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Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by Redpillar(m): 5:05pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
cococandy: I am entertained. The gender that doesn’t benefit from marriage would employ all scare tactics to keep the other gender in it. 11 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by ss1930(m): 5:05pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
Can she really ask the man what she is not doing right? if its something she can improve upon. What is that lady outside giving to him that makes him want to return to her?.... There is always something wrong.... have the communication and solve d problem... walking out of the marriage doesnt solve the problem. It makes for a win-loss situation, cos the lady outside wants her to make that decision so new new house owner can pack in |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by Muzbas: 5:06pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
Pls advise your sister to calm down and get herself engaged rather than searching her husband phone. The other relationship has already produced a baby which serve as an automatic link with the other lady. Marriage is not like commodity market where you have free entry and free exit. Mind you she is already a fairly used product, which can never command value like a brand new. Advice her strongly before she takes a wrong decision, outside bad now o..... |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by Nchris: 5:08pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
This storm will only last for a while if only she can be patient enough, The society today is not safe and she is not assure of 2moro, Consider life after quitting her marriage Is it to remarry? What's the possibility for a mother of two? How will she raise the two kids as a single mother with little or no support from her husband , In marriage u dnt quit, ur marriage is yours and u fight for what belong to u. Am the last born in family of four girls, I av seen marital issues worse than these, as for as no domestic violence, she should be patient and work harder for marriage, she will enjoy in no distant time, all will be a history, a woman owns her home, so who is she leaving for? Nwanne mmadu gwa nwanne gi nwanyi ya were ndidi na oga adi mma, 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by Gunayo(m): 5:10pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
Avviala:l will like to emphasise again that not all Men are useless without money. The same goes all women are useless and worthless without that thing in between their legs. You might not have been heartbroken before but watch out before you are caught unaware while looking for Mr. Perfect that have all the qualities you desire in a man. The earlier you get married the better for you before you start approaching menopause and start seeking for any kind of useless man to marry either rich or poor. |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by Parisian: 5:10pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
Don't mind them, they keep expecting women to bear the unbearable that they can't even tolerate themselves. GenAbacha: 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by vannessa7(f): 5:14pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
Tell her to list out all the good qualities of the husband and compare it to this vice of him womanising, tell her she doesn't have any guarantee that the next man will be better, and the fact that she is the woman at home and the first gives her a lot of advantage and bargaining power, if he is a good provider who gives her peace at home among other good things I think she should just bear his philandering, she should take it as her own cross and focus on him training her children and setting her up. Tell her to grow up already, life is all about compromise, leaving her home for a side chick will only hurt her and her childrens future, she will now start peeping in from outside into a home that should rightfully belong to her, tell her to sit with a " Iron" seat in her husband house and not allow side chick to unseat her, if she leave, the next man may be a wife beater or a nag or worst, celebrities and very wealthy women are the one that has the privilege of leaving their marriage without much regret because their fame and wealth keeps them company while they go through several men to find love. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by Joshbull: 5:16pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
GenAbacha:someone from a humble background, with two kids and without a job, will you be the one to fend for her and her kids ? She had to first get herself together by putting herself in the position to take care of her kids and herself before she ever considers leaving the marriage. The moment she leaves without doing that, she’ll come back with her tail in between her legs to beg and trust me, the man may not listen cause his baby mama might move to the house. Shay she doesn’t want to have senses and be diplomatic and plan well before leaving. |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by Eriokanmi: 5:17pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
bukatyne:Hmmm. I reserve my comment. Cos only mature, sane comment deserves mature responses . |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by BeboNGN: 5:18pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
Once she quits the baby mama will come in, that's what the baby mama is waiting for. Your sister should take a chill pill, the fact there's a baby between the husband and the baby mama, they cannot be separated, even if the baby start living with them, the husband will still occasionally see the baby mama, theres nothing your sister can do. It will only end in regrets if she quits, when she starts seeing the baby mama living with her husband. Then the end might not be good for her, she might take a drastic action, that will lead to serious regret. She should calm down, stop dabbling into her husband and baby mama issue, so far the husband is still doing his responsibility, that way peace will reign. Her husband will be happy and she will also be happy. |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by effort1: 5:22pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
GenAbacha: A married man can have more than one woman, but that's not ok for a woman. Argue with your keyboard |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by Parisian: 5:24pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
Swear , me too... Your ph radar dey work wella kay9: 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by ponkitibobo: 5:31pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
Your sister should manage her temprame and act with wisdom rather than emotion. She is the one pushing that guy to the lady. May be the guy finds more peace with the lady outside. The guy respects the marriage that is why he is still begging her. Left to him he won't mind her leave the marriage. Tell her to be more calm reasonable and accommodating 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by Bngf: 5:33pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
Really |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by Arobake: 5:36pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
