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Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Nobody: 10:34am On Sep 10, 2021
Gobdddd:
Strickly for the married

Good evening tweeps, my marriage is jerking. Needs a quick solution.

We married 9years ago.
She was a virgin in my Church. I am a pastor too.
Though we were not in the same state.
She was the first woman I had sex with after our marriage.
But I noticed that she has no interest in anything called sex.
She will not deny me sex, but I do not enjoy it because she's not enthused to it.

I have tried all I could to make her love sex, but all to no avail.
If you do not demand for sex, she'll not show any interest, even if you stay one year without talking about it.
And I am 100% sure that she's not seeing any man anywhere.

I took my time to educate her from the little research I made, but she wouldn't pay any serious attention.

I querried myself as to wether I do not satisfy her, on another point, sometimes, I'd last for 10-15 mins which, according to research is not bad.

Last night, I got angry at her attitude towards it. To me, she just try to open legs for me to satisfy myself and get down.

This has affected my psyche towards her.
But apart from her low libido, she is a very wonderful and good woman to be with.

So, last night, I opened up to her once again and told her she's making me to think twice and that am not happy at her actions.

Since today, our relationship has dwindled.

Alot of things have been going through my mind.

I don't know what to do. Am confused.
I can't go to another woman and leave such a good woman that have given me 4 kids.

Pls is there any known solution?

I need help.

Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Aboks(m): 10:35am On Sep 10, 2021
Kuriosmynd:
Person wey u go drug with Spanish fly, then take sidenafil Jon fvvck am like dog

u high ba
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by jaxxy(m): 10:35am On Sep 10, 2021
stealmatic:


Easier said, from experience their mindset is like that,no matter what you do they won't change,mine even change for a day or 2 then go back to her normal way,I can say it anywhere my wife is faithful and can pray from morning till tomorrow but for sex,na war,as a man u need to look for a side chick else u start masturbating everywhere

Watch p.orn together. Good pre-intimacy also. Lol

It’s a gradual thing cos it’s a mind shift and not easy bt mind shits happen. Then also as a Man everything shouldn’t be about sex. There are many other forms of romance and sexual stuffs.
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Bonjovi13: 10:35am On Sep 10, 2021
Bro allow me to be inspired by your ish... Enjoy. Copy right protected. Plagiarist beware.

Knock Knock Who's there
Can someone hear me
I'm not dumb just numb
Why she acting like she dont know
She’s put Her body on Ghost
mode, Ice cold like its winter/ It's been much too long than is safe
Hell even for a wifey
I'm seconds away from putting her on blast
But My mouth's glued tight/ Cos my words could ignite the whole shit
Heart”s racing tho /feels like hiroshima
Pent up energy / Strongly brewed my anger
World trade center apocalypse /when I come through
It's the audacity for me
Her claim to the cukoo's throne legit
Cold hearted bitch /steady blocking my cock
None can compare/Bitch get out of my face You tripping
just say the truth you’se an actor
For how long though will you taraji hason this shit tho
If our shit's dead speak up
Let a brother move,no time
Life's not meant to be endured
We gave it a good run despite the odds
Y'all Spread out the red carpet we heroes
Marine’s salute we re deserving/ Place them ribbons on our fucking shoulders /Two top Generals/ Three stars brass nothing less
This is a decade,Fam /more if we count when shit started
So we done did it/ flipping stars when it was ritzy
Hallos resting softly on brows
Now damn I can't deal /with the energy that you bring
So give me my darned space woman/Lemme place some ice on my heart
I'm Letting it sip right to my viens so I can saddle up and ride /when shit hit the fan

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Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Godbless3(m): 10:35am On Sep 10, 2021
Well, according to your statement, she only open leg for you to enter and satisfy yourself and come down.
I will advice this,
*try alot of pre-intimacy on her, spent 30-1hr for that,
*give her heads afterall she is your wife,
*get her to give you from a doggy position while kneeling on the bed or standing and holding the wall or chair and any other position.
*do not let her be in a comfortable position and she will try to hold unto you and that can be a stepping stone.
*Carry her to back the wall and let her 2 legs hang on ur hand while you penetrat her.

If you disvirgin her, then she is naive and never been with any man to turn her upside and rotate her as they like.
Don't ever again let her lie down for sex and thank goodness when you want sex, she no dey oppose which mean she will agree just for you to be satisfied.
Start this evening and gear her to action.

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Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by foleskay(m): 10:36am On Sep 10, 2021
Lol. Oga why are u still freak about sex,after four kids. Just do ur normal missionary style and leave the innocent woman alone. That's her nature and u can't change her. U met her a virgin u know. At least she dey open leg for u anytime u wan do am. You're also a pastor so forget all these style u talking about.
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by pooozeee(m): 10:36am On Sep 10, 2021
Part of her clitz has been cut off when she was a child and this is as a result of female genital mutilation the FGN and whole world has been warning about, she will feel no drive for sex due to this effect. Probably her clitz are no more there, a female clitz is supposed to trigger arousal.
People with untempared clitz usually have a huge drive for sex and you may not be able to control your wife when this happen.

Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by jacoik(m): 10:36am On Sep 10, 2021
MrBrownJay1:
have you ever taken the time to ask her what she desires/likes in the bedroom?! did you guys dated before marriage? how was the sexual part then? was she ever enthusiastic about sex or was it always like that?

if you could manage for 9yrs then..... hang in there bro!

whatever goes through your mind, unless you wanna divorce the babe or get a second wife, anythging else isnt worthy!
sometimes I wonder how people reason. Guy abi u be girl. Why didn't you read the story before commenting. Didn't you read where the op said that he was a virgin likewise the girl? Why this silly question nitori oloru

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Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by jimter44(m): 10:37am On Sep 10, 2021
Why do you bother about sex now? You have 4 kids in a 9 year marriage. The woman always oblige, when you need it. What do men even want? I believe you should concentrate now on winning souls for Christ rather than complaining about sex.

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Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by iPresh4s(m): 10:37am On Sep 10, 2021
Bro, I don't see any problem here.

She dey even open leg without complaining

After 4 Kids

Bros take am easy

You even said you can't leave such a good woman, why bringing the matter here?

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Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Kuriosmynd: 10:39am On Sep 10, 2021
Aboks:


u high ba
Any galfriend or wife forming lack of libido needs to be drugged with aphrodisiac (libido enhancer)....let's see the honey side of her and Bleep her like a dog
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by anyilalaz: 10:39am On Sep 10, 2021
Haba, the pastor no try...did he complained all through the nine yrs and four kids No is the answer, my dirty mind d tell me another slay queen don show pastor style and he want to upgrade ...
The stress and aspiration of a mother to see her kids do well and take care of them is enough turn off...

Kobojunkiee:
1. What exactly are you confused about ? What is it that you really expect your wife to do in this case? undecided

2. You claim the marriage is dwindling but from your explanation, the problem is not the marriage but your sudden expectations that is the issue... undecided

3. You claim you are a pastor but it seems you are suddenly letting your body pull the strings as far as your decision making. You married a virgin and it turns out she is not as enthused about sex as you are, what do you want? For her to turn into a porn star in bed after 9 years and 4 kids? undecided
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Kuriosmynd: 10:39am On Sep 10, 2021
Only a fool will say he doesn't see any problem in OPs case

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Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by valentineuwakwe(m): 10:40am On Sep 10, 2021
Don't blame her, its wHat over righteousness in churches causes. Did you guys attend marriage class? Was it not taught there? Is she not the learned type? Don't she browse things online with her phone or visit the social media?what then does she have interest for, cooking or dancing?
Have you guys any kids? If una no get pikin after 9 years and sex no dey hungry to do and take in..oga threaten say you go send her parking.....
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Onyi22(f): 10:40am On Sep 10, 2021
Pastor too dy vex because of sex cheesy grin.
Chai
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by blacknoir: 10:41am On Sep 10, 2021
She is neither good nor wonderful if she hasn't changed her attitude after telling her abt what worries you.
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by CSTRR: 10:41am On Sep 10, 2021
The woman is still giving it to you anytime you want.

There is no problem.

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Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by balmofgilead: 10:42am On Sep 10, 2021
You need to understand who your wife is. Probably she thinks sex is bad regardless of the fact you guys are married because of her orientation. I think you need to woo her all over again. Treat her like a princess by surprising her to dinner at a fancy restaurant, a massage at a spa, buy her something nice, etc. Beg your mum or anyone you trust to take care of your kids for a week. Do not ask for sex during that period. The woman might be stressed.

You can also consult a sex therapist or a marriage counsellor too. These tips may help. Sex is important in a marriage.

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Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Nickymichy(m): 10:42am On Sep 10, 2021
On this note let me guess something here. You have slept with another woman, or you have been listening to people outside how woman scream and moan during sex and you feel your wife should do same, or you are about to sleep with a lady who have been given alot of sex moves which you would have loved your wife to be doing. Let me tell you something pastor, marriage is more than sex. It's more of companionship, building home, building nations, impacting your community, emulating Christ and finally to live for him. We are not perfect, this area you are complaining of is her imperfection so, deal with it. Your calling should be the most important not sex moves and styles

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Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by T4kbaba(m): 10:42am On Sep 10, 2021
Botking:
Retired man , 4 kid already, 9 year of marriage

Retired in peace

Fucus in other things in life

Sex is not food

That's how the body of women become after many kids,

Sex will be sweet to her again when she gets to her 50th


Sex is food ooo.

