is private? Why is the private parts not private in marriage Stop this fooolish advice you are spewing here!... coconuthead

yanabasee2:
I'm really convinced that she did not check on his background before accepting to marry him....



It's a terrible situation for a man to disrespect his wife and get another woman pregnant.. and still keeps her for sex....


Let her get herself a job or a business first... She should allow the husband to set her up before deciding to divorce.... So she'll have money to take care of those kids... And she should know that, if she leaves the man, the other baby mama will step in and take her place... So she will be at the losing end...

Uyi168:
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How can you love someone and still be cheating on her, Indiscriminately?

Will you take that from your wife?.

Emmanuel909090:


This is were we get it all wrong.
How can you love God and you keep sinning.

forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us;
This is a process, he has a child with that woman, i really dont know how people think.

This is the process chioma has with davido, is she expecting him to ignore everyother woman that has a child for him, no its almost impossible.

ImaIma1:


I totally disagree with the second to the last paragraph. Men find it very difficult to forgive cheating women. In fact, it's a big blow to their ego. But a woman will keep staying to patch things up.

The man can not cut off totally from the woman does not mean he has to keep sleeping with her if truly he loves his wife. He told her that he would stop but a cheat cannot help himself.

I knew a doctor that worked in an HIV centre and he told me that most of the married women who had the disease contracted it from their husbands. That shook me and made me fear men who throw caution to the wind and cheat recklessly.

If a man keeps cheating that way, his love for his wife is questionable. How can someone love you and put you in danger? What is love? Definitely not what this man is showing.

Uyi168:
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You love someone and you continue to cheat on her. There is no love there bro. Stop all these long Nonesense talk.

It doesn't make sense.

yanabasee2:
I'm really convinced that she did not check on his background before accepting to marry him....



It's a terrible situation for a man to disrespect his wife and get another woman pregnant.. and still keeps her for sex....


Let her get herself a job or a business first... She should allow the husband to set her up before deciding to divorce.... So she'll have money to take care of those kids... And she should know that, if she leaves the man, the other baby mama will step in and take her place... So she will be at the losing end...

josite:
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Let us educate our wives,there is nothing called cheating.man do more than one women.it is biological.but the guy that signs one man one wife and fail truly deserves hell .

Emmanuel909090:


We love our family members, but still say things to hurt them at times. You can love someone and in a moment do something selfish and hurtful toward them. This means you made a mistake, and we forgive our family members when they make mistakes because we understand we’re all human. This is totally reasonable.

Cheating is interesting because on one hand, yes, it is someone succumbing to their selfish human desires which we all do.

You can love someone who you cheat on. It’s just, you don’t love them very much and you’re incredibly selfish.

Just like saying if you continue to sin, you dont love God.

We all reason differently, know that and know peace.

GenAbacha:
And what is wrong if she quits the marriage?

Why are you bothered? What ideas are you looking for?

A contract has been breached and it’s only right you terminate it.

2ndtimeuncle:
Good morning fellow nairalanders, I hope your day is going well though mine didn't start so well. I am a nairalander but I have to open this account for this. I have an issue bothering me, I will try to keep my story as brief as possible.

I am a guy from a humble background. My parents had only two children, myself and my younger sister who is now married with two kids. She had her last baby boy some time early this month. Her marriage with this guy ( my brother inlaw) has been one I considered relatively peaceful. That is from my own perspective knowing that there's no marriage without one or two misunderstanding here or there at some point.

Well, she found out that her husband got another girl pregnant who gave birth to a baby girl. My sister found out after she gave birth to her first son. Her husband was the one that confessed to her that he has another child outside their marriage. They settled the issue and moved on he promised he would end the relationship he had with the baby mama.

Last year, during the Covid19 period, my sister found out that he was still seeing his baby mama after she saw their chats. She confronted him and he denied having anything to do with the baby mama except for sending money for his daughter's upkeep once in a while. It was a big issue which was brought to the attention the two families. They found a way to settle after a lot pleading and talking to the two of them.

To cut the long story short, she sent me screenshots that proves that he is still seeing the baby mama. In one of the screenshot he wants to see her in their normal place and the girl agreed but doesn't want them have sex on this particular occasion. My sister has bad temperament and it is not easy to calm her down when triggered. She's threatening to quit the marriage and I fear she may do something wrong this time around . She is yet to confront her husband because I managed to convince her to keep it on hold till she calms down.