I absolutely agreed with everything you said, until you got to the last bit..."she will be the one at the losing end". Losing end of what, though? I mean what is the opportunity cost here? What is the irrestitable prize? A useless, dishonest man who makes you feel less than zero? High blood pressure/stroke? All kinds of veneral diseases/potential death? Not ever being happy in your own home for the rest of your life? Just so you can be Mrs. Something? Smh. Nah. The prize doesn't justify the life. When she dies or develops a stroke and becomes a vegetable from a veneral disease or high blood pressure, some1 else will "take her place" anyway. So like you had said, let her get a job/business first. And she can take it from there. yanabasee2: 5 Likes |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by Waffarianman(m): 5:40pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
Bro tell your sister to be calming down that everything will fine soonest. Let her not be in a haste to move from the home because the moment she does the other woman will take her place, let her get herself something doing anything and let her stays with her man and play mind game with him no fight until the trap will caught the idiotic man then he pay the fin.... Tell her to use her brain no fight and her pains behind |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by SmartMen: 5:43pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
obiekunie01:This is rubbish... completely rubbish talk. Most of you who hold this view about checking partners phone are BLOODY UNREPENTANT CHEATS.... THIS ARE MARRIED COUPLES FOR HEAVEN SAKE AND YOU SAY IT IS WRONG TO CHECK PHONE? WONDDERFULLLLLL 3 Likes |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by NairaMaster1(m): 5:43pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
GenAbacha: It's like you didn't read the story. Summery: he's afraid for her life after the quit. Are you advising her to start PROSTITUTION? Because that's how civilized you people are on NL. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by bukatyne(f): 5:45pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
Gerrard59: How does feminism help this woman's case? |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by almarthins(m): 5:45pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
GenAbacha: A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush. |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by Cocao(f): 5:46pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
It is truly sad when a woman with children doesn't have a source of income aside from her husband. I wish more women will place priority on financial independence even more than marriage. In this situation, this man has broken the marital vow beyond repair and she should walk away. But now she can't go because she has no financial means to. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by bukatyne(f): 5:46pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
Rogerss: So the wife's alleged rudeness is reason for the husband to cheat. Are you a Christian or Moslem sir? If yes, is that what your holy book taught you? If no, have you heard 'do into others as you want them to do unto you'? 5 Likes |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by yinkeys(m): 5:46pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
Let her go ahead with wrecking her home. I guess she thinks the grass is greener elsewhere. Wasn’t she thinking before she agreed to marry him |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by bukatyne(f): 5:50pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
mercy87: @bold: Very very scary. 3 Likes |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by Gerrard59(m): 5:53pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
bukatyne: It enables the woman know that she should be financially independent regardless of her marital status especially if she marries a typical Nigerian alfa meil. The stigma associated with divorce won't be felt as she knows what she wants and will make her happy. Basically, she knows her rights, especially right to happiness, and will seek to earn them. I'll be stunned to find a Nigerian lady who has/knows feminist ideals and decides to remain with the man in question. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by Futuragetty: 5:57pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
Tell her to stay back with her husband because of her children. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by Naruto87(m): 5:58pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
She should stop looking at his PHONE before heart attack kills her. Atleats he respects her not to embarrass her..he is wrong but the fact is she has to learn to accept faith..a broken marriage will forever affect the kids. |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by bukatyne(f): 6:03pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
Gerrard59: @bold: Let me balance and laugh well first. . Eku stunning because you would be very stunned. @other parts of your post: Financial 'independence' does not stop abuse or nonsense in marriage. I have seen men & women who are sole earners still bullied and abused by their spouses. Stigma in divorce: maybe it is a cultural thing but I never really saw any woman stigmatized because of a divorce or in the olden days (sending the woman packing). People gossiped but then, what have people not gossiped about? Lagbaja cannot pay school fees, Temedu has moved to a bigger/smaller flat, Kosoko's children are abebelube etc. (You get the idea). The question should be: 'why should a woman marry a typical Nigerian Alfa mail?' That is what you should ponder on. When a woman marries right/well, she doesn't need feminism as a shield to protect her from her bad choice (by omission or intentional). When a man marries well, he doesn't need red pill to warn him about the dangers of women. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by MadeMan01(m): 6:06pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
bukatyne: Men are not complicated. We just need peace of mind, food, sex. When a woman cannot give this, there is a strong probability to cheating |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by folks4luv(f): 6:07pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
Sorry, you are not pro family or you won't be telling your sister to keep enduring that cause she doesn't have a family to begin with. You also said it rains everywhere, really? You are sure that's what you will say if your wife confesses she is pregnant for another man and is still having sex with him? I'm sure somewhere in your heart, you are afraid your sis will get stranded if she leaves and it will add to your responsibilities. To leave or to stay is completely her decision, she is an adult with her own life to live. 2ndtimeuncle: 5 Likes |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by bukatyne(f): 6:08pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
MadeMan01: You did not answer any of my questions. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by josite: 6:13pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
2ndtimeuncle: If it is true your sister has a bad temperament,then she is lucky to have a hubby.if she leaves the hubby will.be so happy. Any woman who does not accept that her hubby can have more wives will just die an untimely death. The hubby is a nice guy.talk sense to ur sister. |
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