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Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by bigcee(m): 10:43am On Sep 10, 2021
Oga, is this you after 1min grin grin grin

Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Nobody: 10:43am On Sep 10, 2021
Don't let anyone shame you for wanting to be pleasured by your wife. It's your due. But have you prayed about it? I know you're a pastor, you pray about many things. How about praying specifically for this one? I hear GORON TULA fruit helps.
Sincerely, I wish you well. But please, don't give space to the devil.

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Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Ninokingz1(m): 10:45am On Sep 10, 2021
So sorry Mr. This is it, it has advantage and disadvantage which is, she could travel for two years without you being around and you won’t worries about what we hear with some women of today. The disadvantage is, you’ve got to go with the situation while you try harder still to make her see reasons without quarrels.

I know what talking about mate. You can’t divorce her at this moment. I wish you peace in your home.
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by ehmmy11(m): 10:45am On Sep 10, 2021
Gobdddd:
It's not sudden expectation bro.

It's something av been enduring for long.

Besides, when you have a situation that seems deteriorating with your lover, just for a day, it usually seems it has taken decades.



Pastor good day

Did you check if she was circumcised? If yes forget it that’s how she will be for life
If not then it’s physiological maybe she is not just attracted to you and married you out of reasons known to her

Sorry to say this is a big big down side to marrying without testing each other’s compatibility in all aspect ..

Keep praying for her.
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by bluefilm: 10:46am On Sep 10, 2021
Gobdddd:
Strickly for the married

Good evening tweeps, my marriage is jerking. Needs a quick solution.

We married 9years ago.
She was a virgin in my Church. I am a pastor too.
Though we were not in the same state.
She was the first woman I had sex with after our marriage.
But I noticed that she has no interest in anything called sex.
She will not deny me sex, but I do not enjoy it because she's not enthused to it.

I have tried all I could to make her love sex, but all to no avail.
If you do not demand for sex, she'll not show any interest, even if you stay one year without talking about it.
And I am 100% sure that she's not seeing any man anywhere.

I took my time to educate her from the little research I made, but she wouldn't pay any serious attention.

I querried myself as to wether I do not satisfy her, on another point, sometimes, I'd last for 10-15 mins which, according to research is not bad.

Last night, I got angry at her attitude towards it. To me, she just try to open legs for me to satisfy myself and get down.

This has affected my psyche towards her.
But apart from her low libido, she is a very wonderful and good woman to be with.

So, last night, I opened up to her once again and told her she's making me to think twice and that am not happy at her actions.

Since today, our relationship has dwindled.

Alot of things have been going through my mind.

I don't know what to do. Am confused.
I can't go to another woman and leave such a good woman that have given me 4 kids.

Pls is there any known solution?

I need help.

The only help I can give you right now is to show you the ashawo thread on nairaland.

Here's the link: Nairaland Ashawo Thread

I wish you good luck.
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Dedemworld: 10:46am On Sep 10, 2021
Davash222:
A married pastor with 4 kids and you're still bothered about sex

With this Buhari economy, you still thinking about the quality of sex from your wife after 4 kids?

Your main concern shouldn't be about the quality of sex as a man of God. You have 4 kids, concentrate more on them and how to convert many souls to Christ. Leave quality sex for worldly people, Sir.

He's human beans na grin grin cheesy, and she's also his wife. So he can have it till Jesus comes. No queries so far he doesn't have urge for someone else
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by franksam209: 10:47am On Sep 10, 2021
Op u are very lucky oo, u should be seriously happy you didn't end up with a woman who wants you to go a compulsory 3 rounds every single night and another 3 rounds every early morning for all the days of your life lolz grin grin..
Be happy bro
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Kuriosmynd: 10:48am On Sep 10, 2021
Gobdddd:
Pls do recommend for me.

I can drop my contact. But If you will wish for me to give you a call, pls drop yours.

09076737179

I wish an olosho can contact this man, seduce her give her better bj and doggy...he will know wot he's been missing while he's capping abt sin and holiness
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by frank317: 10:48am On Sep 10, 2021
Fortunately, as a man, u can be secretly havin sex and still love ur wife pefectly. U didnt marry her because of sex.. U married her because she is a good and loving woman. If she does not like sex, do not force her to want sex... Go get sex somewhere else... Sex it not love, its just a means of satisfaction... The woman u love must not satisfy u sexually.. This only partains to men, not women.
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by otokx(m): 10:49am On Sep 10, 2021
Is this what you call quarrel?
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Zhahovic(m): 10:50am On Sep 10, 2021
Do u take your time to pleasure her in terms of pre-intimacy or do you just try to plunge in between her legs directly?...
..
Sex is very important in marriage. It's importance can't be over emphasized. You must try everything humanly possible to get her to enjoy sex .
...
Look for a weak point on her body that might trigger her desires. She is human after all and not a Medusa. Explore her body..goodluck!
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by etimocity(m): 10:51am On Sep 10, 2021
now I can see is you that what to trigger problem in to your marriage pastor.

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