Note : My Dad is late and my younger sister is a house wife hence solely dependent on her husband. Please ignore my grammatical errors. I am putting this out here because I have ran out of ideas.

Aurelius1:
But you just typed.

InTheCloudySky:
It's bad enough that he got another woman pregnant but to continue sleeping with her, smdh. It's obvious he has zero regard for their vows and won't leave this other woman.

Dang. She needs to be smart by finding a job or telling him to open a business for her, then start saving heavily.

Gunayo:
l will like to emphasise again that not all Men are useless without money. The same goes all women are useless and worthless without that thing in between their legs. You might not have been heartbroken before but watch out before you are caught unaware while looking for Mr. Perfect that have all the qualities you desire in a man. The earlier you get married the better for you before you start approaching menopause and start seeking for any kind of useless man to marry either rich or poor.

VULCAN:
Who was the man who injured you.

Father?

Boyfriend?

Husband?

Wish I knew you IRL so I could warn men to keep off this damaged woman.

Because despite all your noise (unless you're a lesbian) you still crave to receive gifts from men.

MejiLoyon:
My advice is simple. Find like 5 single mothers with two kids. Ask them what they would do in this situation. Since domestic violence is not involved. Emphasis on domestic violence. Bring their answer here. Or in another thread. Also ask if they are now "happier" since they have been alone. If they are sincere they will give you the same answer.

Remember you just heard from your sister....
Not from his side. Nothing justifies cheating but something forces it. All kpekus are the same so why go outside. The answer is in the post you shared. She just gave birth. I won't explain more on this.

My own is if she leaves the baby mama will move in and he will still cheat on her. That's a fact. I have joy in seeing people who don't even have a relationship give advice like a zen. No to talk of marriage.

I sha no give advice...na talk I talk. No be me go advice anybody for this site. Experience am come create thread. E dey sweet.

yanabasee2:
I'm really convinced that she did not check on his background before accepting to marry him....



It's a terrible situation for a man to disrespect his wife and get another woman pregnant.. and still keeps her for sex....


Let her get herself a job or a business first... She should allow the husband to set her up before deciding to divorce.... So she'll have money to take care of those kids... And she should know that, if she leaves the man, the other baby mama will step in and take her place... So she will be at the losing end...

djon78:




You guys will be saying it as if it's easier

Do you know the trauma that woman is going through ?

It's something you don't wish on your worst enemy

She should just find ways to improve her earnings first
And then find her levels

This is a warning to women
Make sure you have a good earning capacity before marriage

Because honestly many men nowadays are just mean

2ndtimeuncle:
Good morning fellow nairalanders, I hope your day is going well though mine didn't start so well. I am a nairalander but I have to open this account for this. I have an issue bothering me, I will try to keep my story as brief as possible.

I am a guy from a humble background. My parents had only two children, myself and my younger sister who is now married with two kids. She had her last baby boy some time early this month. Her marriage with this guy ( my brother inlaw) has been one I considered relatively peaceful. That is from my own perspective knowing that there's no marriage without one or two misunderstanding here or there at some point.

Well, she found out that her husband got another girl pregnant who gave birth to a baby girl. My sister found out after she gave birth to her first son. Her husband was the one that confessed to her that he has another child outside their marriage. They settled the issue and moved on he promised he would end the relationship he had with the baby mama.

Last year, during the Covid19 period, my sister found out that he was still seeing his baby mama after she saw their chats. She confronted him and he denied having anything to do with the baby mama except for sending money for his daughter's upkeep once in a while. It was a big issue which was brought to the attention the two families. They found a way to settle after a lot pleading and talking to the two of them.

To cut the long story short, she sent me screenshots that proves that he is still seeing the baby mama. In one of the screenshot he wants to see her in their normal place and the girl agreed but doesn't want them have sex on this particular occasion. My sister has bad temperament and it is not easy to calm her down when triggered. She's threatening to quit the marriage and I fear she may do something wrong this time around . She is yet to confront her husband because I managed to convince her to keep it on hold till she calms down.

Note : My Dad is late and my younger sister is a house wife hence solely dependent on her husband. Please ignore my grammatical errors. I am putting this out here because I have ran out of ideas.